# Heartwork: Made By His Mercy | Ustadh AbdelRahman Murphy | Class 3

An episode of [Heartwork | Ustadh AbdelRahman Murphy](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1747587869), 22 Apr 2025, 50 min.

Audio: https://mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/fbxwsgoj3v494b36/yt_video_kwG5AVIwZgk_6dysvv.mp3

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## Transcript

[0:47] alaykum.
[1:08] Welcome home everybody. It's good to see
[1:11] you. Alhamdulillah.
[1:14] Um sorry for the delay.
[1:24] Okay, I have my notes ready.
[1:27] Alhamdulillah. Um, we're going to be uh
[1:31] so couple things for tonight. Uh the
[1:34] first is that we're we're going to be
[1:35] continuing our reading of
[1:38] uh and the passage in particular the end
[1:40] passage of the chapter in which Allah
[1:43] describes uh a select group of people
[1:46] known as the servants or the slaves of
[1:48] the most merciful and Allah gives us
[1:51] some traits to try to reflect on to try
[1:54] to emulate and be uh be like or become
[1:58] like uh these these slaves of the most
[2:01] merciful. We're going to continue with
[2:02] that discussion inshallah. Um I do have
[2:05] the Q&A open. Uh but we are tonight we
[2:08] have a really important opportunity that
[2:11] I I'm I'm going to ask everyone
[2:13] sincerely
[2:15] um to be a part of which is a janaza
[2:19] after
[2:20] uh the janaza prayer. It's a funeral
[2:22] prayer. Uh it's for someone who
[2:27] um some a friend of ours who passed away
[2:31] uh early this morning uh in a in a
[2:33] motorcycle accident and he was a friend
[2:35] of myself and uh Arian Mui Kamani. So um
[2:41] they were able to get his uh hisul done.
[2:44] Alhamdulillah. And they're going to be
[2:46] doing his janaza tonight after
[2:49] um before they bury him tomorrow in
[2:51] Chicago.
[2:53] um his wife and his three kids will be
[2:55] here and they are regulars here at roots
[2:58] and uh I think if everybody has time and
[3:01] is available to stay it would mean a lot
[3:04] to them because one of the signs of
[3:07] acceptance of a person's forgiveness is
[3:10] that their janaza has many people in
[3:13] attendance and hopefully many pious
[3:14] people inshallah so I would I would ask
[3:16] sincerely that if you plan to stay for
[3:19] that you plan to join us for the janaza
[3:21] inshallah as
[3:22] uh on behalf of his
[3:24] family. So um I'll talk a little bit
[3:26] about um some reflections at the end
[3:28] inshallah.
[3:30] So we have here the second now category
[3:34] the second characteristic
[3:36] uh that Allah has given us and it's
[3:39] interesting how Allah he ties all these
[3:42] things so beautifully together. The
[3:44] first characteristic that we mentioned
[3:46] was he
[3:49] says that these people are those that
[3:52] when they walk on the earth as they make
[3:54] their day-to-day moves they do it in a
[3:57] way that is described as modest or
[4:01] humble. And we talked about the
[4:02] different layers to that word, right? So
[4:04] there's like the physical modesty,
[4:06] there's the way in which you carry
[4:07] yourself from a body language
[4:09] standpoint. Um, we talked about the the
[4:12] the framework, right, that a person
[4:14] doesn't walk around thinking that
[4:16] they're better than others because
[4:18] everything that we feel becomes
[4:20] manifest. Everything that I believe
[4:22] about myself becomes apparent in my
[4:24] actions, right? I can't control my face,
[4:27] right? When I'm thinking that I'm better
[4:29] than somebody and I see them, it's hard
[4:31] for me to control that. So, what I have
[4:32] to do is I have to actually fix my
[4:34] heart, not my face. You know, some
[4:36] people say fix your face. We would say
[4:37] fix your heart, right? make sure that
[4:39] whatever it is that you're feeling is
[4:41] not actually being felt. So that way you
[4:43] don't have to create this facade of
[4:46] humility when in fact there is arrogance
[4:48] in there. And so these are the different
[4:50] levels of that humility that Allahh he
[4:54] described. The next trait and this is
[4:56] something that probably everybody in
[4:57] this room has experienced at some point
[4:59] or another. How many of you have ever
[5:01] been talked to by an ignorant person or
[5:04] been have had to deal with ignorant
[5:06] statements being made you know towards
[5:09] you or about you or in your presence. So
[5:12] Allah he doesn't the beautiful thing
[5:14] about the Quran is that the Quran does
[5:16] not exclude real life experiences. It's
[5:19] a book that tries to get us to achieve
[5:21] the ideal but it gives us the real as
[5:23] well. So Allah
[5:27] says that whenever this person or these
[5:30] people
[5:31] the whenever they are engaged or spoken
[5:35] to by and then the description
[5:39] is those those who are distinguished by
[5:42] their
[5:43] ignorance they
[5:45] respond they respond in peace. And this
[5:49] is something that I think is a uniquely
[5:51] Islamic and a uniquely prophetic trait
[5:54] that you see the prophet sallallahu
[5:55] alaihi wasallam and how many times how
[5:58] many stories have we heard how many
[5:59] times have you heard you know teachers
[6:02] scholars relate the stories of the
[6:04] prophetatam when he was being engaged
[6:06] with in a way that is absolutely just
[6:09] disparaging despicable absolutely like
[6:12] the worst and subhan Allah despite that
[6:15] don't worry about the cameras it's fine
[6:16] you can see me Despite that, despite
[6:19] that his response to the person that was
[6:22] treating him this way was one that was
[6:24] better, that was one that was higher,
[6:27] that was greater. Allah in another place
[6:29] in the Quran, he
[6:33] says he says repel people when you have
[6:37] to push people away, which by the way is
[6:39] also a Quranic lesson there that not
[6:42] everybody is going to be friendly. Not
[6:45] everyone's going to be welcome in your
[6:46] life. There is a reality there. Some
[6:48] people are going to be your friends and
[6:50] others are going to be your foes. But
[6:52] Allah here is telling us that when you
[6:55] do encounter someone who is has enmity
[6:58] towards you, I don't want to say he's an
[6:59] enemy because you're not like that. None
[7:00] of us have ops really hopefully. But
[7:03] someone who has enmity towards you,
[7:05] Allah says repel them. Okay, you have to
[7:09] repel them. But repel
[7:12] them in a way or in a language or in a
[7:15] word that is better. And then Allah
[7:23] says, "And you will find that in that
[7:26] relationship where the person you and
[7:28] them had some some beef, you were angry
[7:31] with each other, then Allah says because
[7:33] you repelled them in a way that was
[7:36] better that that person will become like
[7:39] an old trusted friend." And how many
[7:43] examples do we have of this in the life
[7:45] of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
[7:46] wasallam? How many examples do we have
[7:48] where the prophet sallallam engaged with
[7:50] somebody who was actually just straight
[7:52] up a hater like they hated him peace be
[7:55] upon him and the way in which he spoke
[7:57] to them transformed their heart from
[8:00] being a hater into someone who loved the
[8:02] prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam. So
[8:04] many examples the one that comes to mind
[8:06] that really shakes me. Subhan Allah.
