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When & How Can You Make a Settlement Offer in Divorce for Parenting or Property - Step by Step
· 56 min · Episode 319
Episode When & How Can You Make a Settlement Offer in Divorce for Parenting or Property - Step by Step
🎧 Listen if you're wondering when you can make an offer, you've received one that floored you, you feel pressured to "be the reasonable one," your ex is high-conflict or controlling, or you've been told you have to go to mediation first.
⚠️ General information only, not legal advice Australian family law. Always consult a family lawyer.
🛟 Discusses coercive control & legal/financial abuse. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732). ⏱️ Episode Timeline
00:00 – What Is an Offer in a Divorce?
01:50 – What an Offer Really Is (and What Counteroffers Are)
02:30 – Do You Need a Lawyer to Make an Offer?
03:30 – Why Emotional, People-Pleasing Offers Backfire
04:30 – What You Need Before You Make an Offer: Your Property Pool
05:00 – Future Needs, Super vs Cash
06:00 – Knowing What You're Giving Up With Eyes Wide Open
07:00 – Rushed & Blindsided Offers:
08:00 – Buying Time Before You Agree
09:00 – Can You Get Out of Something You Signed Under Pressure?
10:30 – When Can You Make an Offer? Anytime You're Informed
12:30 – The Best Time to Make Your First Offer & Saving Legal Fees
13:50 – The Mediation Myth: You Don't Have to Go
15:40 – Why People Only Get Realistic at Mediation
17:00 – Time-Limited Offers: Pressure, Deadlines & the Downside
20:00 – Standing Offers:
22:00 – Do Offers Work in Parenting
24:30 – Calderbank Offers & Section 114UB Explained
25:50 – Offer Strategy for an Avoidant Ex
28:30 – Offer Strategy for a High-Conflict "Yeah, But" Ex
31:20 – Offer Strategy for an Amicable Ex & Collaborative Law
36:20 – Can You Offer Directly to Your Ex While Lawyers Are Engaged?
37:00 – Making Offers to a Narcissistic or Controlling Ex
39:00 – Don't Feed the Reaction: Grey Rock & Shuttle Negotiation
41:50 – What to Do When You Get a Bad Offer
42:50 – Ambit Claims & the Central Practice Direction
44:00 – Ask for the Authorities: Turning a Bad Offer to Your Advantage
46:30 – The Consequences of Refusing a Reasonable Offer
48:50 – Genuine Steps, Compulsory Offers & Costs Protection
50:00 – Why Offers Stay Hidden From the Judge Until the End
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