# JXD Presents: The Best Of Reddit (feat. TyreakToldYou, Dr. Keia, Toya, and more!)

An episode of [Jade + X. D.](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1578749770), 9 Jan 2026, 3 h 30 min.

Audio: https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/api.spreaker.com/download/episode/69139663/best_of_reddit_1.mp3

Hey Everyone! We had a lot of fun this year with reddit. We decided to compile all of the stories read this year into one big episode. This is a great episode to sit and relax, or react with your friends and loved ones. Stay tuned as there's way more to come for this holiday break!

## Transcript

[0:00] Speaker 1: Everybody, Welcome back to another episode of Jade and Next.
[0:10] Speaker 1: As you can see, we're on upbreak, but we didn't
[0:15] Speaker 1: want to leave you without some cool pod to step
[0:19] Speaker 1: two all that stuff. Right, So this week and next
[0:25] Speaker 1: week we have some brand new, well not brand new,
[0:30] Speaker 1: but some remixed stuff for you all. Maybe some that
[0:33] Speaker 1: you may not have heard, some you may have missed.
[0:37] Speaker 2: It happens.
[0:38] Speaker 1: Yeah, it's coming from everywhere. It's coming from behind the
[0:41] Speaker 1: pavedballs from old episode, coming from locked up stuff, maybe
[0:47] Speaker 1: even something from two guys and a girl you never.
[0:49] Speaker 2: Know your bed like that one roommate that turn exactly.
[0:55] Speaker 1: But until next time, we'll see you next week. Bye bye,
[1:03] Speaker 1: and we're back. This week we're doing spooky reddit stories.
[1:18] Speaker 1: All right, let me read a couple. I have not
[1:23] Speaker 1: really read these. These were submitted and so we're gonna
[1:28] Speaker 1: have a time reacting to them all our own. Okay,
[1:35] Speaker 1: this comes from the subreddit no Sleep. So apparently in
[1:38] Speaker 1: this subreddit they talk about like true things that have
[1:43] Speaker 1: happened to them. Okay, and cause them as sleep. Let
[1:56] Speaker 1: me see if it's a car chase. Yesterday we had
[1:58] Speaker 1: a car chase.
[2:01] Speaker 2: La loves a car chase.
[2:02] Speaker 1: Honey, every day ever since OJA started. I'm in ninety four.
[2:08] Speaker 1: That's the birth of the car chase.
[2:10] Speaker 2: Oh? Is that that was really the origins of the
[2:14] Speaker 2: They've had.
[2:14] Speaker 1: Car changes before, No, but it was That's what made
[2:17] Speaker 1: it like popular, right, It was always a shootings, but
[2:23] Speaker 1: Columbine made it the thing. But anywhow, because to get
[2:27] Speaker 1: on TV to become sort of like.
[2:31] Speaker 2: Hood classic for the culture.
[2:35] Speaker 1: Whatever, you know what I mean, Like I don't, I
[2:36] Speaker 1: don't know. People just do a ship just to do it.
[2:38] Speaker 2: No, you're right doing it for the fun. I've had
[2:40] Speaker 2: a lot of highways too.
[2:42] Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, mm hmmm.
[2:44] Speaker 2: All right.
[2:46] Speaker 1: But I went to a wedding. The groom wouldn't stop smiling.
[2:52] Speaker 1: I went to my cousin Ava's wedding a few days ago.
[2:55] Speaker 1: I'm still trying to process what happened. I'll try to
[2:58] Speaker 1: get everything out as best as I can. Ava had
[3:03] Speaker 1: been dating some guy named Ethan for the past year.
[3:06] Speaker 1: Being in their thirties, they sort of fast tracked the
[3:09] Speaker 1: whole marriage thing. I never met the guy, and I
[3:12] Speaker 1: hadn't spoken to Ava in a few years, but what
[3:14] Speaker 1: the hell, it was guaranteed to be a fun time.