[8:08] Because you can't think of anyone who
[8:10] has more enmity than someone who's
[8:12] trying to murder you. The story of Omar,
[8:14] for example, sticks out. Omar is going
[8:16] to kill the prophetam, the prophet
[8:18] Isatam. He responds and he greets him in
[8:21] a way that is
[8:22] so
[8:23] unexpected. Omar is on his way and they
[8:27] all hear that this man is coming to
[8:28] assassinate the messenger of Allah. And
[8:30] even though his mind has been changed by
[8:32] his sister and by Kabab, we still don't
[8:35] know that when he gets to the house of
[8:36] the prophetatam, they still don't know
[8:39] that his heart has transformed. And he
[8:41] sallallahu alaihi wasallam he lets Omar
[8:43] come into his house. Another example
[8:45] when the prophet isam was making one
[8:48] time and there was a young man who
[8:49] wanted to actually attack and kill the
[8:51] prophetat wasam and he held this dagger
[8:55] under his cloak under his garment ready
[8:58] to attack the prophetatam the
[9:00] prophetatam he engaged with him in a way
[9:02] that was beautiful and he basically told
[9:04] him don't do I know what you're going to
[9:06] do don't do what you think you're going
[9:07] to do and subhan allah he said the
[9:09] prophetat wasam made dua for me and my
[9:11] heart towards him changed what is it
[9:14] about that action, that trait, that
[9:16] characteristic that changes people is
[9:19] that when you don't respond with what
[9:21] they're giving you. So much of our
[9:24] civilization, so much of our era tells
[9:26] us that you treat people the way that
[9:28] they treat you. We know that it's better
[9:31] to treat people better than that. But
[9:32] we're told, you know what, in order to
[9:34] preserve yourself, in order to be
[9:35] yourself, you give back to people what
[9:37] they give to you, you mirror their uh uh
[9:40] uh behavior. If they're mean to you,
[9:41] you're mean to them. But this is not how
[9:43] the prophetat wasam was. The prophetat
[9:46] wasam when he saw somebody that engaged
[9:48] with him in a way that was negative, he
[9:50] would see how he could repel them in a
[9:52] way that was better that would be
[9:53] inspiring and motivating. And so there's
[9:56] a couple different points here that
[9:58] we'll take away. Number one is that
[10:00] anytime a person engages in response
[10:03] that is centered in the ego, they're
[10:05] actually without realizing it, they're
[10:07] losing all of their dignity. the dignity
[10:10] that we want. We want to be respected.
[10:12] We want to have self-respect. We want
[10:14] all of this, right? But when we give in
[10:18] to our temper and our tantrums and our
[10:21] emotions and that becomes the center of
[10:24] our response, we're actually slowly
[10:27] sliding away from all dignity and
[10:29] respect and honor. And you've seen this,
[10:32] you see it with children, you see it
[10:34] with adults, you see it with everybody.
[10:36] You see it with the pink jersey, right?
[10:38] Changing the battery.
[10:39] the camera. You see it with everybody.
[10:41] When a person engages in a way that is
[10:43] centered on themselves, then it becomes
[10:46] like a a really really hard situation to
[10:49] respect. But when you see someone who's
[10:51] able to think of others and to place
[10:54] others before their own ego, that
[10:56] person, they grow in your eyes
[10:57] immensely, exponentially. And so dignify
[11:01] your response by taking away your ego.
[11:04] The second thing that Allah teaches us
[11:06] here is to ask yourself a very important
[11:08] question and this is something that's
[11:10] especially hitting heart today and I'm
[11:12] sorry if my mind seems scrambled but
[11:13] it's been a very interesting day. Subhan
[11:16] Allah. The conflicts that we have that
[11:21] engage us in this level
[11:23] of disparaging commentary when people
[11:27] say things or when they engage. We fail
[11:29] to ask ourselves one very important
[11:31] question before we engage back with
[11:33] those conflicts, which is, is this even
[11:35] worth it in the first place? Is this
[11:37] even worth it in the first place? I want
[11:39] you to imagine the next time that you
[11:40] get into an argument with somebody, how
[11:42] many of you raise your hand if you're
[11:43] like a chronic
[11:45] arguer, basically like you're a lawyer
[11:48] but
[11:49] disguised. Okay? So, if you're a chronic
[11:51] arguer right now, be honest. Be
[11:55] honest as you get involved. And by the
[11:58] way, I'll join you. I'm a chronic
[12:00] arguer.
[12:01] Okay. One thing that we have to do as
[12:04] chronic
[12:05] arguers is we have to ask ourselves a
[12:08] very important question before we engage
[12:10] in this argument. We have to ask
[12:12] ourselves, what is the goal that I'm
[12:14] trying to accomplish? What actually am I
[12:16] trying to do
[12:18] here? 99% of the time when a person
[12:21] engages in argumentation, their goal is
[12:23] to simply win the argument. They just
[12:26] want to win.
[12:27] They're not concerned about truth.
[12:29] They're not concerned about what's
[12:30] right. They want to just be victorious.
[12:32] They want to come out on top. And in
[12:34] those moments, while you think you have
[12:37] won, you've actually lost miserably. A
[12:40] person who thinks they've won has
[12:42] actually lost
[12:43] miserably. And sometimes, subhan Allah,
[12:46] the winner of that argument is the one
[12:49] who conceds to the person that is so
[12:52] egocentric and focused in that moment.
[12:54] This is why the prophetat wasam said
[12:57] that I promise I promise a house a
[13:01] palace in the center of Jenna in the
[13:03] center of paradise. I promise this house
[13:06] for who? Who? Anyone
[13:09] know? The one who when you think of
[13:12] center of Jenna what do you think about
[13:14] guys? A palace first of all. Okay so I
[13:18] know like you know you think like South
[13:19] Lake maybe Island Park. Okay. No, like a
[13:22] palace in Jenna. In Jenna for who? What
[13:27] qualification would you think?
