# When people make you believe untruthful things about yourself

An episode of [The Overwhelmed Brain](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890), 25 Oct 2026, 33 min.

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Some people have a way of making us feel bad about ourselves. There's no reason for it. Some people are just awful. And they do it to get a reaction from us, giving them a sense of satisfaction when we respond the way they hoped. It's time to stop that cycle and stop feeding the monsters.

## Transcript

[0:00] Are you destroying your relationship?
[0:02] Yeah, that's a bold question. I know.
[0:04] I'm only talking to those who are doing behaviors that are driving someone they love away from them.
[0:10] If that's you, boy, I can relate.
[0:13] I did that in all my previous relationships, so I know what I'm talking about here.
[0:18] But I also know how to change and heal that within you.
[0:22] So meet me over at healedbeing.com, and start changing your life and relationships today.
[0:28] This podcast can be life-changing, so always seek a professional before making any choices about
[0:32] your mental health and well-being.
[0:35] Thanks for joining me to to — for — another episode of "The Overwhelmed Brain." After 13 years.
[0:42] You'd think I'd get that right by now, but it's kind of unscripted at the beginning.
[0:47] So I'm going to get right into what I'm going to talk about today, which is something I was
[0:52] reminded of just this morning, and I hope it's helpful to you, because it's been helpful to me all my life.
[1:01] And that is accepting your limitations, your faults, accepting that you are the limitations
[1:11] that you think you are.
[1:15] And it sounds — it sounds defeating when I say it that way, but I'll give you some examples from my own life.
[1:23] One of them is when I was in my 20s, I really thought that I had mental deficiencies, and I
[1:31] didn't want to accept that.
[1:34] I couldn't accept that, because if I had mental deficiencies, that means I probably wasn't smart
[1:39] and I couldn't keep up with the rest of the world or the people closest to me.
[1:43] I — I didn't want to accept that.
[1:46] And then one day I chose to accept it.
[1:49] I, you know, I — I chose to say, "Maybe I am dumb.
[1:53] Maybe I am — " and back then I used the word "retarded." Maybe I am that.
[1:58] And after I finally accepted that, I finally accepted that I am just this person who doesn't
[2:06] know much and can't remember much and I have all these limitations with, you know, mental faculties,
[2:13] I finally accepted that, because I had been resisting it for so long.
[2:18] I finally just said, "That's just me.
[2:20] I'm just going to have to accept that's who I am." As soon as I did that, the resistance went away.
[2:27] And when the resistance goes away, your life changes.
[2:31] Because I put so much energy toward resisting what I didn't want to think I was.
[2:42] Even if it was completely untrue, which it was. It was untrue.
[2:46] Back then I believed it was true, because I couldn't win arguments or come up with any cogent talking points.
[2:54] I felt emotionally — I was — I was struggling emotionally with the arguments, which blocked me mentally.
[3:03] And I kept feeling like I was just a terrible communicator.
[3:09] I mean, maybe I am, but I can't even come up with the right words now.
[3:12] But back then I — I really believed that I was probably just dumb.
[3:18] I mean, I graduated high school.
[3:20] I — I must have something.
[3:21] And so I decided that I was dumb.
[3:25] And all those, I think, years of resistance, resisting that I might be dumb, went away.
[3:32] I was no longer putting energy toward what I was resisting.
[3:38] And that changed my life, because then I stopped thinking about it.
[3:42] I stopped thinking about how dumb I think I am, and just started applying myself to my work
[3:48] and my my life and my relationships and everything else going on back then. Again, my life changed.
[3:56] I could put energy toward other things now.
[3:59] Mental, emotional, physical energy toward other things.
[4:03] Because I was no longer obsessed with the idea that I might be this way, or obsessed with the
[4:10] thought that I can't be dumb. I can't be. I can't be.
[4:14] When that resistance went away, I felt better.
[4:17] I didn't think about it anymore.
[4:19] And then I actually learned more.
[4:21] I actually opened my mind to more things.
