# S1 Ep5: It's Giving.. Finsta

An episode of [Everybody's Crazy](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1738947925), 28 May 2024, 46 min.

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Welcome back to Everybody's Crazy, with Savannah James and April McDaniel. Join us for a hilarious and heartfelt dive into self-love, social media stalking, finstas, and skincare. We’re here to share stories, spill the tea, and laugh about the crazy stuff we all do. Tune in for unfiltered fun and practical tips. Follow us on socials: https://www.instagram.com/AprilsOffice https://www.instagram.com/mrs_savannahrj/ https://www.instagram.com/everybodyscrzy/ Full video episodes can be found on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EverybodysCrazy See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

## Transcript

[0:00] Hi. A little nervous still. Hey, honey. What episode is this? Four. No, five. Oh, my God. This is episode five. Episode five. This is crazy. You guys haven't seen one. Is that nice? Anyways. Hey, guys. Thanks for coming back and hanging out with us on episode five of Everybody's Crazy.
[0:22] I'm nervous. I don't know why, but I shouldn't be. And we're so excited for you guys to be here. I think we wanted to touch on a little bit of our crazy this week.
[0:33] which was mine was I skipped work yesterday. I know that doesn't feel crazy, but it's really crazy for me. And I was very nervous about it, but I kind of went with the flow and did exactly what I needed to do. I skipped work because I was sick, but I kind of like didn't. You wasn't that sick? I wasn't that sick that I was just doing things that you enjoyed to do during the day.
[0:59] It was cute. Yes. Loved it. Yes. Loved it for me. Good job. I love that. I was like proud of myself, but felt like crazy guilt. I know. I know how you get with that type of stuff, but you should not. You should reward yourself. You deserve it. And I'm glad you did it. Okay. What's your crazy? I don't have any crazy. What? That's a damn lie. What is my crazy? I don't know. I was thinking about it before we got started to try to.
[1:23] I've really been chilling this week. I do not have any crazy. I haven't been out of the house. Okay, that's good. My husband been gone. So I've just been chilling, catching with him, watching a couple games. My kids, it's good. I haven't had a crazy. That's really remarkable. It's Thursday and no crazy is really intense. The week is not done. Yeah, the week's not done. We still got some time to go. And was there any outside crazy that you witnessed that you were like, that's crazy? Not outside crazy, but I do know that you are in New York.
[1:53] And, you know, I'm a nighttime TikTok scroller. And I saw it with some crazy man punching women in New York. So I'm happy you're safe. What? I'm happy you're safe, friends. I'm very stressed about that. Yeah. And that's crazy. It's crazy, though. It's crazy. That's the world we live in these days. So episode five.
[2:13] We here. And we want to give a little shout out to Boy Wonder that kind of dropped a beat for Savannah and I. Compliments of my friend's voice on the tune. Yo, everybody's great. Everybody's great. Yo, everybody's great. Yo, everybody's great. So now we're going to get into it. We're going to take a voicemail.
[2:40] Hello, my name is Lonnie. I represent a company called MH Mobile Spa. I hope this is a crazy moment that we had. Again, we are a mobile spa. We do massages, and we were told to do a pageant.
[2:55] And one of the ladies came to us and says, hey, can you massage my feet? We say, sure, no problem. And she said, don't worry. I have beautiful feet. Now, I mean, we really don't care about how the feet is. You know, we just love doing what we do.
[3:10] Some ladies always say, oh, I can't get a foot massage because I have a pedicure. No problem. We don't care about that. We just care about making you feel good and feel relaxed. So going back to the lady, the lady sat down, and she said, I have beautiful feet. I said, no problem. She took her stilettos off and put her foot on my knee and said, I'm ready to be relaxed.
[3:34] And when I looked down at her feet, she had no toes. Not one toe was missing. Not three toes were missing. All five toes were missing. I was looking down thinking, did she drop something? You know? So I looked down at her foot.
[3:56] I looked at the other team, the other employees, they looked at me. I looked at her, she was ready to be relaxed. So I massaged her, her heel. I gave her the best heel massage I could ever do.
[4:12] So that's one of our crazy moments. Hope that's funny to you guys. My gosh. I think that is the funniest call to date. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. I need a tissue. Somebody, I need a tissue. That was hilarious. Hilarious. Shocking. I am so happy that you were professional and kept it together because I probably would have lost it.
