# Grace Ofure’s Opinion on Value, Building Wealth & Sustaining Relationships | Dear Ife Series Podcast

An episode of [Diary of A Naija Girl](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1888131074), 23 Jan 2026, 1 h 22 min.

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Grace Ofure Ibhakhomu, a multidisciplinary professional and mentor to many around the world, shares powerful insights on building wealth as a woman and breaking free from small thinking—both in life and in relationships. This is one conversation you don’t want to miss. What’s your opinion on the question asked? Please share your thoughts in the comments, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe. 00:00-00:48 Intro 00:49-1:00 Dear Ife Intro 1:01-17:01. Grace Ofure’s Intro ,the “house wife” ordeal in relation to one’s purpose & backstory 17:02- 0:42 The journey into real estate 20:43-27:44 The concept of a “virtuous woman” 27:45-36:20 “Respect” in uncomfortable situations & comparison 36:21-36:36 Intermission 36:37-55:39 Sustaining relationships, choosing the right partner, independence & “living the life” 55:40-1:09:16 How to invest 1:09:17-1:09:55 DANG AD & Pledge 1:09:56-1:21:42. The Story,the opinion & gift giving Want more visual podcasts from DANG? SUBSCRIBE: https://www.youtube.com/@diaryofanaijagirl #DANG #DiaryofaNaijaGirl #DANGWithIfe About Diary of a Naija Girl Diary of a Naija Girl (DANG) is an online community, founded and managed by Ifedayo Agoro, to inspire women across the world through creative storytelling. Back in 2015, it started as an online diary, sharing the everyday adventures of an anonymous Nigerian woman. Fast forward nine years, and it has become a tribe of incredible women, living their best lives one story at a time. DANG is a safe space for women to be unapologetically themselves, a family that laughs, learns and lifts each other, from Lagos to every corner of the world. About Ifedayo Agoro An entrepreneur, creative writer, content creator, content marketer and media strategist, Ifedayo Agoro is the founder of Diary of a Naija Girl (DANG) and DANG Lifestyle, a premium home and body care production company, which she launched in Nigeria in 2020. Ifedayo is passionate about social responsibility and philanthropy. She sponsors several young residents at Little Saints Orphanage and partners with Lots Charity Foundation, a non-governmental aid organisation. Connect with DANG Online: Like DANG on FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/3xLjCkU Follow DANG on TWITTER: https://bit.ly/4aBgy9I Follow DANG on INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/4ay4Axu Follow DANG on LINKEDIN: https://bit.ly/3JhGpHM

## Transcript

[0:01] Poverty was created by the systems of this world.
[0:05] I agree.
[0:05] It exists in the minds of poor people.
[0:08] Having kids, raising kids, taking care of your husband
[0:12] is not a unique purpose.
[0:14] It's not.
[0:15] Everybody can do that.
[0:17] People will exchange money with you, a lot of money,
[0:20] when they know that what they are getting from you
[0:22] is more than what they are exchanging to give you.
[0:25] Do you know that you can make $10,000 without $1,000
[0:29] because you spent
[0:30] one thousand
[0:30] to learn skills
[0:31] or rather
[0:32] you will be very excited
[0:33] when somebody says
[0:34] compounding is just
[0:35] compounding
[0:35] oh those
[0:36] I just want to follow
[0:38] your social media
[0:38] because you are lying
[0:40] why are you deceiving
[0:40] the people
[0:41] how are you helping
[0:42] God with your poverty
[0:44] no way
[0:44] so if grace of grace
[0:45] can do it
[0:45] you can do it
[0:46] there was nobody
[0:47] created to be poor
[1:02] Hi everybody, welcome to another episode of the Dear Efe series.
[1:06] Here, we bring in your story, we talk about it with our guests.
[1:10] Just so you know that you're not alone.
[1:12] All of us have unique stories, but at the same time, most of your stories are also not unique.
[1:17] Somebody else has experienced it.
[1:19] So I'm happy to come today with an amazing guest.
[1:22] A woman who is virtuous, who is hardworking, who builds wealth and also builds people.
[1:29] A Christian, outspoken and also an author.
[1:33] Welcome today to the Set or Dare effect series, Madam Grace Ofere.
[1:43] Thank you so much for being with us today.
[1:46] Oh my gosh, I'm excited.
[1:48] I'm delighted.
[1:50] I'm honored to be sitting.
[1:52] such an amazing young thank you thank you thank you so much thank you for coming the moment i saw
[1:59] you on some other podcasts i said bring her i need to have a conversation with her because it was so
[2:11] different so refreshing so energetic and you believed every single thing that she said i can't
[2:18] say that about a lot of people people don't really believe the things they say they talk for content
[2:24] purposes i want to trend or this is the correct thing to say but you didn't care about being
[2:29] correct you only cared about what was right by god and that was just amazing for me to see and one of
[2:34] the things he said that i said we have to talk about it here because we've always talked about it
[2:39] in the community is first about the housewives conversation housewives who don't work have no
[2:47] vision that's what you said what does that mean okay so very simple i'm also a housewife so
[2:57] because when you when you talk about being a housewife it means that listen it means that
[3:03] there is a house and there is a place for a wife to stay there to stay there doesn't necessarily
[3:10] mean the wife will be sitting in the house 24 hours because the wife or the
[3:17] person was created for a purpose and everyone that was created by God has a
[3:25] unique purpose when God was creating all of us there is something that you can do
[3:32] that nobody can do it like you you said there's five fingers there is no way any
[3:38] fingerprints can be the same so it means that as a woman there is a unique purpose because having
[3:48] kids raising kids taking care of your husband is not a unique purpose yeah everybody can do that I
[3:57] can have kids have a husband and take care of my children every woman is expected to have kids
[4:03] unless you don't want to so you have the capacity to have god says you should go and multiply even
[4:11] if you're not supposed to multiply only by having kids you can multiply your money your influence
[4:17] your value it means that what a woman is supposed to carry a child or raise a child and that is why
[4:22] i always say you can even raise other people's children not necessarily but then that's not the
[4:27] reason why god sat down to create you so you could be a woman without marriage and children and still
[4:35] fulfill purpose that's there is a purpose so marriage and children is a byproduct you'll be
[4:42] created for a unique purpose and that is why some people have kids they have husband they still
[4:48] commit suicide they have money they have poor they still commit suicide one of the big reason is when
[4:55] there is a vacuum it's like using your phone wrongly the manufacturer of the phone gave you
[5:03] a manual and the manual shows how to use the food by the time you use the phone for something wrong
[5:10] you don't get the full value of the phone why you didn't follow the script or the manual
[5:17] so the day you were created the person that created you have a unique purpose and plan
[5:24] that's why i said you can't call marrying having kids and raising children as your purpose no
[5:33] unless there's a place in the bible you will show me today and change it by telling me god said
[5:39] marry take care of your children and that is why i created you as long as it's not consistent with
[5:45] the manual of life then that's not your books and the manual of life is the bible is the bible
[5:51] I jumped the gun because if I nobody else had watched that podcast right we would still need
[5:58] to introduce you I don't want to introduce you as the person who was on the podcast
[6:02] imagine that you were not on that podcast how would you introduce yourself
[6:06] my name is Grace Overy Bahomo popularly known as the money farmer
[6:13] so I I create worlds I teach people how to create worlds and most importantly when I people say
[6:21] money farmer it means that not necessarily having money to farm you have value that can become money
[6:29] then I teach you how to then farm the money to become value and you multiply your value for
[6:35] more money it means that I can identify the money you think you don't have from what you are and
[6:43] then teach you how to multiply that money and so you just farm it in the right places absolutely
[6:49] love it you also didn't tell us about our real estate oh you know because it's all about um
[6:58] where should i put my money so um because of creation sustainability and transfer then real
[7:04] estate is so important when it comes to wealth creation so i major on real estate investment
[7:13] locally now globally looking at the trends in terms of consistency
[7:22] sustainability then we're looking at money filtration and so now we're
[7:27] thinking of putting our money because that's part of farming where you can
[7:31] have stability where you can have stability yes we've identified some
[7:34] markets where their currency has been stable for over 35 years and we've seen
[7:40] how that when i look at my bible and i read my bible i i feel that tax is as important but then
[7:50] any economy that gives you tax freedom it means they really care about your money so that's why
[7:56] we are pushing in so much of our elites and nhi to look at the dubai which has been fantastic for
[8:03] the last three years amazing i mean we saw how you give people two was it two apartments two
[8:09] apartments yeah in Nigeria yeah the reason was because if you look at my story and see
[8:14] how far that I've come uh one thing that I really lacked was um money I was really really really
[8:21] very poor without a job so I made a commitment to myself and to God that every project that I
[8:28] successfully complete irrespective of what happens I must make sure people are not homeless so what
[8:33] that means is i must give up those apartments to people for free and i've done that for close to
[8:41] 15 years and more how deep was this poverty how when did you know that we're actually poor like
[8:47] what happened that you just knew that there are three reasons i knew i was born number one
[8:53] poverty is not how much you don't have influence that you don't have oh how do you become rich
[8:59] is how influential you become let me explain that to you uh there's something that young people say
[9:04] quick quick or urgent 2k so my my pastor taught me the day you know you are rich is when you you
[9:12] don't have money in your bank account yeah but you need a lot of money and it comes to you who
[9:19] are you going to call so if i need i did when i was doing a training with some young people
[9:25] recently i put a test to myself and i was blown away so i just said do you know that i can call
