# 15 Things Women Do That Instantly Turn Men Off (Without Them Knowing It)

An episode of [Menisms](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1608929536), 19 Mar 2026, 1 h 22 min.

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There are some silent, unspoken things that turn us off the moment we spot them in a situationship or even a potential partner. The guys share personal experiences on this and more in this new episode of your favourite podcast. The conversations are real, funny and lowkey relatable at the same time. Enjoy. Feel free to drop us a comment. Got questions, feedback or want to share your experiences? 👉 https://forms.gle/5WkUNhx1fzPbubpy7 Follow the guys: Isyomar: https://www.instagram.com/isyomar/ Murewa: https://x.com/olumurewa?t=OYgAtjTrJQLWUWG5YmyvLA&s=0S

## Transcript

[0:00] Someone has given me the ick when you can't understand the
[0:03] value of someone's belongings and so you just do them.
[0:07] Anyhow, there was one time someone came over to my house
[0:09] one time. What did I see?
[0:10] She put her cup of tea on top of my laptop.
[0:13] Hey, I wanted to go. What's up, guys?
[0:22] Welcome back to another episode of your favorite podcast.
[0:25] Name is very. Welcome, Claire and.
[0:27] I'm Mr. Mark. I want to and.
[0:28] This is another week of a beautiful episode of a beautiful
[0:31] episode of Menisms. What's up my G about our body?
[0:36] So permit me remarks I'm feeling how's the week permits me.
[0:40] I just want you guys to go on the memory laying down with me
[0:43] right now. I feel really, really, really
[0:44] good, Really, really great. Why?
[0:46] Because I just want to send a shout out to Max Darwin, the
[0:51] young phenomenon. If you don't know what I'm
[0:53] talking about, I'm talking about us now because I'm a gonna fan.
[0:55] My counterpart here movie was Manchester United fan and he
[0:58] doesn't really care that much about football like me.
[1:01] But like I said, take let me take you.
[1:03] Let me take you on a trip down memory lane.
[1:06] It all started when a young boy is your man.
[1:09] I that is you know, when I started getting the idea of
[1:13] football or soccer, I was bemused by play.
[1:17] I saw he had a number seven. I was like, who's that said is
[1:20] David Beckham? Oh my God, Benny like Becks.
[1:24] I was on Beckham's nuts for the longest.
[1:25] Oh my God, I loved who is this guy?
[1:27] That was that was my guy. Then guess what happened?
[1:30] He went to Madrid heart attack. I'm like, what happens?
[1:34] So they can leave the team mean like this person cannot, he can
[1:38] leave. I was heartbroken.
[1:40] I didn't have a team no more. I didn't have no one to support.
[1:43] I was just in the in the in the shadow.
[1:46] Then lo and behold, one bright day, I just saw the TV screen.
[1:50] There was a young chap running down the corner, flanks,
[1:54] sprinting in. When the number 14, I said, who
[1:57] is this? Chairman said his name was Terry
[2:01] Henry. Oh, God, no, no.
[2:03] Also known as Igui. Then I fell in love with soccer
[2:07] again. But as I was growing up, I
[2:10] realized that, OK, they can move.
[2:12] What team does he support? They said Arsenal.
[2:15] They're known as the Gunners. That was so cool.
[2:18] I became a Gunner. You get me?
[2:21] Then Henry left, was sad to see. What would I do?
[2:26] I stayed with the Arsenal because now I knew what he was.
[2:29] To be part of a team. You get me.
[2:32] And since then, oh God, I've been going through tribulations.
[2:38] I've come second so many times I can't count.
[2:43] But right now there's hope. There's a bright light in the
[2:47] horizon. Guy, you guys, I'm happy.
[2:50] I feel like I'm a guy I'm going to carry this, this this league.
[2:53] I don't even care about Champions League.
[2:55] I don't care about any other cop right now me.
[2:57] So my thing is I don't care. All I want is my Premier League
[3:01] title. I feel like I'm going to shed
[3:03] tears that day. See, like everybody thinks I'm
[3:06] joking. I'm going to shed some tears
[3:08] because man to my arsenal found out that you guys know what
[3:11] we've been going through. You know what I'm saying?
[3:14] So man to the Gunners guys, we did your Buckman.
[3:18] Thank you all. Thank you all.
[3:20] Just need to share that story. Well, I mean, I imagine that
[3:24] it's very well impacted on all these people because again, it's
[3:29] been what, 2 decades since Arsenal's seen a Premier League
[3:33] victory? So that's lazy.
[3:35] So fair enough, you know, I mean, we can't really say much
[3:38] about it being a Maya fan in this in these times.
[3:42] I'm. Not talking about Maya right
[3:43] now. I'm talking about something else
[3:44] guys, as we're saying. What's going to happen?
[3:48] There's another reason why I wouldn't make any comments,
[3:49] right? But we, we know who we know and
[3:52] you know, we're still our team for life.
[3:55] All right now Arsenal believes, like we always believe, that the
[3:58] Premier League victory is in view.
[4:00] I guess we'll just wait and see. I can not going to make any
[4:03] comments. We'll just wait and see.
[4:04] Taste it all right, the tip of my tongue, No problem.
[4:08] So I guess on that note, fingers crossed until when the EPL is
[4:11] done and then we come back with some reviews.
[4:12] But then we're going to talk about what happened last week.
[4:17] One of the things that really resonated with me, not resonated
[4:19] actually one of the things that threw me off balance, pissed me
[4:23] off. So if you guys remember, you
[4:25] spoke, I think in the previous episode about this lady who got
[4:28] bullied by the Minister of works, according to her.
[4:31] And, you know, she had gone over the entire Internet talking
[4:35] about, gone all over the Internet talking about money
[4:39] being owed to her for work that she had done, you know, for a
[4:42] very long time that she hadn't been paid for years and blah,
[4:44] blah, blah. The whole of the Internet was
[4:47] coming out, coming, coming together with her backing up,
[4:51] you know, everything she wanted to do and see.
[4:52] And just, you know, we're trying to give as much support as
[4:55] possible. So many politician personalities
[4:59] were coming in and helping her. So many people were just, you
[5:01] know, because we all were like, no to bullying.
[5:03] There's just no need for you to behave like this to another
[5:05] Nigerian citizen that has clearly done the work and just
[5:08] deserves to get paid. Fast forward to what just about
[5:14] two a a dated 2 days ago, three days ago, she tenders an apology
[5:20] for defaming the minister of works for having to speak
[5:25] wrongly of him and his actions and just basically retract or
[5:29] redact everything she had said. And you don't need a rocket
[5:34] scientist to tell you that, you know, she's obviously been paid
[5:38] to 1, not just be silent, but two to take back her words,
[5:42] which means that the things that were meant to be held dear,
[5:46] things that are meant to be held as integrity, which is you can't
[5:48] silence me because you've treated me badly.
[5:50] We're all taken out the window for, I guess, a price.
[5:53] So I guess the resonance, everybody has a price.
[5:55] It's sad to see. And you know it, it pays me more
[6:00] because to some extent I felt like this was, you know, the
[6:03] inception of something changing, you know, you know, when you
[6:06] just know that, you know, there's about to be a turn
[6:07] around. You know, people are beginning
[6:08] to wake up. People are begin to open their
[6:10] eyes by trying to take back our country, for lack of a better
[6:15] word. That entire ordeal was just
[6:17] extremely disgusting. I me watching her say I'm sorry,
[6:20] but I'm not really well, I was. I couldn't watch the entire
[6:23] video and I, I just couldn't. I just couldn't.
[6:25] What do you think about it? Me, I was going to say this
[6:29] here. Me personally, I'm not advocate
[6:31] for anybody again, feel like be right to be wrong, go be
[6:35] anything. I'm not advocate for anybody
[6:37] again because we haven't talking about this one.
[6:40] You've not forgotten how we we we haven't vexing for the girl
[6:43] that claimed she got assaulted Bam you know I've talked to
[6:46] another thing then this woman's one too just fell out now, man
[6:50] bro I'm I'm I think I'm I'm good right now because they took our
[6:54] source said it now say everybody has integrity to depress you
[6:57] that let's there you go let's say I go That's because man it
[6:59] makes no sense whatsoever. I was beyond shocked.
[7:04] So it is because L that is his saving face.
[7:06] You've everything you've said that person is not trying to
[7:09] cover and like you know, you've come back now to say, oh, I'm
[7:13] sorry, this I shouldn't have done this within the.
[7:16] I was really. We, we.
[7:18] We. I was beyond shocked.
[7:20] Like I can't. I can't even.
[7:21] Me I didn't pay me but what I don't do now not me, not me they
[7:24] oh, it's not me that oh, that was odd exactly not me.
[7:27] That was Steven paid the same thing.
[7:29] So manager that I'm advocating for anybody a gay man everybody
[7:33] bear cross. Don't don't call for don't don't
[7:36] don't call to social media and be crying for the masses.
[7:40] No, no, but I don't do again. I'm not.
[7:42] I'm OK. Remember?
[7:43] I guess you. Yeah, you're you.
[7:45] Sorry to Joe. It's whoever it is and I don't
[7:47] want to know about it. Yeah.
[7:48] So then, then there's even the secondary school bullying that
[7:51] happened. I think it was an immunity on
[7:53] camera, if I'm correct. One thing I want to say right to
[8:00] because I know that parents who say that they're doing the best
[8:02] they can to make sure their kids aren't bullies in school, right?
[8:06] But I think one thing we fail to forget is the person being
[8:10] bullies, another person's child. So if you're being negligent,
[8:13] you know, some people actually know that their children are
[8:15] very badly behaved and they just allow them to do their thing
[8:17] because, well, they want to give their child a better life.
[8:20] They want to, they want to just spoil them.
[8:21] Whatever the case, I've always tried to wrap my head around how
[8:26] bullies get to be bullies. To that extent.
[8:28] It's understandable when you don't have a guardian, you know,
[8:30] maybe you're raised in a different arrangements, you
[8:33] don't have any parents. Maybe you're even in a foster
[8:34] home and that foster home is what sent you to school.
[8:36] Different arrangements, fair enough.
[8:39] But when you're raised in a two parents household, even if it's
[8:42] a one parent household, at what point does the child become the
[8:46] bully? And then to the point where he
[8:48] also carries that bully, Where, where do they get it from?
[8:51] You know, how did they carry that on to school to the point
[8:53] where you even get expelled from the school?
[8:55] Like what, what, what really goes on?
[8:57] Because I feel like, yes, I understand the dynamic for
[9:00] power. Don't get me wrong, right?
[9:01] I went to a boarding school as well.
[9:03] I understand the dynamic for a senior versus a junior
[9:05] situation, but also I'm sure you can really, I also feel like
[9:09] there are sometimes that you look at certain seniors and you
[9:12] to consider they're not being mean, but it's just the dynamics
[9:14] of the school, you know, not that they're bullying you per
[9:16] SE, but that character development, you know, or help
[9:18] me go fetch my water. They're not doing anything to
[9:20] harm you per SE. At no point where they actually
[9:23] put you in harm's way when they see that the situation is is
[9:25] beyond you, Don't worry, you can't leave it.
[9:30] Not me sympathizing with them, but I understand that they're
[9:32] they're working within a dynamic of, you know, because I guess
[9:35] they've also experienced younger students who become rude and
[9:38] they open their mothers are seeing whatever they need.
