# Reward Charts Send the Wrong Message: Unpopular Parenting Opinions About Discipline

An episode of [BratBusters Parenting Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1770136136), 23 Dec 2025, 38 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2404296/episodes/18313076-reward-charts-send-the-wrong-message-unpopular-parenting-opinions-about-discipline.mp3

#127 In this episode, Lisa discusses discipline methods. She shares her thoughts on discipline for toddlers and kids, whether or not discipline is kindness, timeouts, reward charts, countdown method, the importance of connection, and discussing bad behaviour with kids. Lastly, Lisa addresses five listener questions, covering a 4-year-old who is not listening and does the opposite of what is asked, strategies for getting a spouse on the same parenting page, effective consequence ideas for a 4-year-old, how to handle a 6-year-old who refuses to do chores, and advice on managing behavior that isn't necessarily "bad". Thank you for joining us! Courses: Toddler BratBusters Bootcamp (16-35 Months) BratBusters Bootcamp (Ages 3-12) Learn More: BratBusters Behaviour Board (Plus Toddler Basics) No-Cost Mini Course Private Coaching Podcast Questions: Have a question you'd like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast episode? Click Here to Submit 🎙️ Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer

## Chapters

- 0:00 Introduction to Discipline
- 1:43 How Lisa Approaches Discipline For Toddlers
- 2:46 How Lisa Approaches Discipline for Kids (3-12)
- 3:33 Is Discipline Kindness?
- 6:33 Timeouts as Discipline
- 9:28 Countdowns as Discipline
- 13:37 Using Reward Charts as a Parent
- 15:25 What Lisa Believes is More Important Than Discipline
- 16:08 Discussing Bad Behaviour With Kids
- 24:31 Listener Question 1: 4-Year-Old Not Listening and Does Opposite of What is Asked?
- 26:10 Listener Question 2: Getting Spouse on the Same Parenting Page?
- 28:06 Listener Question 3: Consequence Ideas For 4-Year-Old?
- 31:10 Listener Question 4: 6-Year-Old Refuses to Do Chores?
- 33:35 Listener Question 5: How to Handle Behaviour That isn’t Necessarily Bad?
- 35:24 Final Thoughts on Discipline

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