[4:39] No, I think I could have kept it together. But it just goes to show you that even when you're in situations that catch you off guard, like how composed can you be? I don't know if I could be that composed. But I feel like she should have given him a warning. Yes. Yes. But she was kind of trolling too because she was like, oh, I have beautiful feet. Well, maybe she feels like the toes are not part of the foot.
[5:08] I actually have really cute feet. I actually have really cute feet, too. Someone told me I should get OnlyFans for my feet. I think I could do it, too. I got a tattoo on my foot. They're so cute. Oh, my gosh. Get the ankle. Get the ankle. The tiniest little foot. They're like little baby pig's hooves.
[5:31] I cannot. Clickety clack. Clickety clack. I cannot. A good foot is so important. And a pedicure is so important. Yeah, I'm a little past due right now, but...
[5:42] I mean, she come in on Saturday. I'm good. I'm good. I'm just like a couple days past. I love a good foot manicure. I agree. I agree. Or pedicure. I agree. I did go through COVID when I let my toenails breathe. The whole COVID? Most, not all of it. No, because it was a long time, a long time. A longer time than we thought it was going to be. But for part of it, I didn't have nails or a pedicure. I just used like clear, like, what's this stuff called?
[6:14] Oh my gosh, it's like a strengthener for your nails. I just use the time to like strengthen my nails. Now that I think about it, I don't think I had a pedicure either. Yeah. So until I started doing bootlegs and having people come to my house. Listen, you know, we're safe. All right. So next voicemail. Hi, my name is Candice and I'm from Chicago. And yes, everybody is crazy. One, the same brain that told you that you're
[6:41] body was ugly is the same brain that's telling you that these DBLs are cute. Everybody is crazy. Oh, I agree with that. That's a lot to unpack. That's a lot to unpack. I am not opposed to a little nippity-took. Okay. I think that's fine. But float your boat. Go for it, sis. Do you? But I do think there is a level of like
[7:12] body dysmorphia that comes into play in certain BBL situations because I just don't understand the idea of having to have it be so big. Like I've seen BBLs that are done beautifully that look amazing. They fit your body. The legs match, let's just say. But I don't understand why you got to get the biggest ass that
[7:42] Is on the market? No, that you can get. Like, I feel like everything should be, like, if you pay your money and you're going to do this, it should look nice. And I feel like a lot of them sometimes don't look nice. That's my opinion on it when you can do it in a way that it looks really great.
[7:57] I feel like it is okay if you don't like something about yourself and you potentially want to change it in moderation. Yeah. I think where the issue comes in for me is a lot of people are comparing themselves to what they see on social. And getting...
[8:14] insecure about who they are based on what you see in the world. And then everybody's looking alike or looking similar or having a similar look. And some of the things are just so extreme, like, you know, just extreme things that I feel like you shouldn't look, you shouldn't look nothing like your baby picture. All right.
[8:39] Like you should have the essence of who you are. You shouldn't edit yourself to that point. I just think for me, it's quite sad to see. And I think really sad for young girls. Cause I feel like just to really come into your own, you really don't come into your real, real, real body. Until you've grown, grown. Grown and have some kids and then you get a butt and then you get a boobs. And then you really don't. And a lot of these girls are not even waiting to see how their body is going to evolve. Mm-hmm.
[9:07] And I mean, I've been somebody that's super small majority of my life. I always had a butt, but I was always really petite. And even in my 20s, I looked kid like, like it was like small and girly and petite. But like, I feel like you learn how to work around that, learn how to wear things that feel good. Make you feel sexy. Yes. I feel like somebody is going to want that. Yeah, of course.
[9:32] And I feel like so much of the editing of body is happening now so early that you don't even get a chance to experience that. Yeah. And so I think and I agree with her. The same mind that tells you you're ugly is the same mind. It's like, go do these extreme measures to look like this. And no one is really talking about all of the aftercare. Yeah. And complications with this stuff is pretty serious. Like, and I feel like.
[10:00] That is more like, I want this so bad. I want to look this way so bad because this is the way I'm seeing everybody on social or it's going to make me feel. But I guess the question is like to the universe and people is like, when is enough enough? When can you catch yourself and be like, okay, this is actually it. So not fortunate. Yeah.
[10:27] Who are we speaking with? Where are you from? And what's your crazy? This is Momo and I'm from New York. And I have been married for five years. And when I was dating my husband, I stalked his ex. Because, you know, you got to like know who they were with beforehand without like diving in like to conversation, like right off the bat. So I would like find her on social media, but she's private, right?