[9:32] 100 million right now and they're like from how so i called two people and the first person said
[9:38] okay send your account number the second person said okay which of the accounts did he ask me
[9:44] what for that's influence because they know they have the capacity to pay back to give it back yeah
[9:50] absolutely so that's how to know you are poor when you are looking for urgent 500
[9:57] and nobody's answering you so i didn't even know about this urgent something it was one day i was
[10:01] in my car and my daughter was teasing me he said who asked for urgent 10 million so because sometimes
[10:08] when she's with me and i need because i'm always cash broke but investment rich well so i could
[10:15] just be looking for 10 million and she'll be in the car hello please can i just get urgent 10
[10:19] million who asks for audience i do i do so that that's just about myself i'm talking about you
[10:27] no i don't know what's asking that who asked for it no she was telling me that i've never
[10:30] you should have never heard of it i just called somebody and you are saying audience 10 million
[10:35] yeah and you get the alert almost immediately yeah so when you really know you are poor it's
[10:40] when you look around you and there is nothing oh and you can't open any door even with your name
[10:50] because when i came to lagos trying to get a job at the copper one of the things they told me was
[10:56] do you know anybody who is your father or who she is even i wanted to work in the bank and the first
[11:02] thing you ask is what's your contact base nothing i was from the village and there's no contacts
[11:10] so it just shows you you know what you are poor one of the things i did was to listen to people
[11:17] that are from my kind of background and i've become rich yes then have the right mentors
[11:22] because yes i don't think if you are not from a poor background you might understand how to take
[11:29] the strategy from poverty to wealth yeah i actually believe that to be true yeah because
[11:34] of course our experiences also make us right so if you are i go to meet and this is not no shade
[11:40] it is what it is yeah i go to meet dango t who was giving i think 100 million i don't know how
[11:45] much he was given by his father yeah and of course that has multiplied it into billions
[11:49] so this is amazing yeah that is good for our kids yeah exactly listen to him because it's true
[11:55] because they grew up with parents who have money yeah but you're right people who came from the
[11:59] ground up you that's the that's the people you need to listen to if you also came from the ground
[12:04] up yeah because yeah because i because it's so important because the strategy if the person can
[12:10] show you how they got up you will learn too much from it yes so when i started no job i started to
[12:18] sell fairly used clothes and why did i sell okrica because i didn't have money to buy the new ones
[12:24] then how did i start to sell okirika because okirika also steal his capital yes i got to the
[12:29] market very early in the morning look for customers for the ebook boys and they gave me a commission
[12:35] i took the commission i bought the ones i selected and kept in the money which are very beautiful so
[12:41] with my commission i buy it i take it out of the market that's strategy guys this is what
[12:46] drop shipping is yeah you go and take somebody's already made goods and say i will sell it for you
[12:53] just give me so you didn't have anything to do with manufacturing buying you're just like a middleman
[12:57] and you made some money and so it means that a young girl a young boy that just graduated that
[13:02] doesn't have a job can do that almost immediately than waiting for the government true then so now
[13:08] how would the person scale is understanding that there are some business that cannot make you
[13:12] billionaire and even if they will make you a billionaire it has to be a lot of volume what
[13:16] kind of business is this any business that in let's do demands you're looking for a billion
[13:21] and your business is giving you naira let's say let's look at the billionaire and for the sake of
[13:28] nigerian people watching us or a million dollars yes and you're looking at your profit is five
[13:34] dollar per product no all right how many do you want to sell so now you not need another strategy
[13:44] as you are trying to scale on leaving the okirika business to the next level but you have learned
[13:49] the foundation of knowing that you could be a middleman to make money so in my mind if i'm a
[13:54] middleman to make 10 what can't i be a middleman to make 100 100 yeah yeah so but you already have
[14:03] learned that being a middleman can give you money down waiting so you will see that in the story
[14:11] or in the book yeah that a poor man that became rich roots unless the poor man is also lying
[14:18] and he can't prove it.
[14:20] And like the kids will say,
[14:21] you can't show walking.
[14:22] You can't show walking
[14:23] or you have to show walking.
[14:24] You have to show walking.
[14:24] And this is such an amazing strategy
[14:26] because what I've realized is
[14:27] the more you walk,
[14:28] the more you learn.
[14:29] So I can show.
[14:31] So I move.
[14:32] So how do you move?
[14:32] There's progression.
[14:33] So even from the Okilika,
[14:35] you now rent a shop.
[14:37] What did I do with the shop?
[14:38] I make the front of the shop
[14:39] look like a boutique
[14:40] and inside is Okilika.
[14:41] So that's another strategy.
[14:43] So the young looking nice girls
[14:44] coming from work.
[14:46] Packaging.
[14:46] It's not today packaging.
[14:47] like 19 years ago so packaging did not just start today it's just that it's louder so they come from
[14:54] the outside i make it look like a boutique so anybody can enter but they get it cheaper because
[14:58] they have to buy bend down on the inside what you have done is protect all those people coming in
[15:03] coming in so they are comfortable enough to come in not until you come in you won't know that you're
[15:08] going to bend down absolutely so that's another level then then you are still there you're still
[15:12] thinking like this can make you what so you have to start with your mind how far do you want to go
[15:18] because it's your mind that says you have to be very well did i is pushing you to take some
[15:22] decisions so i took another no this one can give me the kind of figures but i'm diligent at this
[15:29] one but in as much as i'm in the cricket shop i am thinking of where i want to be because my stats
[15:36] would never make me it's as fast i want to go so there's a picture in front of me so even when i
[15:41] had challenges there because they stole my first 25 000 and if there was this tabloid i'll be
[15:46] everywhere because i wept but in the inside the tears i remember the picture of how i wanted to
[15:55] look and i started to laugh then that takes me to the next level what then do i do to get to that
[16:01] picture it's not by giving up i tell people when i'm training people i say why you give up or
[16:06] procrastinate because you are seeing the sufferings i want to see i see the enjoyment so in respect of
[16:12] what i'm going through it's all a process to get to that picture as long as that picture is in front
[16:16] of me there's no stopping me i absolutely agree same thing with me i would tell you i'm tired i'm
[16:22] not doing it again but i love enjoyment so i'm saying like okay okay we'll go again we'll go
[16:29] again tomorrow and and the mom will do it so that's basically how it was so i was still open
[16:35] minded you know i wasn't shutting myself out of the real world i wanted and as a real estate played
[16:43] in because i was always curious for a better life so anybody that i see doing well living i'm not
[16:50] thinking it's something dubious so it has to do with a mindset thing so everybody's not a
[16:55] prostitute everybody's not a yeah everybody so just keep asking what are you doing what are you
[17:00] doing so my real estate journey started when i met a i for the end of his water charging it was a
[17:04] phone she was carrying a phone that i was like i think i was using blackberry very funny phone but
[17:11] her phone was you know like an ipad like this and i'm like what do you do i say real estate
[17:16] but then when i went to the real estate i have to also be strategic so he i have to find out what
[17:22] is really the problem of this business so the problem of the business was integrity was trust
[17:27] was education people were just investing they didn't even know the cycles of real estate so
[17:33] like now we're in a kind of cycle and some people are in that cycle and looking at it like
[17:39] is this the best time but because i understand the business i know it's a cycle then i'll go to
[17:44] another market i'll come back to this market so you have to also quickly be thinking of change
[17:50] and ready to face the change whether it is positive or negative as long as you stay
[17:57] in that change the end you will win so that's basically so looking at what i have said if i
[18:02] put it to a book anybody can come and take that book and take the steps so that was what that's
[18:08] what you mean by you must listen to somebody that was just like you i'm not saying other things
[18:14] won't work if i want to get books for my kids i won't get my own book for them because now nobody's
[18:21] going to ask who is your mother exactly i'm going to get books for them to see what people did very
[18:27] well with the leads you that your father and your mother gave to you and that's the truth absolutely
[18:32] you said three things when you knew you were poor you mentioned the first one uh when you cannot do
[18:37] urgent to kill okay what's the second and third thing the second thing was when i couldn't use any
[18:44] any name around me to open any door because the the system we lived in have that a lot unless we
[18:51] are lying to ourselves that is the truth the system we need it goes back to number one yeah
[18:56] then number three is which is important you are really hungry we are poor you're hungry so you
[19:03] get home i remember there's a drink i don't i don't want to advertise it it looks like a yogurt
[19:09] in the green it comes out with like greenish color you know what you mean when you see me taking that
[19:14] drink you know that maybe somebody dashed me money so it reminds me of poverty really so you are not
[19:20] able to live the kind of life and you have people around you that really need help you can't help
[19:25] them and that is one thing that makes me very if there's one thing i like to do is to my husband
[19:32] will say do you even work so hard for yourself or for people because everybody gets excited
[19:38] aside you get excited many things my kids are excited when they travel everywhere in the world
[19:43] i'm excited to solve your problem so it's very so that means making sure people around me are
[19:50] are excited is my excitement.
