# Keeping the romance alive after kids: a Valentines Special

An episode of [Expecting Expats](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1651262799), 11 Feb 2026, 28 min.

Audio: https://anchor.fm/s/bd8df550/podcast/play/115294675/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-1-10%2F417821678-44100-2-1b695184e07d7.m4a

In this episode, Amanda and CJ explores the significant decline in sex among couples after having children, highlighting the various factors contributing to this change, including fatigue, caregiving demands, and shifts in couple dynamics. Takeaways * A lot of studies show that couples' sex life tends to decline after having kids. * Fatigue, sleep disruption, and caregiving demands contribute to this decline. * Change in roles and less couple time affects intimacy. * As much as 60% of married couples report a decrease in sexual frequency after having kids. * 30% say that sex has become less satisfying in the last five years after having kids. * The decline in sexual frequency is a significant issue for many couples. * Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining intimacy. * Couples need to find ways to reconnect after having children. * Communication is key to addressing sexual satisfaction. * Support systems can help couples navigate these challenges. Podcast Recommendation: Motherhood Sessions: 2 Years Without Sex : https://open.spotify.com/episode/4oQ1SbW6yVw6ILUhixUeOs?si=m0Nn1kC5RraRBG6mYl2bRA Book Recommendation: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Ester Perel

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