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Anxious, Avoidant and the Chemistry Trap | Louisa Josem
· 1 h 15 min · S5 E5
Episode Anxious, Avoidant and the Chemistry Trap | Louisa Josem
This episode contains lived-experience discussion of relationship conflict, infidelity, substance use and emotionally unsafe or abusive relationships.
Relationship coach Louisa Josem joins Kate and Claudia to unpack attachment styles, why we repeat the same relationship patterns, and why something that feels like intense chemistry isn’t always the same thing as safety.
Louisa breaks down anxious, avoidant and secure attachment, how those patterns can develop, and whether they can actually change. They get into the stories we tell ourselves when someone doesn’t text back, why we can keep choosing the same kind of partner, and what it looks like to build more security in ourselves and our relationships.
The conversation also covers reassurance, texting and social media expectations, nervous system regulation, boundaries, intimacy, authenticity, red flags, chasing the honeymoon-period high, infidelity — and whether people can actually change.
This episode is proudly supported by Equana Minds, an online psychology and counselling service that helps you get matched on what matters, to find the right therapist for you. Sessions are available in over 25 languages, with flexible telehealth wherever you are. Find out more and get matched at equanaminds.com.au.
Huge thanks to Louisa Josem for joining us. Instagram: @unlearnwithlouisa TikTok: @unlearnwithlouisa Website: unlearnwithlouisa.com Podcast: Unlearn with Louisa
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Season 5 is presented by Aurora Healthcare. aurorahealth.com.au
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