[19:51] That means I need to have
[19:52] a lot of money.
[19:53] Unless I won't be excited.
[19:55] Yeah.
[19:55] If, seriously,
[19:57] you won't believe, my excitement
[19:58] is when I give out money.
[20:00] And for me to be very excited,
[20:02] that means I have to make a lot of money to be able to give out
[20:04] a lot of money.
[20:05] So,
[20:06] that I couldn't also do.
[20:08] Because I was
[20:10] even looking for help.
[20:12] So that, when you cannot really
[20:14] do the things you want to do because you
[20:16] lack the means and the opportunity,
[20:19] you are really poor.
[20:20] because now I can want to help somebody and I don't have cash.
[20:22] And I'll call for urgent 100 million.
[20:24] Yeah.
[20:24] Yeah.
[20:25] So it means that I could be excited every day.
[20:28] Every day.
[20:29] Absolutely.
[20:30] That's just fantastic.
[20:32] And as you were talking about, you know, the woman who, you know,
[20:37] stays home, lacks vision and all of those things,
[20:41] it just occurred to me to ask you,
[20:42] then what does a virtuous woman mean truly in the time that we're in?
[20:47] Oh, my God.
[20:49] I tell you the truth
[20:50] because of the knowledge
[20:51] of the word of God
[20:51] that has become so popular
[20:53] almost every woman
[20:54] is becoming a virtuous woman
[20:55] and it's a problem
[20:56] it's a problem?
[20:57] it's a problem
[20:58] it's a problem because
[21:00] if you become a virtuous woman
[21:01] and you lack wisdom
[21:04] the opposite says
[21:06] which is the math
[21:08] you might not enjoy
[21:10] the way a virtuous woman
[21:12] enjoy by being married
[21:14] if you go to the bible
[21:15] it's real
[21:15] the husband was always being talked about because of the wife was at the gate it was at the gate
[21:22] it was it was it doesn't mean that the man wasn't doing anything so because sometimes people feel
[21:27] that for you to be a virtuous man means that your husband shouldn't do anything no he was respected
[21:34] because the woman he married carried weights yes he she had merchandise first of all to be
[21:39] you don't have one stream of income and how to represent you and the people around you
[21:47] like your maids your driver you understand what i'm saying a virtuous woman wakes up in the night
[21:53] prays for the wife not only that makes good clothing linen linen is one of the most expensive
[22:00] fabric for the maids there's no difference between i remember when i was i don't want to call you
[22:06] know because we are in public somebody that was very close to me whatever you think is closest
[22:10] is close when i come to visit them in the morning when they are going to work they have to bring out
[22:16] the milk and the meal in a cup for my breakfast and put the bread on top yeah well i don't know
[22:24] and bring out the soup in the after to do cut what i will eat because they have gone to work
[22:30] and I made a vow that I will never give my maid food by myself and so when they come to my house
[22:39] I'm amazed to say ma where is my plate I don't understand do people give plates to people to eat
[22:44] I don't understand so my maid can drink with a cup now and I'm drinking with a cup and people
[22:48] in my house say I should just use that cup I said I don't understand what is different between her
[22:51] and Pamela.
[22:53] So,
[22:54] because I saw that
[22:55] treating,
[22:56] I was not a maid
[22:58] and I knew how I felt.
[23:00] So,
[23:01] a virtuous woman
[23:02] starts from there.
[23:03] For me to know
[23:04] that you're a virtuous woman,
[23:05] I don't
[23:06] look at how much you have.
[23:07] I look at the people around you.
[23:10] So, every year,
[23:10] I try to say,
[23:11] okay, let us give out a car.
[23:12] Last year,
[23:13] it was my driver
[23:13] that took the car.
[23:15] It was my driver
[23:16] because the driver
[23:17] is so valuable to me.
[23:19] And so,
[23:20] even if I didn't put it on public.
[23:22] The most important thing is
[23:24] a virtual sumat maid
[23:26] should have maids.
[23:27] So when they leave,
[23:28] the driver should have driver.
[23:30] My mentor,
[23:30] I say his driver has drivers.
[23:33] That's when you know
[23:33] you're a seed of Abraham.
[23:35] Your driver should have driver.
[23:36] Your maids should have maids.
[23:37] When they are done with you,
[23:38] they should also have a driver
[23:38] that takes them home.
[23:40] So a virtual sumat cannot do that
[23:42] sitting down at home.
[23:43] No.
[23:44] He said,
[23:45] she has importation and exportation.
[23:48] You can read it.
[23:49] She travels,
[23:49] she has merchandise she has this she has that she wakes up early she wakes up early yeah because
[23:55] you have to wake up early wake up early to pray wake up early to make sure the house is together
[24:01] and sometimes people think if you are hard working you you cannot take care of your family
[24:08] is a lie there's a there's a time i was in london with my friend and after i did i was just doing
[24:14] something normal and she when we were done she was like i don't understand you what was it my husband
[24:21] was going home we went to dubai together so he was going home so i was calling my people at home
[24:29] what food is he eating send me the food then i was calling my driver pick him in the airport and
[24:35] normal thing to me it's normal then when i finished the conversation she said i don't understand he's
[24:41] going home the driver is at home the cook is at home you are from london with all these things
[24:46] you are doing program you have an event you are this i said how did that change the event is still
[24:53] a success that's my responsibility i was just doing my responsibility there is no way i behave
[25:00] like that that he will not be spoken of because if his friends were sitting with me they will say
[25:05] that how that you think i am everywhere i am still in charge in the food i know the food
[25:12] on the home if possible you send me the picture so and that's my responsibility
[25:20] because it's not a body so i don't even see it as a body what's a body it's something you do out
[25:26] of pressure it's heavy it's not heavy i have the support system am i the one i cook the food
[25:31] do am i the driver no but just make sure they do their job if i if you can't do that then i have
[25:37] somebody else that i'm saying this and this and this is what you should do so that means that
[25:41] somebody taking that responsibility that i will not just care about it it's not good it's not
[25:46] it's not even spiritual because that means i don't care do you understand so i'm not saying
[25:52] you must do it it's your responsibility so even if you can't do it it's just like some people that
[25:58] you are supposed to cook.
[26:00] Then you say you are busy to cook.
[26:03] You pay for the cook.
[26:05] You tell the man he has to pay for the cook
[26:06] and you are busy.
[26:08] So you are busy.
[26:09] That means you are busy
[26:10] making money.
[26:11] And then take the responsibility
[26:12] of cooking away from him.
[26:14] Away from yourself.
[26:15] And give it to
[26:16] somebody.
[26:17] And pay.
[26:18] So it's just wisdom.
[26:20] It might not be for everybody.
[26:22] But I'm saying there are wisdom to this thing.
[26:24] And the most important thing is that you're home and everybody's happy.
[26:26] yeah food is okay everybody's okay and you are able to do a lot of things so i think that those
[26:32] were the things that the virtuous woman was doing and that was why she was being talked about at the
[26:36] gate yes like one of the things i said has been talked about the husband was being talked about
[26:40] because if i am the one on social media my husband people don't even know him but i can't go to an
[26:44] event now and a celebrity wants to greet me and i'm standing with my husband you go and greet him
[26:50] first greet him very well and when i see you have greeted him very well you can't come yeah why
[26:58] because that's how people will talk about him at the gate but sometimes when you are out there
[27:05] and you don't now begin to guide your life with wisdom he now looks like you are taking the place
[27:12] of the man the man is still the man that i didn't write the bible i didn't create myself that's what
[27:18] god did he's the head and he remains the king i can hear from what you're saying that respecting
[27:26] your spouse because again when we talk i always like to speak on both sides i don't like to oh
[27:30] respecting the man because a woman who needs respect but what you're saying i can hear that
[27:35] respect is very very important for a virtuous woman to have and to the audience i speak again
[27:42] as a christian you know i always tell you when i talk my own i will say my own as a christian you
[27:45] You will not take the one that is your own if you are not a Christian.
[27:49] So she is a Christian and I'm asking this question based off of her belief.
[27:54] So you are saying that respect is very important when it comes to marriage and respecting a
[28:00] man is very important based on what you have said.
