# The Overwhelmed Brain A podcast by Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert. Get to the root of emotional issues and learn the best way to relate to yourself and others by honoring your personal boundaries and making decisions that are in alignment with what's most important to you. This is not a "common-sense" personal growth and development show. You won't be told to think positively or create affirmations. The Overwhelmed Brain is about accessing that deeper mental and emotional strength inside you so that you can decrease or even eliminate old fears and evolve into the person you want to be. Learn what your parents or caretakers never taught you about emotional wellness and creating strong, non-toxic bonds with others. If you want the exact instructions that will help improve your life, you're in the right place. Feed: https://rss.libsyn.com/shows/49002/destinations/168817.xml ## Latest episodes - [Follow-up - When people make you believe untruthful things about yourself.](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/1831e8e18eca) (2026-10-27, 7 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/688.1_-_Follow-up_-_When_people_make_you_believe_untruthful_things_about_yourself.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [When people make you believe untruthful things about yourself](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/10ce1294d9b0) (2026-10-25, 34 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/688_-_When_people_make_you_believe_untruthful_things_about_yourself.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Follow up - Is it love or control](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/2d32ccdb2bfc) (2026-10-20, 6 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/687.1_-_Follow-up_-_Is_it_love_or_control.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Is it love or control?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/3098eb4c6c54) (2026-10-18, 38 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/687_-_Is_it_love_or_control.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [When you just don't see eye to eye on everything and it's a big problem](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/22a95b7278e6) (2026-10-11, 43 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/686_-_When_you_just_dont_see_eye_to_eye_on_everything_and_its_a_big_problem.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Grounding yourself to make the best decisions possible](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/958ab55ac9c3) (2026-10-04, 39 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/685_-_Grounding_yourself_to_make_the_best_decisions_possible.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [One way to stop the head games](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/545229e6ca05) (2026-09-27, 45 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/684_-_One_way_to_stop_the_head_games.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [How to express emotions for the emotionally unexpressive](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/2e48b8ee95e5) (2026-09-20, 38 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/683_-_How_to_express_emotions_for_the_emotionally_unexpressive.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The foundation of all dysfunctional behavior](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/e1034a268e74) (2026-09-13, 42 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/682_-_The_foundation_of_all_dysfunctional_behavior.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Is toxic energy blocking the life you want?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/d6f0c67c4a4c) (2026-09-06, 36 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/681_-_Is_toxic_energy_blocking_the_life_you_want.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Are you living your life on a foundation of fears and insecurities?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/6bfec4b7e401) (2026-08-30, 42 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/680_-_Are_you_living_your_life_on_a_foundation_of_fears_and_insecurities.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Can you get more time with someone without controlling what they do with their time?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/a62f9cb7c233) (2026-08-23, 35 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/679_-_Can_you_get_more_time_with_someone_without_controlling_what_they_do_with_their_time.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Is sarcasm supposed to be funny or mean or...](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/b659c577f206) (2026-08-16, 27 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/678_-_Is_sarcasm_supposed_to_be_funny_or_mean_or....mp3?dest-id=168817 - [When you don't talk about the hard stuff, hard stuff tends to stick around](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/01ae11d78191) (2026-08-09, 29 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/677_-_When_you_dont_talk_about_the_hard_stuff_hard_stuff_tends_to_stick_around.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [When your values collide with others](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/e06cca0b2c2a) (2026-08-02, 35 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/676_-_When_your_values_collide_with_others.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Moving forward through loss](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/abe32f5e3b45) (2026-07-26, 29 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/675_-_Moving_forward_through_loss.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [When those we love die](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/7e664d0babfd) (2026-07-19, 40 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/674_-_When_those_we_love_die.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The "It's not my fault" apology](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/c468ad00b3f8) (2026-07-12, 39 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/673_-_The__its_not_my_fault__apology.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Making hard decisions when you're not sure what's true](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/ba29db224eae) (2026-07-05, 35 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/672_-_Making_hard_decisions_when_youre_not_sure_whats_true.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The ten components that make up a healthy, long-lasting relationship](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/d2316fccf027) (2026-06-28, 45 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/671_-_The_ten_components_that_make_up_a_healthy_long-lasting_relationship.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The bare minimum needed for any close relationship](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/975b981e33bc) (2026-06-21, 42 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/670_-_The_bare_minimum_needed_for_any_close_relationship.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Should I reveal my past to a potential new partner](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/53bbcc95449c) (2026-06-14, 39 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/669_-_Should_I_reveal_my_past_to_a_potential_new_partner.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Are these old emotional wounds or something real happening now?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/e4486b0a7923) (2026-06-07, 47 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/668_-_Is_it_my_insecurity_or_whats_really_happening_in_the_moment.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The on again off again relationship and other challenging topics](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/29978b9b2127) (2026-05-31, 48 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/667_-_The_on_again_off_again_relationship_and_other_challenging_topics.