# How to Handle Outbursts (Without Yelling)

An episode of [BratBusters Parenting Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1770136136), 7 Apr 2026, 39 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2404296/episodes/18962021-how-to-handle-outbursts-without-yelling.mp3

#157 In this episode, Lisa discusses her approach to handling outbursts from your children. She covers staying calm during tantrums, how to approach grandparents who have different parenting methods, and what happens when a parent's emotions get heightened. Lastly, Lisa addresses ten listener questions, discussing how to not get embarrassed by public toddler tantrums, how to go about helping a 4-year-old self-regulate when they get angry, what to do when a toddler screams at parents when given choices, and how to handle struggles with getting in the car. She then explores why a 4-year-old wants to discuss what they did wrong after a tantrum, the specific reasoning for why you should ignore tantrums over wants, whether tantrum advice differs when the child isn’t actually mad, how to manage tantrums around bedtime, why some 4-year-old tantrums are worse in public, and how to respond when an 11-year-old gets upset when a parent goes to bed. Thank you for joining us! Courses: Toddler BratBusters Bootcamp (16-35 Months) BratBusters Bootcamp (Ages 3-12) Learn More: BratBusters Behaviour Board (Plus Toddler Basics) No-Cost Mini Course Private Coaching Podcast Questions: Have a question you'd like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast episode? Click Here to Submit 🎙️ Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer

## Chapters

- 0:00 Introduction to Handling Outbursts
- 1:18 Staying Calm During Tantrums
- 4:26 Approaching Grandparents Who Have Different Parenting Methods
- 7:23 What Happens When Parent’s Emotions Get Heightened
- 10:51 Listener Question 1: How to Not Get Embarrassed By Public Toddler Tantrums?
- 15:11 Listener Question 2: Helping 4-Year-Old Self-Regulate When They Get Angry?
- 19:44 Personal Story: Fire Alarm and Calm Leadership
- 22:18 Listener Question 3: Toddler Screams at Parents When Given Choices?
- 24:03 Listener Question 4: Struggles With Getting in the Car?
- 25:58 Listener Question 5: 4-Year-Old Wants to Discuss What They Did Wrong After a Tantrum?
- 28:57 Listener Question 6: Why Ignore Tantrums Over Wants?
- 30:54 Listener Question 7: Does Tantrum Advice Differ When the Child isn’t Mad?
- 31:29 Listener Question 8: Tantrums Around Bedtime?
- 33:27 Listener Question 9: 4-Year-Old Tantrums Are Worse in Public?
- 35:46 Listener Question 10: 11-Year-Old Upset When Parent Goes to Bed?
- 37:21 Final Thoughts on Remaining Calm During Outbursts

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