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Teach Me How To Adult

Gillian Berner

300 episodes · Explicit

Teach Me How To Adult tackles the deep questions that help us know ourselves, and each other, a little better… how do we have better conversations? How do we grow together in our relationships, instead of apart? How do we stay optimistic when the world is a dumpster fire? Are we really in a loneliness epidemic? How do we cultivate more awe? Why are everyone’s hormones so out of whack? Is everyone having more sex than me?

More about the show

Join host and writer Gillian Berner every week for expert interviews and meaningful conversations on the growth, changes, and transitions of adulthood. Wherever you are on your journey, we’re here to figure out the messiness of being human, together.

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  1. How to Stop Overthinking Decisions and Trust Yourself, with Therapist Jenna Overbaugh

    · 1 h 12 min · S6 E402

    Why is it so damn hard to make decisions? And why are we so afraid of making the wrong choice? If you overthink every option, struggle with decision anxiety, second-guess yourself, or feel like you’re always chasing…

  2. ICYMI: The 3 Stages Of Relationships, And How To Move From Enmeshment To Differentiation To Interdependence, with Baya Voce

    · 13 min · S6 E401

    Are you deep in the infatuation stage? Or is your relationship stuck in the power struggle of trying to change each other, trying to protect your independence, or falling into an avoidant-pursuer dynamic? It turns out,…

  3. The Psychology of Trauma Responses: Freezing, Fawning, and The Unconscious Ways We Survive Traumatic Experiences

    · 14 min · S6 E400 · Explicit

    Trigger warning: This episode discusses sexual assault, trauma, and survivor experiences. Please take care of yourself and skip this one if you need to. I’ve been thinking a lot about the Cornell 7 case recently, and…

  4. ICYMI: The Other Kind of Burnout: What To Do When Your Life No Longer Feels Like You, with Megan Hellerer

    · 8:56 · S6 E399

    What if your burnout isn’t just a sign that you’re doing too much... but that you’re living a life that no longer feels like you? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip…

  5. How To Feel Less Overwhelmed & Make Time For What Matters, with Time Management Expert Laura Vanderkam

    · 1 h 02 min · S6 E398

    If you feel like you never have enough time, like there just aren’t enough hours in the day, this episode is for you. Because when we intentionally prioritize and plan, even the busiest people can find more time for…

  6. Low-Tox Living: A Toxicologist's Guide To The Chemicals, Plastics & Endocrine Disruptors Affecting Your Hormones & Health, with Dr. Yvonne Burkart

    · 1 h 15 min · S6 E398

    Why is literally everything we interact with daily made of plastic and chemicals?? And since avoiding them all is impossible, which ones are most toxic to us? Toxicologist Dr. Yvonne Burkart joins me to separate the…

  7. ICYMI: Feeling Numb? Understanding Functional Freeze, and Polyvagal Theory As A Framework For Healing, with Beatriz Victoria Albina

    · 10 min · S6 E396

    Do you ever feel numb, like you're sleep-walking through life in zombie mode? You might be in functional freeze. Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our…

  8. We're Back! Kick Off Season 6 With 6 Questions To Get Clear On Your Priorities, Identity & Who You’re Becoming

    · 14 min · S6 E395 · Explicit

    We're baaaaack! Season 6 is here, we've rebranded, and we’re going deeper. I'm so excited to share everything we have in store this season — it's going to be less about finding the “right” answers, and more about…

  9. Announcement: Summer Break And Season 6 Updates

    · 4:35 · S5 E394

    A quick update to let you know we're taking a summer break from the podcast — we’ll be back with SEASON 6 in September! I'm so excited to share what's in store for Season 6... we have lots of exciting updates, a new…

  10. The Psychology of Whimsy: Maybe Life Doesn’t Suck… Maybe You Just Need Whimsymaxxing

    · 24 min · S5 E393

    Finally… a happiness habit that actually works. Whimsymaxxing is everywhere right now, and for good reason. But this is more than just another internet trend… the vitality of whimsy reflects something much deeper about…

  11. ICYMI: How To Be Indispensable In An AI World (And How Authentic Should You REALLY Be At Work?!), with Emily The Recruiter

