# The Difference Between Tantrums & Bad Behaviour: How to React in the Moment

An episode of [BratBusters Parenting Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1770136136), 16 Dec 2025, 39 min.

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#125 In this episode, Lisa discusses why she believes tantrums are not bad behaviour. She covers her approach to tantrums, public tantrums, whether or not she believes all kids have tantrums, when she thinks tantrums stop, whether or not parents can avoid tantrums, the fact that tantrums are overwhelming for parents, and the importance of connecting with kids after the tantrum. Lastly, Lisa addresses six listener questions focused on managing and preventing tantrums, specifically covering how to approach tantrums with a sensitive 5-year-old, dealing with 3-year-old tantrums before kindergarten or while getting ready for school, strategies for getting a toddler to follow directions without a fit, methods to prevent future tantrums with a 4-year-old, and handling a 3-year-old throwing a fit before a meal. Thank you for joining us! Courses: Toddler BratBusters Bootcamp (16-35 Months) BratBusters Bootcamp (Ages 3-12) Learn More: BratBusters Behaviour Board (Plus Toddler Basics) No-Cost Mini Course Private Coaching Podcast Questions: Have a question you'd like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast episode? Click Here to Submit 🎙️ Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer

## Chapters

- 0:00 Introduction to Tantrums
- 0:50 Is a Tantrum Bad Behaviour?
- 1:24 Lisa’s Approach to Tantrums
- 6:28 Public Tantrums
- 7:34 Do All Kids Have Tantrums?
- 8:23 When Do Tantrums Stop?
- 8:45 Can Parents Avoid Tantrums?
- 9:35 Tantrums Are Overwhelming For Parents
- 10:24 Listener Question 1: Approaching Tantrums With a Sensitive 5-Year-Old?
- 14:54 The Importance of Connecting After the Tantrum
- 23:36 Listener Question 2: 3-Year-Old Tantrums Before Kindergarten?
- 26:59 Listener Question 3: Getting Toddler to Follow Directions Without a Tantrum?
- 28:48 Listener Question 4: How to Prevent Future Tantrums With 4-Year-Old?
- 29:43 Listener Question 5: 3-Year-Old Tantrums Getting Ready For School?
- 31:24 Lisa’s Rant About Gloves
- 34:10 Listener Question 6: 3-Year-Old Throws Fit Before Meal?
- 37:24 Final Thoughts on Tantrums

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