[10:56] So I had a couple of my friends, friend request her. And she's like, obviously this bitch knew that it was me, probably. So she didn't accept anybody of my friends that friend requested her so I could see her. So I keep going and I find her Poshmark account. And if y'all don't know what that is, it's an app where you can sell your clothes. Like not the real real. It's just like regular ass Target clothes. Like sell them on Poshmark.
[11:23] So I find her fucking Poshmark account. And I'm like, all right, this is as close as I'm going to get to stalking her and find out what she's like. And so by the time the conversation came around about talking about exes with my husband when we were first dating, he was like, yeah, she's pretty outdoorsy. And I'm just thinking to myself, yeah, bitch, I know I went to her fucking Patagonias on Poshmark and saw all of them. So that's my crazy...
[11:53] I love that. I have an interesting question because what I don't have that level of curiosity to go down a rabbit hole. I'm pretty like it is what it is. What was the goal of stalking her for you?
[12:10] Okay, literally, I don't know. Other than like when we first started dating, I wasn't, I was not like sold on him as like the one, right? I wasn't like fast faller. Like I wasn't like fast to fall in love with him. It was kind of like, I just like need to see who he's been with, like who he's like post. He doesn't have social. So I mean, I went into like photos of his friends to find pictures of him. And then I could kind of get to like pictures of her. And it wasn't like a goal of like,
[12:39] or there wasn't like an end goal. It was more just like I felt like, is he going to be honest? I don't really know. I don't even know if I really like him, but let me just like see what I can find out so that when I'm hanging out with him and it comes up, I can have like contextual questions to ask him or I can like know if he's like telling me what I feel like is the truth based on what I found online or what I found online.
[13:03] like in her profiles. Granted, I didn't get very far. I'm going to, I went through this girl's listed clothing on Poshmark, but it was just like my own background. And I don't know if just like having the access to social media, like gave that to me. But it didn't have like a goal in mind. Yeah. I mean, I think that's so interesting because for me, I'm like somebody that,
[13:26] either you're going to tell me or you're not, or it'll come out in the light. I feel like I just wouldn't spend my time and energy in doing that. But I feel like with social media nowadays, so many people do that. And so many people have fenced us and are like looking at things and spying and, and like researching. And I'm like, but what is the goal? Like, I think for me it's like, yeah.
[13:50] I think it's also that instantaneous need for knowledge. Like we have it at our fingertips with social, like we can find anything so fast that when you like meet someone, or at least in this case, when I met him, I was like, I need to know all of this information, but I didn't want to feel like sounds crazy to him coming out, like asking all of these questions. It was kind of like my way of getting that instantaneous knowledge and information on him and like who he had been with pre like prior without like
[14:20] going on one date and being like, okay, give me everyone you've dated, their social security numbers and how long, you know, going through that whole list, like feeling crazy in the moment. I don't feel like I want to know. I just, that's me personally. How about you, Samantha? Chai, I'm so far removed from, I don't know. I don't want to know at this point. I don't want to know. Yeah. I feel like I wouldn't, I wouldn't like, I don't know. It's so interesting to me
[14:45] If that's where I would spend my energy. I feel like also I want to trust the person I'm with. You know, it's funny. I have kids and like someone's like, oh, do you look in your kid's phone? And I was like, no. I said, because once you start, there's no going back. It's like there's no going back and there's no telling what you're going to see. Right. And I just feel like I want to have a level of trust that.
[15:08] to at least trust them enough to share. Because I feel like once you start digging, it's like a rabbit hole. I feel like it's almost a form of addiction.
[15:18] A thousand percent. Yes. So now it's like you couldn't get the social. So it's like, okay, well, let me find this. Okay, I found the Pash Mart. Like, oh, all right, I got something. Now it's Pagagonians. It's like a level of adrenaline rush of just the idea of having something. But the something is actually nothing. It don't matter to nothing. Right, because he also really loves you, which is so cute. Congratulations, Momo.
[15:47] A thousand percent. Yes. It literally was for no go, but I was like, I know I'm crazy doing this, but I just have to like go down this rabbit hole for myself and like find out everything that I can. And for what, right? Like nothing really. What am I? I'm literally, I was literally looking through this girl's
[16:05] clothing that she was getting rid of on her Poshmark account because it was the only public profile that she had. Yeah, it's like you're craving this high or this like you're chasing that rush and you don't even like get it in the end. Balance in all of it. As long as you don't do it no more, we good. Let's not run that crazy back. Let's not run that one back. Nice talking to you, Momo. Thank you, Momo. We're passing. Have a good one. You too. Good night.
