221: Can You Get Them To Change?

21 Aug 2026 · 32 min · Episode 221 · Explicit

Episode 221: Can You Get Them To Change?

0:00 32:21

Discernment in dating is not about spotting every red flag, it's about not creating green ones that were never there. Sabrina opens with the story of the emotionally unavailable man she spent years making excuses for, then breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, why your gut is quiet and your anxiety comes with a story, and how the halo effect keeps you ignoring obvious incompatibility. She covers boundaries versus walls, whether "high standards" are self-trust or self-protection, how to trust yourself again after being lied to, and why limerence and fantasy keep you stuck in situationships that were never going anywhere.

If you're tired of overthinking texts, playing detective with attachment styles, and hoping someone becomes who you need them to be, this one is for you. See it for what it is, not for what you want it to be.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why The Spark Can Be Dangerous

02:42 Falling For The Fantasy Not Him

05:52 Anxious Texting And Chasing Crumbs

09:30 What Discernment Actually Means

11:47 Is It Your Gut Or Your Anxiety?

14:11 Boundaries Vs Walls In Dating

17:17 High Standards Or Fear Of Intimacy

19:26 Trusting Yourself After Being Lied To

21:40 The Evidence Vs Story Exercise

25:04 Stop Hoping They'll Change

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