# Not As We Planned

A podcast by Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris. New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon. Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about. From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all. Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid. If you have a question or want to share your story, email us at notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com Join Our Community Get our weekly BONUS episode: https://patreon.com/c/NotAsWePlanned Follow the Podcast: @notasweplanned_podcast Tash: @tash_blake_ivy Carly: @iamcarlyharris Get the Planner: https://notasweplanned.shop Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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## Latest episodes

- [Rosie On Surviving Breast Cancer At 35 With Two Young Children](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/6c09c50dbc02) (2026-10-21, 61 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6ad89f4385adacac7dc48e87/media.mp3
- [We Waited 23 Years To Get Married… He Cheated 3 Months Later](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/ec6e65ed89ea) (2026-10-14, 45 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6acfd7b23b41843137e744b7/media.mp3
- [I Found Out My Husband Had A 16-Year-Old Son I Knew NOTHING About](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/de0ba2d040ec) (2026-10-07, 42 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6ac5291b67a2ec2840f0ed8c/media.mp3
- [I’m The Other Woman… And I’ve Fallen In Love With Him](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/cac444146a01) (2026-09-30, 41 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6abd45f838e6d69a30eb2e68/media.mp3
- [Carly Got A Nose Job… And She’s Finally Revealing Everything](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/668242827f27) (2026-09-23, 65 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6ab3b9d3c974afb154a4f902/media.mp3
- [I’d Just Given Birth When I Found THESE Messages On His Phone](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/fd0fcb736c4c) (2026-09-16, 38 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6aaa83eefce2f88226c0c801/media.mp3
- [Carly’s Dating Update Just Took A VERY Weird Turn…](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/8cf6364ad6ed) (2026-09-09, 45 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6aa1929e9d5ca4f665eef530/media.mp3
- [Young Parents, 3 Million Followers And Life Behind The Kern Family](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/955a901ed0cc) (2026-09-02, 87 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a9852d5809ae7c2f4de115e/media.mp3
- [I Gave My Cheating Husband A Second Chance… 10 Years Later I Regret It](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/c09a3ae23191) (2026-08-26, 41 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a8f5fd1c36cbadbe76aaaa7/media.mp3
- [My Boyfriend Faked Cancer While My Mum Was Dying](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/4eb507a2e623) (2026-08-19, 38 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a85ebf31ad8716bb6219594/media.mp3
- [I Married The Wrong Person… But It Led Me To The Love Of My Life](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/74a6d78ba94c) (2026-08-12, 43 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a7cfe107cf3c58886bf8ab6/media.mp3
- [Hollie Dowding: Surviving Domestic Violence... How I Finally Sent My Abuser To Prison](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/2224acf94bcb) (2026-08-05, 74 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a735128237988582eedbc27/media.mp3
- [My Husband Is The Perfect Dad… So Why Do I Think He’s Cheating?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/8dbbea9b7c71) (2026-07-29, 37 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a6a2a0e2a5f0f3072ffb78f/media.mp3
- [I Finally Left My Toxic Relationship… So Why Do I Miss Him?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/76622f13fd7d) (2026-07-22, 42 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a60f5fe562e3ad886886c94/media.mp3
- [Why So Many Boys Are Struggling Today & What Parents Can Do with Raising Boys 2 Men](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/4fa2bf02bde6) (2026-07-15, 75 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a57d4e5c152a357dbd6611d/media.mp3
- [My Best Friend Lied To Me For 10 Years…](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/487edb3fb9b5) (2026-07-08, 44 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a4e82d62b60482dd2f69843/media.mp3
- [He Faked Cancer While I Was Pregnant](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/934219c08c35) (2026-07-01, 52 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a44fc436771af4aa44fe5f5/media.mp3
- [He Ghosted Me For 5 Weeks… Then Came Back Like Nothing Happened](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/9a9e660524c8) (2026-06-24, 38 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a3c56275bb8a79968f2baf5/media.mp3
- [My Husband’s Entire Life Was A Lie](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/ed33967af479) (2026-06-17, 40 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a32b7922a769315bae7747c/media.mp3
- [He Didn’t Forget My Birthday, He Ignored It](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/da370767face) (2026-06-10, 45 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a295ff69068bf0408651565/media.mp3
- [He Left Me For a Man](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/dac9b7eccb49) (2026-06-03, 39 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a20847f44a383b494def99c/media.mp3
- [Omg That’s NEW Information…I’m Terrified!!](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/2a0283f56b76) (2026-05-27, 48 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a16fe2c30535b3e1872400f/media.mp3
- [I'm Always The One That's Left](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/4c0e10786b8f) (2026-05-21, 51 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a0e99e311eba3cf15320691/media.mp3