[13:31] Huh? Very good. Excellent. Eman, right?
[13:35] The person, think about it. You would
[13:37] think in your head, the one who prays
[13:38] all their five prayers, the one who does
[13:40] this, the one who does that. And in a
[13:41] way, we'll get to that conversation. But
[13:43] the hadith says it's for the person that
[13:46] can back out of an argument. Huh? Not
[13:49] just back out because it's easy to back
[13:51] out when you've lost. We've all been
[13:52] there before, right? We hit the reverse
[13:54] button fast. Person's like, "What about
[13:56] this?" You're like, "I I didn't."
[13:58] Anyways, you're like, "I gotta go,
[14:00] right? I don't know what you're talking
[14:01] about." And you just you leave and
[14:03] you're like, "Oh my god, I can't you
[14:04] can't let them win." That's easy. That's
[14:06] not backing out of an argument. That's
[14:07] called running away. Okay? No, it's when
[14:11] you have an argument with
[14:13] somebody, you have all of the points
[14:15] that are correct. Okay? You've triple
[14:19] checked every single one of them. You
[14:21] know that this person has no argument to
[14:24] stand on, no comeback, no retort,
[14:26] nothing. And you're sitting there and as
[14:29] you are about to engage in this conflict
[14:32] with this person, you say to yourself,
[14:34] "It's not worth it. It's not worth it."
[14:37] Why? Because maybe by winning this
[14:40] argument, I will have lost this person.
[14:44] Maybe if I beat them here, if I win now,
[14:46] I lost them as a person. And maybe if I
[14:50] lose this argument, I've actually won
[14:52] them
[14:53] over. That's the difference between the
[14:56] person who has a dignified existence and
[14:58] the self-centered ego. The ego just
[15:01] wants to win. The ego just wants to win.
[15:04] It doesn't matter at what cost. You will
[15:06] see people that are in marriages or
[15:08] families or relationships or anything
[15:10] and they feel absolutely miserable
[15:14] because they are in a partnership with
[15:17] somebody that always has to win. And
[15:20] this is very subhan Allah very
[15:22] challenging. May Allah protect us. So
[15:24] Allah here says when you engage with
[15:27] somebody and then he puts the
[15:29] qualifier those people that are
[15:32] ignorant. Now here's a question. If we
[15:36] are taught to respond with peace to
[15:38] people who are dis, you know,
[15:41] characterized as ignorant, then what
[15:43] does that mean about people that aren't
[15:44] ignorant? Doesn't that mean that we
[15:46] should respond to them better? Of
[15:48] course. So, if a person is not qualified
[15:51] to be a jah, like an ignoramis, then
[15:55] doesn't that mean that we should treat
[15:56] them with even greater character if we
[15:58] if we're arguing with a fellow believer,
[16:00] a fellow Muslim, a fellow noble person?
[16:02] Yeah, of course. So in order to check
[16:05] yourself and make sure that you don't
[16:06] fall victim into this trap
[16:08] of you need to ask yourself the question
[16:11] is this worth it is it worth
[16:14] it one time was arguing with somebody he
[16:16] was debating okay and there's rules to
[16:19] debating by the way and I'll tell you
[16:21] one of the rules this is going to
[16:22] actually blow your mind has these rules
[16:24] in his book so it's
[16:27] called is like the spirited debate and
[16:30] Immafi he used to do this a lot of
[16:32] scholars would do
[16:33] And this isn't like your TikTok dudes
[16:35] from England, okay? This is a completely
[16:37] different world out there. Lots to
[16:39] protect us all from the UK.
[16:41] So, okay, I know we won already, right?
[16:44] We won. America's want to know. Uh, but
[16:47] back to I'm sorry, by the way. I'm
[16:49] sorry. It's been a long day, man.
[16:53] Immaf, he said that there was a story
[16:56] one time where he was debating one of
[16:57] his students and his student and him got
[16:59] very heated. Very heated. Because you
[17:02] know Imam Mashaf he used to teach after
[17:04] he was in Iraq he used to teach in Egypt
[17:06] so he probably was debating Egyptian
[17:08] student but we get heated. So the
[17:12] student got up and basically started
[17:14] storming out of the masid. So angry, so
[17:18] frustrated. He just got up and started
[17:19] storming out. And I want you to think
[17:22] about this. The teacher of the dar the
[17:26] teacher. Okay. Why did the guy get up
[17:28] and leave? Because he was defeated. He
[17:30] was he lost. He didn't beat me. So he
[17:33] gets up and he starts stomping and
[17:34] leaving. I don't want to even be here
[17:36] anyways. This is all bunch of, you know.
[17:39] And he gets up from his chair and he
[17:41] runs after him. This is the most
[17:44] qualified Islamic mind in the world at
[17:47] that moment is chasing after somebody
[17:50] that is storming out of his medulus, his
[17:52] gathering. Why? He catches him at the
[17:55] door. He takes him by the arm. He spins
[17:58] him around. He holds his hands and he
[18:00] says, "Do not forget that we are
[18:02] brothers.
[18:04] Don't forget that our brotherhood is
[18:07] stronger than any disagreement that we
[18:09] can have any
[18:11] disagreement. Meaning what? We can
[18:14] engage in disagreement. That's normal.
[18:16] But if you let the disagreement drive a
[18:18] wedge between you, it's no longer a
[18:20] disagreement. This is now
[18:22] discord. This is breaking apart. This is
[18:24] what Shaitan wants. Hadith that is
[18:27] authentic. Shaitan, the big one, capital
[18:30] S. He meets with his minions, his army,
[18:33] and he asks them, "What is it that you
[18:35] did today?" And they all go through and
[18:38] they report back. You guys have like a
[18:39] standup at work, like a daily standup.
[18:42] Shaitan has a daily stand up with his
[18:43] Shaine. What did you do today? Right?