[4:24] And again, I wasn't dumb in the first place.
[4:27] I just thought I was.
[4:30] And thinking that you are something causes you to put more energy in, typically.
[4:35] It causes you to put more energy toward it.
[4:37] So if you don't want to be that thing, or you aren't that way, and you put energy toward resisting
[4:45] that way, you can actually become that way, because you believe it.
[4:53] So I believed that, and then I didn't.
[4:55] And it changed my life.
[4:56] So there's one example of something that literally changed the trajectory of my life and can change yours too.
[5:06] And what it was, was accepting a limitation, even if that limitation isn't true.
[5:16] Another example was another thing that happened to me.
[5:20] I tripped in front of a bus full of people once.
[5:23] I felt like an idiot.
[5:25] I tripped, I — I don't know if I fell or something, but I — I looked like an idiot.
[5:29] I felt like an idiot, at least in my mind.
[5:30] I looked like an idiot.
[5:33] And I said, "Oh my God, people are going to think I'm clumsy." And that thought came to my mind.
[5:40] And then I realized who cares?
[5:43] Who cares if they think I'm clumsy? Maybe I am. Maybe I'm clumsy.
[5:48] Okay, I'm a clumsy person.
[5:50] I did that within seconds instead of years.
[5:55] So I took what I learned about resistance and acceptance, and I applied it to something that
[6:01] was happening in the moment.
[6:04] Having some anxiety about tripping in front of other people, feeling like an idiot, feeling clumsy.
[6:12] And I just decided, "Okay, well, maybe I am clumsy." And so I brushed myself off, laughed about it, and moved on.
[6:20] And I thought, "Okay, well, maybe people were watching me." And the very first thought that
[6:26] came to mind — I think it was the first one — is other people trip. It's true.
[6:33] And the people watching me, they've probably tripped in their life.
[6:39] So this isn't the big deal I think it is.
[6:42] Because I know if somebody else tripped, yes, it's possible I could laugh. It might look funny.
[6:51] And it's also possible — which is absolutely true, it would absolutely happen — I would feel compassion.
[6:57] I would feel compassion for the person who tripped, because I've done that too.
[7:03] And this is something I've applied in my life over and over and over again.
[7:08] Somebody else has done this too.
[7:10] And it's very likely the person witnessing my behaviors, whatever they are, if I feel embarrassed,
[7:17] if I feel judged, if I feel any anxiety about what I just did or what I just said, it's a guarantee
[7:25] — and I'm going to put a number on it — 9 out of 10 times, I don't know if that number is accurate,
[7:29] but I'm going to say 9 out of 10 times that the person who observed this in me has also done the same thing.
[7:39] If I'm feeling anxiety, they've felt anxiety.
[7:42] If I feel stupid, they've felt stupid.
[7:45] If I feel embarrassed, they've felt embarrassed.
[7:47] I suddenly generalized what I feel amongst the general population, knowing that 9 out of 10
[7:54] times the person observing me has also felt the same way.
[7:59] So even if they laugh at something I do or say, I know they've experienced it too.
[8:07] And those who haven't experienced it, that 1 out of 10 they're probably narcissists.
[8:16] That's totally unfair, because maybe they're not laughing.
[8:19] Maybe they have compassion too.
[8:21] But I feel like, okay, if that one person is judging me, that's where I'm going with that.
[8:26] If that one person is judging me, or they think I'm a jerk or whatever, or I'm clumsy and stupid,
[8:34] they're probably narcissists, so they don't matter.
[8:37] This is in my own mind.
[8:38] It can be in your own mind that you do this stuff, and suddenly the world doesn't affect you
[8:43] as much, if you are able to apply this and realize that hey, you know what, we all have limitations.
[8:51] We all have things that we're embarrassed about or feel something negative about.
[8:58] So it's not just me.
[9:00] I think this is the key to social anxiety, honestly.
