# They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

A podcast by GoLoud. A weekly podcast series presented by family doctor and broadcaster, Dr. Ciara Kelly & family psychotherapist and author, Dr. Richard Hogan. They Mess You Up is a straight-talking show that unpacks messy, everyday relationship and mental-health issues with a mix of clinical perspective, personal anecdotes and wry, no-nonsense banter. They cover topics from affairs, jealousy and people-pleasing to anxiety, parenting and dating after separation, with practical takeaways framed by the hosts’ professional experience. The show is a pragmatic guide to why people hurt each other - and themselves.

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## Latest episodes

- [Understanding Anxiety](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/eedda43dd6e7) (2026-10-28, 30 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_ep49_understanding_anxiety_3f2b0ec9_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=428377&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits… Daddy Is in Love with Mammy’s Friend](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/b1aa2abd620a) (2026-10-26, 12 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_bits_b19_22daddy_is_now_in_d69287a5_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=428238&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Body Hang-Ups](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/d87e85c34c76) (2026-10-21, 28 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_body_hang_ups_ep_ab40114c_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=426930&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits…Sandwich generation struggle](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/eddc8d818353) (2026-10-19, 11 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/mb_sandwich_gen_ep_1d8991e9_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=426682&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Perfectionism](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/647a10df22eb) (2026-10-14, 29 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_perfection_ep_deac3599_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=424524&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits…Are Dating Apps Dirt?!](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/f7583af75303) (2026-10-12, 11 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/mb_dating_apps_c81d7cfb_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=425549&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Boundaries with in-laws](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/46c922963e96) (2026-10-05, 10 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/mb_inlaws_b16_26697703_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=424285&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Intrusive Thoughts](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/e1fc50e99682) (2026-09-30, 30 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_intrusive_thoughts_ep46_ed4b54a5_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=423435&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Why Do I Want Other Men?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/5d7e7a0b82c8) (2026-09-28, 13 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_bits_fancy_everyone_ep_fa94cfe3_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=422884&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [School Avoidance](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/557036163d5e) (2026-09-23, 28 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_school_avoidance_ep45_3bf1ca81_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=421952&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Functioning Alcoholic](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/937684e80753) (2026-09-21, 12 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_bits_funct_alc_b14_47b579ee_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=420657&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [AI Relationships](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/b7b5831d7f27) (2026-09-16, 30 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_ai_ep44_166766a1_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=420655&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Red Flags or Fussy?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/1a780cf06a6c) (2026-09-14, 11 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/mb_red_flags_or_fussy_b13_ae8825be_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=419633&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Are You Dealing With a Narcissist?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/576d8e118812) (2026-09-09, 34 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_narcissim_ep34_90cf77f4_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=419630&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Is this it?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/e0cab66f37f6) (2026-09-07, 11 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_is_this_it_b12_20ec7e17_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=418008&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [No Regrets?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/a59a884d3db6) (2026-09-02, 30 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_regrets_e42__496e6a1a_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=417879&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Toxic Boss](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/9ab42b7dd2fc) (2026-08-31, 9 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_toxic_boss_b11_5025c459_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=417560&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [CAO: You’re Not Your Points](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/0971f3845b30) (2026-08-26, 32 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_cao_ep41_a4ce270a_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=416726&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Introverts](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/d9771a954808) (2026-08-24, 10 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_bits_introvert_b10_9fe2007d_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=416377&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [The One That Got Away](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/289db7ba3bfb) (2026-08-19, 27 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_one_that_got_away_ep40__04e40163_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=415536&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits...ADHD & Marriage](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/4c6b3fec891a) (2026-08-17, 10 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_married_adhd_b8_e7a7647e_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=413959&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Adult Kids at Home](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/4b59e5b27a2a) (2026-08-12, 29 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_adult_kids_ep39_bda74ff8_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=413947&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Cold Feet? Or something more?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/10bf9883bff8) (2026-08-10, 10 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_bits_cold_feet_b8_7bf67230_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=413095&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Are We Too Soft?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/63df8a93670b) (2026-08-05, 34 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_soft_ep_ff93bba5_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=413275&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Body Shaming](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/56a01fb7a5ff) (2026-08-03, 11 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_bits_body_shame_b7_b2e8a4a5_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=413094&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Is Monogamy Outdated?