[3:18] Speaker 1: The groom walked down the aisle first, a tall, pale
[3:21] Speaker 1: male in a dark suit. He stood at the front
[3:24] Speaker 1: of the church and smiled and smiled. He smiled when
[3:28] Speaker 1: Ava walked down the aisle. He smiled as they kissed
[3:32] Speaker 1: after being pronounced husband and wife. He smiled as they
[3:35] Speaker 1: walked out of the church. It didn't strike me as
[3:38] Speaker 1: weird until we got to the reception. When they entered,
[3:41] Speaker 1: he was still greeting that wide grin and his perfectly white,
[3:45] Speaker 1: straight teeth, But up close it looked, I don't know, wrong, somehow,
[3:51] Speaker 1: he wasn't really engaging with guests. He wasn't talking or laughing.
[3:56] Speaker 1: He was just sort of scanning the place, staring, grinning wide,
[3:59] Speaker 1: without ever really reaching, without ever really reaching his eyes.
[4:05] Speaker 1: I guess he's smiling for the camera, I told myself.
[4:08] Speaker 1: Or maybe he's a little socially awkward. He figures nothing
[4:11] Speaker 1: will go wrong if he just keeps smiling. It got
[4:14] Speaker 1: really weird, however, when they served dinner that face. I
[4:19] Speaker 1: watched him sitting at the sweetheart table with Ava, shoveling
[4:22] Speaker 1: chicken pacata into his mouth as he still grinned, barely
[4:26] Speaker 1: opening his mouth wide enough to let the bite in
[4:28] Speaker 1: before immediately closing it. He made loud chewing noises as
[4:33] Speaker 1: he chewed while grinning. Have you ever seen someone chew
[4:36] Speaker 1: their food while smiling? It looks completely unnatural. Yeah, it
[4:42] Speaker 1: looks weird. Smiling with your mouth closed, sure, but showing
[4:47] Speaker 1: all your teeth grinning as you chew. It was so
[4:51] Speaker 1: so fucking weird. Yeah.
[4:58] Speaker 2: I'm like, really, I need to you're thinking about it?
[5:01] Speaker 1: Yeah, that's weird. They eventually came to our table to
[5:06] Speaker 1: say hi. I couldn't tear my eyes away from his face.
[5:10] Speaker 1: He was still grinning. His wide blue eyes jittered from
[5:13] Speaker 1: person to person at the table. His face looked like
[5:16] Speaker 1: a mask, no warmth, no emotion. It was looking like
[5:20] Speaker 1: a statue. I whispered this to my sister once they left.
[5:24] Speaker 1: There's something seriously wrong with him. Why is he smiling
[5:27] Speaker 1: like that? My sister thought I was being a catty
[5:30] Speaker 1: old maid. Well, old mister, shut up. He looks fine. No,
[5:35] Speaker 1: he doesn't. He looks like he's madly in love. She
[5:37] Speaker 1: stepped back. Stop being jealous. Geez, Matt, that hurt, and
[5:41] Speaker 1: honestly did. None of the other guests seemed to think
[5:45] Speaker 1: anything was wrong. They thought it was all fine. Him
[5:48] Speaker 1: grinning though him grinning through the first dance, through the speeches,
[5:52] Speaker 1: through the fucking Champagne toes. He tilted the champagne Champagne
[5:56] Speaker 1: flew into his grinning mouth without spilling a drop.
[5:59] Speaker 2: Somehow, this is so weird.
[6:04] Speaker 1: Yeah, I ah.
[6:08] Speaker 2: What is wrong today?
[6:17] Speaker 1: Coast to coast to Chicago. And the problem is I
[6:23] Speaker 1: don't see them, so I can't.
[6:25] Speaker 2: See where they're coming from, where they're going. What's happening?
