# Me cortaron las piernas, pero aprendí a volar - Episodio 75

An episode of [CARAS VEMOS SUFRIMIENTOS](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1614156002), 11 Apr 2024, 35 min.

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Ella es Irena Villa, una mujer que a su corta edad sufrió junto a su madre un atentando TERR0R1STA. Irene es una de las mujeres que más admiro y cuando acabes esta entrevista, probablemente a ti te pasará lo mismo. Este es su perfil de instagram @_irenevilla_. Este programa no es terapia, si piensas que la puedes necesitar, acude a un psicólogo/a clínico o un psiquiatra. Si necesitas terapia, evita aquellas personas que sean youtubers o psicóologo/a de la TV. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/caras-vemos-sufrimientos--6047464/support.

## Transcript

[0:05] Faces, we see suffering. We don' t know Hi, I'
[0:15] m Sillio Olmedo. Doctor in psychology, psychologist at the Psychologists College of Madrid,
[0:22] and this program is educational and documentary. It' s not therapy at
[0:30] all. And if you need therapy, I recommend you go to a clinical
[0:34] psychologist or a psychiatrist. I' ve been on TV for 20 years.
[0:42] I have interviewed practically everyone, a lot of people and for me there are
[0:50] testimonies that have an extraordinary weight, because for me they represent the real overcoming.
[1:02] He' s more I remember the best. You don' t know
[1:07] her. I' m sure a lot of people already do, but I
[1:11] have a moment in my life, of these moments that you have keys in
[1:19] your life and I remember crying for the most beautiful encounter I saw in my
[1:25] life. I will introduce you to a woman who, in addition to being
[1:29] a psychologist, lecturer or lecturer, is told in Spain because we are in
[1:37] Madrid, because she and her mother are an example of overcoming it. But
[1:41] I think the one who has to talk about everything here is Irenevilla, welcome
[1:47] Irene. Thank you very much. You were born again one day. That
[1:52] day was the seventeenth of October of a thousand nine hundred and ninety- one.
[1:56] True, with twelve years old began a new life here that there have
[2:00] also been other reborns, because many times life stops you and you have to
[2:06] start again and it doesn' t matter, you have to learn and turn
[2:10] the negative situation around. And that' s what my mom taught me when
[2:13] I was twelve that morning we were going to school very happy because I had
[2:19] a basketball game, which was what I loved most at the time and skating
[2:23] on ice and well, we heard a bomb. At that time, there
[2:28] was a terrorist gang that murdered, obstructed, kidnapped. And right now,
[2:32] well, my mother, working at a police station, my sister didn'
[2:37] t want to go to school because she felt that something bad was going to
[2:40] happen. That day she was 15 years old and she said not to go
[2:46] to work. And my mother said,“ Daughter, nothing will happen”
[2:50] Come on vita high school. I got in a little bit earlier and when
[2:53] I got in the car and I said Mom too and if we got a
[2:57] bomb, you told her that. And Mom and if we' ve been
[2:59] bombed and my mother said daughter, that' s what important people put on
[3:04] and you and I aren' t. Besides, there had never been three
[3:07] bombs like it did that day. They always put an attack on nothing more
[3:14] and well, what they wanted were dead on the table. They realized that
[3:17] this was a strategic mistake, because by putting two bombs so in a row
[3:23] and so together we survived, the normal thing is that we would have stayed
[3:27] in that attack. But since he was in the ambulance 200 meters away trying
[3:31] to save the life of Lieutenant Carballar, who was killed on the spot and
[3:36] who left five little children orphaned, he was the one who saved us and
[3:43] the cameras were there. That' s why it' s all documented.
[3:45] That' s why our attack was live and live. They never put two
[3:50] bombs in such a row again because it wasn' t what I wanted.
[3:53] This was a very negative advertisement for them because they saw us dismembered on the
[3:58] road. I mean, you were in the car and at the time we
[4:04] went a few meters and at a traffic light. I happen to be a
[4:10] bit macabre from the destination where I skated on ice, which was my passion,
[4:15] too, that' s where I lost my two legs. Right at
[4:19] that traffic light, I mean, the bomb goes off and you wake up.
[4:24] When, then, the first thing I remember I was taken to the
[4:30] nearest hospital is my father' s face. It' s a panic face.
[4:32] I say where my mother is, I say something terrifying has happened.