[9:40] But at what point do you draw the line as a as a kid or even
[9:43] as a parent to school your children to let them know?
[9:45] Look, do the parents actually call the church and say, Hey,
[9:48] you're going to that school? I don't want to hear you
[9:49] bullying nobody. You are.
[9:51] You call my home in my act timid, but I know yourself.
[9:54] I can see that you have tendencies of bullying you, you
[9:57] put your shit together, you act right.
[9:59] Get to that school. I don't want to hear anything
[10:00] about bullying. I don't feel like, I don't feel
[10:02] like a lot of parents actually sit down to do that.
[10:06] I would say that is because a lot of the bullies, they're not
[10:09] bullies at home, that's at home. Yeah, gentle children.
[10:13] Yeah, Mommy's boy. The the truth when it comes to
[10:15] this particular topic is it's it's a thing of putting it
[10:20] wrong. I'm going to say that all right,
[10:21] yes, bullying is wrong. It's not right.
[10:23] It doesn't make any sense. Someone should not go through
[10:25] school and have to have that fear of like it's obviously we
[10:28] focus on reading your book. We focus on the but what is
[10:32] messed up about it the most is is it something that has been
[10:34] embedded in us from time, especially all these boarding
[10:36] schools. What could you say happen to
[10:37] again I cheat you not and I guarantee you ask anybody that
[10:41] went to what he saw, they'll tell you, Oh my God, and you
[10:45] don't do anything there. My God, I went to was telling me
[10:49] the same thing. Say ah, guess what?
[10:50] That's the way he has been programmed.
[10:51] That's the way he got He got to boy.
[10:53] He was telling me say, bro, you might wish.
[10:55] Obviously those are the roommates say before your senior
[10:58] who goes to bully yourself, your mates was like he do or die
[11:02] fight or flight type situation and if you can't fight, you're
[11:04] going to get bullied. That was the way it was in most
[11:07] of these boarding schools or whatever.
[11:09] I went to the last three for a bit No still, it was the same
[11:13] persona. Once I attaches to you see just
[11:16] one boy as big as tall, as tall as God knows what's here.
[11:20] I'll tell him new down he got a new down.
[11:22] You get If he doesn't need that now is she's disrespecting me
[11:26] then, even if I can't tender his even if I can't beating yeah my
[11:31] guys, you got a brushing. That was the MO that time you
[11:35] get again. So it was it's bad.
[11:37] Now when I sit back and look at it, I'm like, damn, like we
[11:41] didn't have to do all that. We didn't have to go through all
[11:43] that stuff because I've been bullied.
[11:46] I've been on the other side too. Because it was like, you go, I
[11:49] will collect my own noun when I reach there.
[11:51] You say if you go collect, but I didn't stay there for long.
[11:53] I left. I went to these schools, but I
[11:55] just stopped those hard life. But let's.
[12:00] Say no to bullying, though. Yeah, I say no to bullying, but
[12:02] like, I'm just saying like, it happens so much.
[12:04] And it's not just this. Almost anybody school man, many
[12:07] of them could not Barack jungle Actually that was just the OP
[12:12] even as as as doing with the nearby year.
[12:16] The people in the hostel. It was an Abbai too.
[12:19] You gotta go. Once you just enter, just enter
[12:22] a hostel like this. They have.
[12:23] This is like a do or die dog dog.
[12:27] So far the fittest our family who's the strongest?
[12:30] Who's this for reason for no reason unknown to man.
[12:34] You just come and like this guy's the strongest guy in the
[12:36] set. Why that person?
[12:39] Never for this nobody. He just giving that person that
[12:42] this thing and that person is coming you now he believes you
[12:45] have to fight that guy to prove himself and stuff like that.
[12:47] So it is really bad man. I would like and it's good now
[12:51] that phones did that you can see all these things because that
[12:54] yeah, when you go now you tell your parents whatever they would
[12:57] say they lie would be like how you tell them that time that
[13:00] somebody use iron to burn our student chess in school.
[13:03] They say how nobody wants to believe this video evidence for
[13:06] everything like. So it really messed up man,
[13:10] because when I looking back at it man, I don't want to go to
[13:13] school. I'm thinking after dodgy senior
[13:15] or whatever because almost you don't want me this guy George
[13:18] near you. I guess I'm seeing as they look,
[13:20] you know, give them my contact. Just why are you living like
[13:24] that? And.
[13:24] You see, while you're living in the fear, you're also honing
[13:27] yourself. You're also.
[13:28] Like, yes, now, because once you grow to that level, yes, and now
[13:31] we can't be senior be no reason for no reason that, you know,
[13:37] collect just because waiting to see when so is it like a
[13:41] vicious, very, very vicious cycle.
[13:43] So it's messed up like, you know, well, so.
[13:46] Unfortunate, you know. We need to, I think actually my
[13:48] problem again is the schools. Yeah, the schools.
[13:51] Where are the teachers? Where are the people?
[13:52] They need to be more strict on this P And is a thing of this
[13:56] person does this thing, they go instantly.
[13:58] They go, they go, they go, they go.
[13:59] But you see where the person doing this stuff, His father did
[14:03] one library. I ain't going nowhere so.
[14:05] They're like, oh. Sorry, how?
[14:06] Now I want to talk to the kid. How now I want to.
[14:09] So yeah, man, something like that, yeah.
[14:11] But yeah, on a lighter note, though, Michael B Jordan won the
[14:15] Oscars for, you know, best actor, I feel it was very
[14:18] deserving. Very, very deserving.
[14:19] Yeah, I saw a comedy show. I knew it's 'cause after this
[14:22] scammed in. Exactly.
[14:23] But let me also say this, though, like I feel like we're
[14:26] in an age now where we need to just boycott these.
[14:29] Why is Oscars the standard? You know, I mean, I know that's
[14:33] me reaching, you know, but even then I'm like, you know, Africa
[14:36] needs to or even even the black community beyond just Africa, we
[14:40] need to actually just create our own standards of what we believe
[14:44] is fine filming or boy, again, like I said, it's me reaching
[14:47] because I get tired of the fact that Oscar's the standard for
[14:51] what we believe is best acting. These are these are let me not
[14:57] even get into the realm of that discussion.
[14:58] But, you know, the people that are making these decisions are
[15:01] literally making it out of yeah, let's give him.
[15:05] We know that. Yeah, let's give him.
[15:06] Like there's not. Really.
[15:07] But me to be honest, I feel like the the award should I like the
[15:10] most. Me personally, yeah, I like your
[15:12] stress awards. OK, fair enough.
[15:14] Because as if they're not coming also, but from what's the award
[15:18] is it's good that you're feeling all this power to that are
[15:22] voting saying this is what I want now in school at the end of
[15:24] the why don't 1 is not so great because some people might just
[15:27] like somebody. They don't really care if what
[15:30] he did was be just fans. But I like that view.
[15:32] I stress I want all these Oscars.
[15:34] He has to be. There's a lot of politics
[15:36] involved. Yeah, there's a lot of politics
[15:37] involved, but The thing is that sometimes when they CC the new
[15:41] fee. You have to play the game you
[15:43] have. To play the game, that's.
[15:44] Unfortunate, unfortunate. I mean, even down to the
[15:46] Grammys, the Grammys, we all still just playing the game.
[15:48] Because you see where an African artist is the best artist in
[15:52] this country, but because he hasn't won a Grammy, then it's
[15:53] not supposed to be recognizable. And I'm just thinking, what do
[15:55] you mean by that? His talent is clearly not
[15:57] questionable. You're saying that in black
[15:59] people who did you on a beat, you know?
[16:02] But even then, so that one started getting because I felt
[16:04] like they followed the same formula.
[16:06] It started off as the good intention.
[16:08] I felt like overtime beats started following the same
[16:10] formula to some extent. Because in the end, I guess
[16:12] politics feels politics, you know.
[16:15] So politics, Yeah. But I mean, Congrats to him
[16:17] again. I mean, like you said, sorry
[16:19] from a mile away. So I think, I think it was a, it
[16:21] was already, it was already expected.
[16:23] It was. I need to watch the news again
[16:24] man. It's really it's such a good
[16:26] movie, by the way, such. AI think that that that parts
[16:28] with the the shot which is factory where everybody says is
[16:31] basically the main part of the movie with the transition of
[16:33] music the whole. Music of transition.
[16:37] So like. Odin to watch hip hop scenes and
[16:39] she was Bellizimo. This direction and this
[16:44] direction. Well, beautiful.
[16:46] Well, beautiful. No, no, no.
[16:47] But again, I think it's definitely it's worth a rewatch.
[16:53] So again, we're not we're not that podcast that likes to
[16:55] complain about, you know. Like PSA for for my ladies, I
[17:06] know that you guys always want Amanda would drive you crazy,
[17:09] but for a price where they go now can't really work out, you
[17:14] might probably get a guy that walk.
[17:16] You crazy because there won't be that much driving.
[17:22] I'm sorry. That much driving.
[17:26] The petrol prices now. The problem is that thing is
[17:29] just doing you come to these 120 you come tomorrow is 1059
[17:35] connection is 1200. Now you didn't do that also like
[17:39] original 5 on code what did these guys?
[17:43] 1230. Oh yeah, same here and.
[17:46] I just told 235 or 233 or whatever.
[17:48] I go 220. So, and I'm just like, is this,
[17:52] is this really a reality? It's also this is not we didn't
[17:57] slowly go from 890 or 860 to 900 to 920 to the we're from 864 to
[18:03] 1002, 100 exactly. Just round it to make it 505
[18:12] hundred is 1/3 crazy. I kind of wrap my head around
[18:16] it. The average there's no there's
[18:19] no opera. There's no, there's no, there's
[18:23] no. I know.
[18:24] Shorts anybody angry they got a voice to Roy gay man, they opera
[18:29] opera where we want opera from it was this what happened in on
[18:33] the east side shout out to my east side boys man, I'm happy
[18:38] that made me so happy they did that bro.
[18:41] It made me so happy, that made me proud.
[18:42] They scattered the movement that.
[18:45] Made me proud. City boy call City boy.
[18:48] Which guy? Which guy?
[18:50] And you know, you know, I saw another video as well that in
[18:52] Port Harcourts, the APC guys went to scatter an ABC
[18:55] functional and you see it just it's reality war, no?
[18:59] It's not really matter what levels man is just number one.
[19:01] I like the fact that what this is give.
[19:04] Me. Tit for tat, give me.
[19:05] My story, it's not really tit for tat thing bro.
[19:07] City boys go village. The village boy, the young guy
[19:10] put him outside stage on we won't go.
[19:11] How now? You know the people that are
[19:13] suffering then man. Also to remind me that your
[19:17] fellow citizens are going to be voting for you have been
[19:20] collecting bags of rice. Oh, and not just that, they'd be
[19:23] collecting bags of rice and taking a picture with their
[19:25] voters card. Not even sure what that means.
[19:28] Is that an assurance that, Oh yeah, this is my card, I'm going
[19:31] to be able to vote for you, APC while I'm collecting this bag of
[19:34] rice? And if you look at the
[19:36] unhappiness in each of their faces, it's only like, so what's
[19:38] the motive? What's the Because I know they
[19:39] know. My question is just.
[19:41] How that is not going to be? I know they know that one life.