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/2dc20f58b135) (2026-07-29, 29 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_monogomy_ep_6aeb01fb_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=412171&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Sister Envy](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/0680bb9d8f12) (2026-07-27, 11 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_sister_envy_b6_v2_18774de4_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=411969&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Going Sober...giving up the drink.](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/412f7e88a046) (2026-07-22, 31 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_going_sober_ep36_68c27b7c_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=409876&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Husband's Opposing Opinions](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/23b3f73197cd) (2026-07-20, 13 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messt_bits_husbands_views_b5_de1c79a8_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=409815&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [When Attraction Fades](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/2935c3e906a5) (2026-07-15, 31 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_attraction_fades_ep_92e75e10_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=409816&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... The Cheating DMs](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/cb3b89f11eab) (2026-07-13, 16 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_messy_cheaters_b_9432b0fe_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=409161&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Financial Stress](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/92bc4bdb33dc) (2026-07-08, 30 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_financial_stress_ep_3df1c089_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=408957&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits....Falsely Accused?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/6b629692e610) (2026-07-06, 10 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_messy_accused_3201abb1_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=408711&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [The Single Life](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/3bdba73b28e9) (2026-07-01, 28 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_single_life_ep_19da94b0_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=407829&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits... Wandering Eye](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/04b8989f1c54) (2026-06-29, 11 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_bits_wandering_eye_b2_a6678ab3_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=394811&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Burn Out: Running On Empty](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/7acee9e0a412) (2026-06-24, 35 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_burn_out_ep32_59d3ecf8_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=394879&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Messy Bits...Lonely Dad](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/9c02960f0e47) (2026-06-22, 11 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/messy_bits_lonely_dad_b1_7d021fd7_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=392421&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [They Mess You Up Recommend: GoLoud Sleep Sounds](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/19a7e8f8eeef) (2026-06-18, 2 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_sleep_sounds_read_mixed_d10f929a_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=392752&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [The Weight of Shame](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/c7b0376d2419) (2026-06-17, 30 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_shame_ep31_487bf9e0_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=392419&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Modern Love: The Listener Survey](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/da94635e682c) (2026-06-10, 37 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_modern_realationships_surve_9e0bf83c_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=390957&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Friendship Breakups](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/010ed381f7d9) (2026-06-03, 30 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_unfriending_ep29_a3a9b7cc_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=389932&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Coming Out Later in Life](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/ba806e7db0e6) (2026-05-27, 35 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_coming_out_later_life_ep28_418296d8_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=388674&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [F*ck Around & Find Out (Parenting)](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/fc705f399682) (2026-05-20, 31 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_fafo_ep27_115dc143_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=378806&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Blended Families: The Biggest Mistakes to Avoid](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/bae66ce04f60) (2026-05-13, 31 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_blended_families_ep26_abff05a4_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=376658&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Career Change: Taking the Leap](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/b88f725b0bae) (2026-05-06, 31 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_career_change_ep25_f108466a_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=374561&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Can We Get Back Together? (Listener Dilemma)](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/1b169f0daa0b) (2026-04-29, 26 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_getting_back_ep_24_8f9ec485_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=373474&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Co-Parenting Mistakes: Stop Putting Kids in the Middle](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/21baaf308b06) (2026-04-22, 33 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_coparenting_ep23_984e4ce1_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=372209&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Sibling Rivalry & Resentment](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/a4127753b77c) (2026-04-15, 37 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_siblings_final_55c0f5ec_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=370878&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Staying After an Affair](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/de910306cbbd) (2026-04-08, 31 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_staying_affair_0804_13c90ed2_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=369309&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847
- [Mental Health Influencers](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1869330209/2e4cec467c44) (2026-04-01, 34 min): audio https://bauernordic-pods.sharp-stream.com/ie/3847/tmyu_mh_influencers_final_dabd0fd8_normal.mp3?aw_0_1st.episodeid=368918&aw_0_1st.collectionid=3847

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