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This Keeps Happening with Vienna Pharaon

Vienna Pharaon, Stitcher Studios

30 episodes

We all have the capacity to create long lasting change.

More about the show

I’m Vienna Pharaon, a licensed marriage and family therapist. I’ve spent over 25,000 hours working with individuals, couples and families, which has given me a front-row seat to our capacity for change, no matter how challenging a story might be. This is a show where I speak with anonymous people every week about the challenges they’re facing.

And even though this is not how I work with actual clients – which has months, sometimes years of trust built together over time – it’s pretty incredible where a one-off conversation with someone you don’t know can lead you. In fact, I think it’s quite remarkable.

I’m the author of the national best selling book ‘The Origins of You,’ which explores how to break family patterns so that you can liberate the way you live and love, and create the life and relationships you’ve always wanted. What I have found time and time again is that our unwanted patterns in our adult lives is unresolved pain from the past that’s grabbing for our attention.

If we can be brave enough to face our patterns, a lot of beautiful healing work can happen.

That’s why the show is named This Keeps Happening.

I hope what you hear today helps you as you go through your own journey.

Episodes

  1. Named: Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath on breaking up and coming back together

    · 59 min

    Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath stop by and discuss transformational moments in their relationship. They have a new book called “Liberated Love.” Mark hosts The Mark Groves Podcast and Kylie shares daily teachings on…

  2. Navigating boundaries with an aging parent

    · 52 min

    Jen feels like she never mattered to her father. He’s extremely reactive and their dynamic has been emotionally damaging for her over the years. Even though she wants to maintain strong boundaries, she feels pressure…

  3. I'm struggling to set boundaries with my mom

    · 1 h 00 min

    Paige has a complicated dynamic with her mother. For years, she’s felt leaned upon and pressured to over give in the relationship. She also had to navigate a severe rupture of trust. When Paige was a child, her mom…

  4. Named: Tracy G on re-learning to trust yourself

    · 52 min · Explicit

    Wellness artist Tracy G shares her endless passion for healing and self-growth. She also reflects on moments that shaped how she shows up in relationships and how trust is an ongoing practice. In a periodic series…

  5. I made a big sacrifice. Now I’m worried I’ve lost myself

    · 55 min

    Leah decided in her 20s to not have children. But today, she finds herself in a relationship with someone who has two of them. She never wanted kids but finds herself attempting to be the kind of parent she always…

  6. Named: Kaitlyn Bristowe on her journey to self-acceptance

    · 41 min

    Kaitlyn Bristowe stops by to talk about a lifelong journey. The host of “Off The Vine” and former Bachelorette shares how it feels being misunderstood online, journaling and self-acceptance. In a periodic series…

  7. I cheated and can’t forgive myself

    · 50 min

    Jackie has a hard time allowing herself to be human, to be imperfect. She cheated in her current relationship. Though her partner has forgiven her, she has really struggled to forgive herself. She's stuck in a loop of…

  8. I feel misunderstood in my relationships

    · 54 min

    Carol is in a relationship that feels deeper than anything she's experienced before, and yet she feels emotionally misunderstood. When there's conflict, she doesn't know how to navigate it and feels frustrated with…

  9. Named: Connor Beaton on the practice of becoming an honest man

    · 53 min

    This week, Vienna speaks with her husband and founder of ManTalks Connor Beaton. This is the debut episode of a new periodic series called ‘Named,’ where Vienna speaks with friends and thought leaders about their…

  10. I'm scared of getting divorced again

    · 47 min

    Beth is afraid of following in her mother's marriage footsteps. Her mother was married five times, and Beth finds herself contemplating a third divorce. At times, Beth is unclear about what she's actually trying to…

  11. I feel like I have to be perfect in order to be loved

    · 49 min

    America recently went through a breakup, and it’s opening old wounds around the complicated relationship she had with her father. There's a lot she wishes she could have said to him before his death. She grew up in an…

  12. I wish my relationship with my mom was different

    · 1 h 03 min

    Blu has a complicated relationship with her mom. Her parents got divorced when she was 12 years old, which is also around the time that sexual abuse started with her dad. Blu's mother never fully acknowledged what…

  13. I’m scared of my partner leaving me

    · 47 min

    Anne is in a new relationship and it’s scary. All of the alarms are going off that want to keep her far away from closeness and intimacy. There’s fear of abandonment and it's hard for her to show emotion with this new…