[18:45] You know, Elon, name five things you did
[18:47] today, right? So Elon's brother, Shaan,
[18:51] I'm
[18:53] joking. Sometimes I just don't think
[18:55] about it. I just say it. So shan gathers
[18:58] with his and he asks them what is it
[19:01] that you did today? What is it that you
[19:03] did today? What did you accomplish? And
[19:04] they all go through and they say these
[19:05] different horrible things. And each one
[19:08] of them the response that shaitan gives
[19:10] is like kind of lukewarm. He's like okay
[19:14] okay until the last one. The last one
[19:16] says I was able through argumentation to
[19:20] drive apart a marriage between a husband
[19:22] and a wife and make them hate each
[19:24] other. And Shaitan puts his, you know,
[19:26] in English we say puts his arm
[19:28] figuratively puts his arm around this
[19:30] one. He says, "You are my favorite. You
[19:33] are the winner. Out of all of my
[19:35] helpers, you're the one that I'm most
[19:37] proud of." Because why? Shaitan likes
[19:39] when people argue and drive themselves
[19:42] apart. What relationship? What
[19:43] relationship symbolizes forgiveness and
[19:46] mercy and love more than a marriage? And
[19:49] this shaitan was able to use his tactics
[19:51] to drive apart this bond, this sacred
[19:54] bond. And this is an example of what
[19:56] shaitan loves the most. Why? Because
[19:58] people chose ego over the substance of
[20:01] their relationship. May Allah protect
[20:03] us. The prophet is when he taught us
[20:07] right or sorry not prophetam but through
[20:10] the etiquets of the scholars derived
[20:11] from the hadith they taught us there's a
[20:13] few rules that you have to engage in
[20:14] when you're debating with somebody when
[20:16] you're arguing. They said that the first
[20:18] thing is you have to be more concerned
[20:20] about the truth than you are about
[20:23] winning. And Imm before he used to
[20:25] debate, he used to make a very
[20:27] interesting like a peculiar dua. He used
[20:29] to say, "Oh Allah, I I ask you sincerely
[20:33] that you place the truth of this
[20:35] argument upon the tongue of my
[20:37] opponent." Before he would debate, he
[20:40] would say, "Oh, Allah, place the winning
[20:42] argument, the truth, upon the tongue of
[20:45] the person that I'm debating against."
[20:46] Why do you think he would do
[20:49] this? Oh, huh? So he can learn. But why
[20:55] else? So he doesn't get the hate. Maybe.
[20:58] Let's dig a little
[20:59] deeper. Yeah. Because he's basically
[21:01] saying, "Oh Allah, I want this person to
[21:04] win." To prove what? That it's not about
[21:06] who wins. It's about discovering the
[21:09] truth. It's about arriving at a position
[21:11] that pleases you, oh Allah. This is why
[21:14] when I sit with young couples and I talk
[21:16] to the brother especially, I say, "Who's
[21:17] more important? Your mom or your
[21:20] wife?" Everyone looked
[21:23] up. I said, "Who who would you listen
[21:25] to? Your mother or your
[21:29] wife?" That's true. And whenever the
[21:32] brother Yeah, we have wife. Okay. Right.
[21:34] So we have some my mom, my wife, my
[21:36] this, my that. You know what the answer
[21:38] is? The answer is like Irma said,
[21:39] whoever is right. Because there will be
[21:41] times that your mom is right and your
[21:43] wife is wrong. There will be times, for
[21:44] example, that your dad is right and your
[21:46] husband's wrong. Okay, you y'all thought
[21:48] I was going only one
[21:49] way. There will be times when your dad
[21:52] is right, your husband's wrong. There
[21:53] will be times when your mom and wife are
[21:56] right and you are wrong, brother. Right.
[21:58] And same sister, right? When your
[22:00] husband, your dad agree, and you're like
[22:01] the wrong one. That's that's possible.
[22:04] Your commitment is not to anyone, not
[22:06] even yourself. It's to Allah. It's to
[22:09] Allah. And so if somebody brings about
[22:12] the truth to you, then your job is not
[22:14] to try to weasle your way into a
[22:16] position of security and say, "Ah,
[22:18] actually, actually, no, just say, you
[22:19] know what, you're right. You're right."
[22:22] Right? So the scholars say that you
[22:24] sincerely seek the truth more than you
[22:26] seek to win. The other condition that
[22:28] they give is they say that you as a
[22:29] person you do not uh uh uh uh subhan
[22:33] Allah they say that you as a person when
[22:36] you engage in this debate if by winning
[22:38] the debate this relationship will fall
[22:41] apart you you
[22:43] abstain. So for example if someone is
[22:45] doing something wrong and I go to them
[22:47] and I call them out for it and now that
[22:49] person never calls me again. you were
[22:51] like a close friend and then I go and I
[22:54] just like tell them hey what you're
[22:56] doing is wrong and after that I never
[22:58] hear from them ever
[22:59] again noi specifically in one of his
[23:02] commentaries in the hadith he says this
[23:04] is the wrong way to advise
[23:07] somebody if by giving someone advice
[23:10] they have fractured your relationship
[23:11] forever he goes you've done it the wrong
[23:12] way you've done it the wrong way he said
[23:15] your advice should be sweet you know how
[23:18] they put sugar on Advil right they put
[23:21] sugar on medicine, your advice should be
[23:23] sweet with the cure at the core of it,
[23:26] not bitter, not sour on the outside. May
[23:28] Allah give us this. So the scholars say
[23:32] that this is the the method of engaging.
[23:35] Now, what else do we take from this
[23:36] verse or this part of this verse on how
[23:38] to
[23:39] become I'll give a couple points here
[23:41] from
[23:42] the number one is that when we engage
[23:45] with someone who's being ignorant with
[23:47] us, you have a couple different ways to
[23:49] respond. The first is from the
[23:51] ayah you can you can actually just give
[23:54] the person a verbal response right so if
[23:57] somebody says something you can say you
[23:59] know hey right peace you know peace I
[24:02] don't want anything to do with you right
[24:04] just give me give me space we'll be good
[24:06] so you can give that bit of verbal salam
[24:07] that's okay uh the second is that you
[24:10] can have a non-response the scholars say
[24:13] that you don't actually have to engage
[24:15] if you feel like by engaging you're
[24:16] going to be pulled into something that's
[24:18] very very dangerous or detrimental. They
[24:20] say you don't have to respond, but you
[24:22] should not give off the body language of
[24:26] disparagement or
[24:27] condescension, right? So, even what I
[24:30] just did where you can give kind of like
[24:31] an open hand or like, you know, one of
[24:33] these things, you can do that. If
[24:34] somebody is being, you know,
[24:36] belligerent, you can kind of give them a
[24:37] little bit of like, hey, I don't mean no
[24:39] harm, right? I'm not trying to start
[24:40] anything. And you can have a non-verbal
[24:42] response. The last is that you can have
[24:45] mature restraint. mature restraint
[24:47] meaning that you can check them but you
[24:49] don't descend to their level. These are
[24:51] the three things that the scholars say
[24:52] that you can have and the prophetat
[24:54] wasam he engaged in every single one of
[24:56] these. There would be times in which he
[24:57] engaged with peaceful response. He would
[25:00] say salam. There would be times in which
[25:02] he wouldn't even answer. He wouldn't
[25:04] even look. He would look away. And this
[25:07] is how the companions knew by the way
[25:09] that he was upset by him turning his
[25:11] face.
