# Episode 252: Let's Talk About Sex - After Cancer

An episode of [I'm Still Here: Real Conversations About Living with Metastatic Breast Cancer](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1629136639), 15 Oct 2025, 33 min.

Audio: https://anchor.fm/s/950d6ad4/podcast/play/109685319/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2025-9-14%2Ffd304310-7cb6-802a-5daa-afa1767611e3.mp3

Let’s Talk About Sex – After Cancer After cancer, everyone tells you “you look great”—but looking fine isn’t the same as feeling whole. In this candid, funny, and deeply honest conversation, Heather and Larry talk about what intimacy really looks like after diagnosis and treatment: grief over a changing body (and lost fertility), reconstruction that “looks” like breasts but doesn’t feel like them, early menopause, fear, shame, and how they slowly rebuilt connection. They share the practical stuff that helped—clear boundaries, encouragement and praise from a partner, scheduling intimacy, using vibrators to reduce dryness and re-awaken sensation, and giving each other permission to learn by trial and error. If you’ve ever wondered how to move from surviving to fully living—including in the bedroom—this one’s for you. We cover: • Appearance vs. reality: looking “okay” while feeling disconnected • Reconstruction + sensation loss, and naming what doesn’t work • Grieving fertility and redefining womanhood • Partner role: encouragement, praise, patience, teamwork • Practical tools: communication, timing, scheduling, lube, vibrators • Keeping humor alive when things get awkward Content note: frank discussion of sex, bodies, vibrators, and intimacy after cancer. ✨ Connect with Heather: Website: heatherjose.com Instagram: @heatherjose Facebook: Heather Jose – I’m Still Here YouTube: I’m Still Here Podcast Podcast: I’m Still Here: Lessons from Life with Metastatic Breast Cancer

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