# Julie Lythcott-Haims: How to raise successful kids -- without over-parenting

By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren't actually helping. At least, that's how Julie Lythcott-Haims sees it. With passion and wry humor, the former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford makes the case for parents to stop defining their children's success via grades and test scores. Instead, she says, they should focus on providing the oldest idea of all: unconditional love.

- Kind: Talk
- Year: 2016
- Runtime: 14 min
- By: TED.com
- Genres: Education, Children's
- Archive: [Internet Archive](https://archive.org/details/JulieLythcottHaims_2015P)
- Licence or status: [CC BY-NC-ND 3.0](http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/3.0/) (as the archive states it)
- Who can watch: Kids profiles and older (the archive gives no rating; placed by Invisible Network from its collection and subjects)

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