[25:13] So some people, you know, they're like,
[25:14] "Man, you know, when my so and so my
[25:16] when my mom gets upset, she she doesn't
[25:18] talk to me. She gets quiet." It's like
[25:20] that's actually part of how some people
[25:21] express their disappointment. That's
[25:23] part of that. Now, it may not be healthy
[25:25] if it's for like weeks and months. But
[25:27] if there's like a day where
[25:28] communication's a little bit cold and
[25:30] you're kind of like that's one of the
[25:31] prophetic ways in which it's a human
[25:33] reality. And the last is that the
[25:35] prophetatam would often times when
[25:37] somebody was acting a little bit out of
[25:39] line, he would check them. and he would
[25:42] check them in a way that was not
[25:43] damaging or hurtful, but that gave them
[25:45] that firm boundary because sometimes
[25:47] that's the only way to do it. And that's
[25:49] what the situation calls for. It
[25:50] actually happened to me this weekend.
[25:51] Subhan Allah. I'm usually not that kind
[25:53] of person. I was at a basketball
[25:54] tournament for kids. My son was playing
[25:56] at a basketball tournament and uh one of
[25:58] the other dads from one of the kids on
[26:00] one of the teams, he uh I don't know
[26:03] why. This is a group of 10-year-olds
[26:05] playing and his son took a really really
[26:07] ill- advised uh
[26:09] layup and he goes to his son. He
[26:13] basically used like an expletive. He was
[26:15] like, "Don't do that." Is he screamed it
[26:18] in a gym full of 10-year-olds. So, of
[26:21] course, I look at my son, my son's
[26:23] like staring at him,
[26:26] right? And he's like, "That's the
[26:28] sword." And I was like, so then I just,
[26:30] you know, my me and my my one of my uh
[26:33] my kids teammates co- co-dads,
[26:36] co-parents. So that sounded a little bit
[26:37] shady. Uh another father of a kid on the
[26:40] team. We looked at each other and we
[26:43] just looked at the guy and we said,
[26:44] "Watch your mouth." And the guy looked
[26:46] at us and of course I'm a little bit
[26:48] taller than your average bear. And so he
[26:49] looked at me and I said, "Watch your
[26:51] mouth." And the guy looked at us and I
[26:52] said, "There's children here." And he
[26:53] goes, "My bad." Right? So sometimes you
[26:56] have to express a with a little bit of
[26:58] dignified mature restraint. Hey, watch
[27:00] yourself. There's kids here, right? We
[27:03] don't talk like that in front of
[27:04] children. He goes, "My bad, right?" I
[27:05] was like, "Your son's not even that nice
[27:06] with it
[27:08] anyways." That's a different
[27:11] conversation. Okay. Why is this verse
[27:14] important as you develop your ability to
[27:16] become from Ibir? He says that this
[27:20] verse describes the most important and
[27:23] critical description. This verse has two
[27:26] descriptions. Number one is humility and
[27:29] number two is the ability to bear
[27:31] patiently with something. If you don't
[27:34] have these two traits, you can never be
[27:36] from Allah's chosen servants. An
[27:39] arrogant and belligerent person can
[27:41] never be religious. It's not possible.
[27:44] An arrogant and belligerent individual
[27:46] can never be close to Allah. It's not
[27:48] possible. The beginning stages of
[27:50] closeness to Allah, they start at the
[27:53] door of humility and of forbearance, of
[27:56] being a person that can deal with
[27:57] things. And especially when you are
[27:59] being wronged, it's one thing, by the
[28:01] way, to be wronged in a way that is
[28:04] deserved. When somebody says something,
[28:06] you're like, "Yeah, I kind of deserve
[28:07] that." This is talking about a person
[28:09] who's completely and totally out of
[28:10] line. And in that moment, you still
[28:13] respond with salam. The other thing
[28:15] that's mentioned that's interesting is
[28:17] that Ibn Kafir says that the prophet
[28:20] wasam he says in a hadith never wish to
[28:23] meet your enemy in the battlefield.
[28:25] Never wish to meet your enemy in the
[28:27] battlefield. This is a interesting
[28:29] principle. Obviously there's literal
[28:31] implications but the general implication
[28:33] is that the Muslim does not seek out
[28:35] conflict. The Muslim does not yearn for
[28:39] or seek out conflict. In fact, we engage
[28:44] in practices to try to avoid conflict.
[28:47] You know, lying is haram.
[28:49] Yes. Okay, guys.
[28:51] Lying is haram, right? Yes. I know that
[28:55] a lot of people are still on the fence
[28:56] about that, but let me just reaffirm
[28:57] this here. Lying is haram. Did you know
[29:00] that there are some instances in life
[29:03] where not telling the truth, I won't
[29:05] call it lying, not telling the truth is
[29:07] actually what is
[29:09] advised? Yes.
[29:11] Because why? Because you're weighing out
[29:13] the scale of conflict in this moment. If
[29:16] I tell the truth and the question here
[29:19] is not life or death. It's not
[29:20] existential, right? It's like, "Hey, did
[29:23] you like the food that I
[29:26] made? It's not life or death, right?
[29:28] Unless the food was that bad." And if
[29:31] the answer is really a no, then by all
[29:33] means, you should say yes, right? By all
[29:36] means. Because why? Because in that
[29:39] moment by saying what is true you may
[29:43] end up irreparably damaging your
[29:44] relationship with this person whether
[29:46] it's friend family spouse who cares
[29:48] whatever the the the principle is the
[29:50] same. Okay, there's even subhan Allah an
[29:53] example that's given where if you know
[29:57] let's say that you're like the neutral
[29:58] friend and there are two people that are
[30:00] fighting you are allowed in to go and to
[30:05] kind of massage some compliments out of
[30:09] one person into another person. So you
[30:11] can go to somebody and you can say,
[30:13] "Man, you know, Ahmed, Ahmed." He's
[30:15] like, "Yeah." You're like, "Do you know
[30:16] that Solan's upset with you?" And he's
[30:18] like, "Man, that guy." Like, "But don't
[30:21] you like him?" He's like, "Yeah, I
[30:22] guess." Then you go over to you, you
[30:24] say, "Man, you have no idea." Ahmed
[30:26] could not stop telling me how much he
[30:27] likes
[30:29] you. And so my man's like, "Really?"
[30:31] He's like, "Yeah." And he's like, "Don't
[30:33] you think he's not that bad?" He's like,
[30:34] "Yeah, I guess he's all right." Then you
[30:36] go back to Ahmed, you said. So the man
[30:37] just said, "You're like the nicest guy."
