# 37. Feeling Disappointed By Your Christmas, Body, Home, Motherhood or Feel Like you’re Not Measuring Up? 10 Tips to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others & Letting It Steal Your Joy

An episode of [Armed to the Heart - Military Women, Work-life Balance, Female Veterans, Christian Moms, Pregnancy and Postpartum](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1643136185), 21 Dec 2022, 37 min.

Audio: https://podcasts.helloaudio.fm/download/7IAb5vves3/3bc1b91a-0c21-4627-8f51-4458de9a7fa4.mp3

Hey sister! Let's talk about something we all struggle with in different areas of our lives -- comparison to other women. Today I'm sharing 10 tips to help you stop comparing yourself/your life to others & letting it steal your joy. Christmas and the holidays can be a vulnerable season mentally/emotionally, & trigger a ton of different temptations to compare ourselves & our lives to others. Whether it's: • Tendencies to compare our behind the scenes to others' perfect-looking highlights on social media • Wishing we had what others had • Longing for a different, fitter, thinner, or more beautiful body • Comparing our homes & families to the women around us • Comparing our children to others & wondering if they're developmentally on track or worrying we're failing them & falling into MORE guilt & shame as moms • Pressure to keep up with everyone else & what others are doing, fear of missing out • Feeling behind on our goals/where we hoped to be by now, or feeling inadequate in any area of our life Any of this sound familiar? I know it does for me. I've come a long way on this journey, yet the holidays often bring these emotions & our insecurities to the forefront. The truth is that comparison steals our joy, sanity, time/energy, money & so much more. Whether it's frustration, discouragement, resentment, jealousy, or inadequacy, it's hard to not let negative, anxious thoughts drive us into places we really don't want to go mentally & emotionally, & get stuck ruminating & dwelling there, pulling us further from the peace & joy we want to feel during Christmas. Comparison, and competing with other women, criticizing ourselves (all that negative self talk we tend to fall into!) and others is a poison. It is distracting us from our call, causing us to doubt God’s goodness, our own identity & worth, causing us to attach to false idols, and sabotaging our capacity to receive the blessings & joy we are meant to experience in Christ. We’re made for connection & belonging with, celebration of, & collaboration with other women, but comparison causes us to isolate & put up walls between us & others. We rob each other, just as much as it's stealing from us. Enough is enough. Let's put a stop to the hold comparison has over your life, mental health, & relationships with God & others. And let's begin this Christmas. ***Join in my upcoming free New Years Goal Setting with God workshop on JAN 8th! Learn more & save your seat here. BOOK A FREE DISCOVERY CALL OR CONNECT: Email: megan@armedtotheheart.com 1:1 Coaching Call: Looking for more support & accountability as you work to break free from these cycles? Having support and being coached & mentored through this has made all the difference in the world for me, and for so many of my clients. There's no shame in struggling with this -- we're all on this journey & God wants to free us from this prison together. Don't let fear cause you to close in and isolate even more. We're not meant to walk alone. Renew: My signature Group Coaching Community of Christian women & mamas (in the military & beyond!) who inspire & humble me every day with how much they embody this culture of celebrating, collaborating with, & connecting deeply with one another to run this race alongside each other. Strong + Resilient Postpartum Fitness Program (18 week+ Plan for Busy, Active Mamas in the military + beyond who want to get stronger, heal their core + pelvic floor + regain confidence in their bodies again after giving birth, and have an empowering postpartum experience where you & your family can truly thrive) RESOURCES FOR MORE BALANCE IN FAMILY & WORK-LIFE: Overcome the Overwhelm (Feel like your to-do-list is never-ending, and pulled in a million directions? Grab my FREE guide to help you balance work + mom life with less guilt + more peace, with God at the center) PREGNANCY & POSTPARTUM FITNESS RESOURCES: Free Postpartum Fitness Guide: How to Return to Fitness Postpartum for Military Mamas + Beyond…

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