    · 7:37 · S5 E392

    How do we make ourselves indispensable in a workforce where we're constantly being replaced? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might…

  12. How To Stay In Love: Top Divorce Lawyer On Why Marriages Fail & The Habits That Save Relationships, with James Sexton

    · 1 h 01 min · S5 E391 · Explicit

    More than half of marriages end in divorce… so why do we still choose to tie the knot? In this episode we get profound relationship advice from a perspective you might not expect… a world-renowned divorce lawyer and…

  13. ICYMI: How Fear Can Be The #1 Relationship Killer, with Trevor Hanson

    · 7:48 · S5 E390 · Explicit

    How do we choose love over fear when relationships get hard? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. This advice from Trevor…

  14. Why Your Social Biome Shapes Your Happiness: Build Stronger Friendships This Summer | Rerelease

    · 23 min · S5 E389 · Explicit

    What if this summer was your most social summer ever? We desperately need connection. Loneliness impacts your body, mood, longevity and emotional health, and as we turn to technology more and more for all our needs,…

  15. ICYMI: Give Better Feedback In The Bedroom (And In Our Relationships): A Script For Communicating Preferences, Boundaries, and Needs, with Darshana Avila

    · 11 min · S5 E388 · Explicit

    How do we communicate our needs in a way that doesn't feel like criticism? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. Expressing our…

  16. How To Feel More Empowered & Confident: The Psychology of Personal Power + Locus of Control | The Quickie

    · 17 min · S5 E387

    Do you feel like you're in the driver's seat of your life, or does it feel like life is just happening to you? Empowered people have an infectious confidence and energy, and a lot of that personal agency comes down to…

  17. The Overlooked Cause Of Burnout (It's Not Stress Or Overwork) And How To Recover | Rerelease

    · 18 min · S5 E386

    What if burnout isn't always caused by working too much? I've been falling back into burnout lately, and a lot of people around me have been struggling with it too. So in this throwback episode, we're exploring a…

  18. ICYMI: Are You A Moderator Or Abstainer? Breaking Down Drinking Habits & How Alcohol Impacts Your Social Life, with Amanda Kuda

    · 12 min · S5 E385

    Rethinking drinking? You're not the only one. Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. We all know alcohol messes with our health,…

  19. Why Your Friendships Feel Empty, Lonely & Disconnected in Adulthood, with Psychologist Dr. Elisabeth Crain

    · 43 min · S5 E384

    You have friends… so why do you still feel lonely? Friendships are more important than ever in adulthood, but they become increasingly hard to make and maintain. But we’re in a real loneliness epidemic where most…

  20. ICYMI: An Expert-Backed Trick To Manage ADHD Mood Spirals, with Shanna Pearson (Founder Of The World’s #1 ADHD Coaching Company)

    · 7:00 · S5 E383

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed. Why is catastrophizing and emotional spirals so common in ADHD? We're throwing it back…

  21. How To Stop Avoiding Your Life: Why Avoidance Makes Anxiety Worse & Shrinks Your Life (And How to Overcome It) | The Quickie

    · 17 min · S5 E382

    What you resist really does persist… and the anxiety-avoidance cycle can keep you trapped in a small life for years. If you avoid social situations, difficult conversations, travel, dating, decision-making,…

  22. ICYMI: Do You Know Your Sexual Personality Type? Navigating Compatibility & Desire, with Sex Educator Dr. Tara

    · 11 min · S5 E381 · Explicit

    Do you know your sexual personality type? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. If you like personality tests and frameworks…

  23. Endometriosis & PCOS/PMOS Explained: Symptoms, Period Pain, Diagnosis & Treatments That Actually Help, with Dr. Karen Tang

    · 1 h 11 min · S5 E380

    If you’re listening to this episode, chances are you or someone you love is struggling with a hormonal, inflammatory, reproductive, or chronic pain condition like endometriosis or PCOS/PMOS… I know firsthand how…

  24. ICYMI: Why Your Hormones, Mood & Hunger Feel Out Of Whack (And How Food Impacts It All), with Amber Romaniuk

    · 7:42 · S5 E379

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. What you eat has a huge impact on your mood, energy and hormones. Here to advise…