[16:35] Do you guys want to talk about having Finstas at all? Do you have a Finsta? No. I don't have one. Plead the fifth. You're not talking about a Finsta? Mm-mm. I don't have a Finsta. But also...
[16:56] By the way, it's not like you've been frequenting the fenceda route for long. You had it for two months. I don't have a fenceda. I don't know what she's talking about. I do not. I sure don't. I didn't even know what a fenceda was until recently. And then I said to somebody, oh, you got a fenceda. And the person said, that's not a fenceda. You see my picture on it? I said, well, you're calling something else. I feel like everybody has a fenceda though.
[17:25] I don't have one. No. Okay. Not everybody. Majority of people have a Finsta. What is the Finsta used for? Is my question. To spy? I don't know. I just sometimes. I don't know. You could use it for whatever. What I don't like is the idea of people using Finstas to be mean to others. And I feel like that's, that could be a main reason why people have Finstas. To be able to comment and speak their mind without it coming from them.
[17:52] Yeah, that is so whack. Sorry. I just feel like say what you're going to say. But also some things are just not to be discussed because it's none of your business. Like, I just feel like you don't comment on other people's.
[18:08] trauma issues downfall like you can obviously have somewhat of a point of view internally but like to put it out onto social media I just feel like that is something I hate about social yeah I agree when people are coming from a place of sharing and then others are judging based off of subjective point of view is just an unfortunate situation very unfortunate
[18:34] And also, like, because, like, even with somebody like you that's remained so quiet, so, like, behind the scenes, as soon as you do something, it's almost looked at as, like, oh, you shouldn't talk. Like, I think that's crazy. I think it's very crazy because we all know that social media is not real. And people put on social media what they want to put on social media. And for that to be the way that you perceive someone is...
[19:05] Crazy. Like, yeah, I don't, I don't understand it, but you know, to know me is to love me. And I have a very close, close circle of those who know. Yeah. I feel like that's why everybody's crazy is good. Cause I feel like people get a taste of the real you instead of the perception that people have built around you, which is inaccurate. Right. Like, and I think I have some of that as well. Like, yeah.
[19:31] immediately when I saw some of the things like you know on social around like well who's her man who's her basketball player I'm a widow so what the fuck is we talking about like there is no basketball player there is no man per se so like why does that always have to equate that because you are who you are that I would be similar to that yeah
[19:55] And I think that that is just, I think the misconception of the world is like opposites attract and two very different people can be very close. So it's interesting. Moving on to caller number two. Who do we have on the line? Hi, my name is Jen. I'm calling from Nashville. I have a weird question, but mine is I always wear my wig. Like I have several of them. So I wear them around the house.
[20:24] And in the bedroom. So I'm curious because I was talking to some of my girlfriends and they were saying, oh, why don't you just take it off in the bedroom? You are married. Just put on the bonnet. But I don't feel sexy in my bonnet.
[20:40] So is it weird to wear a wig in the bedroom? So I'm going to say no. This is Savannah. I am also a very avid wig wearer. I love a wig. I wear mine for the most part all the time around the house, in the bedroom, all of the things to sleep. I tie her down with my band. I wear a bonnet. My friend here, April, hates a bonnet.
[21:06] Do not like a bonnet. But I feel like that's how I like to preserve my hairstyle. Like, I don't like... I'm not...
[21:14] I'm not a girly girl in the sense that I enjoy getting my hair done or getting my nails done. I think it's daunting, but I love the way that it looks and makes me feel and all of the things. So I do it, but I'm going to preserve for as long as I can. So I'm going to wear this wig until it starts peeling back. And then I take it off and start over again. But I don't think that's crazy at all.
[21:38] And I think that exactly why you wear wigs is exactly why I do not care for a bonnet. Like, it's just not really the aesthetic that I want to go into bed getting sexy with. It's something big and festive with color. Okay, first of all, my bonnets are black. This is black and satiny. Cheap material. Cheap material.
[22:03] It's giving cheap. Okay. And I feel like similar to you, I just want to go to bed feeling premium and wanted. I'm premium and wanted. What about? No, it's giving Aunt your mama.
[22:22] So I prefer more of a Hermes scarf tied to the back. It's more my aesthetic with a little piece of hair swinging in the wind. Oh, a tendril hanging out. Yes. Girl. It can give cute and sexy. So I'm alongside you. Keep the wig rocking. I agree. I don't know. I mean, I guess men don't mind a straight back band of braids, but I don't want to look like I'm from set at all. I want to look more like...
[22:50] Julia Roberts. I'm going to give big Cleo vibes at some point during the week. Okay.