[4:38] He' s in another hospital. The doctors couldn' t take care of
[4:41] both of you. You' re very serious, but it' s fine
[4:44] and good. I stayed calm. I had no idea what was happening to
[4:46] me. I felt my legs, I thought they were scalloped in fact,
[4:50] and I had my hand scalloped. I didn' t think I had no
[4:53] fingers. I had this too with a lot of bandages. My face couldn
[4:57] ' t see it, I had it completely smashed. This little speck you
[5:00] see here is barely noticeable, for it was all bloody face. Anyway,
[5:04] my mother couldn' t open her eye. Also, well, her right
[5:09] leg arm was missing and she was the one who was very scared thinking that
[5:15] I had been murdered, because when she was told that she had only arrived
[5:18] at that hospital, she said well, because my daughter has been killed and
[5:24] no one dares to tell me. And so it was. She was quiet
[5:27] until they asked her, you' re going to ask her about your daughter
[5:30] and she said, I mean, she saw the sky open when she thought
[5:34] you were dead, when no one told you, actually, and when she
[5:41] knew I was here, she didn' t care if I missed anything.
[5:44] She knew that, having life, we had everything and that we were going
[5:47] to get ahead and that we were going to fight to have the life we
[5:51] had and that nothing was going to be put ahead. See, there'
[5:56] s something that impresses me about you because I remember is that it' s
[6:00] one of these memories that you have in DNA, in Spain and in other
[6:05] parts of the world, but in Spain, Irene Villa and her mother,
[6:12] Mary Jesus are the first symbol of suffering. I mean, we' re
[6:16] all crying. We said it doesn' t fit on human head so much
[6:25] cruelty, that is, how someone can do that to a mother and a
[6:29] daughter. I want to tell you all about your life testimony, but the
[6:34] end is so beautiful. It' s not the end, but where you
[6:38] are. Now you say wow how this woman did it. Then they get
[6:42] to the hospital. It' s been a long time. So much because
[6:45] this leg saved me to my knee, blessed knee, thanks to which I
[6:49] climb stairs, but all my entire thigh is missing, because the bomb was
[6:54] underneath. Then I got a lot of grafts. Well, I know this
[6:59] was one of the various things I was saying that could have happened to me
[7:01] already. Now that there are techniques, a technology to heal wounds, there
[7:06] are some dressings and nothing to do with what was thirty- two years ago.
[7:11] I remember in linitulle the laser the short wave, I don' t
[7:14] know what is now amazing, how they glue skins, they do everything new.
[7:19] Surgery has improved infinitely. Then I spent seven months that was my home
[7:26] in the end. In fact, we spent old night there, we had
[7:30] a gomez party, which is a military hospital. I have never known this
[7:34] joy of all my companions of people who came to see me. Alejandro Sánz,
[7:38] acting singers, passed through to Infanta Elena. Well there was also the
[7:46] Spanish basketball team who found out it was my sport. There went the football
[7:50] players. Anyway, it was in seven very special months surrounded by a lot
[7:58] of affection, but also with a lot of pain to reopen and many operations
[8:03] to be able to have good, to be able to get out of there
[8:09] decently, because I really broke into the lutium they were taking Cassette tapes from
[8:13] the Beatles, that this reminds me of my doctor always because I say how
[8:18] can a tape get there, because there it had it and they had to
[8:20] heal many wounds. The bomb exploded and you have the cassette boxes from before
[8:24] and one of the bictles, a song that I always say was my song
[8:28] and it was even more so from there and Magin and Machi seems specific for
[8:33] that moment. I did not live in a world in peace and suddenly good,
[8:37] because those who do not live in peace with themselves, because they are
[8:43] at war with the planet. This was the case. So, on the
[8:48] one hand, there' s your father, your sister, living the situation
[8:52] of the two of you. How your mother does it, because you are
[8:56] now seeing that you have three children, so, of course, I think
[9:01] that when I don' t know if you' re going to pull,
[9:07] but I' m now seeing from a mother' s point of view what
[9:11] a mother can suffer no, and I think that now you' ve rewinded
[9:16] in many moments of your childhood thinking, but I understand my mother so much.
[9:18] Now that I' m a mother, of course you suffer. But
[9:20] as she says if you were alive, I mean, I thought I'
[9:28] d lose you, so, when you have your children here, whether it
[9:31] ' s with an illness, a disability, a difficult situation, something to
[9:35] overcome, you give yourself in body and soul to that child get through.