[30:40] And seriously, yeah, I was there. I
[30:42] heard it. He said something like that.
[30:45] Right. And then when Ahmed and come for
[30:48] house, right? And you're there and
[30:50] you're having your your coffee, your
[30:52] Yemen tea or whatever, and then you kind
[30:54] of you're you're repairing that
[30:56] relationship. This is actually, by the
[30:58] way, allowed in Islamic law. It's not
[31:01] that you're manufacturing something.
[31:02] Hey, so the man bought you a house. Like
[31:04] that's, you know, that's going to lead
[31:05] to more problems. But you can again you
[31:08] can bring some little bit of what is
[31:11] true and you can try to extract some
[31:13] from it and put it on the consciousness
[31:15] of the other person. Why? Because in
[31:18] this situation trying to resolve a
[31:21] conflict is the goal. A Muslim is a
[31:24] conflict. Not a conflict starter. Not a
[31:27] person who seeks out fights or issues or
[31:28] problems. That's not how we operate.
[31:30] That's not how we exist. So saying salam
[31:32] here in this ayah means that you are a
[31:35] person that is trying to maintain peace.
[31:38] That is your ultimate goal. Okay. Imam
[31:41] Kubi he says something very interesting.
[31:43] He says the jahun here are not truly
[31:46] always ignorant people. He said that
[31:48] they are not uneducated. In fact in
[31:50] Islam people who don't have knowledge
[31:53] who are uneducated are actually
[31:55] forgiven. They're excused. Right? If
[31:57] somebody behaves out of pure ignorance,
[32:00] like pure ignorance, they're excused.
[32:03] That's generally how it goes, right? If
[32:06] somebody comes up to you and they say
[32:07] something on accident or they don't
[32:08] know, then the understanding is that
[32:11] they are
[32:12] considered, right? They are someone who
[32:14] has an excuse. They have an but this is
[32:18] talking about what a person that is
[32:20] acting like a fool. They know better.
[32:24] They know better. Which if you think
[32:26] about the ayah that way, it makes it
[32:27] even harder because when you look at
[32:29] somebody who's mistreating you and you
[32:32] know that they know better, it's even
[32:34] more difficult for you to hold your
[32:36] tongue. When you know the person doesn't
[32:38] know better, you're like, "Okay, that's
[32:40] fine. I'll go ahead and let that I'll
[32:41] chalk it up to ignorance." Right? But if
[32:43] you know that this person knows better,
[32:44] it's so hard. That's why I kubi says
[32:47] this believer who's able to hold
[32:48] themselves in that moment is truly truly
[32:51] a master of their nefs. That's why he
[32:54] says responding with peace here shows a
[32:57] high level of emotional and spiritual
[32:59] control which is a hallmark of a servant
[33:02] of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala. The last
[33:04] commentator he says that this verse is
[33:07] the cornerstone of all social ethics.
[33:10] This single verse if you can master this
[33:13] is the cornerstone of all ethics. What
[33:15] is it? Two things. Number one be humble.
[33:17] Number two be kind to people even those
[33:20] who are who are mean to you who are rude
[33:21] to you. If you can master these two
[33:24] things, then you will be one of the most
[33:26] ethical people in any gathering, in any
[33:28] situation, in any society. May Allah
[33:31] give us that. Now, the next verse is
[33:33] interesting because how many of you when
[33:36] you read the verse, those who walk
[33:38] humbly and those who can remain peaceful
[33:40] or give a a greeting of peace to those
[33:42] who are ignorant, you feel in your heart
[33:44] that's kind of a struggle. Any of you
[33:46] have that clapback quality? Yeah. Right.
[33:49] You like to say it. There was actually
[33:51] another Oh, man. Subhan Allah. The
[33:52] basketball tournament taps for
[33:55] days. There was a
[33:58] kid. So, basketball culture is really
[34:00] out of control right now. There was a
[34:02] kid who's like 9 years old, which means
[34:04] he's like three foot tall. And he made
[34:06] this like really really ugly
[34:08] three-pointer, you know, where he has to
[34:09] like launch with his whole body. He's
[34:11] like a catapult and throws it and
[34:12] somehow it like hit the backboard, hit
[34:14] the front rim, bounce straight up, hit
[34:16] the other side, and then like swirled in
[34:18] over three seconds. And you know what he
[34:19] did? He did the Steph Curry
[34:22] leg. You know what I'm talking about. He
[34:24] did the si and then he went like up to
[34:25] the kid, you know, the three and he went
[34:27] like this to the kid. That kid's
[34:30] face. I swear by Allah, the creator of
[34:32] the heavens and the earth. In my heart
[34:34] at that moment, I looked at my son and I
[34:36] was going to tell him this wall. If he
[34:39] does that to you, deck
[34:41] him. I was I was so close. I was like
[34:44] cuz my we were kind of looking at each
[34:45] other. My son was like, "That's kind of
[34:47] out of control." And I was going to be
[34:48] like, well, if he makes a shot on you
[34:50] and does that, if he makes a shot, it's
[34:51] fine. You make a shot, you say, good
[34:53] shot. If he makes a shot and does all
[34:54] that shenanigans in your face, I said, I
[34:57] want your hands on his shoulders and I
[34:59] want you to extend him. I want his butt
[35:01] to slide him to the other wall in the
[35:03] gym. Right? But that's my
[35:06] nefs. Okay? That's my
[35:09] nef. So, there will be moments when
[35:11] Allah will send somebody to test you.
[35:14] And by the way, if you think that you're
[35:16] pretty good, that you're pretty safe,
[35:18] get ready for your test this week.
[35:20] Anyone who thinks that they're free from
[35:22] being tested, that means you're about
[35:23] you're about ready for the test. It's
[35:25] going to come soon, right? People when
[35:28] they do Omrah, when they finish Mecca
[35:29] Medina, they're like, "Oh, I feel so
[35:30] good. I'm on a spiritual high." And then
[35:33] all of a sudden, Juda
[35:35] airport, right? You just got to deal
[35:37] with it. Okay? That's the nature of it.