[22:59] I'm going to tell y'all what he calls me. And he says it as a joke, but I take it personally. He calls me Kawhi Leonard when I have my briefs. I'm like, wait a minute. I agree. It's not, if I'm a guy, I'm not really with that aesthetic. So keep it cute, honey. Keep it cute all the way in Nashville. April McDaniel is here with you. Wear the wigs. Make sure you're popping them curls and doing your thing. Thank you, guys. Listen with your rayon bonnet. Yes.
[23:28] Thank you so much. Alrighty, talk to you later. Thank you both. Love you guys. Bye.
[23:37] We need to run this bonding conversation back because we didn't really get into it how I feel like we should have got into it. The community, we need to talk about that. What community? Our community, bitch. The black community? Yes, specifically. I mean, I'm just like, it's not really my aesthetic. I really don't like it. I think it's so...
[24:01] It makes me actually uncomfortable. Oh my gosh. You really hate it. Hate it. It's just not cute. I feel like when you're in a relationship or you're with a significant other, getting in the bed, even for me, I'm always in cute pajamas. I'm in matching panties and underwear. That's another thing I learned at a very young age. Matching undergarments is very key. Allie, your eyes are jumping out your head. Yeah.
[24:25] I see what I'll be getting you for your birthday. I think that it just is important. Like, I feel like that is something that is like a pedicure. It's like your nails. It's giving big feminine energy. That is how you are tapping into your feminine energy. I don't think it's big feminine energy. I just feel like women are just such beautiful beings. And we have such voluptuous, amazing bodies. And they should be in like lace and satin.
[24:57] Okay. And I think any man would appreciate that. I agree. You come in the room, look, like, even if you're on a casual day, you can do, like, a satin button-up pajama shirt with, like, a matching boy short. I agree. Cute. That's my uniform. Not giving wrinkly. Oh, God. Jesus Christ. Okay. Okay.
[25:20] Yeah, I mean, listen, the community may not agree with me. I don't think they do, to be honest. It's okay. I just wonder. I just, you know, because I see men wearing bonnets. I definitely have an issue with that. It's really a struggle for me. I don't know. I just. What happened to the do-rag? The do-rag was already taken in there. People still wear do-rags, but if you got braids, you put in a crease in the back of your do-rag. I mean, in the back of your braids. If you wear a do-rag with braids, you put a crease in the back.
[25:50] And that's not cute. So they're resorting to bonnets. But the do-rags are still being worn. The do-rag is, no offense, but the do-rag's still giving gangsta to me. Like, I likes that. So he can wear a do-rag. Yes. But I can't wear no bonnet. No.
[26:07] is it sexist okay caller hey who are we speaking with where you calling this from i'm from philly okay philly i know that's right i'm at the temple university yes okay okay what's your crazy yeah wait i just heard y'all talk about uh um pajamas you can't wear the t-shirt
[26:32] Not a t-shirt. It's giving satin button up. $9.99 from Target. We can really spice it up. Keep it cute, ladies. Keep it cute. Oh, my goodness. I love me a t-shirt. I love me a t-shirt. But I have one of satin button up now. Okay, so there you go, baby. It's all about balance. It's all about balance. Throw the t-shirts out when we get off the call. Throw the t-shirts out. What's your crazy...
[27:01] I don't have no crazy, but I'm here for everybody. Y'all got to give us the skin routine. That's the crazy. My skin is crazy. Oh, this is Savannah James' specialty. So give us some things. My verbal sis, we need the routine. You know, I...
[27:22] I don't want to divulge too much. Okay. But I got the girls and the guys. You got the people? With the skin. I'm going to get y'all together. Don't worry. But in the meantime. Oh, yes, I got the bags under my eyes. In the meantime. It's so big. I'm beating. I think it's really trial and error. Skincare, you just got to really figure out what works for you. Unfortunately, it could be daunting and it could be a little bit expensive and like.
[27:49] It actually could like trigger some stuff that you don't really want. Like you have to go through the process with your skin. But I think ultimately it's just about finding what works for you and being really super duper consistent with it. Yes, I think consistency is key. And I also think.