[28:02] I want to know how do you then respect a man who doesn't treat you well or who is also
[28:11] in his own way not providing in the home?
[28:14] Not providing in the home is one.
[28:18] Not treating you well is another.
[28:20] Yes, there are two things.
[28:21] Okay, so...
[28:23] Because you said build with the man.
[28:25] I think you mentioned that as well.
[28:27] And so I wanted to know, what is that balance that women should set?
[28:31] Okay, so I don't have a problem if you are marrying somebody
[28:36] that doesn't have a lot of money or that you have more money than.
[28:40] I don't have a problem with that.
[28:41] if you are able to do that it's not a problem but then a woman needs to be respected
[28:54] and i think that if a man doesn't respect a woman there are always two ways to this thing
[29:03] we can't say until we hear from the both parties yes because women are very good in talking fast
[29:11] We are very good.
[29:12] We like to talk a lot.
[29:14] So we speak our side.
[29:15] We speak our side.
[29:17] You need to understand the man's love language.
[29:21] So what do men think respect is?
[29:25] What my husband would think respect is
[29:28] might not be what your husband would think respect is.
[29:31] So there's what they call the understanding of the man that you married.
[29:34] You can't compare your man to another person
[29:37] because they both have different body language,
[29:40] love language and my husband's love language is very unique and so that means you have to
[29:46] be patient enough to be treated well to understand the person you married might not be the love
[29:51] language of another person so because once you are able to make a man feel good he will respect you
[29:58] sometimes you think you are making him feel good by providing and he doesn't care about that he
[30:03] doesn't care about that he just cares about sitting down with him and giving him affirmation
[30:08] you look so good you are my rock and my king and that even makes him wake up in the morning and
[30:15] say come i'll be going to work oh i'll give you a very early lesson i learned and this lesson
[30:23] i met somebody when i was just getting married they meet on sites because we do real estate now
[30:28] so then i started painting i didn't talk about that my story i used to paint for people's houses
[30:32] so myself and my husband we paint so in the night we go and paint people's houses when they are
[30:36] sleeping so this site they were doing very well when we get to the site immediately we'll get there
[30:41] they will start to kiss you know so because i just got married i was like one two years in marriage
[30:48] i was getting i said which kind of romantic man did i marry like this you know so they'll be
[30:53] kissing them but it's good to serve god because god saved my life so it's not like i didn't i
[31:00] wasn't confronting my husband like ah you know but i felt it so i understand your feeling i felt it
[31:05] so bad like and it was just early that's what i'm saying be careful who you are talking to we are
[31:11] making friends with that but the other things that my husband is fantastic and i'm like why can't it
[31:18] just be like this eh until one day it's been long they know that i know how to pray very well
[31:26] she the person called me say i want to see you now so i went there and he's like
[31:32] she was crying i said what happened he said i slept outside i said which outside
[31:36] he said uh that they are fighting i said because that very day that they are fighting
[31:40] that very day they slept outside they were on the side kissing so that means they they didn't see
[31:45] themselves until they got to the side she has to show me where to put this where to put that
[31:50] and immediately they got to the side they were kissing on video so i was not confused like i
[31:56] understand please break this down for me i just saw you kissing i don't understand you were just
[32:03] kissing so this you did not tell him your things are under the country is it last week or no he
[32:11] said no just yesterday i said how did he kiss kiss how did the kiss happen because even with
[32:16] your load outside he said no we are just used to it ah they are no longer married they are no longer
[32:24] they found a better partner but just imagine if i was building my life and building my marriage that
[32:32] you must kiss me is that kiss no tell me because how will i be kissing now when i look outside
[32:40] so that means the relationship didn't have true meaning yes
[32:46] no doubt is that life you want to live
[32:50] but there was respect me there was so much respect
[32:53] meanwhile lord is in the backyard i don't want that one yes so men would respect that way if a
[33:03] man is really really not respecting you and you have done everything then maybe you should find
[33:08] that there's a problem with the guy he might be from the background some people were not loved
[33:15] when they were growing up.
[33:16] So they don't even understand
[33:17] the meaning of love.
[33:18] You can't help.
[33:21] A guy that grew up in a home
[33:22] that was toxic,
[33:23] nobody has ever hugged them,
[33:25] nobody has ever kissed them,
[33:26] their parents have never said,
[33:27] I love you, I do not love you.
[33:29] Thank God, the church I go to,
[33:30] my pastor would say,
[33:31] go and tell him I love you.
[33:32] He used to teach us how to say it
[33:33] because many people don't know
[33:33] how to say I love you.
[33:35] Because they did not come from the home.
[33:36] I can't remember if my father
[33:37] told my mother I love you.
[33:38] So I really don't understand.
[33:41] Do you understand?
[33:42] So you should find out.
[33:43] Don't be too much in a hurry to get angry that the man is treating you.
[33:47] Have you gone to find that really?
[33:49] Check the foundation.
[33:50] When you check everything and everything and everything,
[33:53] and you come to a conclusion that this guy is wicked.
[33:56] Maybe he's a narcissist.
[33:57] Maybe he has medical issues.
[33:59] Try Medica.
[34:02] When you now go to Medica, it's not working.
[34:04] Then talk to your pastor to advise you.
[34:07] When you finish, talk to your parents.
[34:08] Because in this kind of podcast, I can't just tell you an advice
[34:12] because I don't know
[34:13] exactly
[34:13] what the issue is.
[34:15] I will be saying
[34:16] have baked truth.
[34:18] Yes.
[34:18] But I'm saying
[34:19] the foundational issues
[34:20] need to be
[34:22] checked and resolved.
[34:23] And be patient.
[34:25] Be patient.
[34:27] I'm telling you.
[34:28] When two people marry,
[34:29] somebody told me
[34:30] and I believe
[34:31] it's tomatoes
[34:32] and onions.
[34:34] By the time
[34:34] we put them in the blender
[34:35] there's a lot of good noise.
[34:37] Then it takes some time
[34:38] it blends.
[34:39] I won't say
[34:40] what I'm enjoying now
[34:41] It started from the first day or the second day.
[34:44] But because we are both patients,
[34:45] we are coming from both different backgrounds.
[34:48] My husband was the only child like,
[34:50] I mean, I was from, my husband was there,
[34:53] I was in a family of 10.
[34:55] We had a family of too many.
[34:57] So my husband is quiet.
[34:59] Me, I had to enforce my talk
[35:01] because I was from second to last.
[35:03] I had my voice, he was hearing me.
[35:06] So sometimes, there was something my husband said recently.