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Some people don't want you to be yourself](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/b1f7aeee47c7) (2026-05-24, 46 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/666_-_Some_people_dont_want_you_to_be_yourself.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [How to be direct about someone's hurtful behavior without being confrontational](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/8c1bcf3025d4) (2026-05-17, 36 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/665_-_How_to_be_direct_about_someones_hurtful_behavior_without_being_confrontational.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Always take what sounds like a threat seriously](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/2949af9c5702) (2026-05-10, 40 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/664_-_Always_take_what_sounds_like_a_threat_seriously.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The past is the worst place to ruminate](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/7228ee7c3eeb) (2026-05-03, 38 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/663_-_The_past_is_the_worst_place_to_ruminate.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [When good enough is much less than you want to settle for](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/ab1d3f55de90) (2026-04-26, 46 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/662_-_When_good_enough_is_much_less_than_you_want_to_settle_for.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [They do wrong, you get blamed](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/b056e1f6e859) (2026-04-19, 32 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/661_-_They_do_wrong_you_get_blamed.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [When what you did is always thrown back in your face](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/f035ac84fe98) (2026-04-12, 42 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/660_-_When_what_you_did_is_always_thrown_back_in_your_face.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Life and relationship questions you may want the answers to](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/2f6e338ea548) (2026-04-05, 50 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/659_-_Life_and_relationship_questions_you_may_want_the_answers_to.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Are you the only one keeping the friendship going?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/bda2f6cdb314) (2026-03-29, 52 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/658_-_Are_you_the_only_one_keeping_the_friendship_going.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The specific steps some people take to manipulate you](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/d872e2b1a991) (2026-03-22, 37 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/657_-_The_specific_steps_some_people_take_to_manipulate_you.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The direct way to communicate with a passive-aggressive person](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/c51c6c8b4415) (2026-03-15, 43 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/656_-_The_direct_way_to_communicate_with_a_passive-aggressive_person.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Avoid taking on the pain and suffering of others](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/97c4d3fce833) (2026-03-08, 48 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/655_-_Avoid_taking_on_the_pain_and_suffering_of_others.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The aggressive accuser blaming you for things you didn't do](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/a31166fc741a) (2026-03-01, 59 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/654_-_The_aggressive_accuser_blaming_you_for_things_you_didnt_do.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Self-hate does not come from you](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/c6b78d930766) (2026-02-22, 49 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/653_-_Self-hate_does_not_come_from_you.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [This doesn't have to be as good as it gets](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/8e70727ad181) (2026-02-15, 40 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/652_-_This_doesnt_have_to_be_as_good_as_it_gets.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Stop blaming yourself for your stupid decisions](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/0f4dfb6445a6) (2026-02-08, 27 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/651_-_Stop_blaming_yourself_for_your_stupid_decisions.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The traps some people set for us by playing the victim](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/bcf8d5a5c355) (2026-02-01, 46 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/650_-_The_traps_some_people_set_for_us_by_playing_the_victim.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [8 myths about life and relationships](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/7a81ebe38d7c) (2026-01-25, 64 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/649_-_8_myths_about_life_and_relationships.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Keeping yourself unintentionally limited and stuck](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/b41a73e65a81) (2026-01-18, 42 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/648_-_Keeping_yourself_unintentionally_limited_and_stuck.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [When nothing is that great and you think you can't do anything about it](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/2c7b80a11f94) (2026-01-11, 35 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/647_-_When_nothing_is_that_great_and_you_think_you_cant_do_anything_about_it.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [When you're about to lose your sh*t](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/211add822b5c) (2026-01-04, 43 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/646_-_When_youre_about_to_lose_your_sh_t.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [The five words that will change your life](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/c85ae910a05c) (2025-12-28, 44 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/645_-_The_five_words_that_will_change_your_life.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [His ex is unsafe for our relationship](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/b59d1b3e457a) (2025-12-21, 48 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/644_-_His_ex_is_unsafe_for_our_relationship.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [Constantly accused for things you didn't do](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/3380e82ea2b5) (2025-12-14, 42 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/643_-_Constantly_accused_for_things_you_didnt_do.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [How do I raise my kids without completely screwing them up?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/7a5912c2b0da) (2025-12-07, 49 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/642_-_How_do_I_raise_my_kids_without_completely_screwing_them_up.mp3?dest-id=168817 - [What you don't bring up will come up](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/743537890/160a72989416) (2025-11-30, 47 min): audio https://verifi.podscribe.com/rss/p/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/prfx.byspotify.com/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/theoverwhelmedbrain/641_-_What_you_dont_bring_up_will_come_up.mp3?dest-id=168817 Shows are listed from Apple Podcasts' charts and directory, and Podcast Index where it is used. 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