  14. How to not lose yourself when you’re in a relationship

    · 56 min

    Sophie gets lost in the details trying to understand why she is the way that she is, and worries about not being able to follow through on change when it presents in the future. She moves away from just connecting with…

  15. Taking a break for the holidays

    · 0:31 · Bonus

    We’re taking a couple weeks off for the holidays so we can rest, relax, and spend time with family and friends. We’ll be back with another new episode on January 10th. You can order Vienna's National Best Seller 'The…

  16. You can be messy and still be loved

    · 57 min

    Caroline recently found out that her mom was cheating on her stepdad. Although she's able to celebrate what she calls her mom's newfound freedom, she also feels scared about becoming less important to her. Caroline…

  17. I’m about to become a mom and I’m terrified

    · 1 h 06 min

    Beach is 41 years old and six months pregnant with her first child. She has a challenging relationship with her father, who was a big source of pain for her. She's feeling anxious about giving birth and becoming a…

  18. My partner shuts down when I get upset

    · 1 h 22 min

    Like many couples, Michelle and Dan struggle to communicate, especially when one of them is dealing with something difficult. Often when Michelle is upset, Dan feels completely lost on how he can help. Because he…

  19. My bosses always undervalue me and I can’t stand it

    · 54 min

    Work causes Russ a lot of anxiety. He says he can't trust his managers and often feels undervalued. At his current job, he's had seven different managers. After decades of stress, just wishing he could find a good…

  20. Taking a break this week

    · 0:26 · Bonus

    We’re taking this week off so we can enjoy time with ourselves and family and friends. We’ll be back with another new episode next week. If you’re interested in being on the show, call 206 9 V-I-E-N-N-A. Leave a voice…

  21. I don't feel complete without a partner

    · 1 h 01 min · Explicit

    Skyler came in with a deep desire for partnership. She wants to find a relationship that makes her feel safe, free and joyful. However, during our discussion, we uncover something holding her back from feeling whole.…

  22. I was forced to keep my relationship hidden

    · 1 h 02 min

    MT struggles in creating space to have and honor her needs. She’s avoidant, she deflects and uses humor to distract away from her pain. Deep down, she’s hurting after a recent breakup where she had to keep their…

  23. I finally feel worthy, but there's something else blocking me from the life I want

    · 53 min

    Elizabeth is a 41 year old woman who has gone through some major transitions in the last six years including weight loss surgery and a career change. She has historically struggled with her worthiness, but now believes…

  24. A family secret revealed

    · 1 h 03 min

    Jill was raised by her mother, who was a single parent for the majority of her childhood. But six years ago, she found out something shocking, and it caused a deep confusion within her, especially because her mother…

  25. I don't want to be a jerk anymore

    · 57 min

    It seems like everyone and everything just sets Randi off. Everything annoys him and makes him angry and he doesn't know why. So, he called us with a very specific goal. He doesn't want to be a jerk anymore. One thing…

  26. I’m afraid to hate my partner’s family

    · 1 h 02 min · Explicit

    Today, I’m speaking with Charlotte. She's gone through a lot of transition in the last six months, including becoming a mother and finding out a terrible secret in her partner’s family. At the start of our…

  27. We separated, but now we’re back together and trying to make it work

    · 1 h 00 min

    Today, I’m speaking with a married couple, Jess and Ekko. Those are their aliases. The past few years have been challenging for their relationship. Between the pandemic and pregnancy losses, they had a hard time…

  28. Why would I ever tell someone what I need? That’s letting them know your weakness

    · 1 h 08 min

    Today I’m speaking with Michelle, that’s her alias. She’s an open book, but she struggles to trust others. She can create the illusion of connection for others, but then shuts her own pain down. She does this to…

  29. Extended Sneak Peek From My Show

    · 8:34 · Bonus

    I have a special sneak peek for you. This is an exclusive clip from a conversation with a guest we’re calling Charlotte. That’s her alias. She finds herself struggling with a need for control. Although it can be…

  30. Trailer

    · 1:38 · Trailer

    If we can be brave enough to face our patterns, a lot of beautiful healing work can happen. I’m Vienna Pharaon, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of “The Origins of You,” which explores how to break…

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