Marriage, But Without the Exit Plan: What Does It Take to Make It Last? | Episode 100

22 Sep 2026 · 50 min · S13 E100

Episode Marriage, But Without the Exit Plan: What Does It Take to Make It Last? | Episode 100

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EPISODE 100: Have We Become Too Cynical About Marriage?

We talk a lot about red flags, protecting ourselves, keeping our independence and making sure we have an exit plan. But have we become so focused on how relationships might fail that we’re spending less time talking about what makes them work?

For our 100th episode of The Magnify Conversations, we’re having a bigger conversation about marriage, commitment and what it actually takes to build a life with another person.

We get into:

• Choosing Well: Beyond chemistry and attraction, which values actually matter when deciding who to build a life with? • Covenant or Contract?: What changes when marriage is approached as a lifelong promise rather than an arrangement that works only while certain conditions are being met? • Stop Keeping Score: Why constantly measuring who gives more, earns more or sacrifices more can quietly turn a relationship into a transaction. • Can Your Partner Meet All Your Needs?: Whether expecting one person to fulfil every emotional need is realistic, and the role friendship and community can play alongside marriage. • Communication When You Disagree: Why being right isn’t enough if the way you communicate means the message never lands. • Marriage Will Expose You: How building a life with someone can reveal your own selfishness, impatience and expectations, and create an opportunity to grow. • The Relationships Around You Matter: Why healthy examples, trusted community and counselling can shape the marriage you’re building.

Marriage isn’t one-size-fits-all, and this isn’t a conversation about pretending it’s easy or staying in situations that are unsafe.

It’s a conversation about something we hear far less about: what does it actually take to build a marriage that lasts?

A new chapter of The Magnify Conversations

Each episode will bring together our founder Ruth with three incredible women from the Magnify network - with different stories, perspectives and seasons of life. More dialogue. More depth. More honesty.

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Ruth Yimika Afolabi

Rachel Calland

Abiké Abu

Veena Babu

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