[19:44] That's if you know chop I'm the way Nigeria the job arm is not
[19:47] going to pass one month. One month.
[19:49] If you chop it away, we chop away.
[19:50] Rice is on everyday's tease that Rice is not going to last a
[19:54] month. It's not.
[19:56] And then beyond that, then what? OK.
[19:57] Then what? Then what they got another four
[19:59] years of you got. First of all, you guys knew
[20:02] that. The reason why they have not put
[20:06] this tax fee is because it's campaign times.
[20:10] Oh yes. Hey, don't be dismayed dude.
[20:11] They don't want, they don't want Nigerians to just be upset.
[20:13] I'm talking in general. Yeah, they also lose.
[20:15] So me, God knows I will be good. Me Jesus name Amen, I will be
[20:20] good. But no, no, no, no, no.
[20:25] Well. Let's just say we'll keep
[20:26] watching. You know, I, I feel like I think
[20:29] we should. Watch you, everybody.
[20:30] Everybody, be vigilant. We are angry.
[20:32] Enough yet we are angry enough yet, but not angry enough yet,
[20:35] but it's all good. So before we go into today's
[20:39] dilemma we have we have a game to play this week, but it's
[20:44] riddles. It's riddles this time.
[20:47] Let's see if I'm going to be locked in this week.
[20:50] All right, so we have two riddles today and the first one
[20:53] is I have branches, but no fruit trunk or leaves.
[20:57] What am I? This is way too easy in my bank.
[20:59] Like what? This is Wait, give us some
[21:02] stuff. This is a redo.
[21:04] Give us some hard stuff. Come on man, a bank.
[21:08] Really. Really.
[21:10] OK, and the second one is a man who was outside in the rain
[21:14] without an umbrella or hat, didn't get a single hair on his
[21:17] head wet. Why?
[21:18] Because this side is your wife's because.
[21:21] This is your MA. Pew Pew Pew Pew Pew Pew Pew Pew
[21:28] Pew Pew Pew many men. Which death.
[21:39] I'm just going to leave this with sushi.
[21:40] No one enter like back a lot sushi because actually guys, do
[21:46] you guys think someone gets the hair on his head wet from rain?
[21:49] We hold on. Is there any hair?
[21:55] It's all over here, guys. It's all over here.
[21:57] It's all over here. I hope.
[22:01] All right, So we're going to go into today's dilemma.
[22:03] No. No.
[22:04] What's the answer for that reason now, bald guy?
[22:08] Was that the answer? That's actually the answer.
[22:10] Pew Pew. Pew.
[22:12] Pew Pew Pew. Back of house Sam is coming for
[22:22] you. I.
[22:28] Thought you were joking. You've been joking.
[22:29] I see. I've been looking for a minute,
[22:32] bro. All right, so let's go into
[22:39] today's dilemma. We have a short 1 today.
[22:41] This is from Ricky. It says what I've been.
[22:45] I've been wait sorry. OK well I've been a quiet, timid
[22:49] and introverted guy all my life. Not so social.
[22:53] It's has friend group and virtually inside on social.
[22:57] Sorry virtually invisible on social media.
[23:00] Only people close to me have seen the interesting side of me.
[23:03] Now now done with uni and facing life.
[23:06] How do I become more outgoing and make myself more visible to
[23:09] get more friends and dating prospects?
[23:11] I'm a visual artist. I do mainly with painting and
[23:14] I'm in my space. The loudest and most visible
[23:17] gets fed. Sorry the loudest and most
[23:20] visible gets fed. So this will help that area too.
[23:24] I'm 23 by the way. I have been a fan for a year
[23:27] now. I keep sorry I have been a fan
[23:29] for a year now. Keep doing the good work fam.
[23:32] OK so let me just believe that I understand because the wordings
[23:34] they were a little bit off. So basically is just a guy.
[23:37] He's 23, he's just finished from uni.
[23:40] He's trying to be more outgoing than introverts.
[23:44] He's he's into visual artistry and he does paintings mainly
[23:49] According to him. And so he says that he's trying
[23:53] to find out what he can do to get himself more out there more.
[23:58] He be more outgoing and just basically be more visible, you
[24:01] know, and also get more friends and dating prospects.
[24:06] OK, me, I'm going for the only advice may have for you or let
[24:09] me say the only advice. But like the first thing I'll
[24:11] say is for some that has been introverts, you don't like going
[24:14] out and stuff Can't just jump all day like that.
[24:16] If you never work out so easily, you can't just go straight into
[24:20] I'm just going from I'm going to the river, I'm going to this
[24:22] event. Now, if you do not already,
[24:24] because from what you said, it doesn't seem like you do.
[24:27] Go to the gym. Go to the gym.
[24:30] Pretty interesting advice actually.
[24:32] Well, I say go to the gym is that you might go to the gym the
[24:33] first week you still be to yourself, but that's one of the
[24:36] easiest place to make acquaintance with people.
[24:39] That's when you can never start. OK, you're talking to people.
[24:41] Then also they have a community like the gym community is a is a
[24:45] safe place for someone that is not normally arguing, you know,
[24:49] go out seriously with actually every every random gym.
[24:52] They have that community, whatever.
[24:54] So it is really such a safe place for someone that is an
[24:57] introvert that will get you out of the show more than from
[24:59] there. You can now start OK, hey, these
[25:02] guys are going to this P. Let me tag along small yet.
[25:05] Then there's all these. Just just go to the gym and he
[25:08] just starts mingling and stuff. I hear that.
[25:12] You know what, now that he's on that, I'm going to just spin off
[25:14] that advice because he's he's actually, he's actually like
[25:16] spot on. Apart from gym, just any kind of
[25:19] sporting activity, football, basketball, long tennis, table
[25:25] tennis, snooker, any literally any kind of sporting activity
[25:29] would get you to grow a certain community that will be outside,
[25:32] but not really. It's a it's a nice soft landing
[25:34] for somebody who's got an who's got an extrovert, you know, but
[25:37] you're trying to get out there. It's a good balance.
[25:39] Because what that means is you would partake in tournaments
[25:42] even at the point where you get good in this.
[25:44] So, you know, if I take it like light competitions at the gym,
[25:46] they'll tell you, OK, let's do press off competitions.
[25:48] Let's see how many press offs you can go.
[25:49] Let's do like PR for bench lifting, you know, just stuff
[25:52] that will really get you engaged in wanting to be a part of the
[25:54] community. Playing sports is the same
[25:57] thing. You know, you find people who
[25:58] are like minded, like you because from just the sports
[26:01] talk, you hear people talk about their personal lives and you
[26:04] begin to click, you know, you begin to see that, oh, they're
[26:07] actually people with like similar interests.
[26:09] You begin to find out there are people who actually like, you
[26:11] know, visualize this, feel like what you're into.
[26:13] You like there are people who like paintings and you know,
[26:15] they get to know that you like painting just based on the fact
[26:17] that, you know, you come to the gym with them or you go to play
[26:20] table tennis with them or whatever the case.
[26:21] So I think that's a very spot on advice.
[26:24] Find either a gym or some sort of sporting activity and just
[26:27] get started on that. And I think from there you see
[26:29] where the thing leads. Usually I'll start with just one
[26:31] node. Exactly and if I want node is
[26:34] next week so from third not cool by Wednesday, shake handshake by
[26:38] Friday. What's your name next?
[26:41] Week I got you to come out this thing with it that simple bro.
[26:44] Literally, literally within a month, you'll see instant
[26:47] change. All right guys, on to today's
[26:48] topic. We're going to be talking about
[26:49] something very interesting Today.
[26:51] We're going to be talking about the X that women give men.
[26:56] So I'm pretty sure that you know, I'm sure you guys you've
[26:58] seen on social media how you know there was 1.
[27:01] So before we even get into this, I'll just give you context about
[27:03] one ich I heard that's a guy had.
[27:08] We feel like a guy had the ich for the girl the girl had
[27:11] because every. Time the girl gave him the ich.
[27:13] OK, the girl gave him the yes. So what you know the popular one
[27:16] is the guy giving. Yeah, that's.
[27:18] Bro it's been on my timeline. See, I've heard some, someone
[27:21] said. You know what gives?
[27:23] Had ache. He has a mother.
[27:27] Like as opposed to what? As opposed to what?
[27:33] That that person was definitely Yankee because now bro there.
[27:41] Was one before we get in. There was just one that I heard
[27:44] until today. He drives me insane, she said.
[27:49] She had the that was give her the ick was give her the ick
[27:54] was. He was trying to cut into the
[27:56] queue with his car. They didn't let him as soon as
[27:59] time they didn't let him. I'm like just.
[28:02] Give me the why? Because you can't even command
[28:04] his space in track. I'm like, what command Your
[28:07] headlights come out from your car?
[28:10] I couldn't believe. I couldn't believe that was what
[28:12] I understood that OK, the battle line is drawn.
[28:14] OK, OK, fair enough, Fair enough.
[28:16] Fair enough. Before we get into it, do you,
[28:18] do you have off the top of your head, do you have that one ick
[28:21] that you think someone gave you that till today you still like I
[28:25] remember this person giving me this ick.
[28:27] Do you have anyone that you can think of right now like it's on
[28:29] top of your head? This one, I remember it.
[28:32] I have one. Right.
[28:33] Please give me a call right now as you just question those I
[28:36] need to. Dig into the archive I.
[28:38] Stopped all those icky people. Don't kill me, please.
[28:45] So the one I remember very clearly, I definitely got the
[28:51] equine. So I went out and like just
[28:54] launched dates, maybe even an ice cream dinner about she ate,
[28:58] she ate her food and ate my food on.
[29:03] A Liono. It was the first and last time
[29:08] like she seemed like a fun person.
[29:12] She seemed like a you know, in fact, let me tell you.
[29:15] So I was still trying to be. I was trying to be
[29:17] understanding, you know, because I'm like, it's too quick for an
[29:21] Igna calm down. She ate her food right?
[29:24] She looked like she wanted seconds.
[29:25] I'm like, do you want more? You could just order much yes,
[29:27] order more. You ordered more.
[29:31] Now while she had finished her first and ordered more, I was
[29:34] still on my own food right, Because for me, I wasn't really
[29:36] there for the food. I was there for connection,
[29:38] whatever the case, and so she was done with her second round.
[29:43] Wasn't like a lot of food person, but just done with her
[29:45] second round, right. Even if Hungary catch you hold
[29:48] yourself till you get home as you get to now.
[29:51] Now she was done with hers. She saw that I wasn't done with
[29:53] mine and maybe I was eating a little slowly.
[29:56] I looked at me. She was looking at my food and
[29:59] then I was just like she didn't she didn't put I just looked at
[30:03] her. You know, you look like I used
[30:05] to eating that. I just I just you know, I helped
[30:07] her and I said, do you want to have my food?
[30:10] She's like, you don't mind? I was just like, oh hell no,
[30:14] like you said that sound Oh hell no, like what the fuck?
[30:19] That's that's what I was just like, Nah, I was trying my best.
[30:22] I was. I was giving a.
[30:23] Chance to catch a person on the bad hungry.
[30:25] What the fuck is bad hungry? What are you talking about?
[30:27] Like what do you mean? Like no matter how badly hungry
[30:31] you are, you behave yourself. Like come on other produced like
[30:35] Nah, this What's no way we go out, you eat your food and my
[30:39] food instant egg instance instance.