[35:40] Okay? So as soon as you think you're
[35:41] good. So Allah in the next verse he
[35:44] gives us the secret. How do these people
[35:46] become this way? How do they master this
[35:48] trait? He
[35:54] says these people, the way that they
[35:57] master their temperament, the way that
[35:59] they master their anger, their
[36:02] frustration, how they respond is that
[36:04] they are those people who when it is the
[36:07] middle of the night, when it is dark
[36:09] outside and nobody can see them, nobody
[36:11] knows what they're doing, they spend
[36:12] their night worshiping Allah subhana wa
[36:15] ta'ala. portion of the night worshiping
[36:17] Allah in sagda and standing meaning that
[36:20] they are bowing and standing. Bowing and
[36:22] standing this Allah ta I love how Allah
[36:25] ties a verse that deals completely with
[36:29] external character being a quote unquote
[36:31] good person and Allah immediately ties
[36:34] it with what? Worshiping him in private.
[36:37] Worshiping Allah in private is the
[36:39] equivalent of a spiritual wait room.
[36:42] When I sit and I pray to Allah in
[36:44] private, it's me getting those reps in
[36:46] with Allah. And a person derives this
[36:50] strength, they derive this strength from
[36:52] those nights with Allah that show that
[36:55] translate in the moments when they are
[36:58] being tested the
[36:59] most. That's how it that's how it
[37:02] happens. That's why the people that you
[37:04] see that are most like calm or zen or
[37:07] relaxed generally speaking are the ones
[37:10] that have a complete and total
[37:13] connection with Allahhanaa. They are
[37:15] dedicated to him. They're able to turn
[37:17] all of the difficult situations into
[37:18] beautiful situations no matter what. But
[37:21] the ones that are so easily rattable
[37:25] that get pushed and moved by the
[37:28] slightest by the slightest energy the
[37:30] slightest little thing inconvenience
[37:32] those people also find it very difficult
[37:35] very very challenging to connect to
[37:37] Allah subhana wa ta'ala in those moments
[37:39] in those nights if you can forgo your
[37:43] sleep or if you can pull yourself out of
[37:45] bed in the middle of your slumber to
[37:47] stand to wash up to worship Allah
[37:49] subhana wa ta'ala then Guess what?
[37:52] Somebody saying something to you won't
[37:53] bother you. Somebody uttering something
[37:56] to you won't be a challenge. It won't
[37:59] because you've already shown that you
[38:00] have much more strength than that. Your
[38:02] neph is not in control, but you are. So
[38:05] Allah subhana t and these next few
[38:07] traits we'll go over over the next few
[38:08] weeks. He ties together your external
[38:11] with your internal. Your external with
[38:13] your internal. We'll stop here inshallah
[38:15] and take some some questions on the Q&A
[38:19] um before we end early because I would
[38:21] like everybody to make their way over
[38:23] for the janaza prayer inshallah. Um and
[38:25] I'll say a couple words about just
[38:27] something I want to share with you um in
[38:29] particular. Uh but let's go over some
[38:31] questions because it's been a while
[38:33] since we've done Q&A.
[38:36] how to balance the urge to focus on iada
[38:38] and beautifying one's versus living life
[38:40] to get by in this dunya family life
[38:43] education and work. So I've heard this
[38:47] you know uh uh this kind of duality or
[38:50] this false dichotomy for a long time
[38:52] this dean and dunya dichotomy. People
[38:54] say oh dean versus dunya. The reality is
[38:56] that your goal is not to separate the
[38:59] dean and dunya. Your goal is to practice
[39:01] your dean in the dunya. Like that's the
[39:02] whole thing. So there's no dichotomy.
[39:04] There's no dichotomy. The reality is,
[39:07] oh, let me translate. Sorry. So, the
[39:08] dunya is this life, this material life,
[39:11] and your dean is your religion. My
[39:12] apologies. Thanks for reminding me.
[39:13] Thanks for uh so the dunya is this life,
[39:16] this material life, and your dean is
[39:18] your commitment to your faith. So, a lot
[39:20] of times people try to paint this as
[39:21] being like, oh, what's the, you know, is
[39:23] there this or that? Do I focus on my
[39:24] faith or do I get by in this life? Do I
[39:27] climb that career ladder? The real
[39:29] spiritual person is somebody who can
[39:31] maintain their faith while climbing the
[39:32] ladder.
[39:34] They're not cheating. They're not lying.
[39:35] They're ethical. They're upright. They
[39:37] don't look down on junior staff. They
[39:39] don't like that's a real person. That's
[39:40] a really, really successful person,
[39:42] right? It's not either or. Somebody who
[39:44] foregoes the entire responsibility that
[39:47] they have in this life to take care of
[39:48] themselves and their family just for the
[39:50] sake of sitting in the masid all day.
[39:51] That's not that's not religion. That's
[39:52] not spirituality. And somebody that
[39:55] focuses solely on climbing, climbing,
[39:57] climbing, getting more, stacking up
[39:59] whatever they can, getting their bag,
[40:00] and they don't pray to Allah, that's not
[40:02] success either. A person who is
[40:04] successful is the person who can balance
[40:05] both aspects of their life. Their their
[40:08] worldly responsibilities along with
[40:10] their spiritual path to Allah subhanahu
[40:12] wa ta'ala. So what I would say to this
[40:15] person who's asking this question is
[40:16] that you should figure out a way to
[40:18] weave together the two things. And the
[40:21] most beautiful way to weave together
[40:22] your life with Islam is through your
[40:24] five daily prayers. There is nothing
[40:26] there is nothing that integrates faith
[40:28] into your life like the five daily
[40:30] prayers. That's what ties you together.
[40:33] It's what holds you down. It's what
[40:34] anchors you. No matter what you find
[40:37] yourself
[40:39] in, they will always hold you down. If
[40:42] you can master that, then you will find
[40:44] yourself not struggling with this
[40:46] dichotomy. You'll see yourself actually
[40:48] being able to see the world as it is.
[40:50] May Allah give us to Is saying bless you
[40:53] wrong when at work with
[40:55] non-Muslims? If so, what should I say? I
[40:57] feel bad sitting there after bro sneeze
[40:59] five times.
[41:01] No, it's not wrong. It's not wrong. It's
[41:05] okay. Allah is basically may Allah bless
[41:08] you, right? May Allah bless you with his
[41:09] mercy, right? So that's
[41:12] okay. Or you can say may Allah bless
[41:14] you, you know, with
[41:16] haya. Like what's that? You're like
[41:18] guidance. Okay. No, it's okay.
[41:28] Um, what are signs that your worship of
[41:31] uh, sorry, what are signs that your
[41:33] worship of Allah is going from strong
[41:35] iada to religious OCD, also known as
[41:37] scrupulosity? This could be like a
[41:39] clinical thing. If you if you if you see
[41:41] yourself as having a predisposition or
[41:44] some kind of uh you know disposition
[41:46] towards uh compulsive behavior that
[41:48] that's dysfunctional, remember OCD is
[41:50] not a casual term. It's a clinical term.
