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Needy No More: Anxious Attachment Healing

Chris Rackliffe

22 episodes

Needy No More is the podcast for anyone ready to heal anxious attachment and grow more secure in themselves and their relationships. I'm Chris Rackliffe—author and anxious attachment style coach—and I've helped thousands of people across six continents become securely attached. Each episode explores topics like trauma healing, abandonment, codependency, intentional dating, avoidant attachment, and breakups—with honest conversations, practical tools, and real techniques for your journey toward secure attachment. New eps bi-weekly.

More about the show

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Episodes

  1. How to Choose Yourself (Even If You're Scared of Ending Up Alone) ft. Kate Anthony

    · 46 min · Explicit

    Kate Anthony spent sixteen years believing she might never be chosen again. After leaving the emotionally abusive, narcissistic husband she married at 28, she threw herself back into dating, retreated, got knocked…

  2. The Hidden Strengths of Anxious Attachment (That You've Been Told Are Weaknesses)

    · 17 min

    For so long, I internalized the message that my anxious attachment style was the problem—that in order to have the love I wanted, I needed to be less. Less sensitive. Less expressive. Less needy. And I hear that same…

  3. What Healing Anxious Attachment Actually Looks Like ft. Christina Melgar Thomssen

    · 44 min

    Today's episode is one of the most personal conversations I've had on the show—because my guest, Christina Melgar Thomssen, has been on both sides of the work. She first came to me as a client in late 2021, in one of…

  4. How to Date Online Without Losing Your Mind ft. Erika Ettin

    · 50 min

    If you've ever spiraled after a match went quiet, overthought whether to confirm a date, or locked down a relationship label too early just to feel safe—this episode is for you. This week, I'm sitting down with the…

  5. Your Brain Thinks Your Ex Is a Drug (And Here's How to Detox) ft. Lucy Price

    · 52 min

    If you've ever gone through a breakup and felt like you were losing your mind, obsessively checking their Instagram, unable to eat or sleep, constantly replaying every conversation, I want you to know: you're not…

  6. Why Are We Punishing Ourselves for Wanting Love?

    · 14 min

    Have you ever held back from sending that text? Talked yourself out of being excited about someone? Wondered if you were "too much"—too eager, too open, too real? This episode is for you. I'm fired up this week.…

  7. The 3 Breakups That Broke Me

    · 42 min

    Healing anxious attachment is deeply personal work. And I know that better than anyone, because I've had to do it myself. In this deeply personal episode, I'm opening up about the three relationships that broke me…

  8. What a Secure Relationship Actually Looks Like

    · 31 min

    If you've ever struggled to picture what a healthy relationship actually looks like, you're not alone—and it's not a coincidence. Many of us with anxious attachment simply haven't had secure relationships modeled for…

  9. Avoidant Attachment Explained: The Wound Behind the Withdrawal

    · 1 h 02 min

    In this episode, we shift focus from the anxious attacher to explore the often-misunderstood world of avoidant attachment. If you've ever experienced someone's warmth vanish overnight, felt confused by hot-and-cold…

  10. How to Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable People ft. Valerie Rubin

    · 53 min

    In this episode, I sit down with relationship and anxiety therapist Valerie Rubin for an illuminating conversation about why so many of us with anxious attachment feel drawn to emotionally unavailable partners. We dig…

  11. How Safe Relationships Help Us Heal ft. Jessica Baum, LMHC

    · 59 min

    In honor of the release of her new book Safe, I sit down with licensed therapist and author of Anxiously Attached, Jessica Baum, for a powerful conversation about what it truly means to heal anxious attachment. We…

  12. How to Set Boundaries (Without Feeling Like a Bad Person)

    · 28 min

    If setting boundaries makes you anxious, guilty, or afraid they’ll walk away—you’re exactly who this episode was made for. In this powerful solo episode, I unpack the complicated relationship anxious attachers have…

  13. How to Create Healthy, Safe Partnerships as a Gay Man ft. Tom Bruett

    · 53 min · Explicit

    In honor of Pride Month, I’m sitting down with therapist and author Tom Bruett to unpack how gay relationships differ from straight ones—and why so many of us in the LGBTQ+ community struggle with intimacy, identity,…

  14. Your Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Can Work—Here's How ft. Rikki Cloos

    · 58 min

    Is your relationship stuck in the anxious-avoidant "trap" or a cycle of pushing and pulling, ups and downs? In this powerful episode, I sit down with relationship writer Rikki Cloos (@anxiousheartsguide on Instagram…

  15. Addicted to Love—and Stress

    · 25 min

    In this week's episode of the Needy No More podcast, I dive deep into the final two steps of the cycle of anxious attachment, stress and addiction, answering the following questions: • What is stress and how does it…

  16. That Breakup Was a Breakthrough ft. Jessica Da Silva

    · 53 min

    In this episode of the Needy No More podcast, I interview my very first guest, Jessica Da Silva. Jessica Da Silva is a Licensed Mental Health Therapist and Attachment Coach who empowers individuals to free themselves…

  17. How to Regulate Your Nervous System

    · 44 min

    In this week's episode, we unpack everything pertaining to nervous system dysregulation, including: • What is nervous system dysregulation? How is it connected to being triggered? • What are the causes of nervous…

  18. 30 Questions About Anxious Attachment—Answered!

    · 59 min

    In this episode of the Needy No More podcast, I answer the top five most common questions I get from folks when it comes to the anxious attachment style: • Where does the anxious attachment style come from? • Why do I…

  19. How Fear of Abandonment Pushes People Away

    · 27 min

    In the fourth episode of the Needy No More podcast, we unpack everything related to a fear of abandonment, including: • What is abandonment? How do we define it? What about a fear of abandonment? • What are various…

  20. How to Conquer Codependency

    · 34 min

    In the third episode of the Needy No More podcast, I cover the following: • What is codependency? • How does codependency relate to anxious attachment? • How is codependency similar to and different from addiction? •…

  21. Trauma Isn’t Just What You Experienced

    · 33 min

    In the second episode of the Needy No More podcast, I cover the following: • How is trauma defined? • What are some different frameworks for understanding the nature of trauma? • How does trauma relate to the…

  22. We Have to Stop Using the Word Needy

    · 40 min

    In this inaugural episode of the Needy No More podcast, I cover the following: • Who is this Chris Rackliffe guy, and why did I get into being a coach for people with an anxious attachment style? • Why did I name the…

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