# 091: Jealousy in Non-Monogamy: Diving Deeper, Understanding It, How to Manage It and Co-Creating With Your Partner with Kathy Labriola

An episode of [Girls Gone Deep](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1682198984), 3 Oct 2024, 1 h 19 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2069373/episodes/15860049-091-jealousy-in-non-monogamy-diving-deeper-understanding-it-how-to-manage-it-and-co-creating-with-your-partner-with-kathy-labriola.mp3

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with author Kathy Labriola, who has written 4 books on polyamory, including a life-changer for Vee: The Jealousy Workbook. What inspired The Jealousy Workbook? (3:18) Jealousy in ethical non-monogamy vs. monogamy. (7:05) Core beliefs and how they affect us in relationships. (8:32) "Signifiers" which instill confidence in partners. (11:37) Where does jealousy stem from? (14:07) Jealousy vs envy: defining and differentiating them. (17:17) Unpacking the emotions integral to jealousy. (21:33) Practical strategies to manage jealousy in the moment. (30:24) Figuring out the root cause of jealousy: the relationship, you, or a little bit of both? (44:39) Doing the internal work to overcome jealousy: understanding your attachment style and how it affects your level of jealousy in different relationships. (49:06) Conversations to have with your partner. (55:10) Phobia vs engineering methods to mitigate jealousy. (1:01:27) How to support a partner who is feeling jealous. (1:06:20) Final "nuggets of wisdom". (1:13:43) Find Kathy: Kathylabriola.com Support the show ______ How to Support the Show: 💰 Donate Here 💋Linktree: https://linktr.ee/girlsgonedeep 🎧 Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod 🛍️ Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop — wear your kinks proudly. 🍑 Woo More Play: Shop with our affiliate link — support the pod while you stock up on your favorite pleasure essentials. 🪄 WAANDS™: Crystal Pleasure Products HERE. Get 15% off with code GIRLSGONEDEEP 🔮 WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your game deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com IG: @wlthegame 🔥 Naughty Disco’s Sexy NYC Dance Party: code GONEDEEP69 for 15% off any event ticket IG: @naughtydisco 💌 Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

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