# Parenting Boundaries: Stop The Guilt Today

An episode of [BratBusters Parenting Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1770136136), 19 Feb 2026, 36 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2404296/episodes/18636757-parenting-boundaries-stop-the-guilt-today.mp3

#144 In this episode, Lisa discusses guilt around holding boundaries as a parent. She covers the difference between pleaser parenting and authority-style parenting in comparison to calm leadership, how to be taken seriously as a parent, her demeanor during discipline, why parents should have boundaries for their children, why discipline is kindness, what age she would begin having boundaries for kids, and the importance of fun as a parent. Lastly, Lisa addresses seven listener questions, exploring how to choose effective consequences for kids, the best way to handle a 3-year-old testing boundaries, how to respond when a toddler becomes demanding, strategies for when a 19-month-old resists face washing or teeth brushing, tips for getting a 3-year-old to follow instructions, whether it is appropriate to use chores as consequences, and how to determine what qualifies as bad behavior from a 3-year-old. Thank you for joining us! Courses: Toddler BratBusters Bootcamp (16-35 Months) BratBusters Bootcamp (Ages 3-12) Learn More: BratBusters Behaviour Board (Plus Toddler Basics) No-Cost Mini Course Private Coaching Podcast Questions: Have a question you'd like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast episode? Click Here to Submit 🎙️ Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer

## Chapters

- 0:00 Introduction to Holding Boundaries as a Parent
- 1:17 The Difference Between Pleaser Parenting and Authority-Style Parenting Compared to Calm Leadership
- 4:24 How to Be Taken Seriously as a Parent
- 6:32 Lisa’s Demeanor When Disciplining
- 8:41 Why Parents Should Have Boundaries
- 9:14 Equating Discipline With Kindness
- 10:25 Personal Story: Home Clothes and School Clothes
- 14:04 What Age Lisa Would Start Implementing Boundaries
- 14:50 Listener Question 1: What Consequences to Choose For Kids?
- 16:19 Listener Question 2: 3-Year-Old Testing Boundaries?
- 17:47 Listener Question 3: Toddler Becoming Demanding?
- 20:16 Listener Question 4: 19-Month-Old Won’t Let Mom Wash Face or Brush Teeth?
- 22:37 Using Fun With Calm Leadership
- 25:47 Listener Question 5: Getting 3-Year-Old to Follow Instructions?
- 29:10 Listener Question 6: Using Chores as Consequences?
- 30:13 Listener Question 7: Determining What is Bad Behaviour From 3-Year-Old?
- 31:55 Getting Rid of Parenting Guilt Around Boundaries
- 33:18 Personal Story: Mommy Makes Us Be Nice

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