# Why would I ever tell someone what I need? That’s letting them know your weakness

An episode of [This Keeps Happening with Vienna Pharaon](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1702579456), 27 Sep 2023, 1 h 08 min.

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Today I’m speaking with Michelle, that’s her alias. She’s an open book, but she struggles to trust others. She can create the illusion of connection for others, but then shuts her own pain down. She does this to protect and manage the emotional experience of others. She tragically lost her father at 14 and dealt with self blame, which often shows up as failure for not being who people needed her to be. It’s so common to find ways to disconnect or distract away from our hurt. Have you ever distracted away from what needs tending to?

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