S2E1: The Unraveling of a High Achiever
· 1 h 11 min · S2 E1
Episode S2E1: The Unraveling of a High Achiever
Sorry, I ghosted y’all. 😂 But there was actually a reason, and it had a lot more to do with the version of myself I was becoming than me simply needing a break. In this episode, I’m catching you up on what happened while I was gone, what I realized about the identity I had built around achievement and being impressive, and why I had to let that version of me go before I could really build the life I actually wanted.
In this episode we discuss:
• Why I disappeared from the podcast after years of never missing an episode, and what made me realize the old version of the show no longer represented who I was. • Realizing how leaving a successful career meant leaving behind way more of my identity than I ever expected. • What happened when I was forced to sit with myself because I had nothing impressive to hide behind. • How being externally validated can show up in your relationships. • Why I found myself blocking people I knew from seeing my content and what that revealed about me that I wasn't prepared for. • The connection between high achievement, people-pleasing, and the fear of disappointing people who have gotten used to you always having it together. • Why being hyper-independent can create a cycle where people genuinely stop treating you like someone who might need help. • Navigating relationships after you've found out that you've been placed on a pedestal. • Why asking for help felt so unsafe even when I was struggling. • What happens when a control freak is in a situation they can't control. • Navigating life after you realize that everything you've built was around what people expected of you. • What happens when you try to do the things you want to do but a part of you keeps asking, “What will people think?”
Mentioned in this episode:
• The Diary of a High Achiever • The Unraveling of a High Achiever Series • The Weird Grief Of Realizing That People Don't Really Know You • The Weight of Being Placed on a Pedestal • Secluded Thoughts Substack
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Links in the notes 8
- https://diaryofahighachiever.substack.com/
- https://diaryofahighachiever.substack.com/t/unravelling-series
- https://diaryofahighachiever.substack.com/p/the-weird-grief-of-realizing-people
- https://diaryofahighachiever.substack.com/p/the-weight-of-being-placed-on-a-pedestal
- https://secludedthoughtspod.substack.com/p/s2e1
- https://www.take2media.co/become-you-2
- https://redcircle.com/brands
- https://redcircle.com/privacy
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