You Can Get Through It: How to Handle the Hardest Things That Will Ever Happen to You | Dr. Lucy Hone

17 Aug 2026 · 1 h 02 min · Episode 1180

Episode You Can Get Through It: How to Handle the Hardest Things That Will Ever Happen to You | Dr. Lucy Hone

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Why the five stages of grief are a myth, a go-to phrase for when everything's falling apart, and three steps for getting through loss.

Dr. Lucy Hone is an adjunct fellow at the University of Canterbury and a sought-after professional speaker, a bestselling author, and an award-winning internationally published science educator. She is regularly featured in international media, including in The Guardian, Hidden Brain, and The Washington Post. Dr. Hone is a columnist for Psychology Today.

In this episode we talk about:

• A three-step recipe for getting through any major loss • Why the five stages of grief are a myth • The surprising research on who supports grievers best (hint: pets) • Living losses vs. death losses — and why ranking grief doesn't help • What it means to have your "assumptive world" shattered • Rebuilding identity after loss: answering "who am I now?" • Finding self-compassion through "real, not perfect," not perfectionism

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• Cody Delistraty • Sloane Crosley • Sam Sanders

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