[9:03] At least one of them, is that when you walk into a room full of people and you feel embarrassed
[9:08] or ashamed or too fat, too skinny, too ugly, too tall, too whatever, if you feel any of these
[9:16] negative insecurities — are all insecurities negative?
[9:20] I got to think about that.
[9:21] That might be another episode. Are all insecurities negative?
[9:25] But if you feel any of these insecurities coming up in you, and you're in a crowd of people,
[9:29] or you know that somebody saw you, then remember that other people, 9 out of 10 people, have
[9:34] probably experienced the exact same thing as you, and maybe worse.
[9:39] So if you're feeling anxious in a crowd of people, those people are probably anxious too, in some way.
[9:45] I mean, I've been in crowds of people where it's been difficult to strike up a conversation,
[9:51] and I think, "Oh gee, I'm just so clumsy with words right now, and I feel awkward, and I'm an
[9:57] introvert, so striking up a conversation with that person they're going to notice that I am
[10:05] inapt." And I think it's the same way they feel too.
[10:11] And as soon as I say, "It's probably the same way they feel too," I suddenly become more — not
[10:17] extrovert, but closer to extrovert.
[10:20] I suddenly become talkative, a little bit more open to starting a conversation.
[10:29] And they will open up too, and then we'll have a good talk. Almost always happens.
[10:35] If I'm at a party with friends and I don't know half the people, if I start a conversation with
[10:42] somebody who's being quiet, they are glad that somebody started a conversation with them.
[10:48] They are glad to have something to do with their hands or their mouth, you know, talking.
[10:54] And they just seem more comfortable after that.
[10:58] And of course, I've been around people who I don't want to talk to. It happens.
[11:04] And it's — it's interesting, actually, because some of the people you don't want to talk to,
[11:09] you might have the most fascinating conversations with. Most interesting conversations with.
[11:13] I've had interesting conversations with people that I really didn't think I would get along
[11:18] with or talk about anything with.
[11:21] Like my wife introduced me to her friend's husband, and I thought, "Oh, I don't know anything about farming.
[11:28] This ought to be interesting." You know, I don't know anything about what he does in his life and working on cars.
[11:34] And suddenly we were having a talk about computers and technology, and I couldn't believe it.
[11:39] Where did this come from?
[11:40] I — I wouldn't have given him an opportunity, at least mentally, in my mind.
[11:46] I wouldn't have thought that this is going to be a great conversation.
[11:50] I just didn't think that we'd have anything to talk about, so I may not bring it up.
[11:54] But she introduced us, and suddenly we're having a great chat for probably a couple hours.
[12:00] So this is another avenue of accepting limitations and feeling comfortable being uncomfortable.
[12:08] And knowing that discomfort is common amongst most people.
[12:15] And some people might be listening thinking, "I'm never uncomfortable," and you're probably an extrovert.
[12:21] And if you are, then just be aware there are people out there like us that might need a little
[12:28] boost in the conversation part. Or maybe not.
[12:32] You got to read the room, kind of.
[12:34] This is something I learned as well, is that some people you will start talking to, and they're
[12:39] trying to find the exit out of the conversation.
[12:43] They're trying to find a way out of this because they really don't want to talk to you.
[12:47] This is something that my wife reminds me of.
[12:50] Not that I'm doing it, but she said that she tends to talk to people who don't really want to
[12:56] talk about the subject they're talking about, and she can't always — or she's gotten a lot better
[13:02] now — she can't always read the room.
[13:04] That's what I told her once. Read the room.
[13:07] This isn't comfortable for that person, you know, I told her later.
[13:11] And she realized, "Oh my God, you're right.
[13:13] I didn't even think about that.
[13:14] I was kind of self-absorbed." And she's, you know, she's not a self-absorbed person.
[13:19] She's a very compassionate, caring person with others.
[13:22] But sometimes she just misses the clues.
[13:24] So I don't even know why I went down that road.
[13:27] But it is important to see body language. Where are they looking? Do they seem interested?
[13:34] Reminds me of my sister's ex-boyfriend from a long time ago in high school.
[13:40] Didn't care one iota if you were interested.
