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The Science Behind Building Unshakeable Kids

· 33 min · Episode 216

Episode The Science Behind Building Unshakeable Kids

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Dr. Nicole Wilke is back in this episode to explore another layer of building resilience in kids–affirming character development. Dr. Wilke shares practical wisdom on speaking healing words to our children and fostering resilience through appropriate levels of challenge and support. In addition, Stacy highlights how you can use the ABC’s of Affirmation tool to practice what the Bible and brain science teach us about resilience.

Key Takeaways:

Creating margin and proper rhythms can help you speak more wisely

Challenges build resilience when paired with appropriate support

Focus on one character trait at a time as a family

Model the character you want to see, including confession when you fall short

Affirm success and help your children understand the "why" behind character development

Mentioned in this podcast:

ABC’s of Affirmation PDF download

Dr. Wilke's book: Overcoming: What Scripture and Science Say About Resilience

Ep 201 | Overcoming: How Adversity, Challenges & Childhood Trauma Can Shape Our Children in Positive Ways

Proverbs 12:18

James 1:12

Galatians 6:9

Galatians 5:22

1 Thessalonians 5:18

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Guest Bio:

Nicole Wilke, Ph.D., is a researcher, missionary, author, and marriage and family therapist dedicated to improving care for vulnerable children and families globally. She currently serves as Director of the Christian Alliance for Orphans’ Center on Applied Research for Vulnerable Children and Families, bridging research and practice to improve care for vulnerable children and families around the globe. Her passion for this work stems from her family's experience with adoption and fostering. Having lived on four continents, Nicole currently resides with her family in Peru, where they work to improve the system for children in alternative care.

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