[30:44] In fact, I can even push it a bit further.
[30:46] We go out, I order, you order, but you are still hungry.
[30:50] What are the second round of yourself?
[30:52] Because again, we didn't come here for free food.
[30:55] Except we're already at a place where I like you, right?
[30:58] But we're getting to nature. I meet you for the first time
[30:59] for the first time. We've never seen her before for
[31:01] the first time. And that's your first
[31:03] impression. That that just goes to the same
[31:05] is like you know that ache of like when you meet somebody
[31:09] first for the first time you only this one the person is
[31:10] overheating and. You just order everything.
[31:13] Come on. It's like when.
[31:16] You can't go to wedding hungry. What a length.
[31:18] Oh yeah, you must always eat a bit of something.
[31:20] And I realize that now, man. You eat, eat because there's
[31:25] nothing worse than when you do it.
[31:28] And they just never answer you. Just pass the tree of of wicked
[31:32] assorted of Chinese and everything you know that's does
[31:35] a human being so go you'll go hungry.
[31:38] Like for example, now I'll wait for a DEET or whatever first
[31:41] swallow above house man gauge lock yourself in before you step
[31:47] out you go. Nothing was eating like hungry
[31:50] wild animal in the setting of. It doesn't make any sense.
[31:52] In fact, it's even a. It's even a plus if you're not
[31:57] that hungry at the dates and you're like, you know what,
[31:58] actually, you know, I see before coming here, let me just.
[32:03] The food safe let them take do parking time do take away it's
[32:07] better exactly it's better than not your own way.
[32:10] Just see, like I'm saying again and again is we just meet
[32:13] someone for the first time and they're just leading with money.
[32:15] This money, that's money, this money that.
[32:16] And it's like, hello, did you have if you not see me?
[32:20] If if you not see me before, like I don't get why would you
[32:24] have? Why you not going to do this?
[32:26] Why you not going to shut that one that pieces me of the most
[32:28] me one that me grinds me up people that can't transport
[32:34] themselves. Like girl, you're broke.
[32:37] What you mean like you can't get from point even if you have
[32:39] center boss like I said see my own is even that see.
[32:42] What means of transport you use? Mine is just that.
[32:44] Get away, you're going to. Hey welcome my this is and so
[32:47] and so you. Want to come through?
[32:48] Look, you. Want to come through?
[32:49] Oh yeah. Can you my Uber?
[32:52] I don't get what happened. Have you know about adults?
[32:59] But for some reason, of we the adults, you are the one that
[33:02] can't find your way. I that one, that one is when you
[33:05] say you know. You know, before we.
[33:10] Continue for me. What?
[33:12] You can't move. You can't.
[33:14] You can't. You can't like no, you know, you
[33:17] know, before we continue, let me tell you one of the few things
[33:19] that drives a lot of the a lot of the cause a lot of these icks
[33:22] that we're talking about are things that even we as men,
[33:26] there's so many that allow these things because that's the only
[33:28] reason why women even brazenly talk about not having transport.
[33:31] Like what? Imagine, imagine the flip was a
[33:34] reverse case, right? And a lady I'm seeing invites me
[33:38] out. Maybe she advised me for you
[33:41] know, we we plan to connect and she says, oh, you know, she has
[33:43] this birthday pass she's going to small thing house party.
[33:47] I should come through. Then I tell her, Oh yeah, sure,
[33:48] no problem. Can you send me transport?
[33:53] Because explain to me like what the difference is?
[33:55] Is it that guys are supposed to hustle differently than women
[33:57] are? So we are supposed to have the
[33:58] transport money while they are not.
[34:00] But The thing is society has allowed us allow rubbish first
[34:04] of all. And so that's why you get to a
[34:05] point where even when you're trying to invite somebody else
[34:08] on a date and she says, OK, well, you let me just like, what
[34:11] do you mean? You mean before now you didn't
[34:13] have juices at home? Well, I'm telling that one that
[34:16] that's that's happened to me. It's only just so I'm going to
[34:19] the beach one time. I like a beach, peas and stuff.
[34:23] So I invited a bunch of people. I was a bitch.
[34:25] Come to the beach, BYOB. You know BYOB.
[34:29] But when you see BYLB, you bring your bottle.
[34:31] It means everybody should bring your bottle.
[34:33] But let's be frank, not everybody brings a bottle.
[34:35] Yeah, of course it's not. Nobody's holding a gun to your
[34:37] neck and say bring your bottle. Just just nice gesture to bring
[34:40] your bottle. Just a nice gesture BYLB.
[34:42] Then I'd invited some lady, some girl.
[34:46] I'm like, hey, also I'm going to the beach, whatever, whatever.
[34:50] It's BYLBI didn't invite her like Passesi.
[34:52] I mean, you know, there's a way you invite somebody in and the
[34:55] best thing is your guests where OK, I'm I'm talking to the beach
[34:58] here. You want to go to.
[34:59] The beach with me, yes, that's exactly that.
[35:02] Was not the kind of invite. It's a beach arrangement.
[35:03] That was not the kind of invite. I'll go to the beach space D for
[35:08] both of this kind of people who won't come.
[35:10] Come. That's how I'm like, hey, bunch
[35:12] of us are going to the beach tomorrow.
[35:13] Do you want to pull up? Like feel free to pull up.
[35:15] It's a BYOB. Like bring your own bottle.
[35:19] If she said Oh yeah, yeah, sure, sure I could.
[35:22] I didn't say anything and came without a bottle, who'd have
[35:25] cared? Absolutely no one, literally
[35:28] nobody literally get. It's not a big deal.
[35:29] It's not some guys to come lose. I've gone to some BYO BS.
[35:32] I didn't bring bottles. Nothing do or die like.
[35:34] They don't chase your other. But it wasn't like So what you
[35:40] mean by BYOB said bring a bottle, bring your bottle.
[35:44] Should I It's just weird. I'm like, what do you what is
[35:47] wedding That's? Common.
[35:49] So I've never gone to party with this.
[35:50] I should bring a bottle before. *** which party did you go to
[35:54] like? Huh.
[35:56] Like what are you talking about bro?
[35:58] I was like huh? Such a normal thing, home and
[36:01] abroad. I just said I cool, no problem.
[36:04] That was all I said. I said I'll give you updates
[36:06] when we finalize. That was all I said.
[36:07] I call no problem. That's why I just call someone
[36:09] else and I I'm going to the pictures.
[36:10] Do you want to go? I say yes, I could come to some
[36:13] place at this time. That's all.
[36:15] Like, huh, That's all. Like it's.
[36:17] Just don't even acknowledge bottle.
[36:19] Just know that keep you pushing but the fact that that was the
[36:21] problem for you. Like what do you mean I should
[36:23] bring a bottle? Yes, go to spa, buy everything.
[36:27] Like Gordon's move deal, right? Nobody's telling you to come
[36:32] with freaking 1942 or something. Now you know that.
[36:34] You know that even if you say that more I actually don't
[36:38] really have a lot of money now I'd love to bring about about
[36:40] bro things are tight see I even understand like hey, we get your
[36:44] intention was there that's soft enough for me already I.
[36:47] Don't need to know your financial situation.
[36:50] Don't say anything, just come by yourself.
[36:52] Yes, we've been doing this for time.
[36:54] Just come alone. You don't need to say.
[36:56] You don't need to acknowledge. Why is that your problem there
[36:59] that they say bring your boots? What can that be what the issue
[37:01] is for you? You're going to the beach, the
[37:05] boats, you don't know who pay for boots, beach house.
[37:07] You don't know pay for beach house that alone if I take the
[37:11] price just what I'm. Exactly like what they say was
[37:13] bring a. Bottle a bottle and that was
[37:15] what? Your legs, your legs are shaking
[37:17] now, so. Those all those all those that
[37:19] have an high level eek for me, you just.
[37:21] Yeah, and I, I. Nobody said should bring bottle
[37:22] normally, but like stuff like that, yeah.
[37:24] No, no, one of mine is also being too loud in public.
[37:29] Like are you making noise? Are you making noise?
[37:33] You know, you have people who, for example, say, for example,
[37:38] they are with their friends and or even if it's just one or two
[37:41] other friends. But when it quiet arrangements
[37:43] where it's just, you know, you talk to me, we talk to and then
[37:47] do your ticket. Why?
[37:52] Why? Why?
[37:54] Or every small thing is girl come in.
[37:57] I'm like no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no I I find seriously huge
[38:04] ache. So first of all, it's a layer of
[38:06] certain things. You have the ones who everything
[38:10] must be for sure media. If sure media is not
[38:11] acknowledged that I'll figure wearing they can't wear it out.
[38:14] Guys, please, you know, vet mouth.
[38:17] What do you guys think? Should I go with the red or the
[38:19] blue? Now there's some people who do
[38:20] it like just ask for content like they wear whatever they're
[38:22] wearing. Regardless, they don't really
[38:23] care what you about saying. They're just saying which one do
[38:25] you think I should go with just because it's content.
[38:27] Then there's some people that you just know they live their
[38:30] lives for the media, which means that you who is somebody they're
[38:35] talking to will become another decision that media has to make
[38:38] for them. Well, guys, I'm talking to this
[38:40] guy now what you guys think he bought me this what you might
[38:44] work for some other people who exit stage, right?
[38:47] You wouldn't even see me there at all.
[38:52] Then there's the people who they go out and it's OK, I should
[38:55] call my friend. Hey, actually, I understand the
[38:57] safety part of it, that you may want to have no problem, but you
[39:01] understand also that you come with your friend is you invited
[39:04] a friend to the restaurant, meaning that that's your
[39:05] responsibility. Because again, except I tell
[39:09] you, OK, you know, I'll pay for your friend.
[39:10] I'm not paying for the friends. Coming friends with restaurants.
[39:14] Restaurants or any Gabby whatever if.
[39:18] I went to the club, say a common friend.
[39:19] No, no, she's. No Allah, Yes.
[39:21] What's this sitting down dinner talk talks because I.
[39:26] Was trying to come from the angle of you invite a friend of
[39:29] our the friend has 0 decorum. In fact you know what I think
[39:33] that's another ache having. Where does friends like?
[39:39] In fact, that's one of my biggest eggs, actually having
[39:43] weird as friends because you'll see the person that you're
[39:47] trying to see come collected. Everything is just but your
[39:51] friend first of all, your friend is dirty like she's walking
[39:54] around. She didn't even make sure that
[39:55] you know, her toes look clean, her hands look clean.
[39:57] She's looking weird. OK, let's even say that you
[39:59] know, because I mean, I like to give her AI did give balance of
[40:02] doubt die. I can I can help you create all
[40:05] the scenarios and say, OK, this happened for you and that's why
[40:09] we're going to do this. I can it can be that OK, you
[40:11] went somewhere rough. Maybe you went you ever come
[40:13] from the beach? Your feet are there.
[40:14] I'll, I'll give, I'll make all the cities in the world.
[40:17] But then I also see that your attitude is smelling as well.
[40:19] What do you mean? What do you mean?
[40:20] The waiter comes and and you know you're just like.
[40:23] Hey, oh God, please, just. I'm like, he's not another human
[40:26] being like you. Can you calm down?
[40:28] Especially when I know the person and I can see the
[40:30] embarrassment in the girl. I'm seeing his face.
[40:32] I can see that she too, she knows the friend.
