# How to Stop Being a Pleaser Parent

An episode of [BratBusters Parenting Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1770136136), 5 Mar 2026, 25 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2404296/episodes/18723521-how-to-stop-being-a-pleaser-parent.mp3

#148 In this episode, Lisa discusses pleaser parenting. She covers why she thinks parents gravitate towards this style of parenting, having fair and reasonable boundaries as a parent, and her overall take on this method. Lastly, Lisa addresses five listener questions, discussing how to approach little cuts and scrapes with a 3-year-old, the best way to handle 4-year-old outbursts when things don’t go their way, what resources are available to help parents develop Calm Leadership, how to effectively give choices to a 3-year-old, and how to respond when a 20-month-old tantrums because their parent won’t read a book. Thank you for joining us! Courses: Toddler BratBusters Bootcamp (16-35 Months) BratBusters Bootcamp (Ages 3-12) Learn More: BratBusters Behaviour Board (Plus Toddler Basics) No-Cost Mini Course Private Coaching Podcast Questions: Have a question you'd like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast episode? Click Here to Submit 🎙️ Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer

## Chapters

- 0:00 Introduction to Pleaser Parenting
- 1:46 Why Do Parents Gravitate Towards Pleaser Parenting?
- 7:38 Having Fair and Reasonable Boundaries as a Parent
- 9:44 Personal Story: Lisa Deleting PlayStation Game Progress
- 12:27 Listener Question 1: How to Approach Little Cuts and Scrapes From 3-Year-Old?
- 15:27 Listener Question 2: 4-Year-Old Outbursts When Things Don’t Go Their Way?
- 17:49 Listener Question 3: Giving Choices to 3-Year-Old?
- 19:56 Listener Question 4: 20-Month-Old Tantrums When Their Parent Won’t Read a Book?
- 21:14 Final Thoughts on the Pleaser Parent Style

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