[6:27] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, AnyWho, I excuse myself to the bathroom. But
[6:36] Speaker 1: that was my first mistake, not realizing he had disappeared
[6:38] Speaker 1: from the dance floor. As I was washing my hands,
[6:41] Speaker 1: a stall swung open behind me. In the mirror over
[6:44] Speaker 1: my shoulder, I saw Ethan standing there. His skin looked
[6:48] Speaker 1: milky white in the bright lights. His blue bulgie frog
[6:52] Speaker 1: eyes stared at me, and he was smiling. No.
[6:56] Speaker 2: I don't like that.
[6:56] Speaker 1: I don't mean that he saw me and then smiled No.
[7:00] Speaker 1: When he opened the stall door, he was already smiling like.
[7:06] Speaker 1: He walked over and began washing his hands at the
[7:08] Speaker 1: sink right next to me, even though there were three
[7:11] Speaker 1: other sinks. Our shoulders bumped. Great wedding, I mumbled, trying
[7:16] Speaker 1: to be friendly. He turned to look down at me. Slowly,
[7:21] Speaker 1: his blue eyes bored into mind. My heart began to pound.
[7:25] Speaker 1: Music's great too, I said nervously, just to fill the silence.
[7:30] Speaker 1: He just stared at me.
[7:32] Speaker 2: Oh he didn't kill That's what.
[7:36] Speaker 1: Yeah, That's when I realized he hadn't said a single
[7:39] Speaker 1: word the entire wedding. There were no vows. He just nodded.
[7:44] Speaker 1: When the efficient asked if he took Ava as his wife,
[7:48] Speaker 1: he didn't thank the best man. I'm sorry he didn't
[7:54] Speaker 1: thank the best man after the speech, and I hadn't
[7:57] Speaker 1: even seen him talking to Eva at the sweetheart table,
[8:00] Speaker 1: just smiling and staring. I backed away. His eyes tracked
[8:05] Speaker 1: me as I went. Just as I reached the bathroom door,
[8:08] Speaker 1: he stretched up to his full height and stared down
[8:10] Speaker 1: at me. He looked even taller than he had in
[8:13] Speaker 1: the reception hall, somehow under the fluorescent lights. Then he
[8:16] Speaker 1: stopped smiling. As his face relaxed, his cheeks sagged, his
[8:21] Speaker 1: forehead drooped, the skin of his face began to shift
[8:25] Speaker 1: and slide. I froze as his face began to pull
[8:28] Speaker 1: and separate from his skull. He grinned, and everything stretched
[8:32] Speaker 1: back into place. I finally leapt into action and darted
[8:36] Speaker 1: out of the bathroom door. I went back to my
[8:40] Speaker 1: sister and grabbed her arm. We have to get out
[8:42] Speaker 1: of here, I breathe Ethan. He's well, you shut up already,
[8:47] Speaker 1: she said, barely even looking at me. And then Ethan
[8:51] Speaker 1: stauntered in long legs, carrying him smoothly across the dance floor.
[8:55] Speaker 1: He slowed as he passed our table on his way
[8:58] Speaker 1: back to Ava. He reached out and squeezed my shoulder.
[9:03] Speaker 1: It's been three days. The skin in my shoulder is
[9:06] Speaker 1: pulsing with pain, like it's infected somehow. And I can't
[9:10] Speaker 1: help but notice every time I look in the mirror,
[9:13] Speaker 1: my face looks a little saggier, a little looser, like
[9:17] Speaker 1: it isn't attached quite the same way anymore. So I've
[9:21] Speaker 1: started smiling more, just to hold everything in place.
[9:26] Speaker 2: He's a demon. Did they take that from Smile?
[9:32] Speaker 1: Probably? That sounds like Smile, don't. Yeah, it sounds like
[9:39] Speaker 1: a movie. This sounds this game very like you know
[9:42] Speaker 1: the problem with Reddit. Sometimes it's like maybe it's fake
[9:46] Speaker 1: or not. This seems well written that it was like
[9:50] Speaker 1: a maybe this was lifted from somewhere. Yeah.
[9:52] Speaker 2: No, that was okay. That was good. That was good.