[40:34] I'm like, come on. The fact that you're even
[40:36] keeping this friend, Like, what's your excuse?
[40:37] Like what? You want to tell me?
[40:38] Oh, I've known that since childhood.
[40:39] Come on, baby. Yourself.
[40:40] Come on. Like this.
[40:40] This person is not. This is your work friend.
[40:42] Like like this. It's like you said whack
[40:45] friends, like that's a big egg, man.
[40:47] If I I feel like that's really the topic of is why are you
[40:49] keeping whack friends? Yeah, Oh yeah.
[40:53] Oh yeah. Oh yeah.
[40:54] Oh, yeah. I'm sorry, but that one just
[40:59] came in from the house, man, I think.
[41:00] Yeah, I was. I didn't mean man is that you
[41:05] know, See, OK, for example, what I was saying before about you
[41:08] can't let me tell how much this stuff annoys me about you can't
[41:11] transport yourself so. You come to my crib.
[41:14] I've sorted your ride outs, me and you now fights OK, it isn't
[41:20] sure that pissed me off or whatever.
[41:21] I heard that you. Didn't leave on a good notes.
[41:24] I got born. Like every, every, everywhere
[41:27] was a bit, yeah. When you were saying bye bye,
[41:29] you didn't even look at your face left.
[41:32] You started Dusty. Order and City put together
[41:39] audacity so now bores me. I say, hey, I'm home now, can
[41:43] you send money for the? As who?
[41:52] Because at the point you left where nobodies.
[41:55] You didn't know me. I didn't know you.
[41:57] So who is sending The Who? Me.
[42:00] Do you know me? Did I see you at any point?
[42:03] If are you coming from my place? I don't remember you, did you?
[42:08] You left my place. I didn't know you got there.
[42:10] Nah, man. No, no, Ichi Magichi.
[42:14] No, no, it's it's it's. Then another one again is you
[42:18] know when like you just said down about the when like someone
[42:22] is being made the form pass within, you know be.
[42:26] Or or over over feeling. Like the main shit, 'cause you
[42:29] know, like, how do I describe it?
[42:31] Like, you know, and what he calls themselves baddies,
[42:36] baddies, baddies. Maybe that day just smacked on
[42:39] them. Wicked as lipstick, the Mary Kay
[42:41] everything. You look damn good but you now
[42:44] feel like Oh my God I'm the shit today.
[42:46] The main character. Overdoing and it's like you
[42:50] chill because which is bad, just right.
[42:58] Like, come on, like, let's, let's be real.
[43:00] Let's be real. Like, let's be real, actually.
[43:02] I'm not like. No one is saying you don't even.
[43:05] Have see, see, see. This is my second fence of head
[43:08] moving. This is you.
[43:10] You do the work. I think you have to go here.
[43:12] I think this just. You're going to for that's 90°.
[43:16] Give a little 30 just. So like.
[43:20] Just calm down, take a sheep. Calm down, relax, calm down.
[43:24] There's just no need there's. No need.
[43:25] There's no need. Calm down.
[43:29] There's just no need. Like just chill like that one?
[43:37] Is that about people being loud loud in the state?
[43:39] It depends on the situation. Of course, of course, if you
[43:42] need to be loud at the club. But say loud in general, every
[43:45] day, more every day. I want to be loud as you want
[43:46] me. I mean loud.
[43:47] That's a vibe. That's a vibe.
[43:48] Now I'm loud, so that's vibe you've got me.
[43:50] I I guess me being loud some people might find it icky.
[43:53] No, no more, hey. Man, I definitely have some.
[43:55] Make sure someone doesn't. Like, no more.
[43:57] It's just even even being quiet is some people's icks.
[43:59] Yeah, fair enough. Too quiet.
[44:01] It's actually an ick because there are times where, like you
[44:04] said, right place, right time. Now we're at the club, you are
[44:06] choosing to be quiet. Or now we're at a gathering
[44:10] where, you know, you kind of need the energy up just to be
[44:13] quiet. Go ahead.
[44:18] So, so, so, yeah. So how was your day?
[44:21] Like what did you, what did you get?
[44:23] It was nice. Are you, are you even listening
[44:26] to me? Are you?
[44:27] Yeah, yeah, sure. Yeah.
[44:29] OK. So what's my name?
[44:34] Sorry, I must reply my friend. I'm.
[44:36] Sorry. Yeah, No, it's fine.
[44:36] It's fine. You can reply your friend.
[44:39] I reply. Your friend at home.
[44:40] Shit. Headaches.
[44:41] The fuck? Go back home.
[44:43] Please. Just go back home.
[44:45] Just go back home for several. Like come on man, just just what
[44:49] time we get. Just go back for.
[44:51] Course now, please. Now, like please now.
[44:53] No, no, no, no, no. You know, you know, sometimes I
[44:56] try to even tolerate a little bit of it because I understand
[44:58] that people work even beyond working hours.
[45:00] You get hustle, this hustle. I even like the courtesy of give
[45:04] me a second, there's a work message.
[45:05] Just give me about two minutes then that way I know, OK.
[45:08] Hey, sorry man, it's it's now or take excuse.
[45:12] Sorry, can I get? This can I get this simple, but
[45:15] but you're like, OK, so yeah, yeah, yeah.
[45:17] Wait to wait to sorry, sorry, losting take a second.
[45:20] I'm like, give me that. Yeah, you can I take this call
[45:23] or whatever, It's cool. Take your excuse.
[45:25] But this is where we're now, where that now turns to an ick,
[45:30] where you take that so-called call. 30 minutes later, you're
[45:37] still you're still on the counter.
[45:40] Hello. It means there's no respect for
[45:42] time. Exactly no respect.
[45:44] But come on, I. Don't you rape me.
[45:46] You know what I do after hours? Is busy now it's I don't feel
[45:49] busy. Come on.
[45:50] Like like. You know what I got a message
[45:56] from a client. Message from I will show you Oh
[45:58] my God is really big book. Like, like, come on, come on.
[46:01] Even taking it up a notch higher is half the time we're on the
[46:07] where the dinner table. Can we move from this table?
[46:11] This. I don't like lights, yet the
[46:12] lighting we should move from the table because the lighting is.
[46:18] OK, I understand you being a content creator and all boards.
[46:22] If he's available, let's forget that.
[46:24] If you have to take a picture of every, permit me.
[46:28] If you have to take a picture of every fucking meal we eat,
[46:32] that's the moment we start eating.
[46:35] You see, I can even understand the quick pictures because you
[46:39] need a record of OK, I've been here, this is the food I eat.
[46:42] But you see, when it's the whole thing, you come.
[46:45] Oh, I'm so sorry. I'm just about to branch into a
[46:47] new egg that. Well, before I branch it down,
[46:49] you can like that just said. Now you bring.
[46:52] Your food, it's part of this ego, like it's part of this.
[46:56] I want bass. I don't know the hitch or that
[46:59] we came to restaurant or that it'd be like 30 minutes, 40
[47:01] minutes waiting for this chance for this food.
[47:02] It's finally here. Let me sample my filet mignon or
[47:06] whatever the hell like we ordered.
[47:08] Hey, wait, hey, take picture on the table.
[47:13] You know that guy that flew too close to the sun?
[47:16] Icarus as icky as Icarus. Let's take that up a notch.
[47:27] You see? You want to take your foot off
[47:28] the table? I would even try my best.
[47:30] OK, You know what? It's going to be 1 picture, Max
[47:32] 2. Then you see, you bring down
[47:34] nonsense lights. You see that?
[47:36] You see that? The day that I saw someone
[47:42] attached the light to her phone, she was taking herself in the
[47:44] mirror. I was just like, there's no
[47:48] fucking way. There's like, I know there's no
[47:51] see. Let me just tell you, am I
[47:53] there? You bring that light thing.
[47:55] Now, unfortunately for me, I'm not a rude person.
[47:56] I don't know how to but you see like I don't have.
[47:59] A problem like I understand like.
[48:03] Why you need lighting? I mean, we understand the
[48:05] essence. Like you just said, some places
[48:07] kind of just speedball, Mr. Panther, light everything.
[48:13] They don't bring the lobster bisque, lobster roll, all those.
[48:16] Kind of, yes. Calamari and the lights don't.
[48:19] Bowl out that bastard. I can't.
[48:24] I cannot. No, I cannot.
[48:29] You know what, I feel like that's fighting for first place
[48:31] with work friends. Between work friends and that
[48:34] light, I'm not sure which it is worse.
[48:36] See if you are out there to shoot content like you're
[48:41] influencing. My owner for work hold.
[48:44] Your light on your forehead, I'm good with that.
[48:47] Exactly for work. Is it 'cause me and you?
[48:55] Not just that it's like, oh sorry I didn't get that picture
[48:57] properly. Please let me just then we spend
[48:59] like another 10 minutes doing all that my food they cold.
[49:07] You want to continue to match out.
[49:11] No, man, you know, you know, it's funny that the more we're
[49:14] having this discussion, the more our men have the bro women give
[49:18] a lot of these are not. These are not uncommon.
[49:20] It's nothing we're reaching. These are no scenarios.
[49:23] Do you remember this film? There's this Nigerian movie that
[49:26] time called End of the Weekend. You probably watch it.
[49:29] I remember everybody watch that film.
[49:31] There's something you see in that film.
[49:32] Really, really. Witches went to color.
[49:42] Don't kill me, don't kill me, please, please, please.
[49:49] You don't know that thing that I think that I, that I know is an
[49:51] egg for me is a woman who does not flare back, especially if
[50:00] you've given off energy of being able to flirt like or even just,
[50:04] you know, you can kind of you pick up like, what do you mean?
[50:07] You don't you don't understand some lines like, you know,
[50:09] there's some, there's some pick up lines that can be funny.
[50:11] There's some lines that when you drop some lines that you don't
[50:13] respond like. Yeah, like this.
[50:15] About that one is not so bad of an ache because I feel like a
[50:19] lot of people in general, my sense of humor, my reasoning
[50:23] different not just agreed the part that I feel is such a joke
[50:26] they might not sit as funny and I'm like.
[50:29] See, see I. Don't, I don't put that on that
[50:31] egg you get. I was like.
[50:33] No, you know, I argue that because, you know, I argue that
[50:37] there are some things that I feel like they are generalized.
[50:40] Like everybody, everybody knows this like like it's this is a
[50:44] general just even if not giggle, just give me a you're not
[50:48] serious. Just give me little something.
[50:51] Just little something. Go ahead 1 like I really like
[50:54] one there. Was no weird laughs.
[50:56] No, no, no, no. Laughing.
[50:58] How? You all laugh.
[50:59] Money is money is when I see this, when I see this and the
[51:03] person says huh, I see, what do you mean?
[51:06] That's what she said. This is what I mean.
[51:09] This is what I see. So no, no, no, no.
[51:11] Can you know? No, hear this.
[51:13] That's what she's saying. No hear this.
[51:15] Imagine you need to. Be on power.
[51:17] You need to be more. We need to be on power.
[51:19] So to me it falls as an ick because I'm sorry, but if I
[51:23] can't cut it, if I can't cut in liner, you call that an egg?
[51:28] Because what do you mean? It's just like, it's just like,
[51:31] it's just like me saying. And again, I get to that.
[51:34] You know, some people say, oh, they're not similar to this, but
[51:35] there's certain things that you'll be like you too.
