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the preston rack show

Preston Rakovsky

39 episodes

Most of us learned about love by accident, from movies, our parents, and relationships that taught us more about what we didn't want than what we did. But love isn't one-size-fits-all. This podcast brings you a new perspective on love every episode: the couples therapist, the ER doctor, the grandparents, the wedding planner. Borrow what resonates, leave what doesn't, and build a definition of love that's actually yours.

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Episodes

  1. why you should fall in love the way you fall asleep

    · 24 min

    0:00 - intro & falling in love the way you fall asleep1:16 - why you need to feel safe to fall in love3:20 - sleeping over at her place every single night3:54 - when you can’t fall asleep without them anymore4:42 - the…

  2. the only question you have to ask to get over someone

    · 22 min

    00:00 - intro & moving on from someone you loved 02:24 - can you accept it for what it was, not what it could have been? 04:32 - what would it be like if you were still together? 06:31 - is it possible to have the…

  3. 10 Signs You're With the Right Partner

    · 42 min

    A man who was ready to resent his wife over 30 minutes of sleep explains how one more episode on the couch rewired his entire relationship, why he and his wife schedule a quarterly check-in, and whether he'd keep the…

  4. 10 Questions to Reveal if You Feel Safe in a Relationship

    · 31 min

    What does it actually mean to feel safe with someone? Today Peter joins us go through 10 questions, from stupid nicknames and inside jokes to whether you can be boring, messy, or fully weird around your partner, and…

  5. Why It's So Easy to Ignore Relationship Warning Signs

    · 28 min

    A woman who spent four years shrinking what she asked for explains how the smallest possible request became the thing her relationship couldn't survive, why a to-do list told her more than any conversation did, and…

  6. Why Relationships Get Stuck At Surface Level

    · 34 min

    A woman who could name exactly what she was feeling in the moment she felt it explains how one comment at a friend's dinner party exposed the version of herself she'd been performing for four months, why four years in…

  7. How To Tell If You're Looking For Love in the Wrong Place

    · 33 min

    A woman who spent five years arranging her life around one person explains what happened the year she picked up a dream she'd abandoned in college. Not a fight. Not an ultimatum. A pattern of questions that never got…

  8. The Effort Trap in Relationships

    · 34 min

    A woman who showed love in eight-hour meals and quietly finished laundry explains how a conversation about the origins of Bluetooth exposed the one thing she couldn't give her fiancé, why a year of couples therapy, a…

  9. Are You Asking Your Partner The Right Questions?

    · 42 min

    A woman who spent years testing her boyfriend's love through hypothetical worst-case scenarios explains how a random question about turning into a worm on the New Jersey Thruway cracked open a pattern she didn't know…

  10. Engaged in 6 Months: Why Waiting Longer Won't Make You Sure

    · 42 min

    A woman who spent four and a half years convincing herself that doubt was just the price of love explains how she mistook a relationship that never fit for one worth fixing, why a pair of jeans became the way she…

  11. Married Magician Reveals The Lie About Modern Love

    · 38 min

    A professional magician of over two decades explains why he spent 15 years chasing the grand gestures he thought love was supposed to be, what a $40 bag of firewood in Vermont taught him about the difference between…

  12. The One Question Every Couple Avoids Until It's Too Late

    · 31 min

    A woman who always put her relationship first and prided herself on meeting her partner in the middle explains why all that compromising slowly turned her into someone she didn't recognize, what a stack of movies she…

  13. The Difference Between Love that Looks Right and Feels Right

    · 30 min

    A lifelong romantic who built vision boards of red-carpet weddings and prayed for the Romeo-and-Juliet kind of love explains why the relationship that looked like "couple goals" from the outside felt like a campaign…

  14. Married 21 Years: Don't Create a Safe Space

    · 42 min

    Timm Chiusano, who's been married 21 years, explains why the instinct to protect your relationship, building a safe little room around it and shutting the doors, might be the exact thing slowly killing it, what a cat…

  15. Why Trying To Be Loved Is Pushing People Away

    · 25 min

    A lifelong people pleaser who befriended everyone from her classmates to the nurse drawing her blood explains why being liked by everyone left her feeling known by no one, what a $3,000 trip to Iceland she didn't even…

  16. Gary Vee: The Kind Of Love That Decides Your Whole Life

    · 8:10

    A man raised on the kind of unconditional love most people never get, from a mother who survived losing her own mom at five and a father imprisoned in Soviet Russia, explains why money, fame, and winning will never…