[35:08] said I thought she shouts until I discovered oh she's trying to make me hear her because of where
[35:15] she was coming from just imagine somebody could have stopped marrying me because in their mind
[35:20] you're shouting I'm shouting you're shouting at me you're shouting at me but he understood that
[35:26] this woman has a lot of value let me look and that's oh I remember where she's from
[35:31] the family was too large so you have to raise your voice for somebody to hear you
[35:35] and so so you have to i'm just saying that that means i'm going this deep for you to calm down
[35:42] and look at the situation very well that's the essence of this podcast to help you yes and it's
[35:47] when you have done everything my final conclusion you still leave the man get the right person to
[35:52] tell you that not somebody you met on social media yeah because you can't just meet me on social media
[35:57] say leave marriage yes so even even the people watching they are very excited because i don't
[36:06] just because somebody said you just pack your load out of the house it was the person there
[36:10] you made the person on social media go to the right place and get the people that you can you
[36:16] talk to consistently who have seen you who know you who know you yes i'm so sorry to interrupt
[36:21] what you're watching but many of you have not subscribed i know you want to subscribe but you
[36:25] sometimes forget or you're enjoying it too much you move on right after so take a few seconds
[36:31] click the subscribe button let's continue watching uh you talked about the the words that marriage
[36:39] carries there it's so it's it's it's too important really for us to just you know take it lightly
[36:49] and all of that so it's so important when you learn from people who have been there 20 something
[36:52] years is a long time for people to live together and say we're not leaving each other we love each
[36:56] other at what point did you decide that i instead of did you have any of that because i don't know
[37:02] instead of fighting i just peace is the only way to go okay so um like i said in the beginning you
[37:11] can be thinking of ah no i'm not gonna take this i'm gonna do this but when you start having kids
[37:17] it's a different ball game you start to really look at how can this work biblically if there's
[37:26] something that god hates is divorce i'm not saying you shouldn't divorce as well as really when there
[37:31] is abuse abuse yeah no no no you should think of what to do but i'm saying that we should be
[37:38] patient with each other knowing that so when you start having kids you know there's so much
[37:44] my husband told me something recently said the father told him that maybe like four or five
[37:50] wives that if there's one thing you would do to yourself is to have plenty wives it's not really
[37:55] fantastic because you bring in a lot of trouble that you don't even you are not ready for so
[38:01] rather look at how it can work if there are some that will never work but if it can work make it
[38:10] work so i'm not saying every marriage must work sometimes finance what is really breaking marriage
[38:17] is finance because i talk to a lot of women and it's money matter so you must discover your
[38:24] strengths everybody have their strengths as a woman i know my husband's strengths he knows my
[38:33] strengths and by the time we both put our strength on the table it brings us it brings a lot of money
[38:37] so in marriage too you must discover your strengths and so you can use your strength
[38:43] to the betterment of the family not against the family so that's also important um so we have done
[38:53] that so we have settled the fact of money we have settled the father of upbringing the kids a child
[38:59] is not well his mother when the child is doing very well because i know that then this child
[39:08] must do very well do you understand so my husband doesn't talk to the kids everything is okay
[39:18] sometimes i even think that these men of nowadays they are doing that so that they will replace us
[39:22] for a muggle seriously yeah they're trying they're trying their best yeah trying their best because
[39:27] women will just be saying yes because they know that after that they will not be good for leave
[39:31] the men to be lonely yes yes so the men are very smart we can see what they are doing ah we can see
[39:38] me i'm strategic so it's not okay it's not a problem you mentioned that children should live
[39:43] at 18 years old they should quickly leave you know when you know i always read like different meanings
[39:50] into things i don't just take everything now this is one thing because i feel like for parents who
[39:55] love each other these guys should come and be going no it's true yes because they should probably
[40:00] go in because even my daughter and i have some space in this house yes if i sit down with my
[40:03] husband yeah she would say i don't like come and go yes you are stressing then before i would not
[40:08] say before you came in i've married that come on you are the one that i came to disturb us yes
[40:14] so i for me that's one aspect that actually made me laugh like i love my husband come and go you
[40:20] spent 18 years and i've been managing this house just to behave myself be going so that they can be
[40:25] space you know so i think for me that was very endearing but on the other part people were like
[40:29] what about children you're saying that because you're privileged to put your children in homes
[40:34] like like educate them to go some children cannot some parents cannot afford that their children
[40:38] have to continue to stay when you start your life remember that you have to go so work a bit harder
[40:44] for that to happen see i'm really on sorry about that unapologetic about the fact that
[40:49] you can you you're in a society thank god i'm speaking to you from nigeria i don't live abroad
[40:55] so we are all in the same conditions to get down we have the same government issues together we
[41:02] have so why would i say this i say this for you to know that it's possible for you to live that life
[41:11] don't allow the economy or the system pull you down it's not even godly because you have been
[41:18] blessed with a lot but the problem is a fixed mindset so you are just in a place and you're
[41:23] thinking which way there is always a way i said something recently on my social media and i said
[41:30] the reason why you are like that is because you have people that are like you so you're okay you
[41:35] know sometimes when we get d in school you are feeling bad this way your friends they are
[41:39] i had f i tried i've tried so i have a plus now that's what i'm telling you i have a plus so if
[41:48] grace operate can do it you can do it there was nobody created to be poor poverty was created by
[41:54] the systems of this world it's not it's not it doesn't exist he exists in the minds of poor
[41:59] people the day you make up your mind say i refuse to be poor i'm no longer going to be poor and you
[42:06] now say i'm valuable enough to be paid that means you have to work on yourself to be valuable then
[42:13] you make up your mind to take your value from one level to the other and just start to ride
[42:18] and remember that we are talking about 18 years so if you are young 18 years is far away have a
[42:24] dream for that because what you don't see will never happen yes yes no vision because i i also
[42:30] i remember that i my husband took us abroad and he wanted me to stay over and i remember people
[42:37] gathered me his friends and said you have to stay i said why said because if you stay in school
[42:45] physics they were telling me things that were okay but i said no if that's the reason i should stay
[42:53] because the school fees will be cheaper if i stay then that's not the reason why i should stay that's
[42:58] not a good reason so the reasons they gave me was reasons that makes that made me look smaller than
[43:05] myself oh and it was tough your your dreams and visions do not align you know you say i should
[43:12] stay why you say because the school fees will be cheaper are people paying from nigeria i say yes
[43:16] and so if they can pay i will pay now yes so that's the answer the second thing i should stay
[43:21] i said okay the business i do if i create value of one billion i'll make a hundred maybe 50 100
[43:28] 10 of 1 billion 100 million 75 50 million you said i can't make that money here i said okay
[43:33] then what am i doing here exactly the place i'm coming from once i happen which will happen
[43:38] it can happen i'm so my faith is so high that it will happen one day so what am i now doing now
[43:46] you say but it has not happened but it will happen yes that's what my bible and it will happen i'm
[43:50] going back yeah i brought you here i want to go back i said let us be going back but it happened
[43:59] and guess what these same people come back to say congratulations thank you you didn't come so
[44:03] sometimes i'm not saying we shouldn't go for the right reasons please do but not to make you
[44:09] smaller than you yeah yeah not to make you smaller than you because in you is greatness so be the
[44:17] reason for all this is for to inspire you that even if you found okrika to sell be diligent you
[44:24] will stand before kings yes that's it absolutely but at that age at 18 how then do we continue to
[44:32] parent them effectively when i say you should go doesn't mean i've left your life but i think that
[44:41] every habit that a child has and is not eating would really stay so it's what you have done with
[44:48] the child before it's not every child you should allow go at 18 so they don't disgrace you but
[44:55] there are some kids that you can allow yeah to go and you've seen them you can see that they are
[44:59] capable they are capable yeah but then you still like i always say people should learn from other
[45:05] people that have done things i there are some people i've learned some things from for example
[45:10] there's one thing i i always see my kids at least three times in the year at the beginning of the
[45:17] year during summer and you must come back at the end of the year at the end of the year because
[45:24] whatever they pick up by the time they come back you might notice it so one of the major reasons
[45:31] major things i see is that you leave them even before 18 to go to school and they don't come
[45:37] for four years maybe no availability of funds yes then let them stay here we all went to school in
[45:45] that woman's we are doing well because that's also very important so i put that in them and i make
[45:51] sure when they come back we have family time together then we have church matter together
[45:56] because so yeah i'm for i'm fortunate enough to be in the ministry where they really have time for
[46:02] teens and children so i make sure they go for those events where they will be spoken to the one
[46:08] i cannot see somebody else will tell them so even when they are 18 i would my strategy is they will
[46:14] have to still come for things like that even when you are no longer home you still come for
[46:20] vacation if you're not yet married family vacation i would know you still come for christmas
[46:26] and if you cannot come we carry christmas to you because you have to be very intentional
[46:31] definitely intentional parents have to be very intentional see they finally maybe marry yeah and
[46:36] you just from my side and watch them live their life but when they are married you leave them
[46:40] alone truly truly and leave them alone but if you still have the means which that's why we are
[46:44] working and trusting god to live the kind of life he wants us to live a life of influence you can
[46:49] still influence them in such a way even when they are married you still have family time together
[46:55] even if the husband is very i used to my kids if you like mama very well do man joshua tell him
[46:59] that you will come and we'll have big family christmas together yeah you're coming home
[47:05] and i will still pay but if you want to be you can be paying but i'm still to you understand yeah so
[47:09] all those words creation sustainability and transfer is for that kind of life that kind of
[47:15] life okay this year we are going to paris okay maybe i bought a property for you or your your
[47:21] child because right now i'm doing bible bible says you have to leave the heritage with your children
[47:26] i bought property for my daughter's child he's not married though
[47:31] so that i can say come let's go to yeah yeah my grandson finally have a home and you know things
[47:37] like that yes and that's why you have to really really really listen to me work hard yes cash
[47:42] broke and investment rich absolutely so that you can delay gratification is very important i've
[47:46] done that for more than 15 years of my life you know i was still living in rent when i was already
[47:53] having beauty houses for people why because i needed to allow my phones work for you yes for me
[48:00] absolutely so i can live the kind of life i want to live so you can do that even when they are
[48:04] married that's it so the values you know even everybody will still see that we are keeping
[48:08] the values as long as we are still all healthy and alive so you don't really necessarily just
[48:13] leave them but at least for some time the freedom is important yeah absolutely how can women
[48:21] differentiate between potential like oh this one just has potential or a man with real value
[48:29] you have to have the discussion uh it's very easy to know a man that has potential value real value
[48:38] years because you will discuss you are the man now where are we heading to what are 15 years like
[48:46] how are you working towards it you know because you can say at 15 years you're going to be dizzy
[48:50] what are the things you are doing what is the blueprint it's not something you can google from
[48:58] ai so if you collect it from ai a very sensible lady will know yes because if you are giving me
[49:04] a blueprint.
[49:05] It must match up.
[49:07] It's like people
[49:08] that set goals.
[49:09] By the beginning
[49:10] of the year now,
[49:10] people are going
[49:11] to set goals.
[49:11] Many people come
[49:12] to my program
[49:13] and say,
[49:13] 21 days routine,
[49:14] you want to set goals.