[9:54] Speaker 2: That was good. I like a good story.
[9:58] Speaker 1: Mm hmm. This one comes from true scary stories. The
[10:07] Speaker 1: Shadow Washed Asleep. I was at my best friend's house,
[10:12] Speaker 1: and she always used to tell me about odd things
[10:14] Speaker 1: that happened there, like hearing their mom calling for them
[10:17] Speaker 1: when she wasn't home, seeing someone standing in the kitchen
[10:20] Speaker 1: who vanished, hearing footsteps from the abandoned house above them,
[10:24] Speaker 1: or seeing someone standing outside their window at night. The
[10:28] Speaker 1: last time I slept over, we were talking about one
[10:30] Speaker 1: of those things before drifting off to sleep. Her dog, Simba,
[10:34] Speaker 1: was sleeping next to me, calm and quiet. A while later,
[10:39] Speaker 1: I felt something brushing against me, like a light touch
[10:43] Speaker 1: and a slow pool on the bedsheet. I woke up
[10:46] Speaker 1: a bit scared and saw Simba standing on the edge
[10:49] Speaker 1: of the bed, staring straight at the window. Then she
[10:52] Speaker 1: started barking like crazy, something she never did. My friend
[10:56] Speaker 1: woke up and told me not to be scared, just
[10:58] Speaker 1: to sleep it off. The next day, she told me
[11:01] Speaker 1: that there had been the shadow of a man standing
[11:03] Speaker 1: outside her window watching us. She said she was the
[11:08] Speaker 1: only one who could see him, and it wasn't the
[11:10] Speaker 1: first time this had happened, taking a long break from sleepovers.
[11:18] Speaker 1: That's crazy. That's that's crazy, lady, like you see dead people.
[11:24] Speaker 2: I wonder if it was her brother. That's why. That's
[11:28] Speaker 2: why black parents always ask they got they got brothers?
[11:33] Speaker 1: Probably probably brother have an uncle that.
[11:41] Speaker 2: Which valid would also problematic.
[11:53] Speaker 1: If you were a proud of the eighties, you had.
[11:56] Speaker 2: To uncles a father in the house.
[12:02] Speaker 1: M mm hmm.
[12:06] Speaker 2: Woo, Okay, shall we take a break.
[12:08] Speaker 1: And come back, Yes, let's take a break and come back.
[12:13] Speaker 1: Hit it, claude, we're doing spooky, scary stories. Say no
[12:19] Speaker 1: to AI videos. Yeah.
[12:23] Speaker 2: The fact that they're making it.
[12:27] Speaker 1: To differentiate and they're just making it so easy to do.
[12:30] Speaker 1: And then also a lot of them are racist and
[12:34] Speaker 1: a lot of like I hate flat back videos like
[12:36] Speaker 1: those are rooted in racism and minstrel.
[12:40] Speaker 2: Girls sitting there eating ribs and with the whole bone
[12:43] Speaker 2: putting it in their mouth.
[12:44] Speaker 1: What they like? I bet you and everybody who creates
[12:50] Speaker 1: them look like them. People who did the Young Republican
[12:53] Speaker 1: text threat? Did you see that? No? Yeah, white people,
[13:02] Speaker 1: should that be googling? Uh Young Republican text thread? Uh?
[13:08] Speaker 1: So Politico posted this expose of this text thread of
[13:14] Speaker 1: the Young Republicans of New York and you can read
[13:19] Speaker 1: some of the text messages that you may see.
[13:24] Speaker 2: Are they all videos? Let me see? Oh you want
[13:34] Speaker 2: to talk about spooky stories?
[13:37] Speaker 1: Yeah, this is why christ Regis said we should watch
[13:39] Speaker 1: the news for spooky season. Okay, it is a very
[13:47] Speaker 1: long article. If you okay, there's a free article. You
[13:51] Speaker 1: all can go on the political politico dot com and look,
[13:56] Speaker 1: or you can go on YouTube and seeing and covered it.