[9:39] That' s what my mother did with her example. In a month I
[9:41] was walking. I don' t know anyone who without a leg in a
[9:46] month already had an autonomous and normal life and without an arm, that the
[9:50] arm still didn' t have it, had it bandaged, but she already
[9:54] made up with her left hand ate, dressed everything to give me an example.
[9:56] To me, I mean, it' s amazing the extra motivation a
[10:00] mother has when you see you have to be your daughter' s mirror,
[10:05] so I understand it perfectly, but you were talking about my father and my
[10:07] sister and, indeed, look at what. I think they' ve been
[10:11] the real victims of all this. They' ve been filled with something that
[10:18] for me is much worse than a disability. It' s hate, it
[10:20] ' s rage, it' s no understanding. It' s why they
[10:22] wanted to leave me without sister and without mom and dad, why they broke
[10:26] my little sparrow' s wings that hadn' t turned on the flight for
[10:31] them has been so much harder all this. Emotional sequelae are always much harder
[10:35] to heal than physical ones. The physical ones, because you have no other
[10:43] than at that moment in medication, operations and then rehabitation, to walk again
[10:48] a lot of pain, lace prostheses that weigh a quintal not like those of
[10:52] now, that the legs of now are wonderful. I now even cross my
[10:56] legs, the knee is loaded at night so that when I walk I will
[10:58] not fall into the end anything to do with what I had before they were
[11:03] archaic. Then I had a motivation that was to walk, to learn to
[11:09] walk, but my sister did not have the psychological attention that there are today
[11:13] victims of terrorism. His only help was the neighbors and damp cloths on the
[11:18] forehead, as I tell in my book, which is amazing, how you
[11:22] can get out of such a traumatic situation in such a way to the bravas,
[11:28] as I say, i mean, you had to learn it. And,
[11:30] well, like so many people in places in the world where there are
[11:33] no certain psychological services and you have to face a war, terrible situations in
[11:41] a way as well as good, because now there are many people who are
[11:46] in the situation that you were when you were a child and in your mother
[11:52] ' s situation. So this testimony is gold, it' s gold because
[11:56] they' re living it right now and they see you and you say wow,
[12:01] that is, yes, you can, but it really does, so
[12:03] that' s what cost you the most in this growth process, that is,
[12:07] in your adolescence. I think the first thing is to accept your new
[12:11] body, that is, it' s completely changed your body scheme and it
[12:15] was a girl with very long legs, as my sister said, you'
[12:18] re worth a model, and the model suddenly looks in the mirror completely different
[12:24] from what all scars were and that' s half gone, so you say
[12:31] that' s me and I' ll always be like that. Here'
[12:35] s what we got. Sometimes I have to face our own fears and with
[12:41] my eyes open to the truth, you have to look him in the eyes.
[12:46] No hot baths, no cotton. And indeed, so I was alone
[12:54] in the end. I think the road finds it one as much as it
[12:58] is, that is to say, by looking at you in the mirror.
[13:01] Yeah. Yeah, yeah, I know, I did, my dad said
[13:03] cry, cry until you accept yourself. This was my psychological help and I
[13:09] cried. I screamed well, I remember in a hospital when I found out
[13:11] and I saw it good, horrible, but then it' s gonna be
[13:16] like this forever. No one told you, no, no one dared tell
[13:20] me and at what point you found out. Well, because he lifted the
[13:24] sheet when I was on the floor. I spent many days in the uzi
[13:26] and already on the floor, I say my legs and my father as I
[13:31] say this goes crying out of the room and comes a neighbor and already well,
[13:37] crying both. You tell me, yes, but you' re here.
[13:41] Okay. Anyway, you' re holding on to what you' ve
[13:43] got, and I want my mother now. I want good there I specifically
[13:48] tell all the dialogues that your eye here is in this grass is all and
[13:54] there well, my mother broke his phone so that I could not see my
[14:00] despair and my crying, because for my mother it would have also been a
[14:03] hammer. Then we were prevented from talking and I had to eat it alone,
[14:09] as we say here, and accept it and the truth that you would
[14:16] have done it differently. Now yes, and you have now seen what it
[14:18] would be like, because as then, I had a good time with psychological
[14:24] attention, of course, from the first moment I accompany you and after they
[14:31] hear you express yourself and help you. The main help in my case was
[14:35] the amputees who came to see me pity, which took a while, of
[14:37] course, because they first let me know that I only knew that it had
[14:41] happened. But as soon as I saw it, I remember perfectly. A
[14:45] girl named Carmen, who came in Metro and I, Dad came in Metrol
[14:48] and Zapatillas and looked and walked and taught me that she had prosthetics. I
[14:54] said that' s it. If she can, I why not. And
[14:58] this has been my mother. Others to see what can be done. I
[15:01] mean, if there are others who have achieved it myself because I' m
[15:03] going to be different and that was my goal to walk and have a normal
[15:09] life and indeed, that' s what I devoted myself to in body and
[15:13] soul and I got it right away. Besides, well, I got my
[15:15] classes back. I didn' t want to lose a course or crazy.