  25. Boost Your Mood With Expert-Backed Supplements, Foods, & Gut-Brain Health Hacks To Improve Anxiety, Depression & Mental Health

    · 15 min · S5 E378

    May is mental health awareness month, so I've gone back and pulled the top tips and advice from neuroscientists, psychologists and biohacking experts on how to improve your happiness, anxiety, and depression through…

  26. 3 Top Mental Health Experts On The Root Cause of Anxiety & How To Actually Manage It

    · 22 min · S5 E377

    May is mental health awareness month, so we’re rounding up some of the most game-changing advice and insights we've heard on the podcast about managing anxiety and improving your emotional wellbeing, from three leading…

  27. ICYMI: The Life Force Pyramid - A Simple Mental Health Framework To Improve Anxiety & Depression, From Psychiatrist Phil Stutz

    · 9:24 · S5 E376

    It’s mental health awareness month, so we're throwing it back to this powerful framework to help manage your mental health. Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one…

  28. Narcissism & Borderline Personality Disorder Explained: Why DBT Works When Psychodynamic Therapy Doesn’t, with Dr. Suzanne Wallach

    · 1 h 11 min · S5 E375

    It’s Mental Health Awareness Month — and while we’ve covered emotional and mental wellbeing a lot on the podcast, we’ve never explored complex mental health disorders and how to navigate them. Our culture talks…

  29. ICYMI: The Missing Piece In Mental Health? Creativity And Self-Expression, with IN-Q

    · 8:31 · S5 E374

    In honour of Mental Health Awareness Month, we're revisiting some powerful insights from IN-Q on the connection between creativity, expression, and mental wellness. Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the…

  30. Are You Exhausted No Matter How Much You Sleep? The 4 Types Of Fatigue No One Talks About

    · 20 min · S5 E330 · Explicit

    If you’ve been feeling constantly exhausted, burned out, or mentally drained, even after you’ve caught up on sleep…this episode is for you. Because sometimes we’re tired in ways sleep alone can’t fix. Today’s…

  31. How To Embrace Where You Are, When You're Not Where You Want To Be | The Quickie

    · 16 min · S5 E372 · Explicit

    Do you ever feel like you’re behind in life? Like everyone else is hitting milestones while you’re stuck waiting for your life to finally begin? Whether it’s your career, relationships, finances, or major life…

  32. ICYMI: Easy Ways To Cut Out Plastic, Reduce Waste & Live More Sustainably, with Environmentalist Julia Grieve

    · 7:42 · S5 E371

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. In honor of Earth Day and Earth Month, we’re revisiting one of our most practical…

  33. Why Modern Dating Feels So Hard: How to Stop Self-Sabotaging & Find Lasting Love, with Amy Chan

    · 39 min · S5 E370

    Modern dating feels like a shitshow, and if you’re struggling to find love, burnt out by dating apps, or wondering why dating feels harder than ever… this episode is for you. In part 2 of our conversation with…

  34. ICYMI: How To Build Wealth When Markets Are Down, And The Biggest Investing Mistakes To Avoid In A Recession, with Nicole Victoria

    · 6:56 · S5 E369

    Welcome to our new weekly series, ICYMI, where we start off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10…

  35. How to Get Over a Breakup: The Mistakes Everyone Makes, And Why You Can’t Let Go Of Your Ex, with Amy Chan

    · 42 min · S5 E368

    Breaking up is hard to do… we’ve watched hundreds of movies and listened to thousands of songs about the universal experience of heartbreak — yet no one ever really teaches us how to navigate breakups, let go of love,…

  36. If You’re Burnt Out Or Hate Your Job, This Is For You: The “Achievement Lie” That’s Ruining Your Career, with Top Career Coach Megan Hellerer

    · 1 h 01 min · S5 E367

    Feeling stuck in your career, burnt out, or questioning if it’s time to quit? This episode is for anyone navigating a career pivot or craving more purpose and fulfillment in their work We’re joined by career coach,…

  37. ICYMI: The Psychology Of Getting Organized, And The Link Between Anxiety And Organization, with Megan Golightly

    · 7:52 · S5 E366

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. I'm moving this week, and in preparation, I've been listening back to our episode…