[14:00] Speaker 2: All right, So I'll start here.
[14:05] Speaker 1: I do want to say the tax Ussons are very
[14:08] Speaker 1: very yeah. Trigger warning, Yeah, trigger warning even for me
[14:12] Speaker 1: because I laughed. I was like, this is very appropmately
[14:14] Speaker 1: for me to laugh at it. But even though it's
[14:16] Speaker 1: about me, but.
[14:17] Speaker 2: I Giontou was referring to an upcoming vote on whether
[14:21] Speaker 2: he should become chair of the Young Republican National Federation.
[14:24] Speaker 2: The GOP is fifteen thousand member political organization for Republicans
[14:28] Speaker 2: between eighteen and forty years old. I'm going to create
[14:32] Speaker 2: some of the greatest psychological torture methods known to man.
[14:35] Speaker 2: We only want true believers, he continued. That's a quote
[14:40] Speaker 2: two of the members of the chat responded, everyone that
[14:44] Speaker 2: votes to note is going to the gas chamber, and
[14:47] Speaker 2: everyone that endorsed but then votes for US is going
[14:50] Speaker 2: to the gas chamber. When do we start bullying? Dude?
[14:55] Speaker 2: We have a solid three people who can probably have
[14:57] Speaker 2: them want to jump if they vote for us, why
[15:00] Speaker 2: would they be get Okay, let's keep going.
[15:04] Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
[15:09] Speaker 2: Can we fix the showers? Gas chambers don't fit the
[15:13] Speaker 2: Hitler aesthetic. I'm ready to watch people burn.
[15:17] Speaker 1: Now.
[15:18] Speaker 2: We gotta pretend we like them. Hey, come on in,
[15:21] Speaker 2: take a nice shower and relax. Boom, they're dead. This
[15:24] Speaker 2: is crazy. Mm hmmm, wait all right, hold on, it
[15:31] Speaker 2: would be a motherfucker. I just looked at who's wrote this,
[15:35] Speaker 2: and he looked like a motherfucker who would write some
[15:37] Speaker 2: ship like this. He looks like a fucking loser. M
[15:42] Speaker 2: h it's always a loser. It's always a big fucking
[15:46] Speaker 2: suck your mother's titty ass loser. Look at this, Look
[15:51] Speaker 2: at this pie faced motherfucker.
[15:53] Speaker 1: Here?
[15:53] Speaker 2: These are These are a bunch of little dicked in cells.
[15:58] Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. Who's They're the superior race and they all
[16:04] Speaker 1: look like.
[16:07] Speaker 2: I love Hitler. Yo, y'all are insane. Look at this
[16:14] Speaker 2: motherfucker here too, Look at all of them.
[16:18] Speaker 1: Yeah no, we don't know.
[16:21] Speaker 2: Okay, back to these stories.
[16:25] Speaker 1: Anyway, True Reddit True scary stories. I want to switch
[16:37] Speaker 1: it up a little bit. Okay, this is the it's
[16:43] Speaker 1: the spooky story, but it comes from am I the asshole,
[16:48] Speaker 1: which we're familiar with. Am I the asshole for being
[16:53] Speaker 1: pissed at my friend for taking my dead baby's name. Right.
[17:01] Speaker 1: In twenty twenty four, my husband and I were expecting
[17:04] Speaker 1: our first baby. I was five months pregnant when I
[17:07] Speaker 1: had a placental abruption and my baby passed away after
[17:11] Speaker 1: an emergency C section. I was devastated and depressed. I'm
[17:15] Speaker 1: still grieving and I had and have a hard time
[17:17] Speaker 1: being around babies or attending baby showers. Two months postpartum, yeah,
[17:23] Speaker 1: two months postpartum, my husband's two months postpartum. My cousin's girl,
[17:31] Speaker 1: my husband's cousin's girlfriend. That's so long old.
[17:36] Speaker 2: My husband's cousin. Oh copy, Okay, got it, got it?
