#449: Why Avoidant partners NEED you to LEAVE them

24 Apr 2025 · 10 min

Episode #449: Why Avoidant partners NEED you to LEAVE them

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In this solo episode, I dive into the complicated dance between anxious and avoidant attachment styles—and why, sometimes, avoidant people actually need you to leave for real growth to happen. I unpack how chasing someone who’s always got one foot out the door pulls you out of alignment with yourself, and how the true healing starts when you stop over-functioning and learn to stand still. With personal stories (yes, even my not-so-great stick figure drawings), I share what it means to stop colluding with emotional unavailability and start building self-trust. This episode is a straight-up call to honor your nervous system, set boundaries that actually mean something, and break free from the anxious-avoidant loop that’s been draining your soul.

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