  38. This Quality Is The #1 Predictor of Success (And It's Not Talent Or IQ) | The Quickie

    · 13 min · S5 E365 · Explicit

    What if the biggest predictor of success isn’t talent... but grit? According to psychologist Angela Duckworth, grit is: Passion + perseverance for long-term goals. It’s the ability to stay committed, even when things…

  39. ICYMI: The Invisible Way ADHD Shows Up In Women, And What Happens In ADHD Brains, with Shanna Pearson (Founder Of The World’s #1 ADHD Coaching Company)

    · 9:41 · S5 E364

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed. ADHD in adults is often missed or misdiagnosed... especially in women. We're throwing…

  40. The "Loathe Language" Theory: How Your Toxic Traits And Love Language Are Connected | Re-release

    · 16 min · S5 E363

    What if your biggest self-sabotaging habits are actually the inverse of your love language? We’re diving into the psychology of "loathe languages", and how your unmet emotional needs might be showing up in your toxic…

  41. Your Brain Wasn’t Designed for This Much Bad News… How To Protect Your Mental Health When The World Is In Chaos

    · 18 min · S5 E362 · Explicit

    If the news is ruining your mental health, listen to this. News anxiety is at an all-time high as we’re bombarded with breaking headlines and social media coverage of... every single shitshow that's simultaneously…

  42. ICYMI: If You Feel Shame, Guilt, Or Avoidance With Your Finances… Listen To This — with Jessica Moorhouse

    · 9:54 · S5 E361

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Money can be a major point of shame, anxiety, guilt, and avoidance for a lot of…

  43. How To Stop Being So Judgmental (And The Judgments I’ve Had To Release) - The Quickie

    · 18 min · S5 E360 · Explicit

    Did you know that happy people are less judgmental? Nobody likes being judged… and for the judgmental ones, it doesn’t feel good either. We’ve all been judgy, and the truth is, being overly critical of others is often…

  44. ICYMI: Are You Stuck In One Of These Patterns Of Self-Sabotage? A Reset For Over-Achievers, with Leisse Wilcox

    · 8:20 · S5 E359 · Explicit

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed. What achievement would feel like "enough" for you? Is there a level of success you'd…

  45. Moving In With Your Partner? Money Conversations You Need to Have First, with Alyssa Davies

    · 20 min · S5 E358

    Moving in with your partner? Before you sign the lease, you need to talk about money. As I prepare to move in with my partner for the first time (your girl’s growing up!), I revisited our practical and helpful…

  46. ICYMI: 3 StepsTo Prioritize More Productively And Manage Your Time Better

    · 9:26 · S5 E357

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Your to-do list Is lying to you… not everything is urgent, and productivity isn’t…

  47. Feeling Lost? Your Childhood Interests Can Predict Career Satisfaction. Here’s How To Reconnect With Your Essence | The Quickie

    · 14 min · S5 E356 · Explicit

    Feeling lost in your career? Questioning your life direction? So many of us spend our 20s and 30s chasing the job titles we’re told we “should” have, lofty income goals, or status, only to end up feeling disconnected,…

  48. Feeling Shame Or Pain In Your Sex Life? How To Become Erotically Empowered, Deepen Intimacy, And Ask For The Pleasure You Want, with Somatic Sex Educator Darshana Avila

    · 1 h 07 min · S5 E355 · Explicit

    Do you ever struggle with shame, pain, numbness, or disconnection in your sex life? So many of us have done inner child work, attachment work, and therapy for our mental health — but we’ve never applied that same lens…

  49. ICYMI: Too Tired For Sex? Listen To This. (With Sex Educator Dr. Tara)

    · 9:37 · S5 E354 · Explicit

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. Do you and your boo constantly feel "too tired" for sex? The answer might not be your…

  50. The Best Relationship Advice From 3 Top Love & Repair Experts (Attachment Styles, Communication Hacks, And Reconnecting After Conflict)

    · 28 min · S5 E353

    Hi lovers, it’s officially love month, and leading into Valentine’s Day, we’re revisiting some of the most powerful relationship advice we’ve heard on the podcast, from 3 of the internet’s top couples therapists and…

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