[17:41] Speaker 1: You see where I was. My husband's cousin's girlfriend asked
[17:46] Speaker 1: if we could talk. She'd gone through a miscarriage at
[17:50] Speaker 1: five or six weeks and wanted someone to talk to
[17:52] Speaker 1: about her grief. I told her I wasn't in the
[17:55] Speaker 1: right headspace for that, but she begged me, so I
[17:57] Speaker 1: consult girl at Red Flag Number one. We didn't talk
[18:02] Speaker 1: about that emotional regulation and emotional demanding, emotional work from
[18:07] Speaker 1: people AnyWho. In my head, though I was angry, she
[18:13] Speaker 1: was comparing her experiences to mine. She knew what we
[18:17] Speaker 1: named our daughter. It was a combination of my husband
[18:20] Speaker 1: of my husband's and my names. It was perfect. We
[18:25] Speaker 1: made Day of the Dead Altars of our babies last
[18:28] Speaker 1: year and got closer. In January twenty twenty five, she
[18:32] Speaker 1: told me she was pregnant again. I was still grieving,
[18:35] Speaker 1: but happy for her. She found out she was having
[18:39] Speaker 1: a girl in August twenty twenty five. She says she
[18:43] Speaker 1: was having medical complications and would have to deliver early.
[18:47] Speaker 1: Her sister a law, and I planned a surprise brudge
[18:50] Speaker 1: for her, cleaned her house and set up a baby
[18:52] Speaker 1: baby corner. A few days before she delivered, I visited
[18:56] Speaker 1: her with flowers and fresh juice. Two days later, she
[19:00] Speaker 1: gave birth. I didn't go into her hospital room, but
[19:03] Speaker 1: I wanted her to know I was there for her.
[19:05] Speaker 1: A few weeks later, When my husband and I visited
[19:08] Speaker 1: to see the baby, I asked, what did you name her?
[19:13] Speaker 1: She said, Isabella Guadalupe Socorro, the great grandmother's names. She
[19:20] Speaker 1: and her boyfriend laughed about it. Three weeks later, I
[19:24] Speaker 1: was doing her mother in law's hair and mentioned how
[19:26] Speaker 1: nice the name was. She laughed and said, no, they
[19:29] Speaker 1: didn't name her baby that. Oh no, they didn't name
[19:31] Speaker 1: her name that. They named her Amelia or Emilia. With
[19:36] Speaker 1: an me, that's the name of my baby.
[19:40] Speaker 2: I was furious, went, oh sorry.
[19:47] Speaker 1: I was furious. I went to her house the next
[19:49] Speaker 1: day and asked her why she chose that name. She said,
[19:53] Speaker 1: I forgot what I have the name tattoo without my arm.
[20:01] Speaker 1: It's in my Instagram bio. We bonded over our grief.
[20:07] Speaker 1: She later admitted she told only five people and that
[20:11] Speaker 1: it was supposed to be a secret, So I wasn't
[20:14] Speaker 1: supposed to know.
[20:15] Speaker 2: Wait hold on, oh.
[20:17] Speaker 1: Wait, hold on. Oh thank you for sparing my emotions,
[20:21] Speaker 1: but fuck you, there was no way she forgot. If
[20:25] Speaker 1: she had, she wouldn't have kept it a secret. So
[20:27] Speaker 1: am I the asshole for being angry at her for
[20:30] Speaker 1: using the name. I think I'm right for being pissed.
[20:35] Speaker 2: All right, let me just get this straight real fast.
[20:40] Speaker 2: When she went to go visit after she had the baby,
[20:45] Speaker 2: they gave her a completely different name.
[20:48] Speaker 1: Than their great grandmother's names, okay, and her and her
[20:54] Speaker 1: boyfriend laughed about it.
[20:57] Speaker 2: So my first thought when she got the wind they
[20:59] Speaker 2: said the name to her is when they laughed, I'm
[21:02] Speaker 2: assuming mm hmmm.