[13:43] He was going to keep talking and talking and talking. Didn't care.
[13:47] Didn't care what you were doing or thinking or saying back.
[13:52] He was just happy to hear himself talk.
[13:55] That's the kind of person I don't want to start a conversation with, if they don't interact. It's important.
[14:03] I think conversations require interaction, not just one person dominating and talking about
[14:07] themselves and not really interested in what you have to say.
[14:11] A little sidetrack I don't need to take.
[14:13] Let me come back to what I'm talking about today, which is the — I watched a reel this morning
[14:19] of somebody sharing what they went through in their life and how they chose to accept what they were resisting.
[14:29] And I thought, "Wow, you know, I haven't talked about that in a long time." It is something
[14:33] that I have felt in my life many times.
[14:36] The resistances that come up for us, they can prevent us from moving forward in certain areas of life. What about rejection?
[14:49] If you resist rejection, you are less likely to go for what you want.
[14:56] If you resist the no that you might get on the phone, or the no that you might get when you
[15:02] ask somebody on a date, or the no when you might ask for a raise, you may never get it.
[15:10] Or if you do get it, it'll come many, many months or years later, and hopefully it happens, but maybe, maybe not.
[15:17] That's something I learned when I worked for another person.
[15:20] I don't do that anymore. I work for myself.
[15:22] But back then I worked for companies and bosses and worked in cubicles and things like that.
[15:28] And when I was in that environment, I never asked for what I wanted. Or needed, especially.
[15:36] I would rarely ask for what I want and never ask for what I need, because I thought it would
[15:43] be like rocking the boat.
[15:45] And I don't want to rock the boat because I don't want to get fired.
[15:48] So I never asked for a raise.
[15:51] I never asked for more resources.
[15:54] And I never presented my boss or my supervisor with the trouble I was experiencing, like not
[16:02] being able to keep up with work because I didn't have enough resources, and not feeling motivated
[16:08] to come back to work because I didn't have enough money.
[16:12] I had all these things going on, and I resisted talking about that, resisted asking for what
[16:18] I wanted, because if they believed — and this is my belief back then — if they believed that
[16:24] I was deficient in any way, they may see me as less than I really was.
[16:30] So I resisted them seeing me as less than I really was.
[16:34] And at least, you know, I believed I was.
[16:37] I thought I was less than if I were to be vulnerable and say, "I need this.
[16:44] In fact, I can't continue doing this job without this." Or if I do continue, I'm going to have
[16:51] to work overtime, and I don't want to work overtime all the time.
[16:54] These were truths inside of me.
[16:57] These are truths inside of us sometimes that we don't bring to the table and talk about with somebody else.
[17:04] Talk about with somebody in charge who can make decisions that we can't automatically make for ourselves.
[17:12] We have to rely on somebody else to give us a raise or give us resources.
[17:17] And so I chose not to ask, and I burned myself out of all my jobs.
[17:22] I kept burning myself out because I was afraid to show deficiency.
[17:28] I was afraid to show any incompetence.
[17:30] I was afraid to show that I couldn't handle the job. But who could?
[17:35] If you don't have the resources and somebody else comes along and takes your position, they're
[17:41] not going to have the resources either.
[17:42] Or maybe they'll be smarter, or maybe they will find a way to have the resources.
[17:47] And maybe they will be able to ask for what they need.
[17:51] But we don't want to limit ourselves by not accepting our limitations.
[17:58] If I have a limitation, like I'm not smart enough to figure out the calculations on this spreadsheet,
[18:04] I better find a way to fill that limitation instead of working for extra hours and hours and
[18:10] hours to make my boss happy or something.
[18:14] It's a minor example, but you get what I mean.
[18:17] Some people have the skills.
[18:19] Some people have the resources.
[18:21] Some people can do things better than you.
[18:23] And then you look at yourself and you ask, "Okay, what's my limitation here?
[18:28] What do I need to do to do my job better?
[18:32] To show up in life better?