[15:18] I was always an alumni and I couldn' t repeat myself, so I
[15:22] joined the institute later. Three university careers, three careers and the world humanities,
[15:31] humanities and communications audiovisuo communications, what I work in media, in the
[15:35] press, but really what helped me was the sport, the knowing that it
[15:41] doesn' t matter, that you have a disability, that the important thing
[15:45] you have inside. And that wasn' t damaged. Fortunately, in the
[15:46] opposite direction, difficulty is enhanced in the face of adversity. You become a
[15:50] much stronger, much more resilient, much more powerful person. That you and
[15:56] I think it' s the majority. Yeah, I, yeah, I
[15:58] think there are people who do and don' t get up, don'
[16:03] t get up and or fall and get up, but they have hateful grudges.
[16:07] It' s good to forgive because you can walk now, but now
[16:14] you say good. I' m a teenager. I want to have a
[16:17] boyfriend, I want to have a little beer. I want to leave concerts
[16:25] how it was to have a life like that of a young woman, because
[16:30] at first she teaches on wheels because it was very difficult to move those legs
[16:36] that weighed a lot. And I remember now that you say the disco and
[16:41] go out the doorman driving almost down the stairs. I said I don'
[16:45] t want to be taken. I want to have no accessibility. I remember
[16:48] traveling to America. We were invited to some Spaniards settled in California. We
[16:53] were invited to spend a few days and I said this is paradise. Not
[16:57] only was everything adapted, but above all by going to Silla, you had
[17:02] priority in everything, in everything. It is true, as has happened in
[17:03] Spain, luckily, but in Madrid it cost me, it took me to
[17:11] avoid those barriers, architectural. Then I started walking and already phenomenal because I
[17:15] was going with my friends up and down with a crutch and very independent,
[17:22] and that was what I wanted and then right after I turned eighteen, I
[17:25] get my driver' s license, that this has been fundamental, because the
[17:29] car with our disability plate, because you can take it to park and it
[17:33] ' s easier and it' s easier, the more senses it starts you
[17:37] get spor in college you' re in the complutense people forgot about it or
[17:42] you talked about it they forget it. Disability is in your mind there are
[17:47] people who have nothing physically and yet, you have said it, because they
[17:49] live in spite of not forgiving in the complex, and that does limit your
[17:56] fear a lot more. It limits you a lot more than going in a
[18:00] chair. So with me, not the other way around that I' ve
[18:04] always been, that' s why I studied psychology. Then, because I
[18:07] worked on national radio, I was at the European University doing Indian visual communication
[18:11] and it was the shoulder of all my friends and friends for any problems,
[18:17] any situations, any decisions to make. They were asking me. And now
[18:21] that I do and now you see it as I always try to see the
[18:23] positive side, turn it around and get the best out, because I think
[18:26] we' re here for that, to enjoy and get the best out of
[18:30] life. Well I said to study psychology because in the end everyone asked me
[18:33] and I want to do it properly, not answer and help with a scientific
[18:37] basis and, indeed, I loved the race. Above all, I specialized
[18:41] in positive psychology. My lectures talk a lot about this. Sociability, sense
[18:45] of humor, resilience, optimism. I think those are our best allies that
[18:52] we all have, that the human being is resilient by nature, that I
[18:56] think he faces whatever comes, because at any age and under any circumstances,
[19:00] we are able to adapt to what is there. And this has been shown
[19:06] to us by the covid nineteen who have shown us this in any adverse situation.
