# Inst@Guru: Bentinho Massaro Ep 9 - The Toxic Text Messages Part 1

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For the next few episodes, our three defectors, Jacqueline Graham, Keilan McNeil, and Jade Alectra, are going to read out their private text messages with Bentinho and the group. What you're going to see is the side of him that his community never sees, the version that exists behind closed doors.

This episode belongs mostly to Jacqueline. She reads through a cascade of messages sent to her at an airport, after she told him one simple thing: that she was afraid of him. What follows is a prolonged, methodical dismantling. He questions her honesty, assigns her evil, recruits the inner circle as witnesses, demands public confession of her darkest thoughts, and positions himself as the one having a heart attack.

Before we get into it, I address something that comes up constantly in the comments. People ask, "These are such huge red flags, why didn't she see them?" This is a question I keep on answering in different ways, and apparently I will keep on doing it until the day I die. I try a different metaphor in this one.

We also check in with all three defectors on what it's been like since the series started. The volume of people reaching out, the toll it's taking, and what keeps them going.

This is a tiny fraction of what exists. More will surface in the TV series. But what's here is more than enough to show you the pattern.

Next episode is Keilan. Then Jade.

Inst@Guru is part of the podcast WTF Is On My Mind, available on YouTube and all podcast platforms.

00:00:00 - Intro: A Field Day for Mental Health 00:01:05 - Why She Didn't See the Red Flags 00:02:00 - Flashbacks to NXIVM 00:04:13 - Checking In With the Three Defectors 00:07:30 - The Spiritual Community Needs to Speak Up 00:13:00 - What the FBI's Raniere Texts Revealed 00:17:37 - This Is a Tiny Fraction of What Exists 00:18:34 - Why People Fawn 00:24:18 - "I Could Never Do That" 00:27:40 - Setting Up the Texts 00:30:47 - The Texts Begin 00:47:40 - The Plug the Holes Group 00:48:37 - "Enjoy Your Mommy…

- What it is: Full episode
- Series: [Inst@Guru: Bentinho Massaro](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/library/rights-holders/series/3783e5a891a2)
- Previous episode: [Inst@Guru: Bentinho Massaro Ep 8 - Aaron Abke "Behind the Mask"](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/watch/rights-holders/q27H8PXwEBE)
- Next episode: [Inst@Guru: Bentinho Massaro Ep 10 - The Toxic Text Messages Part 2](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/watch/rights-holders/ccN_yesHxXo)
- Length: 1 h 27 min
- Rights holder: [Mark Vicente](https://www.markvicente.com/) (its site links the channel: https://www.markvicente.com/)
- Channel: [Mark Vicente | WTF is on my Mind?!](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCX1OsELrINqvPVImbyM6qdQ)
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