[18:34] To show up in my relationship better? What are my limitations?
[18:38] Where do I lack skill?
[18:42] Where do I lack resources?
[18:43] Where do I lack ability?
[18:46] And how can I improve that?
[18:47] Or find something to take the place of my limitations." But it does come down to first accepting those limitations.
[19:00] Let me tell you where accepting limitations really comes in handy.
[19:05] This is, like life-changing as well.
[19:09] It started in when my wife and I moved in together, and there was something we were talking
[19:14] about, and she said, "You're so stupid with this." Or she said something that kind of hurt for
[19:20] a second, and then I laughed inside myself because I realized, "What is the best response to
[19:28] this?" And I said to myself, and then I said it out loud.
[19:33] I said, "Uh, and you decided to choose me. You chose me.
[19:41] Who's really the stupid one here?" That's kind of what I was implying.
[19:44] I don't think I said that.
[19:46] But I said, "Uh, it's interesting how you're calling me stupid," and this is all paraphrasing.
[19:52] "It's interesting how you're calling me stupid, and yet you're the one who chose me to be in your life.
[19:58] That says something about you." Again, that's all very exaggerated paraphrasing, but that's
[20:04] pretty much what I was trying to say. And she laughed.
[20:08] She realized what she said didn't land, and she wasn't trying to hurt my feelings or anything like that.
[20:14] It was just something we were talking about, and it just came out.
[20:19] And so I have used this over and over again in my life.
[20:25] Like, if somebody says, "You're so dumb at this," I'll say, "Yep, I am. It's too bad, huh?
[20:33] Because you hired me, and I bet you you feel pretty dumb about that." I'll say something like that.
[20:39] And I've kind of given this advice to other people, and it's not really advice.
[20:47] It's kind of like a fallback.
[20:49] Like, if nothing else works, you can't get through to someone, or they won't let up, and they
[20:55] keep putting you down, or they keep making you feel bad about yourself, or whatever.
[21:02] If they are putting you in this place that you can't seem to dig yourself out of, like I think of toxic parents.
[21:10] They do this. "You're never going to be smart enough to get the right partner.
[21:15] You're never going to be a good employee because you never pay attention." I mean, toxic parents
[21:22] can really lay some big ones on you and make you believe things about yourself that aren't true.
[21:30] And then what do you do?
[21:31] You're like, "I'm not that." You know, you might think that way. "I'm not that." You might think
[21:36] that you're better than that, and then you resist what they're saying.
[21:40] And where's all your energy going toward? Resisting.
[21:44] And when you're resisting and thinking about what somebody else said about you, that's where
[21:50] all your energy goes, and you don't have enough energy left for other things.
[21:53] And then you feel like a failure, maybe, or you feel really depressed, maybe, and you don't
[21:59] know what to do because maybe they're right, or maybe they're wrong, or you know they're wrong,
[22:04] but you can't convince them that they're right.
[22:07] On and on and on.
[22:08] So sometimes I will tell people, when they get to the point where you really have nothing you
[22:16] really can't find a way to convince another person that you're not what they're saying about you.
[22:22] You are not that person.
[22:24] Maybe it's time to just say, "Yep, that's me.
[22:27] What else you got?" Because why do people put you down?
[22:34] Why do they say things about you?
[22:36] I mean, there are all kinds of reasons.
[22:37] Their own insecurities, their own dysfunctions and things like that.
[22:42] And they obviously aren't being compassionate or sympathetic or empathetic, and they've got
[22:48] stuff going on in their life, so they're taking it out on you or whatever.
[22:52] But they keep doing it because of your reaction to it.
[22:57] They are getting the reaction they want.
[22:59] They want you to feel bad about yourself.
[23:01] They want you to put yourself down.
[23:03] They want you to feel low so that they can feel high.
[23:06] They can feel superior to you. So what happens?
[23:10] Why do they keep doing that?
[23:12] Because of the reaction they're getting.
[23:13] Like I said, your reaction adds fuel to their fire.