[28:08] in my community or like where we grew up, people were doing quick and fast. And I feel like you do have to, at this point at our age, you have to give quality. You have to buy quality items that are expensive. I mean, I'm not going to lie. Right. That's the hard part when, you know, knowing what it was not. What I will say is there is a very curated site called Violet Gray. That's amazing that,
[28:36] I buy a lot of skincare from. That's really awesome. That's not as vast as Sephora. Cause I feel like Sephora can be overwhelming. You love Sephora. I love Sephora. I'm a Sephora girl. Yeah. But you order and trial and error a lot of things. I think for me, it's,
[28:52] I specifically want to kind of be told what's good and what's not because Sephora can be overwhelming. I think Violet Gray does a good job of curating certain things. But I think also for African-American skin, certain things we just weren't brought up doing face scrubs like, you know, the right kind. The right kind of moisturizer is key. I feel like that is that is key. I feel like the right kind of eye cream.
[29:21] Savannah loves a chapstick. What is that called?
[29:26] Laneige. She loves Laneige, which is like a lip mask that's affordable at Sephora. Like, maybe we'll do a little show and tell beauty kind of piece of what we use and the things we love. Yeah, so we will tag that and Savannah would love that. And she actually is a moonlighting makeup artist. She's quite good. I'm like, the skin is giving glass. I need it. My skin isn't bad. It's just, you know, a little dark marks under the eyes.
[29:56] I think that's what we all deal with. We need the routine. Yes. And I feel like there is, it's called SKI. I think the eye mask that I use, that's really good for puffiness, but we'll try to figure DM. Everybody's crazy. And we're going to DM you back the brand. Cause that, that I use for, I DM. I mean, I use that for my eyes cause I get under eye circles and it works really well.
[30:23] But also the other thing I feel like African-American women weren't using back in the day was a good eye cream. No. Yeah. I think eye cream is something we just learned about. That's something we just learned about. So I feel like a good eye cream also is really important.
[30:39] we're going to DM you back some products. Yeah, that's going to be funny. We're going to run it back with an episode. We're going to run it back with an episode. So call us back in your satin pajama button. You know I'm going to call. I'm going. I'm listening. I have to. I'll be back. Okay. All right. Talk to you later. Bye. Bye. Have a good one. You too. Hi. Where are you from and what's your crazy? Hi. My name is Rebecca. I'm 13 and I'm from Australia. Hi, Rebecca. My crazy is going into a skincare shop.
[31:07] Even if, like, I know what to buy, I end up trying on, like, a million different samples and, like, never knowing what to actually buy. Because, like, I feel like in our generation, we have to buy what everyone else is buying. And as, like, a young person, we get, like, persuaded by, like, the influences and being pressured to use what they use with, like, the trends. And where do you currently shop in Australia? Like, what is your—do you guys have Sephora? We have, like, Mecca and Sephora.
[31:35] Oh, wow. Sephora in Australia. Okay, honey. Sephora is everywhere. Global. And what do you currently use skincare-wise? Glow Recipe and
[31:46] Cote d'Aneira and like Charlotte Tilbury and Lene. Okay. You out here. You got some points. You balling. Okay. Okay. Big baller. I agree with you. I feel like you do. What I do love about Sephora is you can try things. Yeah. And they have a great return policy. So I feel like you have an opportunity to like test things out.
[32:08] I also feel like you have to do what's right for your skin and do research on sites and reviews of things that work well. I would say, this is Savannah, that less is more. Yeah. Less is more. You don't want to like.
[32:24] do too much and then cause like any type of issue that I'm sure that you don't want. Yeah. You know, so I think less is more finding something that's super gentle with your baby skin and just being super consistent with that. I know we all at some point like to hang on to a trend or try a trend or, you know, be in the know, but ultimately I think it's about finding something that works for you. And if that, if it comes in that trend, then that's cool. And then you can use it. But I think that, um,
[32:54] Less is more for your 13 year old. Yeah, I agree. And do what makes you makes you happy. Thank you for calling in all the way from Australia. Thanks, Rebecca. Is there a trend that you guys have tried that you think is crazy now? Did you ever see the papaya challenge on TikTok?
[33:12] No, I don't do trends. No, I would say. You do do trends. You do TikTok trends. That's dancing. Just give it a ticket. I'm not eating no cinnamon. I'm not eating no papaya. I'm not. You was doing that drinking trend the other day. What drinking trend with the kids? Test this out. Drink out the cup. That's fun. That's fun. Okay, I do do some trends, but I'm not doing nothing crazy. That's like fun. I couldn't even tell you where to find a trend.
[33:38] Because you ain't got no TikTok. No, I don't like the TikTok. It's the devil. TikTok is way better than Instagram. Listen, that's why people spying on y'all. All right. Now, who do we have next on the line? Hi. Who are we speaking with? Where are you from? And what's your crazy? Hi, my name is Coco. Hi, Coco. Where are you calling us from? Hi, I'm calling you guys from Canada. Oh. We love it. Is it Toronto? Is it giving Toronto or Vancouver?
