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Dr Julie Smith: How To Build Secure Relationships, Control Fear, & Live With Uncertainty.
· 1 h 49 min
Episode Dr Julie Smith: How To Build Secure Relationships, Control Fear, & Live With Uncertainty.
In this episode of We Need To Talk we’re joined by Dr. Julie Smith, a clinical psychologist, best-selling author, and online educator known for making mental health tools accessible to millions. Dive deep into the realities of self-love, how to build secure relationships, and the hidden cost of always trying to "win" in arguments. Dr. Julie shares practical strategies to manage fear, navigate uncertainty, and transform anxiety into a source of strength.
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(00:00) Intro
(01:43) Dr. Julie's Upbringing
(04:00) Is Shyness Genetic or Learned Behavior?
(06:11) Dr. Julie's Relationship With Her Husband
(10:08) Why Did Dr. Julie Specialize in Clinical Psychology?
(13:02) Dr. Julie's Experience Working for the NHS
(16:55) Dr. Julie's Move Onto Social Media
(23:10) The Success of Dr. Julie's First Book
(24:40) Dr. Julie's Experience Writing Her Second Book Open When
(26:15) Dr. Julie's Cancer Diagnosis
(31:41) Dr. Julie's Thoughts on the Popularity of the Term "Self-Love"
(34:40) What Is Metacognition?
(37:23) Dr. Julie's Definition of Self-Love
(40:17) How Do We Correct Our Self-Destructive Thoughts?
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(45:41) What Is Dr. Julie's Definition of Self-Esteem?
(50:08) How Does Confidence Relate to Self-Esteem?
(54:43) How Should We Handle Criticism in Terms of Our Self-Esteem?
(58:52) Do Our Values Stay the Same or Change Over Time?
(1:00:07) Demonstration of Values
(1:06:33) Are We More Anxious Than Ever in Society?
(1:10:31) How Do We Manage the Anxieties of Modern Society?
(1:14:29) Dr. Julie's Thoughts on Today's "Self-Centered" Society
(1:16:57) How Do You Know if You're Ready for a Relationship?
(1:18:36) Why Do We Need Relationships With Others for Our Happiness?
(1:21:31) Dr. Julie's Tips for a Successful Relationship
(1:24:28) Dr. Julie's Definition of Attachment Styles
(1:28:01) How to Determine Your Attachment Style
(1:29:52) How to Make Your Attachment Style More Secure
(1:31:09) Dr. Julie's Ethos on Conflict in Relationships
(1:35:15) Most Memorable Conversation
(1:39:59) Paul's Takeaways
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