  17. Why Grand Gestures Are Actually Red Flags

    · 32 min

    A woman raised by Filipino immigrant parents who never said "I love you" out loud explains why a partner's most generous gestures can land as rejection, what her dad's Elmo phone calls had to do with it, and the quiet…

  18. Why You Stay When You Know You Should Leave

    · 40 min

    A self-described lover girl who gives people 28 chances before walking away explains how one breakup left her in bed for weeks, why her mom had to tell her the same fairy tale over and over before it finally clicked,…

  19. You Marry the Same Person Three Times

    · 43 min

    A woman who stayed married 35 years explains why she's actually been married three times to the same man, a sweet beginning, a decade that felt like war, and the marriage they have now. The turning point that ended the…

  20. What The Bachelor Taught Me About Conversations We Avoid

    · 39 min

    A woman who spent her days as the producer of The Bachelor asking strangers the deepest questions about love explains why she couldn't ask those same questions in her own five-year relationship, and how she learned…

  21. What No One Understands About Love Until It's Too Late

    · 40 min

    A woman who spent years being annoyed by her dad's quirks explains what she'd give anything to have back, and why the things that irritate you most about someone are the things you'll grieve the hardest. Learn more…

  22. The Type of Intimacy Most People Will Never Experience

    · 53 min

    A woman raised by a family that got love right explains why consideration is the highest form of intimacy, and why the person who calls you "too much" is never the one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…

  23. Marriage Therapist: The Skill That Makes Love Last

    · 35 min

    Saying "I love you" isn't proof you love someone. Proof is what you do when staying connected is the hardest thing in the room. Vienna Pharaon, marriage and family therapist of 19 years and author of The Origins of…

  24. Resentment is the Cholesterol of Love

    · 39 min

    Most people think fighting is just part of love. Mikayla would argue that if you're truly building something secure, you should almost never have to "fight". In this episode, we unpack why resentment is the silent…

  25. Married 20 Years: The Difference Between Limerence, Attachment, and Love

    · 24 min

    Most people think they know what true love is, but Christine, who's been with her partner for 27 years, would argue most of us are confusing it with limerence or attachment. In this episode, we unpack the difference…

  26. American's Don't Love Hard Enough

    · 27 min

    A man who immigrated to America as a child breaks down why Americans hold back affection from the people they love, and what it actually means to express love without shame. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…

  27. He Won't Date a Woman Who Can't Be His Friend First

    · 53 min

    A playwright who went from gambling addiction to writing his own plays breaks down why romantic love only survives when it lives inside friendship, and what it actually means to share the boring moments with someone.…

  28. Why You Should Celebrate Your Breakup

    · 33 min

    A writer who celebrated his last breakup breaks down why the end of a relationship isn't the end of love, and what it actually means to love without possession. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…

  29. Americans Don't Know How To Love

    · 28 min

    A Moroccan woman living in America breaks down why Americans struggle to truly show up for the people they love, and what it actually means to love without conditions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…

  30. You Are Not Just Falling for Them, You Are Falling for Who You Are With Them

    · 21 min

    A man reflects on how a three-year relationship taught him that love isn't just about the other person, it's about who you become when you're with them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  31. To Love is to Be Heard, Not Just Listened To

    · 28 min

    A conversation with Gen, a therapist-in-training on why being truly heard, not just listened to, is the foundation of real love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  32. When Dating, Don't Trust Your Gut

    · 21 min

    Why “trust your gut” can be misleading in dating, and how better decisions come from balancing four signals of intuition: the head, heart, gut, and groin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  33. Love Isn't a Goal You Can Work Towards

    · 24 min

    A South Asian Muslim woman shares her story with Preston about how you can't work your way into someone's love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  34. Love Only Exists When Its Enacted

    · 4:04

    talking to samiha about why she believes love only exists in all types of relationships (romantic, platonic, familial) when its enacted on.- “just feelings” aren’t enough- what compromise in love actually looks like-…

  35. Luke Chiang on Reframing His Past Relationships

    · 7:01

    Luke Chiang, the soulful R&B artist known for his heartfelt vocals and timeless sound, opens up about love, memory, and the pieces of ourselves we leave behind in past relationships. He reflects on how every ex carries…

  36. men not talking about their feelings is a recipe for disaster

    · 6:37

    talking about your feelings 🤝 successful relationships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  37. there isn't "one true love" for everyone (therapist)

    · 3:59

    relationships evolve and forever isn't always realistic Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  38. people should focus on themselves rather than trying to find a relationship

    · 2:25

    instead of chasing the perfect partner, just become the person you’re meant to be and you'll find them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  39. dating should be approached as an anthropological study

    · 4:25

    dating isn’t about finding “the one”, it’s an anthropological study. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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