Why Nobody is Having Sex Anymore (& why it matters) - Dr Debra Soh - #1072

16 Mar 2026 · 2 h 06 min · Episode 1072 · Explicit

Episode Why Nobody is Having Sex Anymore (& why it matters) - Dr Debra Soh - #1072

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Dr Debra Soh is a neuroscientist, sex researcher, political commentator, and author.

Why are we more connected than ever—but having less sex? Technology promised endless connection, but many people feel more isolated than ever. With sexlessness increasing, what’s causing the modern “sex recession,” and what can be done about it?

Expect to learn if people having less sex is a big deal or not, what the current state of modern sexual activity is, when the sex recession started and if rising hypergamy was a factor, if the role of porn attributed to the sex recession and the shocking new neuroscience of porn use, why looksmaxxing and plastic surgery are on the rise, the role of social media and smartphones had in growing sexlessness, what can be done top-down to fix the sex recession and much more…

Timestamps:

(0:00) Is Sex Really Declining? (4:13) When Did the Sex Recession Start? (7:24) Why Hypergamy Is Changing (16:26) Is Hypergamy Reshaping the Dating Market? (22:39) How the Pill Changed Female Sexual Choice (32:01) Life As a Romance Novel Model (33:27) How Modern Environments Disrupt Our Hormones (37:05) Porn’s Devastating Impact on Men (46:42) How Porn is Impacting Women (51:38) Is Porn Making Sex More Aggressive? (01:08:25) How Social Media is Rewriting Sexual Norms (01:14:10) The Beauty Standards Porn is Creating (01:25:04) Is Looksmaxxing Backfiring? (01:29:11) Is Sexlessness Destroying Marriages? (01:38:25) Is the Sex Doll Revolution Coming? (01:45:52) Why Connection Feels Harder Than Ever (01:47:48) Are We Opting Out of Having Children? (02:01:50) Can the Sex Recession Be Reversed? (02:05:36) Where to Find Debra

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