# Kids Hitting (Why Gentle Hands Often Fails)

An episode of [BratBusters Parenting Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1770136136), 10 Feb 2026, 20 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2404296/episodes/18599610-kids-hitting-why-gentle-hands-often-fails.mp3

#141 In this episode, Lisa discusses kids hitting others. She covers whether your reaction matters, what she believes causes kids to hit, what age she sees kids start to hit, her thoughts on gentle hands, how she approaches toddlers hitting others and how she approaches kids hitting others. Lastly, Lisa addresses five listener questions, exploring how to manage a 5-year-old and 6-year-old fighting, what to do when a toddler screams and hits because something doesn’t go his way, how to handle a 4-year-old hitting others, the best way to respond to a strong-willed 3-year-old acting out, and how to navigate sibling rivalry between an 8-year-old and 10-year-old. Thank you for joining us! Courses: Toddler BratBusters Bootcamp (16-35 Months) BratBusters Bootcamp (Ages 3-12) Learn More: BratBusters Behaviour Board (Plus Toddler Basics) No-Cost Mini Course Private Coaching Podcast Questions: Have a question you'd like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast episode? Click Here to Submit 🎙️ Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer

## Chapters

- 0:00 Introduction to Kids Hitting
- 1:02 Does Your Reaction Matter?
- 1:36 What Causes Kids to Hit Others?
- 1:58 The Age Kids Start to Hit
- 2:58 Lisa’s Thoughts on Asking Kids to Use Gentle Hands
- 3:53 How Lisa Approaches Toddlers Hitting Others
- 4:30 How Lisa Approaches Kids Hitting Others
- 5:00 Listener Question 1: 5-Year-Old & 6-Year-Old Fighting?
- 8:25 Listener Question 2: Toddler Screams and Hits When Something Doesn’t Go His Way?
- 11:23 Personal Story: Lisa Pretending She Had Eyes in the Back Of Her Head
- 12:35 Listener Question 3: 4-Year-Old Hitting Others?
- 13:47 Listener Question 4: Strong-Willed 3-Year-Old Acting Out?
- 16:54 Listener Question 5: 8-Year-Old & 10-Year-Old Sibling Rivalry?
- 18:57 Final Thoughts on Kids Hitting

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