[23:18] If you're feeling down, yes, I win.
[23:21] You know, that dysfunctional toxic person is saying, "I win because you now feel bad about yourself." Yes.
[23:28] And now I can keep saying that you're a bad person and you're a dumb person and you're never
[23:34] going to get a partner or a job or anything like that.
[23:37] I can keep saying this stuff because you feel bad.
[23:40] And as long as you feel bad, I feel superior and I feel righteous, and I'm going to continue making you feel bad.
[23:46] But what happens when you say, "Yep, that's me.
[23:51] Well, you're a big failure. I know.
[23:53] I am a big failure." Well, what are they going to say next?
[23:58] They're waiting for the fuel.
[24:00] They want you to give them the fuel.
[24:03] You can say, "I am a big failure.
[24:05] I haven't succeeded in anything in life.
[24:07] I don't have a partner.
[24:08] I don't have a job that I like." And, yeah, you're right. Wow.
[24:13] Thanks for thanks for helping me figure this out.
[24:16] I know it sounds sarcastic, but I'm asking you to be serious about it.
[24:20] Just, you know, this is like the fallback if nothing else works.
[24:24] Just be serious about it. "Yeah, I totally am. Wow, you called it. You called it.
[24:28] You called me." What else are they going to say? "Well, yeah, of course I called it." You know,
[24:34] they might continue on, which is fine.
[24:38] Keep feeding them what they want to be true for some odd reason about you. Keep feeding their ego.
[24:47] Letting them know they're right. "Oh, yeah, you're right. Oh, yeah, good point.
[24:51] You know, of course, the way I dress, I'm not going to get a partner." "You're right. Totally. Yeah. I hear you.
[24:58] Well, what are you going to do about it?" "I don't think I can do anything about it.
[25:01] I think it's just who I am." And then you might get another argument.
[25:05] You know, it doesn't matter because what you're doing is you're taking the fuel away from them,
[25:10] and you're taking your own resistance to what they're saying away as well.
[25:17] Your resistance is their fuel.
[25:19] You know, this dysfunctional toxic person in your life, if you have one. Hopefully you don't.
[25:24] But if there's somebody like this in your life, your resistance is their fuel.
[25:29] And if they can't continue saying the things that make you feel bad or make you feel down or
[25:34] worthless or unlovable or whatever, you might have to get to that point where you just say, "Oh, yeah, you're right.
[25:41] Good point." And I know it's — I'm not saying that this is true about you.
[25:47] I'm saying that what you're doing is taking away what feeds their dysfunction.
[25:54] We don't want to feed dysfunction.
[25:55] We feed dysfunction by giving toxic people the response or reaction they expect.
[26:02] Once they get the reaction they expect and hope for, that keeps them coming back for more.
[26:09] We don't want to give them more.
[26:11] So I believe that if nothing else works, it's best just to say, "Oh, yeah, everything you say
[26:16] about me is absolutely spot on. Yeah, you're right.
[26:19] I'll probably never have a partner. Yeah, you're right.
[26:21] I'm probably not smart enough for for a good job or making money.
[26:27] Totally." Well, what are you going to do about it?
[26:30] I don't think there's anything I can do about it.
[26:32] I mean, you're right about everything.
[26:33] I don't think there's a way to change. "Well, why don't you go to school?
[26:38] Why don't you — " "I can't.
[26:40] I don't have the money." "Well, why don't you — " "Yeah, you're right.
[26:43] I don't think I'm smart enough to do that." What are they going to say?
[26:46] I mean, of course, they will find things to say.
[26:49] But my point with this — let me come back to what I was trying to say — is that when you take
[26:55] out the resistance and you agree with what they're saying, the next step — this is might cause
[27:03] some problems, but again, this is like, if nothing else works, we've tried everything.
[27:08] The next step is to say something that points the finger back at them.
[27:15] Use at your own risk.
[27:18] But what you're doing is taking away the spotlight and putting it back on them so that they
[27:26] have to answer for their own limitation.