[49:16] There is no goals
[49:17] that you are setting.
[49:18] You are not showing
[49:19] how you want to
[49:20] achieve those goals.
[49:23] So you have
[49:23] to be intelligent
[49:25] to really know
[49:26] a man that has value
[49:27] or to really know
[49:28] a man that has potential.
[49:29] Because the truth is,
[49:29] if you are not intelligent,
[49:30] you won't know.
[49:31] They can just
[49:32] tell you anything.
[49:33] anything but if you're so that means before you even ask that question go and get intelligent
[49:38] because if you're intelligent you will know then you also have to be spiritual everything is not
[49:41] about spirituality then don't think that i don't i'm not spiritual because i can pray for 10 hours
[49:48] no stop i do prayer do intelligence do everything to get that to get the result but then you have to
[49:56] also ask the holy spirit and the holy spirit will communicate to you in a way you would understand
[50:03] it so you might not necessarily be asking your pastor and i will tell you why i said that
[50:10] god told me something that that i i don't even know how to explain to people that i said god you
[50:15] love everybody so much but i noticed something that you you are so loving and i see some people
[50:22] that really trust you they are just behaving like kids and i see some people that trust you they are
[50:28] doing like lions why he said i so love you that if you want to be a baby i'm a baby
[50:38] explain that if you say god i want to be a baby he will come to you as a baby and treat you
[50:46] as a baby the holy spirit will speak to you like a baby so even if god has big plans for you he
[50:51] cannot come and take over your life he doesn't do that that's the only thing that god did for us
[50:57] that is also good and bad he can't take over the affairs of your life that you did not welcome him
[51:03] onto no a man is a free being he gave us that capacity and ability to take decisions and in
[51:10] this matter your decision is his final so if you say lord your decision he is god's final
[51:16] He can't come and lord over you
[51:19] No, he doesn't do that
[51:20] He created you in his own image and likeness
[51:22] Nobody lords over God
[51:23] You are God
[51:24] God plays small with you
[51:25] Plays small with you
[51:26] And he's very excited that you are small
[51:29] And he's enjoying it like that
[51:30] Only that when you get to heaven
[51:31] He asks you some questions
[51:33] I was going to say that
[51:34] No, because he was definitely going to ask you some questions
[51:36] But as long as you are here
[51:38] You are in your rights
[51:39] He gave you that right
[51:41] And that's why I'm very
[51:42] Not very excited when Christians are small
[51:45] Because there's one thing that he did for you
[51:46] the ability to be big so he could so good to me that i was like eh said yes you not say you had
[51:52] the lion ah me i'll tell you i'm lying on the child of judah then he will speak to you like a lioness
[51:59] you can't even create opportunities like like as you want it ah then i said okay lord
[52:07] there are some certain things that i need that i don't have the capacity i don't have the people
[52:12] you know when i went into real estate it's like especially there are some people that
[52:16] said they have sponsors they have this all they were saying is looking like there's somebody dead
[52:20] eyes i don't know me to see all these people then he said okay he came to me as an because i was
[52:27] playing an adult role he said i'm your backer i said what's that i went to the dictionary he knew
[52:33] that we'll go to dictionary because we have hard workings he knows i won't understand so i went to
[52:37] join and baka said all the synonyms everything that you will find in an investor angel investor
[52:45] promoter this that's what a backer is and the dictionary gave me a figure that i must get to
[52:51] that means if i go on that project of that billion dollars i'm going to back you up
[52:56] that means you're ready to be a lion you start the project and i will back you up so many people are
[53:00] not able to do what they are supposed to do now because they're afraid to start it so me i go like
[53:03] a lion i'm going i know i have a backer not backing a backer b-a-c-k-e-r he was able to
[53:12] communicate to me at that level and understood that i would believe it and i went out with that
[53:18] word i didn't go out with money i went out to say you know what i have a backup
[53:23] if i can go out he will follow me but if you want to be sleeping he's very excited though
[53:33] that's crazy give me a moment
[53:35] he seems like he's trying to digest it oh no no give me a moment because that's
[53:42] never i understand it it's just very new i don't know how to explain it yes you know you know
[53:46] something but it just now settles yes so if you say i want to be this it's okay if you say i'm
[53:54] very comfortable with this it's okay he's a lovely do you know what is love you get it do you know
[53:59] what is love when a man truly loves you you say you don't want to wake up he will be petty you
[54:04] please don't wake up yeah sleep he'll show you that's your comfort you want to be comforted
[54:13] on the bed he will just allow you to sleep very well he will increase the ac
[54:19] because he loves you so much and he wants to give you everything that makes you excited so
[54:25] he loves you so much and he's very excited for you to be poor and he doesn't have a problem with it
[54:31] because there are some of us that we he knows that we don't want that one so it's okay so when you
[54:38] now see that people that's why i don't really push people because i should have the mind of christ
[54:44] but it's not going to stop me from telling you the truth but once you say that's what you want
[54:48] ah it's all right though everybody must not be rich it's okay yes but i don't think that god
[54:54] is excited about because when you are poor number one your wisdom is no head
[55:02] number two you can't make so much impact to change this world true number three i read it in the
[55:08] bible the man was so wise but poverty you don't make anybody hear him number four we're in the
[55:14] era of social media where if you have an agenda if you have money you'll be head yes we can control
[55:21] the narrative number five if people don't want to say what i'm don't want to push out what i'm
[55:26] saying i'll pay them to push it out as long as it makes sense when i pay push out all people
[55:31] were here yes so you're looking at all that why should you be poor how are you helping god with
[55:37] your poverty no way get it we're going to talk about three types of women now okay we're going
[55:44] talk about the women who are living in poverty, the women who are middle class, they can see
[55:52] what their future will look like.
[55:53] They can see that they are progressing towards that.
[55:56] And women who are already doing well for themselves.
[55:59] These three women, how do you teach them how
[56:01] to invest in real estate?
[56:07] i recently started talking to the women in the lower class to say your first plan
[56:14] should not be investing as i grow i learn more your first plan is invest in yourself
[56:23] you know in the era of social media likes love like i like what you told me at the beginning
[56:29] said the kind of content you create you are not after like share no you're after real value value
[56:37] so i started to look at so many people are shouting uh invest 5 000 you get stock this that
[56:43] that and recently ghost says to speak to me that they might not give you a lot of likes or but say
[56:49] it's the truth invest that money for your life because let me explain if i give you a thousand
[56:56] naira that's all i have saved one thousand dollars and you invest it in any type of real estate
[57:02] read or anything the best you can get compounding interest please if how would that money become
[57:09] make you rich no if you invest that business in a skill even sell gang
[57:17] i get an affiliate link i learned affiliate marketing and say gang do you know that you
[57:22] can make ten thousand dollars without one thousand because you spent one thousand to learn skills
[57:28] but rather you will be very excited when somebody says compounding is just company oh those students
[57:34] just unfollow your social media because you are lying why are you deceiving these people
[57:39] how many one thousand nina will make you become a millionaire as a woman invest that money in a trade
[57:48] stop trying to be graceful this growth is two decades in the making i've been in this matter so
[57:56] invest what we what we want so if i learn multilevel if i learn how to do affiliate
[58:01] marketing now with 1000 i guarantee you by the end of this year i'll make a hundred thousand
[58:05] because i will so master and i will use it for everybody's product what me i will exactly i'll
[58:10] go for product very expensive i don't have time to be doing so that if i just hit that's what i
[58:14] to buy don't eat one one quickly to buy yes even if you are giving me two percent it's okay yes yes
[58:22] no you're not ready to do that come on just put in one thousand company interest not this podcast
[58:27] it's a lie it won't work so that's what i would tell those people the first level go and invest
[58:34] in yourself become so valuable that you can command what is value people will exchange money
[58:40] with you when they know what you are giving to them is more than what you are collecting
[58:43] say it again people will exchange money with you a lot of money when they know that what they are
[58:49] getting from you is more than what they are exchanging to give you yes the only reason why
[58:53] you will give me money is because you know what you will get is money it's more the only reason
[58:56] why you pay me for mentorship is because i don't owe you once you pay if i don't give you money
[59:01] more than what you have given me i will give you back your money that's a law because i know that
[59:06] i have the capacity to change your life in mentorship yes so at that level you need to
[59:11] invest in yourself don't even invest in anything invest in you to be more valuable to command more
[59:19] economic value yes first level second level then in that same level invest in leverage
[59:28] we're still at level one yes invest in leverage so you must invest in something that you will
[59:33] leverage with another person that is bigger than you don't try to start to build a brand example
[59:39] so why would i go and start a a a a a skin care where nobody knows me my followers is 10.
