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EP 49: I Flipped My Lid: The 3 Patterns Keeping Working Moms Stuck (And How to Break Them)
· 34 min · Episode 50
Episode EP 49: I Flipped My Lid: The 3 Patterns Keeping Working Moms Stuck (And How to Break Them)
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Are you a high-achieving working mom who looks like she has it together, but feels exhausted, overwhelmed, and quietly resentful on the inside? You might not be burned out from doing too much. You might be burned out from patterns that have been running on autopilot since long before you had a career or kids.
In this episode of This Is How She Does It, host Angela Lee gets radically honest about a recent blowup with her husband — and what she discovered when she got curious about the patterns underneath it. Angela unpacks three deeply conditioned patterns she sees in almost every high-achieving woman and working mother she works with: patterns rooted in childhood conditioning, nervous system survival responses, and the invisible cost of always being the capable one.
If you've been struggling with working mom burnout, over-functioning, or the pressure to hold everything together without asking for help — this episode will give you language for what you've been feeling and practical tools to start shifting it.
In this episode, we cover:
• Pattern 1: The efficiency trap ("It's just easier if I do it") • Pattern 2: The emotional labor pattern ("Everyone else's feelings are my job") • Pattern 3: The identity pattern ("I have to prove I can handle it") • Practical nervous system tools for each pattern • Why these patterns aren't character flaws, they are survival strategies that got you here, but won't get you to where you want to be
This episode is for you if:
• You're a working mom feeling overwhelmed, but not sure why • You struggle to ask for help or delegate without guilt • You feel responsible for everyone's emotions — your kids, your partner, your team • You've been the "capable one" your whole life and you're exhausted by it • You want practical, nervous system-informed tools — not just mindset advice
Resources mentioned:
• This week's Substack companion article — the written version of this episode with deeper tool breakdowns • Last week's episode with Karen Canham on nervous system regulation
Connect with Angela:
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