[34:07] No, it's actually Ottawa. Oh, sorry. We've just never been to Ottawa. Yeah, we haven't been to Ottawa, but we love us some Toronto. What's your crazy, Coco? My crazy is basically talking about skincare. I've been caring for my skin, but my skin hasn't been caring for me. And what's your tip for like oily skin and stuff? Because it's getting frustrating. I've tried everything before, everything on the market.
[34:34] But basically nothing works for me. The only thing that worked for me was a year ago I tried Accutane, but my skin reverted. So I think I have to get back on that. But yeah, that's my crazy. So one suggestion that I have is, do you have a heavy dairy, like a lot of dairy in your diet?
[34:55] Yes, yes, I do. So something that I've heard, I'm no doctor, but that having a lot of heavy dairy forward diet is not good for your skin. Oil, I'm not really sure what that can be contributed to, but I do know that diet in general and just what you put into your body is,
[35:18] is a big part of what, you know, what you get out of your skin or, you know, what comes out of your body. So if I had one suggestion, it would be maybe checking, you know, maybe lowering your dairy intake and just being a little bit more intentional with your, with what you're putting in your body so that, you know, you see the benefits of what's coming out. Love that. Okay. Sounds good. Yeah. I think I might try like a vegan diet or something because
[35:46] It's not giving. She says not giving. It's worth a try. I mean, again, I'm just, you know, telling you what I heard. All right, Coco. Talk to you soon. Thank you. Bye. Bye. Love you. Bye. Hi. How are you? Where are you calling from? I'm from New York. Okay. So you're calling us about friendships and finding your people and community? Yeah. What's your crazy? What you got for us?
[36:14] advice because I'm in high school so like drama there's a lot of drama I hate drama I hate drama I feel like that's the most drama that I had was in high school and I think that it's just because girls are trying to figure it out and I know that's probably what that's probably really bad to say but they don't you know
[36:33] They're trying to figure it out. They don't know. Figuring out what? Being mean? Who their people are and how they're supposed to be. The one advice I'm giving to young girls is don't be clicky. That's whack. That's very whack. I mean, I just feel like it's hard enough to try to find yourself. I do think just being open-minded. I just think the way people navigate is sometimes through insecurity and envy instead of like. Leading with love. Yeah. And kindness.
[37:03] And also you cannot like somebody and it be okay. You don't have to be mean about it. Is that what you're experiencing in high school? I mean, yeah, there's just like a lot. Give us an example. Like there's just a lot of talking behind people's back. Let me ask you this. When that happens, do you address it head on? Like, hey, this is unnecessary. You want to talk about something in person or do you just go and say something to somebody else and it continues the pinwheel?
[37:31] No, I'll confront them about it. Like not in a...
[37:35] rude way. Yeah. But I'll like ask them. Which I think is mature. I mean, that's, is an unfortunate situation. I think people do talk behind people's backs all the time. I think we experienced that. And I think people come to assumptions on who you are instead of who you really are, which is unfortunate. We were just talking about that earlier, but I feel like you just have to stay true to yourself and also not feed into the swell of all of it. Cause I feel like that's the part that'll make you go crazy.
[38:05] Yeah. Is listening to what people have opinions on, but everybody's going to have an opinion. You just have to trust yourself. Yeah. Aw. Well, thanks for calling us, Peyton. We appreciate you. Thank you. Okay. Have a good night. You too. Aw, she was so sweet. I feel like she was sad. Yeah, so did I. Peyton, we love you. We love hearts.
[38:32] Peyton. Peyton from New York. I do not. Oh, high school was... What was you doing in high school? Girl, fighting. Fighting? I've never been in a fight in my life. Ooh, not wearing no bonnet and I don't fight. You love to fight. No, I don't. First of all. But I had to defend myself. Like, I had a lot of that. I had girls who didn't like me and couldn't tell nobody why they didn't like me. Like, my whole group of friends. It was like...
[39:00] tough it was a lot and I feel like in high school like you're like what what like yeah I was really jolly and I mind my business in high school I did too but that don't mean I wasn't in no fights
[39:11] And I do feel like a lot of the fights that I had, it was me being just like an ally of my friends. I don't feel like I really fought a fight that was my fight. Because I was nice. I feel like I got along with majority, everybody. But I would hate you too if your boyfriend was LaRon James. See, this is not okay. But not really. I really wouldn't hate you. This is not okay. But I feel like, yes. Because then how do I feel? They're like, why couldn't it be me? I don't know.