[19:11] The human being, in the end adapts. And I love to know
[19:15] that there is nothing so dramatic and painful that it has not been overcome,
[19:19] that besides, it will force you to get your best version and that,
[19:22] besides, it will make you live conscious to things that you didn' t
[19:26] even notice before. Here' s a decision I think you two made the
[19:33] decision, because it' s not a real obligation is that I know people
[19:36] who fall into the hole for many lighter things. I think it' s
[19:40] a force here, it' s a decision, a conscious decision to take
[19:48] my legs off, but they' re not going to take my life,
[19:49] they' re going to make me stronger. Then you are already fully functional
[19:53] in society, because to me there is something that I carry very badly,
[19:56] which is injustice and impunity. I mean, how do you know there'
[20:00] s a person in there who didn' t just end someone else' s
[20:07] life on that day, who orphaned kids, but at the same time,
[20:12] he ended up with your legs, your mom' s. How do you
[20:18] learn to forgive, because it is a decision, as you rightly say,
[20:25] that frees you and benefits you. In the end, one does not forgive
[20:30] for the other. The other one. What you have to do, as
[20:30] you rightly say, is to serve your sentence and justice must do. Justice
[20:37] fulfilled it, not because it turns out that it has prescribed inculpable, but
[20:41] notice that chance so beautiful that just. On the twentieth of October, Saint
[20:45] Irene of two thousand eleven, Etta quits the weapons, stops killing just on
[20:52] the day of my saint, the day that prescribes our attack, if inculpable
[20:56] and the day I get pregnant with my first child, it is like closing
[21:00] a circle of a form of my children will never live terrorism, they will
[21:06] not have to wake up with the sound of a bomb, with the kidnapping
[21:11] of a father of family and well begins a new life that no one has
[21:17] fulfilled for what we have done. I do believe that life makes it pay,
[21:21] if not with jail, it is in his life. I' m
[21:25] sure, just like the one who does good receives good, because I,
[21:29] well, in my case, my mother, our family. I think it
[21:32] ' s an example of this. We have never taken justice by our hand,
[21:36] no victims of terrorism in Spain and yet, well, they have hurt
[21:41] us. But to forgive is to give good when you have received evil,
[21:47] and that is wonderful, that is kindness, to be loving, to be
[21:52] generous, to be that life. It rewards you, as we have rewarded
[21:55] with three children, for example, many more things, that is, when
[21:59] you come to that fart thought of how they did this to me, what
[22:04] you think have been wrong for fifty years have been sowing pain, going to,
[22:10] rage, unsuccessfully. You don' t ask for the independence of a
[22:17] part of your country by murdering this has been a historical mistake and a mistake
[22:27] that less has had a child, a mother. If I want to forgive
[22:32] myself, it' s hard for me to forgive. I don' t
[22:33] know if the pain is bad with injustice. It' s a subject,
[22:37] but not a little. With the injustice that someone skips their tail in fishing,
[22:40] I explain how I do it, I mean, look. I think
[22:45] there' s a phrase that defines me a lot and I love it and
[22:49] I think it helps us all. No. Pain is inevitable, but suffering
[22:52] is optional. Pain is therefore an attack, an illness, a difficulty in
[22:59] life, in adversity. It' s inevitable. No one knows when it
[23:04] comes or why and a cancer, but suffering is optional. You decide not
[23:11] to forgive that. You suffer self- pity, you suffer regret, you
[23:18] suffer We are not here to suffer. We' re here to face whatever
[23:21] comes. Yes to life with what comes, and life is love, but
[23:23] it is also pain. So, yes to life, yes to pain,
[23:27] not suffering. I spend a period of pain, because that stage is going
[23:32] to make me learn a lesson, it' s going to make me walk
[23:37] through a tunnel that then I' m going to see a bright light and
[23:41] an incredible reward, that I' m going to go with everything in that
[23:44] tunnel and that the person who' s going to leave that tunnel is not
[23:47] the same person who entered that tunnel, so that tunnel, in the end
[23:48] you tell him. Thank you, thank you, pain, because I'
[23:52] ve learned, I' ve grown, I' ve spread my wings.
[23:53] I have no other action left. You don' t know how strong it
[23:56] is until you' re strong. It' s your only choice, and
[23:59] it' s true that there' s the option of throwing yourself out and
[24:03] not getting up, but that option is against you, it' s against
[24:06] your self- esteem, it' s against your freedom. Your only choice
[24:07] is to get up and fight. The only option. I mean, I
[24:12] imagine the person who caused all this, because I think I' d say
[24:19] we didn' t achieve our goal if I came and apologized. Well,
[24:23] there' s one there' s a movie and they' ve made it
[24:29] a life to try this approach. As in our case, we don'
[24:32] t know who did it. I don' t need you to forgive me,
[24:37] yes, it' s true that if he' s going to stay
[24:41] calm asking me for forgiveness, I' m glad you asked me to.