- [I Trusted Him 100% Until I Checked His Phone](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/97f9c65d9067) (2026-05-13, 45 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6a04aaad0cdbf0d1ff7a3730/media.mp3
- [How Many Red Flags Did I Ignore?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/cb3ad5382ee5) (2026-05-06, 51 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69fb6ba88c59df7dd5dabb5e/media.mp3
- [I Was Ghosted 5 Years Into Our Relationship | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/399bde41c39d) (2026-04-29, 41 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69f223aeae2fba210fc5b449/media.mp3
- [I Found Out He's Been In Prison | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/eed7ca4b093a) (2026-04-22, 54 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69e8fd3007ecece42a6d76a4/media.mp3
- [Turning Pain Into Power | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/e7400fc10a84) (2026-04-15, 47 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69dffd63e733e471896be160/media.mp3
- [I Can't Stop Comparing Myself to His Ex | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/419f37877934) (2026-04-08, 41 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69d6b039ef4d7242060dc362/media.mp3
- [My Ex is my Guilty Pleasure | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/a158c323dd27) (2026-04-01, 40 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69cd775eb601292a80d5cd71/media.mp3
- [Should I Have an Affair? | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/8246ebd289b6) (2026-03-26, 43 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69c41634fe9984dbaea28bd4/media.mp3
- [Colin @loudsingledad: Our First Male Guest! A Man’s Perspective on Separation, Coparenting & Dating! | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/41b8b3b8d218) (2026-03-19, 77 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69b6bb8b4266c9b1c725b589/media.mp3
- [When Hope Ends Up Costing You A Lot | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/11a736584f88) (2026-03-12, 44 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69b19589a9beefe722dd9653/media.mp3
- [Sabrina Zohar: Everything You Need to Know About Dating & Relationships | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/28acae257305) (2026-03-05, 71 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69a8898997f00280f093db20/media.mp3
- [I Can’t Stop Sleeping With My Daughters Boyfriend | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/392d6a46a722) (2026-02-25, 41 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/699f8badf5ae85b4a2a935c8/media.mp3
- [Poor Excuse of a Man | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/0d371847a164) (2026-02-19, 43 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69962659e1d8773119ca1e6d/media.mp3
- [You Need To Leave This Relationship NOW!! | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/4a25ed84ad4e) (2026-02-12, 42 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/698cf5b83f15cb4dabe60c5f/media.mp3
- [The Worst Affair Story You've Ever Heard | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/cab56b920220) (2026-02-05, 50 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6983845c1976ad1237e20037/media.mp3
- [Me & My Boyfriend Broke Up | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/f6082364e721) (2026-01-29, 49 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/697a5987d577b417ba4cbd2e/media.mp3
- [Nicole is this me: A Real & Raw Conversation About Her Husband's Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/3c9562bb6513) (2026-01-22, 64 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69715fa7d00eff242df76cf5/media.mp3
- [I've Been Sleeping With My Boss... Who's Married](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/9187de1d7bb5) (2026-01-15, 45 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69682b19a0a046a1f3267377/media.mp3
- [Shelley J Whitehead: How to Heal Your Heartbreak, Set Boundaries and Gain Self Worth.](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/d907257efdb4) (2026-01-08, 59 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/695f6bb9fbfe7fdb6e13c0d7/media.mp3
- [Don’t Be a Ho Ho Ho!! | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/6d3c24676d1a) (2025-12-18, 49 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6943a3cd959d6e4950c3f7bf/media.mp3
- [The Neighbourhood Bicycle Where Everyone Had a Ride | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/38b27b8591be) (2025-12-11, 50 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6939aeb14f84d8410f137ecf/media.mp3
- [Jessica Miller: The Truth Behind The Breakdown Of Her Marriage And All The In-Between | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/fedb3c5cf1fe) (2025-12-04, 73 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69307cce042629ee0ea48e67/media.mp3
- [The Truth Is They Never Change... | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/d8b582d32fa5) (2025-11-27, 48 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69275598064897cd5fe5c234/media.mp3
- [The Not So Magic Mike Show... | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/4e36b526196a) (2025-11-20, 42 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/691ddebc5e54c6660a1e3205/media.mp3
- [The Messy Wife Swap | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/d1e7c0f405c3) (2025-11-13, 52 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/6914e738543edcb5601a20ab/media.mp3
- [When Your Situationship Even Lied About His Name!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/21c582806192) (2025-11-06, 51 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/690bd9f368ccec9b8e152b73/media.mp3
- [The Intentional Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1690775138/ba1eb6084081) (2025-10-30, 44 min): audio https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/67d4639f4fe212e561804fed/e/69034c1fa749a247c2297934/media.mp3

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