# It's Not the Discipline That Makes Kids Good (It's This Instead)

An episode of [BratBusters Parenting Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1770136136), 9 Dec 2025, 35 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2404296/episodes/18121698-it-s-not-the-discipline-that-makes-kids-good-it-s-this-instead.mp3

#123 In this episode, Lisa discusses what she believes creates good behaviour from kids. She covers topics including why parents focus on discipline, parents blaming kids for their bad behaviour, why Lisa created the BratBusters Behaviour Board, the importance of connection, and why she believes in teaching your kids it’s okay to fail. Lastly, Lisa addresses seven listener questions, covering how much playtime is appropriate with kids, whether to discipline children at other people's houses, a 5-year-old who is well-behaved at school but defiant at home, a 3-year-old acting out at school, what to do when you can't impose a consequence in the moment, a 5-year-old hitting and saying not-nice things to their parent, and strategies for making kids feel good about themselves. Thank you for joining us! Courses: Toddler BratBusters Bootcamp (16-35 Months) BratBusters Bootcamp (Ages 3-12) Learn More: BratBusters Behaviour Board (Plus Toddler Basics) No-Cost Mini Course Private Coaching Podcast Questions: Have a question you'd like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast episode? Click Here to Submit 🎙️ Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer

## Chapters

- 0:00 Introduction to What Creates Good Behaviour From Kids
- 1:52 Why Are Parents So Focused on Discipline?
- 3:21 Parents Blaming Their Kids For Their Bad Behaviour
- 4:56 Listener Question 1: How Much Should We Be Playing With Our Kids?
- 7:06 Listener Question 2: Do You Discipline at Other People’s Houses?
- 9:16 Why Lisa Uses the BratBusters Behaviour Board
- 11:19 Listener Question 3: 5-Year-Old is Well-Behaved at School But Defiant at Home?
- 15:27 Listener Question 4: 3-Year-Old Acting Out at School?
- 17:48 Personal Story: Amy Spilling Cordial on Her Barbie at School
- 18:54 Listener Question 5: What to Do When You Can’t Impose Consequence in the Moment?
- 22:51 Listener Question 6: 5-Year-Old Hitting and Saying Not Nice Things to Their Parent?
- 25:32 Listener Question 7: How to Make Kids Feel Good About Themselves?
- 29:11 Teaching Your Kids it’s Okay to Fail
- 30:31 Personal Story: Amy Creating Makeup YouTube Video
- 33:17 Final Thoughts on the Importance of Connection

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