[24:42] Me. What I want is for people to have inner peace in their hearts,
[24:47] because so no one will suffer again what I suffered, that is,
[24:51] I studied psychology also to put me in the skin, not only of the
[24:56] terrorist, because of that dangerous domestic violence that there is in many families,
[25:02] that person who hates his ex- wife and wants to destroy her. I
[25:06] ' ve tried to understand how we' re sometimes kidnapped by this rage,
[25:12] this spite, this revenge, that carries nothing good. I mean, everyone
[25:15] on their side and you' re no longer judging Bender, I think that
[25:21] ' s something universal international and I think that' s what we should all
[25:26] do. No, I mean, everyone who makes good what he understands in
[25:30] life, but you, forgive him, because sometimes he doesn' t know
[25:32] what he' s doing. But forgive him, don' t judge him
[25:37] Isn' t Bender there? I think that leaves us calm and, in
[25:40] the end, the goal of the human being is to enjoy, but also
[25:44] to find our balance in our inner peace. To not hurt anyone. You
[25:47] have your first child, second child, third child. First thing' s
[25:52] a surprise. This is still impacting. I was in full European championships.
[25:57] I had taken my license to buy. They have an adapted pine corner and
[26:02] suddenly I get pregnant and I can' t see that I was thirty-
[26:04] three, almost thirty- three years old. I remember the gynecologist told me
[26:08] you' re going to stop competing to be a mother and that' s
[26:11] where I dropped the card. He said oysters or. Be me here I
[26:15] say, but this is a gift from heaven. But in the beginning it
[26:17] really was like I wasn' t there I' d just gotten married.
[26:19] She' d been married in the movies for three months. It was a
[26:25] gift life sent me. Carlos told me he' s gonna turn twelve,
[26:30] I mean, it' s amazing. It is one thing that a master
[26:37] of life in all my stages has given me the word just and key.
[26:41] And the pregnancy was wonderful, because the geneticologist told me you can' t
[26:45] get more than nine kilos for your disability, because, of course, with
[26:48] the protests singing I walked up to Caesarean section day and took it phenomenal.
[26:53] I used to swim, do, take great care of my food and exercise
[27:00] the one I could and a perfect round tummy and nothing came out. And
[27:03] then a caesarean section and the second caesarean section, third caesarean section that I
[27:10] ' ve already been told three caesarean sections, there are already many are enough,
[27:15] but yes the truth is that very well pregnancies. I was very disciplined
[27:17] as in my life. I think in sport, in your professional life,
[27:19] in your pregnancies, you have to follow a series of guidelines. Discipline also
[27:25] costs sometimes, but it is I think the best expression of self- love
[27:30] we have. For example, I am now a little angry with myself because
[27:34] this to my father in the hospital and I have abandoned my pilates routine.
[27:38] You don' t know how I feel about my body, I mean,
[27:41] I don' t feel so agile, I don' t feel so free.
[27:44] That discipline that costs us benefits us. We have to have guidelines for
[27:48] food, exercise, nature, sport, breathing, that it' s self
[27:55] - love. We do this for ourselves, for feeling better and especially when
[27:59] we reach a certain age, because this year I will be forty- six
[28:04] in November and we have to be in shape. Who with two prosthesis plus,
[28:07] or you' re fit or at the end goes simple, that is,
[28:11] you have to be stronger than the rest. Your father and your sister
[28:14] forgave them, for it has cost them decades. I' m telling you
[28:21] no more. The truth that has been the most painful thing in the world
[28:23] is not to forgive. It' s a poison you take and it won
[28:30] ' t let you live, it won' t let you be happy contagions
[28:33] around you. Also, that distress in distress, and well it was thanks
[28:37] to my first novel, which is called Never too late, Princess, when
[28:40] my father said good, for it is never too late to forgive. You
[28:44] ' re right, I' m sorry, and my sister, Haya,
[28:48] very recently, has helped her very much by the FE. I mean,
[28:49] he' s very much in communion with the FAITH and that' s what
[28:55] has now made him forgive. Everyone has had their own process and she always
[28:57] tells me when I say live thirty years you have taken. He tells me
[29:03] each one takes their time. Little sister, I say well, nothing.