[27:30] This is like a gray hat technique.
[27:34] It's a black hat or gray hat technique where you basically agree with what they're saying and
[27:40] then point out their fault, their limitation about their existence in your life.
[27:50] For example, a toxic parent who says, "You'll never amount to anything," which is a terrible
[27:56] thing to say from anyone, but from a parent especially, it hurts to hear.
[28:02] So the last-ditch effort in a case like this might be to say, "You're right.
[28:08] I probably won't amount to anything." And it must be a huge disappointment knowing that you
[28:14] failed to raise me in a successful way or something like that. Again, this is controversial.
[28:22] I'm not saying that you should do this.
[28:24] I'm saying in my own life, I would get to a point where I've had enough of somebody's ridiculousness,
[28:32] somebody trying to make me feel bad or putting me down, and I'll just say something along the
[28:37] lines of, "And look how you failed." So, like, for my wife, she said, "Oh, you're so stupid."
[28:46] I said, "Yeah, you're probably right, and you must feel really dumb for choosing me as your
[28:53] partner." So these are like snappy comebacks, I guess you could call them, and they aren't always safe to use.
[29:05] But my whole point with this entire episode is to remove the resistance, and these are ways to do it.
[29:13] Once you remove the resistance of how you feel about yourself or how others feel about you or
[29:19] what they say about you, and then you make it an acceptance in your life if you just say, "Oh,
[29:26] yeah, that is me." Even if nobody else is involved.
[29:29] Even if you just believe this about yourself and you say, "Yeah, that is me." What happens is
[29:34] the resistance then goes away so that you can move forward without thinking about it anymore and expand your life.
[29:40] That's the whole point of this, is expanding your life.
[29:43] Because I spent way too much of my life resisting what I believed to be true about myself, which kept me small.
[29:53] And I don't like small.
[29:55] I don't want to stay small.
[29:56] I don't want to feel small.
[29:58] I think it's important to expand when and where we can and make sure that we are noticing where
[30:04] we are limited in expansion.
[30:07] And if we are limiting ourselves, let's just accept it and move on, and then we'll find out
[30:12] that we aren't limited at all.
[30:14] Because we have so many other qualities that we can now nurture and grow and expand upon those,
[30:19] and it doesn't have to be what everybody else has.
[30:23] It doesn't have to be what anybody else has.
[30:25] It can be something unique to us, and we can expand upon that.
[30:29] So don't prevent yourself from growth and expansion by resisting limitations.
[30:36] And don't deny yourself growth and expansion by accepting other people's limitations about you.
[30:42] And, you know, what I talked about today is these are a few ways to help you expand beyond where you may be.
[30:52] I could probably go on and on with the other examples in my life, but you get the idea.
[30:56] I don't want to inundate you with redundancy.
[30:59] So I am so glad that you joined me today.
[31:01] Thank you for listening to another episode of The Overwhelmed Brain.
[31:04] I want to get right into thanking the patrons of this week, Crystal and Brad and Ashley and
[31:10] Steven and Sandra and Wayne.
[31:12] Some of you have been here for years, and I am so grateful to you.
[31:16] That's why I read your names.
[31:17] Thank you so much for your support.
[31:20] I'm very humbled, and I'm honored.
[31:22] If you value the show like these patrons do and you want to give back, head over to moreTOB.com,
[31:28] and there are options to do that over there.
[31:31] And for a show on how to navigate the difficult relationship, listen to my other podcast called
[31:35] Love and Abuse over at loveandabuse.com.
[31:39] And if you know you're the difficult one in the relationship, I mentioned it at the beginning
[31:42] of this episode, you can join the program that is helping a lot of people heal over at healedbeing.com.
[31:49] And with that, always keep your mind open because that's how you make the best decisions.
[31:55] Be firm in your decisions and actions so that you can create the life you want.
[32:00] Always take steps to grow and evolve.
[32:03] You are powerful beyond measure.
[32:06] And above all, and this is something I absolutely know to be true about you, you are amazing.

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