[51:39] You know, the whole, for example, if if someone says she
[51:44] says her age, right? And I'm like, damn, everybody
[51:49] knows that's a Kevin Hart. And then she looks like she's
[51:53] like, what do you mean by dumb? Is my age a problem for you?
[51:55] And you're just like, oh hell no, ain't no way.
[52:01] Like you didn't get that, was it?
[52:03] That's Ikiru. At this point, we're going to
[52:10] have so many words for the word egg by the time this episode is
[52:12] done. By the time this episode is
[52:14] done, I promise it's going to be that.
[52:17] But you know, it's, it's definitely something because
[52:19] because I, I imagine see the the typical way Nigerian men talk,
[52:22] right? And toast.
[52:23] We toast by flirting. Let's not even cap anything.
[52:25] Half the time Nigerian man is flirting as it's talking, right?
[52:28] That's the charm. Let's not even lie about that.
[52:30] That's the default, default mode.
[52:32] Now, of course, there's a limits to how you flirt, but there's a
[52:36] surface one. Everyone knows that these guys
[52:38] are serious. Yeah, Yeah.
[52:39] You know, they just joke around like this guy said.
[52:40] Now, I always feel now, but you are always aloof.
[52:45] They say something like, what did you mean by that?
[52:47] The fact that I have to keep explaining what I'm like, girl,
[52:50] just explain to like, girl, please.
[52:53] Like girl, please. And I think one of that one is
[52:58] like approaching conversations ready to fight.
[53:03] So you see, there's been the long battle of members assuming
[53:05] that one is an everlasting battle to always be there.
[53:09] But then there's also the people who carry it upon themselves to
[53:12] always be battle ready. Like God.
[53:14] There's no animosity here. Nobody disrespected anybody.
[53:17] So where how did you come to the fact that I told you, you look
[53:21] beautiful? And they are telling me, oh, so
[53:24] because I'm a woman, I'm hungry. I'm like.
[53:28] I remember that other person, that other thousands.
[53:32] Oh fuck it. That is exactly Oh.
[53:36] Shit. Hi hi.
[53:40] Can cause beef. So that one I never be kicky,
[53:45] but I icky be good color. Bro what?
[53:48] No. No, no, see, you know every.
[53:53] Conversation ends up in an argument.
[53:56] And then you start thinking but. What?
[53:59] You might be saying something. I'll be personally saying I
[54:02] cool. Me saying I cool becomes a
[54:05] problem. I'm like So what I will.
[54:08] Talk what do you what I don't. If I don't talk, no problem.
[54:11] If you talk. If I talk, no.
[54:13] Problem. So.
[54:16] No one wants that's ready for battle.
[54:19] Always battle ready. Iki Iki, why are you always
[54:24] battle ready? The world's ready.
[54:25] Whooping everyone as it is enough.
[54:27] Like chill, take a breather, you know that?
[54:31] I'm going to, I'm going to come out there.
[54:34] This one online now now girls made me notice this one and it
[54:38] started to make me think the you know, the week goes when they
[54:41] put their head and the weather behind stuff to come on come on,
[54:45] come on, come on come on come on is not the band thing there's
[54:49] not the band thing I'm. Listening to you but.
[54:51] You know when you remove the band?
[54:53] You see the edges and the wipes. Some of the edges with the teen
[54:58] or they lay get it layout. They're very, Yeah, I don't
[55:03] know. You know what, let's just come
[55:04] on and say I'm sorry ladies, but you know you laid everything
[55:08] right. But we can still see the lace
[55:09] from. When when the lace was not laid,
[55:11] laid properly? When he's struggling.
[55:14] Or we can see traces of the glue come on so.
[55:17] Like it's very hard because I'm I'm trying my best.
[55:19] Come on, no. It's boy after every small to
[55:21] like my I would just. Because I promise that if you
[55:26] showed up in all back, nice, clean all back, do your thing.
[55:33] I'm good look, just look tidy like nobody see see, I get it.
[55:37] I get everyone's beautiful and stuff, but mom is just if doing
[55:40] away. That's because I always see
[55:41] people. It's not easy struggle.
[55:43] It's not easy stop. Yeah.
[55:44] First, do you do it in? The The thing is to like sit
[55:47] down. I'm not even saying that I find
[55:49] it upsetting when it's coming out that one.
[55:51] I know that OK, this has a bit on sweats me a long B, but when
[55:54] I feel like this is you off the core fresh off the removal and
[55:58] The thing is just thinking Yeah, and you get.
[56:01] Like it's 10:00 AM, the day just started.
[56:03] Exactly. It's it's.
[56:05] You know how to stressfully I can see.
[56:06] Your, your your. You know what I mean?
[56:07] Like. Sometimes, you know, sometimes I
[56:09] think, do they not see? Are we me?
[56:14] I don't. Know why?
[56:14] I don't know why Every part of me, I've held it to me not to
[56:17] say nothing. I feel like it's not my place.
[56:19] Yeah, even even I've never, I've never, I've never commented.
[56:22] On that, I'm always giving it a glance after.
[56:24] Sometimes you're like. Me, I've never commented.
[56:29] On it. You know, I know it is for me.
[56:40] People who have loose of esteem. You see, the problem with
[56:45] dealing with somebody who has loose of esteem is that
[56:49] everything, everything, not just the things you do and see, but
[56:53] the things outside parties also do and see would affect them.
[56:58] Yeah, I think I'm, I think I should get a BBO.
[57:00] Why? Yeah.
[57:02] You know what I think? I don't know My, I feel like my
[57:05] height is not really what is going on.
[57:09] Yeah, You know what? There's a way that I feel like
[57:11] my, you know, my face just like, come on.
[57:15] I feel like this just doesn't just sit the moment or, you
[57:18] know, even people who just, I think it's just not the surface.
[57:20] It's just the lack of confidence, which is that you
[57:23] don't even know yourself. Like you're just moving the
[57:24] bandwagon. Everybody's doing this for BTT.
[57:26] If you're going that way, OK, They said that today's to wear
[57:30] tennis outfit and go to the gym. You do that one, they tell you
[57:32] that, OK, the essence of going to the gym is just to look sexy.
[57:35] You do that one too. They tell you that.
[57:37] OK, well, the trendy thing, nice to play tennis, you can't
[57:38] register. At what point are you being
[57:41] yourself? Like this is just giving no
[57:43] identity, no nothing. Padible.
[57:50] Open door open door open the Commission.
[57:51] We can start now. Please let me tell you why
[57:55] telling me something like that is is is more is more painful
[57:59] because I'm an avid tennis player right when I see people
[58:03] who join the sports because it's popular.
[58:06] I have to hold in my frustration because of my money you get.
[58:11] I didn't pay for you to register a you carried your hard earned
[58:14] money. You clocked in.
[58:15] No, no, voila. But when I see those same people
[58:20] try to talk about the fact that, Oh my God, I love this sport.
[58:24] What do you know about it? It's giving the ick Icky
[58:29] Mcvicky. Oh, you love it.
[58:32] Can you show me your best grip and then say, oh, So what is
[58:36] grip? I'm like, yeah, that's a bit
[58:39] icky. That's a bit icky.
[58:41] That's a bit, it's an icky 1 still because now there's
[58:45] there's no way. I can't imagine.
[58:47] So you have no identity. You're just moving with the
[58:50] wave. If the wave says that's OK today
[58:51] we're going to be please snooker.
[58:52] All of a sudden now you're a snooker person.
[58:54] Today's wave says that you know what, let's do swimming now
[58:56] you're a swimming person that come on, calm down and be have
[58:58] an identity. Like what are you doing?
[59:00] I find it is no such an ache. It is such an ache for me.
[59:04] I can't stand it. I think another one I'll say is
[59:06] also so we talked about having work friends, right?
[59:10] But then there's also the people who cannot do without their
[59:13] friends. Like you're even you're
[59:15] literally saying, Hey, how about we do this on Sunday?
[59:17] Like, you know, let me check my let me check with my girl.
[59:19] I'll get back to you. Check with your girl out.
[59:25] Where does your girl fit into this entire like, like explain
[59:30] to me where she comes? Like it's different if maybe you
[59:32] had plans with your girl and the reason why I'm checking with her
[59:34] is that, you know, do the plans work?
[59:36] But like what's seeking her permission?
[59:39] That already lets me know what kind of what kind of arrangement
[59:42] I'm bringing myself into. Because what that means is you
[59:44] don't even think for yourself. You everything that group
[59:47] therapy. Bro, you don't think for
[59:49] yourself everything must be tabled by this?
[59:51] I'm like, Nah, there's actually no way.
[59:54] It means that every word that we're saying and exchanging like
[59:56] this goes to being vetted. It has to be vetted.
[1:00:00] So what did he say after that? OK, OK.
[1:00:02] You know what I think is the right one for you?
[1:00:04] My sister. Understanding getting your
[1:00:06] friend's opinion. No, no, because that's a
[1:00:07] different thing entirely. Every time.
[1:00:10] Yes, every single thing. Hi.
[1:00:15] Like, there's just no way. There's just no way, you know?
[1:00:22] You know, The funny thing is that it's weird to have this
[1:00:25] kind of egg but have this egg for people who can't cook but
[1:00:33] like to eat. Especially women.
[1:00:35] Like women who can't cook but like to eat but also can't order
[1:00:39] in I. Don't.
[1:00:41] No, I can't order in. No, no, like basically anytime
[1:00:45] it's food things, they're going to wake up in the morning, pick
[1:00:47] up the phone and let me see what I can take and take me.
[1:00:49] Hey, what's up? I do now what I mean breakfast
[1:00:51] this morning now like girl, what do you mean I.
[1:00:54] Love your response to all those texts.
[1:00:56] I can smell billing from a mile away.
[1:00:59] Like what do you mean? Like what?
[1:01:00] Like so. So me that I got out of my
[1:01:02] ingredients. You see me blending pepper.
[1:01:04] You think I'm crazy. You think, you think.
[1:01:05] You think I don't know what? You think I wouldn't Like you
[1:01:09] think you think I wouldn't like me?
[1:01:10] Some, you know, waffles and pancake or yeah, some
[1:01:14] buttermilk. Some crave CDs.
[1:01:16] Think I don't want. Come on, I remember I'm just
[1:01:19] like, and this is not even from the angle of as a woman I should
[1:01:22] not cook. As an adult you should not whip
[1:01:24] something. So what do you mean you are so
[1:01:27] hungry that it has to be ordered food?
[1:01:30] I was talking about. Let's go.
[1:01:32] This is when I did my day. You day your day.
[1:01:38] Hunger, they catch you. You ordered your food on your
[1:01:42] day. I am on my day in this side.
[1:01:47] Then you call me to tell me that you order food.
[1:01:53] OK, good for you. Then you tell me can I pay for
[1:01:58] your food that you ordered that I do not even know you are
[1:02:02] ordering from the beginning? Hello, am I speaking to
[1:02:05] somebody? Like our point was that part of
[1:02:08] the occasion. As how now that's.
[1:02:10] All points, that's what points. It my book was a Idiogu Nonu.
[1:02:16] You get jazz for now. Huh, that's the real question.
[1:02:20] Like, huh, Like did you maybe put something in there because.
[1:02:25] Is that what you did before you called my cellular phone?
[1:02:27] Come on. Like come on, Like, come on, is
[1:02:30] that? What you did?