[41:52] So anytime you use clinical terms in
[41:54] mental health is characterized by
[41:56] causing dysfunction, which means what?
[41:57] It disrupts daily normal life, normative
[42:00] life. So some people are like, "Oh my
[42:02] god, I'm so OCD. I don't like, you know,
[42:04] dirt on my carpet." No, that's that's
[42:06] fine. That's normal. It's not OCD,
[42:07] right? OCD is when a person has to close
[42:09] the door exactly right and they do it 25
[42:13] times because they have this just right
[42:16] phenomenon they're trying to reach or
[42:17] when they can't leave the house without
[42:19] everything being a certain way even
[42:20] though they're running late for
[42:22] something very important. That's that's
[42:23] it's a clinical term. It's not a casual
[42:25] term. So one of the things that we
[42:26] shouldn't do also is we shouldn't
[42:28] pathize everybody. Like you may not have
[42:31] a clinical condition. You might just
[42:33] have struggles with something and that's
[42:35] okay, right? Just because you're anxious
[42:37] doesn't mean you have anxiety. There's a
[42:38] big difference. Okay. Um so if a person
[42:41] has uh um you know strong ibada and then
[42:44] to religious OCD also known as
[42:46] scrupulosity um I think one way that you
[42:49] can determine whether or not this is
[42:50] clinical is is it disrupting your
[42:52] normative function. The other thing is
[42:53] are you trying to outdo the prophet of
[42:55] Allah? If if if you find yourself trying
[42:58] to do more than the messenger of Allah
[43:00] sallallahu alaihi wasallam then that's a
[43:01] problem and that existed in his time by
[43:03] the way. So stick to somebody, stick to
[43:06] a group of people that are anchored in
[43:08] knowledge that you can seek questions on
[43:11] uh and or seek answers from on your
[43:12] questions inshallah and that'll
[43:13] hopefully guide you towards what is
[43:14] moderate, what is balanced, inshallah.
[43:16] But if it's something that's clinical,
[43:17] then you should definitely speak to a
[43:19] therapist. Rahma Institute uh with
[43:21] brother Mahmoo is um one that I really
[43:23] recommend inshallah.
[43:27] How do I forgive someone for wronging me
[43:28] when it took every avenue like therapy,
[43:31] crying to Allah and family to heal from
[43:33] this deception? May Allah make it easy.
[43:36] I would say that remember that forgiving
[43:38] somebody simply and solely means that on
[43:42] the day of judgment, you will not hold
[43:45] it against them. That's what forgiving
[43:47] somebody means. It doesn't mean that you
[43:48] have to be best friends. When you
[43:50] forgive somebody, it means on the day of
[43:52] judgment, I'm not going to hold it
[43:54] against you. But in this life, it
[43:56] doesn't mean that you have to be best
[43:58] friends. You're allowed to have
[44:00] boundaries. That's okay. But when you
[44:01] say, "I'm not going to forgive
[44:03] somebody." The what you're actually
[44:05] saying there is on the day of judgment
[44:06] when Allah allows me to place my vote on
[44:09] where you should go, I'm going to put
[44:11] hellfire. That's why the prophet
[44:13] wasallam just said forgive. It's not
[44:15] worth it. And if you forgive, the reward
[44:18] you get is you get forgiveness as well.
[44:20] So by holding forgiveness, you're losing
[44:22] forgiveness. By holding it, you're
[44:23] losing it. So remember, forgiving
[44:25] somebody means on the day of judgment, I
[44:27] will not put a vote for your towards
[44:29] punishment. That's what forgiveness
[44:31] means. And that's how to make it
[44:42] easy. Okay. Um I'll go ahead and pause
[44:45] here because a lot of the questions are
[44:47] getting a little bit more um uh in-depth
[44:49] and we don't have a ton of time. Um but
[44:52] I do want to share with you something
[44:53] about uh our friend Sad who um passed
[44:56] away this morning. Subhan Allah. Um you
[45:00] know one thing he used to sit right
[45:01] there actually. Subhan Allah. And one
[45:03] thing he he told me which I think is
[45:05] really powerful uh is that he told me
[45:07] one time that you know you're the only
[45:08] lecture that I don't fall asleep in.
[45:12] Um, and I think the reason why I think
[45:14] that's powerful is because he he wasn't
[45:16] your stereotypical like, you know,
[45:18] student of knowledge um, she guy.
[45:23] Um and I and I think that subhan Allah
[45:26] it's
[45:29] it's he passed away in a way that some
[45:32] of the scholars characterize as um as
[45:35] shahada as martyrdom because there are
[45:37] certain things that even though it's not
[45:38] a martyr in earnest you get the status
[45:40] of being a martyr right like drowning is
[45:42] one of them. If a if a mother dies
[45:44] during childirth, that's one of them.
[45:46] And he passed away in what we would
[45:47] consider to be like a tragic accident,
[45:49] right? Like a car accident, a fatal
[45:50] accident. Um a collapsing building could
[45:53] be one of them as well. So Allah gave
[45:56] him inshallah the status of a shahed.
[45:59] Um, and I I I think it's really, subhan
[46:02] Allah, very it's it's very important for
[46:04] everybody in this room to
[46:06] realize that when we say things and when
[46:09] we hear things like you may not be here
[46:11] in a few weeks, um, it's not like um
[46:14] it's not like a cliche. It's a very real
[46:17] thing.
[46:19] Yeah, I was I was talking to his his son
[46:22] today when I went to their house and his
[46:24] son
[46:24] was telling me about his dad and he was
[46:27] saying stories from like a day ago, two
[46:29] days ago and it just hit me very hard.
[46:33] Um,
[46:36] so it's really really important to
[46:42] um to make the most of every day
[46:45] inshallah and to do what you can to make
[46:48] sure that no matter what at the end of
[46:50] every day you communicate your love to
[46:52] people that you love and you ask Allah
[46:54] to forgive you. And um if we can begin
[46:58] to start this practice now in honor of
[47:01] his passing that may Allah include all
[47:03] of that in his scale of good inshallah.
[47:05] Um so again just a humble request that
[47:08] if you're able to stay for the janaza
[47:10] we'd really appreciate it
[47:12] inshallah may accept from us
[47:17] all. We're going to head over to the mus
[47:20] now because they're going to be setting
[47:21] up for the prayer in the janaza. So I
[47:23] hope that uh I'll see you over there.
[47:24] So, we'll go ahead and pass on on
[47:26] questions in person today and I'll see
[47:27] you in the

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