[39:40] But that's why they was mad at you. I was in high school fighting. Yeah. Those days are behind us. No young women should be fighting. We do not fight no more. We call security. Well, if you're in high school and you're approached with a fighting incident, you should not fight. Just go to the principal. I'm a snitch. Security. That's security.
[40:04] We're going to take a voicemail. Shakira Wright, city Camden, New Jersey. And my crazy is having sex before marriage. It's my biggest regret. And I'm still paying for it till this day. Hmm. Oh. Having sex before marriage. I don't know if that's a regret. How do you feel about that? I don't.
[40:33] I mean, it's obviously her truth. She regrets it. But I think that every experience in your life you should learn from. And if she didn't want to do it then, then maybe she shouldn't be or shouldn't do it now just to give herself some great. I mean, is she married now? Like, we don't have a ton of contacts. So it's like.
[40:55] You're having sex with your husband, but you... How old were you when you lost your virginity? I can't imagine marrying somebody that you never had sex with. Like, what is the regret? Like, I don't know the regret. I would not want to marry somebody I never had sex with. We do have a friend that is still a virgin that we're very close to. And I appreciate it and respect it, but like, whoa. Whoa.
[41:21] I think, yeah, I think it's something really special to it. I think that is something that's a really special thing for a woman. Well, how do you know how to give up your virginity? You just do it. How do you, what you mean? How do you know how, what you mean? You just ready and you do it. Well, why are you ready? You love the person? Nine times out of 10, no. From what the voicemail was saying, she probably definitely did not. I think it's just a circumstance. Did I love my first? Absolutely not. Yeah.
[41:51] How do you know? I'm saying for me, it's going to be absolutely not. No, I said, did I love my first? Did you love your first? I liked him. He was 10 years older than me, though.
[42:06] I know, that's crazy. Lordy V. Lordy. No, I needed a captain of industry. Were you ready? Yeah. And were you fine with it? Like afterwards you didn't feel like nothing. So that's, I think it was time. But I was late. How old were you? 19.
[42:31] Oh, that's really good. I feel like that's a good age. That's a great age. You should not be losing your virginity at 14. I don't agree with that. You think that you should? No, I'm saying I agree with you. I don't think you should lose it at 14. How old do you think you should be? I got kids. So I'm going to say I think you should be 50. But realistically, I think you should be at an age that you understand the responsibilities of having sex. So what is that? 17?
[43:01] Yeah. 17, 18. I think it's different for a girl than a boy. I agree with that, too. I feel like a lot of boys think that that's the coming of adulthood. Yeah, coming into adulthood. We have some friends that said they had sex at 12. Nine. Who? I'm sorry, guys. I know some people who said nine years old. Nine is crazy. Where was your fucking mom? Who's having sex at nine?
[43:28] That's not even a full penis. I did see some. Good night. I did see something, though, that said that, what's this generation now, the younger kids? It's like in college, high school, alpha. What's their generation called? Gen alpha. Yeah, I guess. Whatever that is. That they are not prioritizing sex in their lives as much as previous generations did. Okay. I appreciate that. So I'm like, amen for all of us that got college and high school age kids. Yeah, I agree with that.
[44:02] Hi, April and Savannah. I am Gabby. I'm from Chicago. What's been my crazy this week is honestly just having low self-esteem and comparing myself to others on social media. Yeah, so I look forward to hearing what you ladies said.
[44:23] Have to think about that. Thank you. It's definitely coming full circle with Gabby's thing. First of all, Gabby, you're fabulous. You're a queen. Social media is fake. So I just think it has people fucked up out here. It really does. So unfortunate. And I feel like people are just not honest about what they're doing to themselves. Like this is a quick weave. This is a wig.
[44:53] My nails not real. My lashes not real. My nails are real now. They got a gorilla comb. No overlay. Jail. But yeah. I just feel like it's things women do to refine themselves.
[45:06] that people just take to the extreme measures. Then it's Botox, then it's BBLs, then it's all of this. Like, you have to speak positivity into your life day in and day out. If you struggle with that, one good piece of advice, post-it notes in the mirror, in your bathroom. You can crush it every morning, talking to yourself. Affirmation, affirming yourself. Yes, it's so important. And-
[45:28] Just not listening to the outside world. Everything is kind of what you make it, whether it's real or fake. And everything is temporary. Just remember that. Well, thank you for joining us for episode five of Everybody's Crazy. We love you guys. Thank you. Tune in. Come back. Please. Everybody's crazy.

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