[1:02:31] Come on. Oh, yeah.
[1:02:33] Let me just throw this in. Hey, one just came in, I'm
[1:02:40] talking to you. But I realise that like maybe in
[1:02:42] in getting to know you, like maybe we meet on social media,
[1:02:45] maybe I meet you off Instagram or let's even say I meet you in
[1:02:47] person, right, house party, whatever the case.
[1:02:49] And I'm getting to know you beyond that point.
[1:02:51] And I realise that all you know, you know the way it is now when
[1:02:55] you're talking, you find out the person's social.
[1:02:56] So you have TikTok and then you're like, Oh yeah, I have
[1:02:58] TikTok and you send me a TikTok handle and I open up your TikTok
[1:03:01] profile and I'm seeing you do those TikTok dances.
[1:03:06] I know you, I know you know the one I'm talking about.
[1:03:09] There's certain TikTok dances that girls do that it's not a
[1:03:11] TikTok challenge. They just don't put the caption
[1:03:14] up on their on top of their video and they Just Dance
[1:03:17] basically shaking ass. And in my mind, I'm like from
[1:03:22] you. He'll be apparently as my top
[1:03:26] three heaviest eggs because it's giving you want attention so
[1:03:31] bad, like so bad that you know that it's already kind of
[1:03:37] getting washed to just shake your ass for no reason.
[1:03:40] So now you put up a caption that you believe people can relate
[1:03:43] with, but shake your ass on top. So it's like, yeah, you know
[1:03:46] what is the caption still? But yeah, look at me having fat
[1:03:48] ass like I'm like come on, come on, like giving Raz as hell is.
[1:03:55] When I go to your. Page our demonstration game
[1:04:02] guys. And this is all I see.
[1:04:08] No front pictures, nothing, just giving back.
[1:04:12] Maybe you're torn now, like let's let's see your your whole
[1:04:20] personality, your whole everything about you should not
[1:04:25] just be your backside because backside's plenty.
[1:04:30] If I Scroll down I'm seeing another words backside like oh
[1:04:35] you. Everything I've seen is just.
[1:04:40] Literally. Oh yeah.
[1:04:42] You have to look back at the camera.
[1:04:43] You have to look back at the camera.
[1:04:50] Oh my goodness. That one is up there for me man.
[1:04:53] It's like. You know, this is this is this
[1:04:57] is a word ache, I'll say. But I remember one time I had
[1:05:00] one ache for someone or someone gave me an ache.
[1:05:04] And this this kind of spins off of that main character I think
[1:05:07] you spoke about right throughout the day.
[1:05:09] She was just feeling like the shit.
[1:05:11] No, I mean, granted, attractive babe, you get no doubt she was
[1:05:15] good looking, beautiful. OK, we're done now.
[1:05:20] And you know, she was meant to No, in fact, she so she was
[1:05:25] meant to meet me up somewhere. So we had, you know, we're
[1:05:26] supposed to go. She had met up with the first
[1:05:28] vacation, you know, we had had lunch, everything, everything
[1:05:31] was cool. So we're meant to go for like a
[1:05:32] friend's birthday party. So I was like, OK, you know
[1:05:35] what, I'll drive. You drive your car, we'll meet
[1:05:38] up there. So I got there before her,
[1:05:39] right? And you know, she was getting
[1:05:41] directions, everything. She then go to the street and,
[1:05:44] you know, I was like, OK, you know what, I'll wait on the
[1:05:45] street since I'm the one who knows the person like throwing
[1:05:47] the party so that we can go in together.
[1:05:49] You get so she drives, gets to the location.
[1:05:53] I'm like, OK, you know, let me find you parking.
[1:05:55] I saw one free space there. So I just walked down and then
[1:05:58] OK, I'm like, yeah, you can park here, bro.
[1:06:01] When I tell you that she kissed the bumper of the car, the car
[1:06:05] behind her when she was trying to like do she climbed the
[1:06:10] Corvette? No, no, no, mind you mind you
[1:06:22] bro. See, see, see.
[1:06:24] Mind you that she has given me bitch.
[1:06:27] You can't drive, bitch. You can't.
[1:06:28] That was it that you've put my emotions in words.
[1:06:32] She was she gave me character all through she was looking
[1:06:36] down. She was like like like what do
[1:06:37] you mean you are grown up you can't do this.
[1:06:38] I was like okay, okay, like you say I like this grown up energy
[1:06:41] bro. I was when I tell you that was.
[1:06:46] What? Like, you know when you know
[1:06:50] when you know when someone is driving and you can just tell
[1:06:52] like girl, you ain't no shit about what you're doing.
[1:06:54] Like the revue mirror and she was adjusting it as she was
[1:06:58] parking. I'm like, no, they don't.
[1:07:01] They don't adjust their revue mirrors as they park.
[1:07:04] Like you don't suit. What's your come on like carry
[1:07:07] yourself. She didn't I was like check your
[1:07:09] cipher mirror if you should do this.
[1:07:11] You know when you know when you look like you have to raise your
[1:07:13] neck to look. I'm just like, oh, shit, like
[1:07:16] and you don't know what shocker do you don't but she was trying
[1:07:20] to. I didn't doing that.
[1:07:21] I just said I was like, oh, you've kissed somebody's bumper,
[1:07:25] like come on, like girl. And then when I was like, do you
[1:07:30] need help? No, no, no, I got this.
[1:07:32] I mean, I'm always driving I Parkway, but I'm like you.
[1:07:34] Ain't yeah shit. And then sometimes I look at my
[1:07:37] account like, you know, what is the the chance you're the one
[1:07:39] who's caused this crack? I mean, but but I think like
[1:07:41] just in some random location that I don't know about.
[1:07:44] It gave me the eggs so bad. I didn't speak to her again
[1:07:47] after that deal. I'm sorry.
[1:07:48] I couldn't. I couldn't tell I was going to
[1:07:49] drive by just going. To so avoid that one when he
[1:07:52] reaches something like that. Understand him?
[1:07:55] Yeah. Just just you know what, let me
[1:07:56] just handle it. Because if I see that shit, I
[1:08:00] don't have that much patience. See my confidence in how.
[1:08:05] My confidence in how was based on like what are you talking
[1:08:08] about? Like you get out, I'm like OK,
[1:08:09] OK, enough that I'm making sense.
[1:08:11] All this crashing she had on like I'm like you know what, I
[1:08:13] was thinking that Lagos was happening to you but I don't
[1:08:15] happening to Lagos babe. Like you are the one happening
[1:08:18] to Lagos. Just come on now.
[1:08:20] Come on. Don't do that.
[1:08:21] Don't do that. Don't do that.
[1:08:23] No, I just remember that one. And now I think, yeah, I think
[1:08:25] that that's definitely of my top five.
[1:08:27] That's of my top five. That's of my top five.
[1:08:29] Yeah, for sure, for sure of my top five.
[1:08:33] This is another word when I'll say though, but I'll say if I'm
[1:08:38] seeing so or if I'm seeing someone, let's say I'm seeing
[1:08:40] someone I was trying to like get exclusive and you don't kind of
[1:08:45] know when like you know, as you're sitting, your panties are
[1:08:48] showing. Sometimes it can be an egg for
[1:08:50] me, right? The lack of the awareness, yes,
[1:08:52] that lack of awareness. I just so you see you can
[1:08:55] mistakenly, there's no doubt about that, but sometimes free.
[1:08:59] And almost what we say before official yeah, you know yeah it
[1:09:03] can happen They get maybe you can call in the process of in
[1:09:06] the process yes what is the ball if official day one. 2-3 and
[1:09:11] like you're not even you're not you're not even like conscious.
[1:09:14] You're not like feeling like, hey, I'm just like, hello, like
[1:09:18] I said, mistakes the album, but that particular way just feels
[1:09:20] like you're not even aware. Like come on, like this is not
[1:09:24] for me. It's just not that's that is not
[1:09:27] it's not a heavy ache, but it's definitely something that if I'm
[1:09:29] looking for something to I'm like, yeah, she can be like
[1:09:31] that. I don't want to go out with her
[1:09:32] because I definitely have people like that, right?
[1:09:35] I think my final one is when I would say final, but I see one
[1:09:39] of the one I can remember now is someone who doesn't have like a
[1:09:43] real ambition. Like I don't know, like you talk
[1:09:48] vibes, vibes, That's it. You don't have any rule.
[1:09:51] Like it's different if you're not gingering anything, not
[1:09:54] thinking of gingering anything. In the face to ginger or think
[1:09:59] of anything, but when you wake up, you're waking up like what's
[1:10:01] the move just well existing now because that one they wouldn't
[1:10:05] kick me out for my guy, fellow man say why just do you know
[1:10:08] they do no, the reason no, the plot like no, the next moves
[1:10:11] nothing. You know they try it now, man.
[1:10:12] I want in general, good guy, good guys.
[1:10:14] I'm why you just existing. You need to be as a living
[1:10:18] being. Human breathing needs to be.
[1:10:20] Like there must be some kind of news.
[1:10:21] I should be doing something. Bro this way I don't have work
[1:10:24] where OK I know that this is one of those dry ideas.
[1:10:27] After some time I'm like damn man.
[1:10:29] I can need some moves so. They're just, they're just
[1:10:32] going, you know? You know, I have to, I have to
[1:10:34] consciously tell myself that it's OK to have a free day.
[1:10:37] Like, oh, no, no, no, no, I'm not saying that.
[1:10:41] I'm not saying that. You see, you see, when you, when
[1:10:42] you're making moves, right? You do it so much that your free
[1:10:45] days feel like you're guilty. Yeah, You know, you feel like,
[1:10:48] man, I need to be doing something.
[1:10:49] To be doing Like I should be busy.
[1:10:50] But after myself. I can't.
[1:10:51] I come now you've worked. No, I'll give him every day.
[1:10:53] I feel sometime. But where every day is your,
[1:10:55] every day is your free day. Do I feel that's why I feel too
[1:10:57] sometime? I'm talking to you and like,
[1:10:59] there's no no prospects for the future.
[1:11:02] My number, nothing from your past that you can see.
[1:11:04] Like no, there's nothing. Say OK, you plan on doing this
[1:11:07] or that you're just existing. There's nothing.
[1:11:10] Oh, what are you doing today or nothing.
[1:11:11] I'm just going to be at home. OK, cool.
[1:11:13] What do you what do you usually do on your day-to-day?
[1:11:15] Oh, nothing. Just chill, OK?
[1:11:18] Do you like how many like plans during the week?
[1:11:19] Oh no, no, I just. Oh, do you do anything for work
[1:11:21] or not really? I'm just kidding.
[1:11:23] What? You're just chilling?
[1:11:25] What? Are you talking about like?
[1:11:26] No, no. So you leave inside the fridge?
[1:11:28] I don't get. Like what are you talking about?
[1:11:30] Like no, there's no, there's no way.
[1:11:31] I can't. I can't.
[1:11:32] I can't civil like, no, there's no way.
[1:11:34] And I think this this one. Ah, this one.
[1:11:38] And I sure you can't resonate with this.
[1:11:42] Someone has given me the ick. When?
[1:11:47] How do I wear this? You can't understand the value
[1:11:49] of someone's belongings and so just do them.
[1:11:53] Anyhow, let me give you a simple example.
[1:11:55] There was one time someone came over to my house one time.
