Podcasts · Sex, Love & Money with Rebecca Antonucci
#196: Vanilla Sex
· 1 h 16 min
Episode #196: Vanilla Sex
You've had great sex that left you feeling nothing.
You've had a man who did everything right, and woken up emptier than before. You told yourself it was him. You moved on. You tried again. Same result, different man.
It was never him. And it was never the act of intimacy. It was the absence of everything that needed to come first.
Vanilla sex has nothing to do with what's happening in the bedroom. It's sex without roots. Sex without time. Sex without knowing someone, and being known back. And if you've been cycling through men wondering why nothing ever feels like enough, this episode is going to name something you've felt but never quite had the words for.
I recorded this 48 hours after a real epiphany hit me mid-dating: live, unfiltered, and straight from Bali. I tell you the full story of the man I've been dating, the padel court where it started, the wine cellar date, the comedy show, the cup of tea that wasn't just a cup of tea, and the moment I caught myself about to do the exact thing I tell every woman not to do.
Because the truth is: if you're using sex to try to feel something, no man will ever be able to give you what you're actually looking for. Time and time again you will be setting you and him up to fail. And the sooner we name that, the sooner everything changes.
Raw, real, and recorded live in Bali two days after the epiphany hit. You're welcome.
WHAT WE GET INTO
— What vanilla sex actually is, and why it has nothing to do with the bedroom
— Why the f*ck and chuck cycle is grief in disguise, not cruelty
— The Healthy Man Starter Pack: how to tell if it's real or just an act
— Why making him wait isn't about games, it's about you finding out the truth
— The Bali dating story unfolding right now, live revelations and completely unfiltered
TIMESTAMPS
00:00: What vanilla sex actually is, and what it has nothing to do with
01:20: Sex without roots: why connection can't be rushed into being
07:25: The f*ck and chuck cycle isn't cruelty, it's grief
22:17: The Healthy Man Starter Pack, how to know if it's real or an act
29:36: Why dating too fast is setting you up to feel nothing
54:05: Why no man will ever be able to give you what you're actually looking for
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