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491 - Sticky Habits: Building Routines That Actually Hold with Monica Packer
· 46 min · Episode 491
Episode 491 - Sticky Habits: Building Routines That Actually Hold with Monica Packer
You bought the planner. Printed the meal plan. Started the new morning routine strong, and by week two it had quietly fallen apart.
And somewhere in there you decided the problem was you.
Not disciplined enough, not consistent enough, not the kind of person who follows through.
Here's the reframe Monica Packer brought that I can't stop thinking about: it was never you. It was the method.
And most of the habit and self-improvement advice we've been handed was built for a life that looks nothing like yours.
Monica's back for her second time on the show, and this conversation goes deep on the thing underneath all of it, perfectionism.
Not the color-coded-calendar kind.
The quiet kind, where you pin your worth to your outcomes, and the woman grinding herself down and the woman too scared to start turn out to be running the same pattern.
We get into why habit advice keeps failing women specifically, how to build routines that actually hold in a real life full of interruptions and invisible labor, and the surprising thing that's expanded her own capacity this year.
If you've ever called yourself lazy or undisciplined, this one's going to set something down for you.
What You'll Learn:
• Why perfectionism isn't about being tidy or type A, and how to spot the version hiding as "I'm too lazy to be a perfectionist" • The reason your habits keep falling apart, and why it's the method, not your willpower • How to build a habit with a "baseline version" that survives your worst days, not just your best ones • What invisible labor has to do with why habit advice built for men doesn't hold for you
Resources:
• Monica's book, Sticky Habits, and pre-order bonuses • More from Monica: aboutprogress.com
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