Podcasts · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families
I Blew It With Our Daughter Then Asked One Question
· 14 min · Episode 1681
Episode I Blew It With Our Daughter Then Asked One Question
Sometimes the biggest parenting breakthroughs come right after we completely blow it.
Justin admits he let protective-dad mode take over when he confronted his daughter about a boyfriend he didn’t trust. The conversation went badly. Hours later, he tried again with one simple question: “What don’t I know?”
Her response changed the conversation.
Justin and Kylie unpack what happens when parents stop assuming they have the full story, how to repair things after getting it wrong, and why listening can give teenagers the space to make thoughtful choices without shutting their parents out.
Plus, Kylie’s crochet habit is taking over the house, and she prepares for a special overseas trip with three of their daughters as they head towards some big life changes.
KEY POINTS
• Why telling a teen what to do can shut down the conversation • The powerful question that helped Justin see the situation differently • How curiosity can get you further than criticism • Why apologising to your child doesn’t weaken your authority • Helping teens make safe, healthy choices without trying to control them • Why parenting mistakes matter less when we know how to repair them • Celebrating older kids as they become more independent
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
“What don’t I know?”
RESOURCES MENTIONED
• Happy Families resources and parenting support • Justin’s parenting workshops • The family practice of using dinner-table conversations to notice bravery, consideration, healthy relationships and gratitude
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
• When you feel yourself jumping to conclusions, ask: “What don’t I know?” • If you handle a conversation badly, own it and apologise. • Ask your child to explain what you’re missing before offering advice. • Listen without preparing your rebuttal. • Once you understand their perspective, talk together about choices that are considerate, wise, safe and healthy. • Create small family rituals that celebrate your kids as they grow and become more independent.
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