[59:48] woman just bring your skin care how much are you going to give me i was talking to somebody
[59:53] recently and she she has a black card or something and i'm like why should i go i'm starting my own
[59:58] something something card but i'll confess how much this card you know if i go and start it's 100
[1:00:04] yeah i already give me 90 let me give you my people because you've already created the card
[1:00:08] true so what are you supposed to do learn leverage don't tell you and that's why a lot of people run
[1:00:13] away from jobs i wrote a book on nine to five if they read it they will not leave the algar
[1:00:17] because there's no need you want to compete with somebody that is no just stay under and use the
[1:00:24] person's brand and come up with an agreement if you can and grow the second people they know
[1:00:33] how far how long they need what i call mentorship see let me tell you something
[1:00:37] There's people that do my business now
[1:00:38] That sometimes they are making
[1:00:39] Blunders
[1:00:42] Because I've been in this thing for two decades
[1:00:44] So I've seen everything about it
[1:00:47] The best thing to do
[1:00:48] Is just plug into that person
[1:00:51] Maybe in mentorship
[1:00:51] Who is already doing well
[1:00:53] And reduce your time of wasting time
[1:00:57] Gain my 25 years experience
[1:00:59] Even in investments
[1:01:02] Do you know there are some people that
[1:01:03] Are at that level now
[1:01:05] that don't know the right investments that is why i'm asking for them because at that level
[1:01:10] how do they don't know they don't know so how do they let me give you an example people don't know
[1:01:15] you need to look for somebody listen that is not just a a marketer he's an investor
[1:01:22] in the business of investments should i say it again real estate real estate some real estate
[1:01:28] people are growing which they will grow and get there yes i will not talk to a real estate person
[1:01:33] that is not an investor in any country i'm going to tell you the truth because they don't even know
[1:01:39] when i went to dubai the first thing i did was to invest because a lot of people had very funny
[1:01:45] stories about dubai so i said okay let me go and put my money first when i know the story when i
[1:01:49] put my money i understood what the problem is many of them were buying timeshare they were not buying
[1:01:55] houses what is timeshare um hotel apartments and so they promise you that they will give you renter
[1:02:02] and they would also tell you that there was no customer there's no customer so if i don't so
[1:02:06] so they don't they did not have information and so they buy that kind of a thing and that's half
[1:02:11] information and you now say the place the place is fantastic there's no way in this world i just
[1:02:16] came back from harvard to learn global investment in real estate i have that with their case study
[1:02:21] she said dubai is the best as of today so what that means is that a lot of people talk to people
[1:02:28] that don't even that have never invested have a lot of social media following they're talking to
[1:02:33] agents and the agents they just want to call it just bring bring them on even the agent might not
[1:02:38] also it's not also the agents for because the agent doesn't even understand has never read the
[1:02:42] contract does he know that the contract can be terminated so what did i do the spirit god told
[1:02:48] me you have to go to that market but when you get there you put your money first so that you will
[1:02:51] understand all the trick of the country so then you can advise people better so what that second
[1:02:59] class people need what they need education on where to invest how to invest and how to leverage
[1:03:08] on countries and the people who have already invested invested and they should start so i
[1:03:14] tell a lot of people if you cannot do dubai start from where you are you must start just make up
[1:03:20] your mind that every money that comes to you part of it must be invested give yourself a 10 years
[1:03:26] for delay gratification if you see people on business class don't begin to think about it
[1:03:31] if your investment is not paying there is nothing i spend my money on that investment did not pay
[1:03:38] if my investment cannot pay i create an offer that's another bargain so if i'm going to spend
[1:03:43] money on some things now like it really this is i've created a business to fund it it's not my
[1:03:48] capital that will fund that lifestyle
[1:03:54] that's it then finally the final layer they're already there
[1:03:59] legacy is what they should begin to look at to keep
[1:04:02] that legacy you need to invest in people you need to invest in people and don't
[1:04:08] wait to get to yeah before you start investing in
[1:04:12] people then you need to think of transaction
[1:04:18] your kids are very key and that is why i also say to people that do real estate business investment
[1:04:25] experts that remember that one customer is a nation i recently have two customers of debt
[1:04:33] rates that brought their kids for mentorship because of the relationship we have had and they
[1:04:40] understood that it is not all parents that can talk to children a mentor would do better so that
[1:04:46] at that level you need to not begin to think of how can this money help many people
[1:04:53] because you have been positioned in that level to help a lot of people yes so being open-minded
[1:05:01] to find out how you can use it to help a lot of people will make you richer yeah but they want
[1:05:06] to invest in real estate these people you don't you don't think they should okay so that's for
[1:05:11] general but if you want to invest in real estate then you have to begin to look at markets that
[1:05:17] will keep your money to be really sustainable in future and that is why i was pushed out
[1:05:28] part of me went to dubai because when i go to dubai don't their their money was 208 dirham
[1:05:38] today is 482 naira just imagine so denier is there just keep that's not all for 35 years
[1:05:49] their money has been steady steady value the value of the value they have done so much to
[1:05:56] keep the currency like that then their growth projection is mind-blowing why is dubai good
[1:06:02] dubai is using your money to develop their country the truth is profit gravitate towards solution
[1:06:09] so why is to buy saying come come don't pay tax because they have a desert and the only thing they
[1:06:14] need to do is to give to you what other people will not give you so you bring your money to
[1:06:17] develop their desert that means your money is needed and need and once money meets a need
[1:06:22] profit comes yes so don't be sentimental i don't think you are if you're at that level you're not
[1:06:28] sentimental but just look at the entire globe and see where the monica then be excited about real
[1:06:35] estate because real estate does not depreciate in some very good location it doesn't just disappear
[1:06:45] like some other things you just wake up in the morning somebody's angry because somebody's angry
[1:06:51] so i just woke up the girlfriend you know he's kissing very well just speak
[1:06:55] you come to see that say something something everything and you don't want to you don't want
[1:07:00] to put your life on on that on that yeah so you want something that is sustainable for the future
[1:07:09] so the bible says it all a good man lives inheritance for the children opposite of good
[1:07:16] is bad a bad man lives debts or lives nothing so that means as a good man you must farm in the
[1:07:25] right locations don't be sentimental just go to where your money is needed the most and once you
[1:07:31] are solving a problem a real estate problem a real genuine real estate problem you would definitely
[1:07:39] make a lot of money and think of tax holistically if there is a place that is tax free now
[1:07:47] take the leverage and later if they change their mind we know what to do we move to another place
[1:07:53] another desert is coming so what that means is don't get information from people that don't
[1:08:00] really understand the market go and find out who is the market ask the right question let the person
[1:08:08] tell you how this thing can work and don't listen and show figures i'll just say yes
[1:08:15] i hide in figures no show figures no no if you're hiding because that means you don't know anything
[1:08:19] don't know anything no ask questions yeah i show figures yes i show figures show documents yeah
[1:08:28] write the red lines or the ones that you wouldn't be scared of i want you to read that one first so
[1:08:32] you can understand what you are putting your hand and paper into because they said if you want to
[1:08:36] hide something from africa right hide in a book and some of those agreements are so bulky don't
[1:08:42] worry i read it and read the red lines so you can see it it's something just to keep them okay and
[1:08:48] keep you okay so if you follow what they want you to do you will be excited you can't open a desert
[1:08:54] to become a city and you'll be broke it's just logical it's a business strategy i have a desert
[1:09:00] you have money secrecy another thing i like about dubai is your income is not told anybody
[1:09:10] so that's why you see a lot of people there go there because whatever you have there is
[1:09:15] It's left there.
[1:09:16] It's left there.
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[1:09:34] We're now going to go into our story that we're going to read,
[1:09:38] but before then, we always take a pledge.
[1:09:40] Okay.
[1:09:40] Are you ready?
[1:09:41] Yes.
[1:09:42] I.
[1:09:43] I.
[1:09:43] Ife Dayo.
[1:09:44] Grace offering.
[1:09:45] Promise.
[1:09:46] Promise.
[1:09:46] To be honest.
[1:09:47] To be honest.
[1:09:48] To be kind.
[1:09:49] To be kind.
[1:09:49] And to not ask Ife who wrote in the story.
[1:09:52] And to not ask Ife who wrote in the story.
[1:09:54] Thank you.
[1:09:56] Alrighty.
[1:09:57] Dear Ife, I'm a single mother of three boys with little or no support from my family or their father.
[1:10:04] There's this guy I'm dating.
[1:10:05] I've been dating him for about four years now.
[1:10:08] I'm confused because I'm hardworking and in all honesty, this man supports me.
[1:10:13] but the support is not enough.
[1:10:15] It does not help me pay rent or school fees.
[1:10:19] Here and there,
[1:10:20] it gives me some money.
[1:10:21] Life is hard for me and I need more, but I can't let him go because he
[1:10:25] helps me with those little things, but I'm stuck and I need better.
[1:10:29] I struggle hard to pay my bills.
[1:10:32] Today, it eats me when I asked him, can't you help me set up a small thing to support my business?