[1:11:57] What did I see? She put her cup of tea on top of
[1:12:00] my laptop. Hey I want I wanted to go.
[1:12:03] I'd almost come what is my come here to my laptop.
[1:12:08] I couldn't. I couldn't believe what I was
[1:12:10] seeing and you know it was giving now from court for
[1:12:14] context, right, And this is not even see.
[1:12:16] I use an alien way because I'm a graphics person, so I need a
[1:12:22] machine. So she might be looking at it as
[1:12:24] just your laptop. Now.
[1:12:25] It's not to watch movie. There's a lot of people.
[1:12:27] If it's not Mark in exactly uneducated fellow.
[1:12:32] Not interested in that. So I could see.
[1:12:34] And when I was getting upset, I was like, you're putting your
[1:12:38] cup of tea, like the tea is still inside.
[1:12:41] The cop is hot. Let me.
[1:12:42] Guess, let me guess, She was laughing.
[1:12:45] Out saying nothing had to tell me I was like you first and last
[1:12:53] the other day ever see for this life, it's not going to happen.
[1:12:58] It's not going to happen. Like what do you mean you're
[1:12:59] giggling? That's my life there.
[1:13:02] That's my life that you put your cup of tea on the minute that
[1:13:05] thing goes kaput because I I know for a fact that the things
[1:13:08] was you're not going to buy me another one.
[1:13:09] So that's already one side of the way.
[1:13:11] Then you are still further disrespecting the thing I hold
[1:13:14] as valuable because that you don't understand how valuable.
[1:13:17] It doesn't mean you should not open your mind to the fact that
[1:13:19] this might be valuable to somebody else.
[1:13:20] For example, if I go to a babe's house now, right and I see that
[1:13:24] maybe there's a way she keeps support and I just you know, she
[1:13:27] gets upset. No, I was just like, oh, oh, my
[1:13:29] bad. I didn't know that.
[1:13:30] That's how you know that I would just begin to laugh because
[1:13:33] whatever she was valuable, she understands the connection for
[1:13:36] that. Now I'm telling you that this is
[1:13:39] you said the one is too much, you know, just small laptop.
[1:13:41] No, I was just like it giving the heaviest egg.
[1:13:46] I was like, there's no way. There's no way.
[1:13:48] You can't, you don't know how to respect people's valuables and
[1:13:51] belongings. You, you cannot thrive in
[1:13:53] society. I just remember that one of the
[1:14:00] biggest eggs I couldn't I couldn't wrap my head around
[1:14:02] like it was just and I think it's also circles into people
[1:14:06] who come to your house and just start touching stuff.
[1:14:09] And when I say touching stuff, what I mean is this is the first
[1:14:12] time I'm coming to my house. You don't know where anything
[1:14:14] is. You start opening cabinets,
[1:14:16] down, sit down, ask. Are you looking for something?
[1:14:19] Are you? Keep something for you when you
[1:14:20] never come. Before or you see bottle of
[1:14:23] water that is already opened it. I'm like, I'm like what?
[1:14:26] What are you talking about? Now you see in most cases,
[1:14:28] right, Because I know that situations can go both ways,
[1:14:31] which is this person is in my house.
[1:14:34] If I just begin the effects and I say leave my house, you might
[1:14:37] not actually leave. And then that becomes a
[1:14:39] different thing entirely. Now I have to deal with how to
[1:14:41] get rid of so I'm like, you know what, do it?
[1:14:43] I'm going to chest this. I'm going to chest this now, but
[1:14:45] I'm going to watch you call me just.
[1:14:52] That touching. Stuff touching stuff.
[1:14:57] I'm like what? What's?
[1:14:58] Happening here, man. What's happening here?
[1:15:01] What's happening here? You know, there's something that
[1:15:03] people don't find as an egg and I don't, I don't necessarily
[1:15:06] find it as an egg, but to be honest, I don't know who made
[1:15:09] it. No matter a girl who just come
[1:15:10] in a pack of your cruise files because I feel like it's
[1:15:14] supposed to be an ick. Especially when the one that
[1:15:18] takes their eye is my favorite shirt.
[1:15:19] Like what do you mean? I love to wear this shirt.
[1:15:22] I've already even planned it for next Saturday and now you're
[1:15:24] here. Like you can't even just leave
[1:15:25] this small shirt. I won't lie to you.
[1:15:28] It's not necessarily. And like you said, it's not,
[1:15:36] Yeah, it's not that. I said, you know what this shit,
[1:15:55] I want to give it to you. That's that's not what it was.
[1:15:57] It was you know, in fact, you're start wearing it from already
[1:16:00] wearing it. Is that OK?
[1:16:00] So I'm heading home in my shirt. I'm feeling that me, I'm OK,
[1:16:05] cool. I think your subconscious you
[1:16:09] say, oh, I've reached out now and go pack.
[1:16:11] Even if you know, wash them. I don't even tell me wash them.
[1:16:13] Just just give me. Back my shirt.
[1:16:16] Yeah, I'm close to cost. See.
[1:16:19] I know. My shirt is like.
[1:16:21] Six of your shirts see and you know like you can't see and you
[1:16:24] know my words you just say T-shirt with this writing but
[1:16:25] like you guys have 6 see see you know my pain is not even just
[1:16:30] the cost per SE what I get. What do you expect to do that
[1:16:34] you don't understand that it's not the money, Just it's not
[1:16:35] just the money. That shit.
[1:16:36] I can't find this shirt again, you know.
[1:16:38] We don't we exactly as *** We don't just buy as guys like it
[1:16:41] as guys. Sorry, we don't just buy.
[1:16:43] You don't just buy some things like me.
[1:16:46] I like shirts that have stuff like it.
[1:16:49] I like it from. And that because your
[1:16:50] personality. Yeah, because sometimes and
[1:16:53] because of that, I don't see it every time, but sometimes I
[1:16:55] don't see one and I'm like. It resonates with you, yeah.
[1:16:59] This my shit. Yeah, yeah, I'm.
[1:17:00] Going to spend my coins on this. You go to, but now you take
[1:17:03] that. No, I already think to myself,
[1:17:05] where in this life, where ever find this shirt again, Whereas
[1:17:07] you always know that shirts when you want to kind of make a
[1:17:10] statement in a in a setting, you wear that shirt.
[1:17:12] It's like, it's like. That's the shirt I'm going to
[1:17:15] wear for them, yes, it's telling them that's.
[1:17:17] My point? That's what I mean.
[1:17:18] I had. The shirt that time I said
[1:17:20] Hotmail, Google Hotmail. MALU.
[1:17:23] Yes bro, that's all I rocked. The hell you see, Rockham?
[1:17:29] People said how about your Hotmail shirt now?
[1:17:31] I said just black man is gone. No Hotmail, the other one I had
[1:17:34] one up extra life these. Things, simple things, but you
[1:17:38] just know you can never get anywhere.
[1:17:39] So when, when, when they're taking the shirt, they see that.
[1:17:41] But you know, CCC, it's not just a shirt.
[1:17:44] I'm connected to this clothing item.
[1:17:47] There's it's a family member at this point, like it's it's a
[1:17:50] family member and you are taking my family member and you are
[1:17:52] taking my family member out of my house and to your house.
[1:17:55] And so I feel like, but you see, because like I mentioned earlier
[1:17:58] in our conversation, that certain things that have become
[1:18:00] normal because the without turn it into Brooks Cheney, you know,
[1:18:03] they turn it into our eyes, not just this small.
[1:18:05] They end up, you know, just trivializing the fact that it's
[1:18:09] supposed to be an ick, ideally. I mean, imagine you as a guy,
[1:18:13] you go to Bib's house and you know, you need to change.
[1:18:15] Then she has some Palazzo Paz that you actually go far.
[1:18:17] You know this is like unisex and you wear our clothes and you
[1:18:20] take it back to your house. But we don't deny plenty because
[1:18:22] they're very tight for you or. Something exactly so because you
[1:18:25] have the opportunity, it never really occurs.
[1:18:26] In fact, they're not even thinking that I want to borrow
[1:18:28] this vision. In fact, if if you see a guy
[1:18:30] borrow a girl, it's 'cause emergency, emergency.
[1:18:33] Like, you know, on my way here I had an accident.
[1:18:35] The shirt I worked or whatever it gives.
[1:18:36] And do you have something I can wear that Maybe she's even
[1:18:39] giving you another shit she packed from another?
[1:18:42] Guy's house normally on that note, yeah, before we wrap this
[1:18:48] episode up, I just had to just throw this question out there
[1:18:51] because I know everybody out there wants to know this
[1:18:53] question. I want to know this question
[1:18:55] like as as someone in this environment and a lot of you
[1:18:58] guys there wants to know the answer to this question too.
[1:19:01] How far away? What do you need to do for this
[1:19:02] behavior man? Do you really want to know
[1:19:06] though? See.
[1:19:06] Because I've seen guys that's what I old guy man I old guy man
[1:19:10] that guy he he treated the idea now yes, I know he then maybe
[1:19:13] like this newly did because if we were talking now people like
[1:19:17] us, we we sitting on pachidos. Yeah how what is the what's the
[1:19:22] secret was the just let the now I'm not saying nobody not asking
[1:19:25] this question before on the masses.
[1:19:26] So this is for the men now this is for the men.
[1:19:30] The women, maybe. Yeah, because you guys like that
[1:19:32] so. But for the men who wants to be
[1:19:34] in a masculine era? All those in the Biba vibes,
[1:19:37] nobody really like them. But for those, please tell us,
[1:19:39] give us the the platform. What is the secret to this Biba?
[1:19:45] So unfortunately this is not something that everybody will be
[1:19:47] Privy to and you know, you have the opportunity to get, but it's
[1:19:51] so there's this elixir liquid that I use.
[1:19:57] It's from eating the right puss. My bad guys, I'm not this and so
[1:20:08] it's a special juice. It has to be from like a a a
[1:20:11] specially gifted queen until you access that.
[1:20:15] I'm sorry about Hey, this, this is all just all natural.
[1:20:18] That's what. It.
[1:20:19] Is what it say homemade? Homemade.
[1:20:22] Did it cook out from home well? Ladies and ladies, gentlemen,
[1:20:28] you had it here. Now you get the beard from the
[1:20:31] right, juices from the right. Because you know the wrong one
[1:20:33] to your hair. Good.
[1:20:35] Yeah, if you get the wrong 1, you you get you get breakages.
[1:20:38] But on that note, guys, this is episode for us today.
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[1:20:54] Do they need fool? Tell friends, tell friends.
[1:20:56] Tell friends. Tell not friends.
[1:20:57] Tell their enemy. Tell their father.
[1:20:58] Tell their mother, brother, sister, uncle and auntie.
[1:21:01] You know, share love, share the fun.
[1:21:03] And also let's know what you guys think about your ex.
[1:21:05] Let's know your ex actually, yes, yes, yes.
[1:21:07] That's not the is that women have been froze.
[1:21:09] Out there because if you notice on the social medias it's always
[1:21:12] the ladies always telling their ex they don't like it if *** are
[1:21:15] breathing. So exactly tell us your ex.
[1:21:18] Let's know on the comments. I want to see that.
[1:21:20] I'm going to go and viciously read it.
[1:21:21] I need to see enough ex by the time this is done that no guys,
[1:21:24] I'm Michelle and. I'm very welcome and this is.

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