# Priya Parker: Fight With Your Friends!

Free with YouTube's ads, posted by Trevor Noah.

Are we optimizing the joy out of our friendships?

Author and conflict resolution expert Priya Parker joins Trevor and Eugene to explore why a little conflict might actually strengthen our closest relationships, how asking friends for inconvenient favors can bring us closer, and what we've lost now that showing up at someone's door unannounced is practically unthinkable.

It's a funny, thought-provoking conversation about the unspoken rules of friendship, the price of convenience, and whether making our lives easier has actually made us more disconnected.

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0:00 - Intro: Inconveniencing Each Other Is Intimacy 1:12 - Horse Psychics & Animals on the Wrong Side of History 10:09 - Meet Priya Parker 11:44 - The Transformative Power of Conflict 13:33 - The Immigrant Suitcase Burden 23:55 - Inconvenience as Intimacy and Community 27:18 - The Art of Fighting: Conflict With Those You Belong To 39:21 - Self-Help vs. Group Help 45:24 - Eyes on the Street: Community Safety 48:53 - Priya's Parents Never Fought 50:38 - Conflict at Weddings and Family Gatherings 60:18 - How Men and Women Fight Differently 62:36 - Cultural Differences in Conflict: The Culture Map 80:26 - Is All Progress Progress? 88:53 - The Death of the Pop-In 91:47 - The Epidemic of Optimization 94:21 - Priya's Barbecue Story: The 11-Year-Old 99:15 - Wrap Up and Goodbye

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- What it is: Film
- Length: 1 h 44 min
- Shown live: Thu 5 Nov 2026, 16:00 UTC
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