[1:10:37] He said no so boldly and I went on to say, do you like the fact that I call you here and there for
[1:10:42] small small money he kept quiet and said he cannot support me because he doesn't even have the money
[1:10:47] my heart broke and reality hits me that i'm just going to struggle for the rest of my life if i
[1:10:54] continue to be with him i'm also really scared of leaving because he comes through with those
[1:11:00] daily necessities for me and the kids what should i do i am drowning thank you so much such a
[1:11:09] touching story i really feel for you but i just want to use opportunity to say a very big thank
[1:11:15] you to the guy yeah because he's doing his best as you can see so if what you need is not that kind
[1:11:30] of person please do him some good by telling him you want to walk away because keeping him there
[1:11:39] hanging there loving you this much giving you all that he really has to give you for me it won't be
[1:11:46] nice for you to just keep being there because as i listen to this story means that if somebody comes
[1:11:54] up that is better than him she'll she'll definitely yeah so it's better you do it now that the person
[1:11:59] has not come so it doesn't become something that will hurt you later because you also feel bad like
[1:12:04] I just dumped him because somebody else came.
[1:12:08] But if he has good character and is doing that much,
[1:12:12] you should do more also to help.
[1:12:15] There is no place in the word that it was written expressly
[1:12:21] that the man must take care of you and your children.
[1:12:26] No.
[1:12:27] People always quote that part of the Bible.
[1:12:29] No, that's not what they say.
[1:12:29] A man who cannot provide is worse than an infant.
[1:12:33] No, he's providing.
[1:12:33] said he's not providing the kind that she wants so providing is according to availability so the man
[1:12:42] is fulfilling scripture by providing based on what he has so if you want more you will have to
[1:12:51] stand up and do more i am grateful that i have a husband that provides but i tell you the truth
[1:13:01] I don't think that a woman cannot provide for herself and her child,
[1:13:07] even without a husband.
[1:13:09] Because provision is income.
[1:13:11] Provision is that you have.
[1:13:13] Go and have.
[1:13:15] Learn a skill.
[1:13:20] Why will I say that?
[1:13:21] And I'm going to end with this.
[1:13:23] And that is why sometimes I'm very blunt in saying the truth.
[1:13:27] people might not like that because they want to be uh coddled a young lady came to my mentorship
[1:13:35] yesterday she made me cry she was teaching in schools and the school was paying her 50
[1:13:44] let's say per school and the school so she had five schools so what that means is that she was
[1:13:51] getting 25 250 a month which was okay then she came to my class when i said you must understand
[1:14:00] that your value is your wealth so if you are valuable enough ask for more then i did i just
[1:14:07] said it because i know that's the way i operate and somebody takes that as a law goes back to
[1:14:13] the school and say each of these students are paying maybe 50 50 for this particular kind of
[1:14:19] a ticket because it's not the school fees can i have 50 for each children so if you are collecting
[1:14:26] 200 give me 50. she said she was bold enough to say because i also said if you tell 10 people
[1:14:32] one person will agree and so she went to all the schools three rejected her two called her back
[1:14:38] she went to more than schools three quarter back he became five schools she charged each 50 each
[1:14:45] class was 50 50 times 50 times five so from 250 a month she's earning 12 000 a month who does that
[1:14:59] a woman that earns 12 000 a month what does it mean your journey to wealth has begun has begun
[1:15:08] so what is she supposed to do when she finished the next the next class i gave an assignment
[1:15:13] if you got five schools you can get 50 schools please calculate that 12 000 times another 50
[1:15:18] schools 50 schools now i gave her the assignment until life is i'm not sure i'm not gonna be a
[1:15:23] teacher no you can be a teacher it's the same thing it's the same principles that apply in
[1:15:29] everywhere so you have to understand your value position your value well get the right help and
[1:15:35] push your value what did she do she was still doing the same thing she just increased she not
[1:15:42] said ma i'm not employed three more people she has become an employer of labor please wait for the
[1:15:47] game you said i pledge i said the pledge is to wait for him very much be waiting you should help
[1:15:55] him nothing's wrong in that he helping a man even the bible says you should help like a supporter
[1:16:03] so you do this and help him then when he sees what you have done he will not learn from what
[1:16:08] you have done and he will not do his own it will not be 150 plus 150 you guys have started to live
[1:16:14] a life unless you are just waiting around we're employed yeah so this is practical this session
[1:16:26] was yesterday so i met some of my meeting and i was so excited but there was somebody else there
[1:16:34] too that was saying he needs 700 000 so you can see people are different so what am i saying get
[1:16:39] the right people to tell you the right thing to do because in you is one million dollars in 30 days
[1:16:44] yeah you can make it so now you get it because now she has seen the so she has the formula it's
[1:16:49] a formula it's a formula so now she has this mark going i said when you get 500 schools 50 schools
[1:16:54] we agree yes it's a 10 percent law yeah i teach it if the schools we agree this would be this
[1:17:01] would be the shortest response because i personally are you sure that's what you wanted to
[1:17:06] see i'm very angry with the message no i am very angry i'm very angry with the message because
[1:17:15] what what this is what he can afford what can you go and do something what because if we're
[1:17:22] thinking about it i've even said i appreciate do you understand even the message is very annoying
[1:17:28] they say i should not judge don't worry the time you used to write this message if you used to
[1:17:32] read one of my books um because there's one of them one of my mentee that said the husband not
[1:17:38] thinks she's a yahoo yahoo that's what's it for one night say because she's always on the system
[1:17:43] always working that means she was docile before before so anything can trigger that wealth formula
[1:17:53] listen to the right people don't listen to people that make you agree with you
[1:17:59] yeah anything that you listen to that is making you angry those are the people you should listen
[1:18:02] yeah be very upset anybody that's somebody like me one of them said in that same class
[1:18:10] that the first time I listened to you,
[1:18:11] I was very angry with you.
[1:18:13] Then I listened to you again,
[1:18:14] I became so angry.
[1:18:16] Then I finally paid for the mentorship
[1:18:19] and my life has changed.
[1:18:21] And I said, that is why
[1:18:22] everybody you are not angry with
[1:18:24] that you are following on social media,
[1:18:25] delete them.
[1:18:27] Because it's not going to move you forward.
[1:18:30] So, but once somebody says something
[1:18:31] that doesn't agree with you,
[1:18:33] because the mind doesn't want you to change.
[1:18:36] Just listen to the person.
[1:18:38] Change is very hard.
[1:18:39] will see the beauty in that person change is absolutely very hard again like i said this
[1:18:42] be shortest answer ever that we need there's really nothing to say to this person except
[1:18:47] leave this guy alone and i worry that if you are insistent on staying this way i want a man to help
[1:18:53] me you will find another man who is going to help you and you leave this guy and that that's not
[1:18:58] fair that's not so please leave him now favor leave him now and look for the money and either
[1:19:03] you know let's you know talk about how to you know create wealth asap and do it you know stage by
[1:19:09] stage or just let the guy for for saying this in this show i'm not saying she can change you or she
[1:19:16] you can let her know i'll give you a 21 days routine you will change we will let her know
[1:19:23] definitely we will and i will send that directly we will send her directly to you yeah for free
[1:19:27] thank you so much yeah so that tomorrow you change you have a different story you are the one i'm
[1:19:31] telling you don't wait for that man yeah thank you so much auntie for coming we had so much fun
[1:19:37] and you gave us a lot of clocky moments and we cannot wait for you to come back you have to come
[1:19:42] back ah oh yes yes we have lexicon you have to come back thank you god bless you come back and
[1:19:48] every time you know that you open your mouth not only will you be a blessing you will also be
[1:19:53] blessed in the name of jesus thank you thank you thank you so much if somebody wanted to reach you
[1:19:59] for mentorship for real estate email phone number who how should they get in touch if you just go to
[1:20:06] my social media but what i want you to do is go and listen to my videos on youtube because it's a
[1:20:12] lot of master class people say they spend three hours there please make sure it's your three hours
[1:20:17] that you're not using to do anything but when you're done with three hours you have an idea
[1:20:21] you have something to do so spend the three hours really spending it don't be distracted just take
[1:20:26] the right things so you can go follow me on my youtube there are a lot of classes there you can
[1:20:31] go for free instagram i'm there i'm on twitter i'm everywhere just send a message and let us know
[1:20:38] what we can do together i am big on education before we go we have a gift for you
[1:20:46] as we always have for our guests here you go the people are done asked us to give you this
[1:20:53] thank you so much thank you thank you we'll be using this product for a very long time but this
[1:20:58] one is your own it's my own no yeah it's my own thank you so much dan community members
[1:21:07] tell me in the comments what you think about today's episode because it is very very powerful
[1:21:11] and i'll be dropping all her details in the caption as well over to you
[1:21:19] our questions are just they are just if not i'm serious you don't like my questions my god they
[1:21:25] are deep auntie be calm down yay thank you so much you actually made it to the end of this video
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