[29:06] Each one takes their time as soon as possible. Let us make an intelligent
[29:11] decision, for that extra time to enjoy, to live without suffering, that
[29:17] suffering is useless, It is totally useless. I forgive almost everything, but
[29:21] there is a little thing that suddenly in the head is called the exercise I
[29:26] should do in which I return to that thought. It hurts and that pain
[29:30] I think and if I hadn' t gone through this person and I mean,
[29:37] how do we stop that dynamic. He and if he is the greatest
[29:40] terrorist that exists, he is not a terror and such and such nothing is
[29:44] to stop thinking, not to let or get you in that way. Indeed,
[29:48] it is not necessary to look at those hypothetical cases that have not existed
[29:52] and we are no longer going back or to gain momentum. And there'
[29:56] s a key I think is important to everyone in any situation. If you
[30:03] look back, you can only do it by forgiving or thanking in the present,
[30:11] flowing with mindfulness, which is so fashionable the five senses here and now
[30:15] full attention, enjoying and in the future, with optimism and hope and a
[30:22] phrase that gives it to you and to put it into practice, because it
[30:26] really works. What can I do to avoid that discomfort because of the situation
[30:32] I have or the one that happened. To cooperate unconditionally with the inevitable?
[30:37] To cooperate unconditionally with the inevitable? For me, that' s the key
[30:44] to life, that' s the key when something happens to you, a
[30:48] cancer, because we' re going to dance this process together until you leave,
[30:52] until I' m cured let' s not accept it and embrace it,
[30:59] embrace the pain, until I heal we' re going to live together.
[31:00] And that' s it, so let' s live together. That
[31:03] ' s right. I' m going to kill you cancer, because there
[31:06] are techniques now and there are these medicines and there are some doctors. But
[31:10] you don' t deny that cancer, you don' t close your eyes,
[31:15] you don' t silence it, no, no, you don'
[31:18] t accept it, you hug it, but you tell it no good.
[31:21] I' m telling you, I' m kidding my kids I' ll
[31:23] kill you. I' m gonna kill you,' cause I' m
[31:27] gonna get stronger out of you. I think that' s life, not
[31:30] getting stronger, or we' re going to someone. For me this is
[31:33] the hardest thing to hold. I also tell in another book, in the
[31:36] eight thousand of my life, how my best friend, my ski partner,
[31:38] my confidante, a companion of endless nights and suddenly, went away because of
[31:45] a cancer that I had overcome years ago. Well, it' s gone.
[31:48] This is the hardest thing to hold. However, it' s also
[31:52] like you' re free Esther, it doesn' t hurt any more.
[31:56] Now you' re going, I' m going to hug that. We
[32:00] ' ll meet again when my time is up. Well, I think that
[32:05] everything in this life can be turned around for your emotional well- being and
[32:08] IT has been your turn to give life purposes to many people who at a
[32:14] certain point, felt it was over and made comment that thanks to IT is
[32:21] another episode of their life. I dedicate this program to you, to your
[32:25] mother, Mary Jesus, and to your family, to your father, to
[32:32] your sister, how important family is. You had a lot of bad luck
[32:42] with that event and you had a blessing with your family. Indeed, with
[32:50] my family and with a mother who has a positive attitude, a joy.
[32:55] She always says everyone' s obligation is to be happy and to those around
[32:59] you to make them happy. And I think I' ve grown up with
[33:02] that, with that maxim and that' s where I' m at now.
[33:06] It is my turn to help others to fulfill their dreams, my children
[33:08] to be little men, with values, with enthusiasm I hope with sport also
[33:15] that they love and with kindness and help that I believe that living turned on
[33:20] in others is the best way to also live to forget about our navel,
[33:23] that many of the problems if they would end if we stopped looking at our
[33:29] navel or nothing else. We are part of a community, we are a
[33:31] tribe with which let us focus on helping others and surely your problems disappear.
[33:37] He' s got Villa. This is your last book. To know you
[33:42] can. That' s a motto too forgives, thanks and trusts. Thank
[33:46] you very much. I hope to see you in America, in the United
[33:52] States or in Mexico, it has helped us a real pleasure and an honor
[33:55] to have you. Thank you very much, thank you very much. You
[33:58] like this testimony, you think I can help someone share it with you.
[34:12] Don' t forget to click on my social networks, which are Silvia Olmedo
[34:16] for YouTube, Silvia Olmedo for Instagram and Silvia Olmedo official for Facebook. And
[34:22] remember that, before judging to label a person, try to understand why faces
[34:28] we see suffering. We don' t know.

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