# The Chaser and the Runner: The Pattern that Destroys a Relationship

An episode of [Jillian on Love](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1640172049), 19 Dec 2022, 51 min.

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The chaser and the runner, the pursurer and the distancer, the anxious and the avoidant. The push and the pull. This pattern is one of the most common patterns in a relationship and it causes an immense amount of suffering. Jillian teaches that this cycle goes beyond attachement theory and describes how our needs for both connection AND autonomy are the reason behind everyone will struggle with this cycle many times throughout their love lives. ~~ Follow the show on Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon Find Resources mentioned in the show at the Jillian on Love Recommendations Follow Jillian Turecki on Instagram: @jillianturecki Tik Tok: @jillian.turecki Twitter: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at www.jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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