# Blaming Kids For Defiance & Acting Out?

An episode of [BratBusters Parenting Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1770136136), 11 Dec 2025, 40 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2404296/episodes/18295991-blaming-kids-for-defiance-acting-out.mp3

#124 In this episode, Lisa discusses blaming kids for bad behaviour. She covers whether she believes parents should be blaming their kids for bad behaviour, going through the motions when playing with your kids, her thoughts on using threats, and more. Lastly, Lisa addresses eight listener questions, covering a 5-year-old acting out since starting kindergarten, dealing with four kids acting out as a single parent, a 9-year-old not listening, a 3-year-old saying no to everything, a 7-year-old exhibiting new behavior due to bad influences, the issue of young kids lying, strategies for addressing behavior at the dinner table, and a 6-year-old lashing out at a younger sibling. Thank you for joining us! Courses: Toddler BratBusters Bootcamp (16-35 Months) BratBusters Bootcamp (Ages 3-12) Learn More: BratBusters Behaviour Board (Plus Toddler Basics) No-Cost Mini Course Private Coaching Podcast Questions: Have a question you'd like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast episode? Click Here to Submit 🎙️ Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer

## Chapters

- 0:00 Introduction to Blaming Kids For Bad Behaviour
- 1:33 Where Did the Name BratBusters Come From?
- 2:15 Parents Putting the Blame on Their Kids
- 6:37 Listener Question 1: 5-Year-Old Acting Out Since Starting Kindergarten?
- 9:17 Going Through the Motions During Playtime With Your Kids
- 13:38 Listener Question 2: Dealing With Four Kids Acting Out as One Parent?
- 16:45 Listener Question 3: 9-Year-Old Not Listening?
- 17:27 Listener Question 4: 3-Year-Old Says No to Everything?
- 18:18 Lisa’s Thoughts on Threats
- 25:52 Listener Question 5: New Behaviour From 7-Year-Old Since Being Around Bad Influences?
- 27:39 Listener Question 6: Young Kids Lying?
- 30:59 Listener Question 7: Addressing Behaviour at the Dinner Table?
- 32:42 Listener Question 8: 6-Year-Old Lashing Out at Younger Sibling?
- 35:40 Personal Story: Make Mommy Laugh Nights
- 38:39 Final Thoughts on Putting the Blame on Kids For Their Defiance

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