# Why You Can't Stop People-Pleasing (Even When You Want To)

An episode of [The Best of You](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1620059010), 26 Oct 2026, 9:50.

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Today's Scripture: Proverbs 29:25 Have you ever said yes when you wanted to say no—or agreed with someone just to avoid conflict? People-pleasing can become an automatic response, especially when you've learned that keeping others happy is the safest way to maintain connection. But you can begin to change this pattern without losing your compassion for others. We explore: • Why people-pleasing can feel almost impossible to stop • What fawning reveals about your fear of disappointing others • How to find security beyond someone else's approval • Small ways to practice saying no without guilt Go Deeper: For more on how to recognize protective patterns and retrain your soul to find security in God's love, explore The Secure Soul and The Secure Soul Companion Guide Connect with Dr. Alison on Instagram: @dralisoncook Join 80,000+ Soul Menders in Dr. Alison’s free email community for ongoing reflection and support. While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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