Podcasts · Becoming Her with Melissa Thompson
009. I Apologized For My Own Success (Why Do Women Feel Guilty?)
· 15 min · S1 E9
Episode 009. I Apologized For My Own Success (Why Do Women Feel Guilty?)
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One of the most ridiculous things I've ever apologized for is my own success. I moved into a big house — a really big house — and I felt so guilty that I didn't want anyone to see it. I worked hard for that. And I was sorry for it.
Sound familiar?
This episode is about the guilt women carry that we never signed up for — and the "I'm sorry" we say so automatically we don't even hear ourselves saying it anymore.
In this episode:
• Why women apologize constantly — and where it actually comes from • The phone search that stopped Melissa cold: scroll back through your texts and count how many times you've said "I'm sorry" — then find one from a man • Why we take responsibility for everything that goes wrong but never take credit for anything that goes right • The guilt that shows up in self-care, rest, success, and even taking a bubble bath • Why women think we have to earn our rest — and what that's costing us • How to use your voice for something other than apologizing • Baby steps that actually work: calendar invites, boundaries, and letting go of guilt that no longer serves you
0:00 – Apologizing for Success 1:04 – Why Women Say Sorry 1:32 – Conditioned to Nurture 2:26 – The Phone Search Wake-Up Call 3:21 – Letting Go of Guilt 4:06 – The Big House Story 5:14 – Stop Owning Other People's Problems 8:13 – Guilt in Self-Care 10:38 – Use Your Voice and Set Boundaries 12:11 – Quiet the Guilty Voices 13:46 – The Becoming Question
The Becoming Question: What would change in your world if you stopped feeling guilty, stopped apologizing, and started prioritizing your own needs?
Connect: @melissathompson.19
Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher
You are not late.
You are not behind.
You are not finished.
You are in the making.
Stay in the making.
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