# The Real Reason Discipline Might Not Be Working

An episode of [BratBusters Parenting Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1770136136), 20 Jan 2026, 42 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2404296/episodes/18516119-the-real-reason-discipline-might-not-be-working.mp3

#135 In this episode, Lisa discusses reasons why she sees discipline not working. Throughout the podcast she talks about the importance of consistency, why connecting with your kids is vital, focusing on actions over words, why she doesn’t recommend discussing bad behaviour with kids, the impact of showing frustration towards your kids, different parenting styles, the task of becoming a calm leader, and her thoughts about parents trying to get their kids to obey them. Lastly, Lisa addresses seven listener questions, covering how to stay consistent as a parent after being too permissive, managing bedtime battles with a 6-year-old, determining the right response when a 10-year-old throws a rock through a window, handling a 4-year-old's tantrums across both daycare and home settings, navigating a 3-year-old's constant desire to play, whether interrupting is an appropriate rule for the behavior board, and how to effectively manage consequences when outside the home. Thank you for joining us! Courses: Toddler BratBusters Bootcamp (16-35 Months) BratBusters Bootcamp (Ages 3-12) Learn More: BratBusters Behaviour Board (Plus Toddler Basics) No-Cost Mini Course Private Coaching Podcast Questions: Have a question you'd like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast episode? Click Here to Submit 🎙️ Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer

## Chapters

- 0:00 Introduction to Why Your Discipline Isn’t Working
- 1:13 Reason 1: Discipline Consistency
- 6:31 Reason 2: Connection With Your Kids
- 7:26 Reason 3: Focusing On Words Over Actions
- 9:15 Reason 4: Discussing Bad Behaviour
- 13:57 Reason 5: Showing Frustration Towards Your Kids
- 15:07 Reason 6: Different Parenting Styles
- 16:42 Listener Question 1: How to Stay Consistent as a Parent When You’ve Let Too Much Go?
- 17:55 Listener Question 2: Bedtime Battles With 6-Year-Old?
- 20:52 The Task of Becoming a Calm Leader
- 23:15 Listener Question 3: 10-Year-Old Threw a Rock Through Window?
- 26:02 Listener Question 4: 4-Year-Old Having Tantrums at Daycare and at Home?
- 29:05 Listener Question 5: 3-Year-Old Wants to Play All The Time?
- 31:44 Lisa’s Thoughts on Parents Trying to Get Their Kids to Obey Them
- 32:36 Listener Question 6: Can Interrupting Go on the BratBusters Behaviour Board?
- 35:13 Listener Question 7: Consequences When Outside the Home?
- 38:02 Parents Wanting to Explain Bad Behaviour
- 39:54 Final Thoughts on Discipline Not Working

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