[21:04] Speaker 1: And she didn't find the real name out until three
[21:06] Speaker 1: weeks later.
[21:08] Speaker 2: So my very first thought listening to this was these
[21:11] Speaker 2: theesus negroes or Latin negroes, because when they said it
[21:17] Speaker 2: was a combination of two names, I knew only some
[21:20] Speaker 2: dodas shit came from one of my people or one
[21:25] Speaker 2: of my people or.
[21:27] Speaker 1: Saw Isabella I said e Overclaire.
[21:37] Speaker 2: So that was my first thought. I was like that,
[21:40] Speaker 2: only some doda shit like combining names sound like it's
[21:43] Speaker 2: some nigga shit, okay, some nigga shit or some Latin niggash.
[21:48] Speaker 2: So secondly, you didn't forget because you wouldn't have lied
[21:55] Speaker 2: to me about what the baby's name is in the
[21:57] Speaker 2: first place. So now, so first, if foremost, I'm writing
[22:01] Speaker 2: that down. Okay, So when your baby gets old enough,
[22:05] Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell your baby, that your mother is a
[22:07] Speaker 2: sinister bitch. Your mother lied on you when you was
[22:12] Speaker 2: just days old. Your mother lied on you because she
[22:15] Speaker 2: told me your name was a dead grandmother's name. May
[22:18] Speaker 2: Isabella og Isabella haunt you for the rest of your
[22:23] Speaker 2: days for using her name for some bullshit.
[22:26] Speaker 1: First and foremost, Yeah, like y'all have a whole old
[22:30] Speaker 1: friend that you don't think nobody's from the old friend.
[22:32] Speaker 1: They're gonna come back.
[22:33] Speaker 2: And right hello, That little nigga was not allowed to
[22:36] Speaker 2: listen to music for the first eight nine years of
[22:38] Speaker 2: his life. You know what I'm saying in Coco because
[22:44] Speaker 2: because of the ancestors. I hope the ancestors come back
[22:48] Speaker 2: and haunt your dirty drawers like I hope they haunt
[22:52] Speaker 2: your dreams. May you not know any peace because you
[22:56] Speaker 2: lied on your baby. First and foremost, Hey, you stole
[22:59] Speaker 2: a dead baby his name, Then you lie on your baby.
[23:03] Speaker 2: You lied or you used a great mother, great mother's
[23:06] Speaker 2: great grandmother's name. I will let us name in order
[23:11] Speaker 2: to continue this lie. Your household will not no peace.
[23:16] Speaker 2: You brought that baby into full blown emotional chaos. Mm hmmm,
[23:22] Speaker 2: A No, you're not the asshole girl who wrote the story.
[23:25] Speaker 2: You're not the asshole, the dickad that dickad like the
[23:32] Speaker 2: minute that you heal, because I'm gonna allow you to heal,
[23:35] Speaker 2: but the minute that you heal, we are shooting the
[23:37] Speaker 2: fucking fair one. I'm also holding a grudge. I'm also
[23:40] Speaker 2: gonna tell your baby that you lied on her way
[23:42] Speaker 2: later on down the line, like I'm gonna ruin your
[23:45] Speaker 2: life for decades, and I'm gonna call on the power
[23:49] Speaker 2: of Isabella as well to contribute to this. You getting
[23:54] Speaker 2: a spiritual ass kicking you are.
[23:58] Speaker 1: This is where you send that child a card every
[24:00] Speaker 1: year into at the bottom of your Mama lied to you.
[24:03] Speaker 1: What did mommy you about?
[24:08] Speaker 2: I lied on your name because you because you're named
[24:11] Speaker 2: after a dead baby that I knew I was doing
[24:13] Speaker 2: some gravy ship when I did it.
[24:15] Speaker 1: Mm hmmmm hmm. It's one thing because Amelia is as
[24:23] Speaker 1: a fairly common name, so it's like, that's one thing, right,
[24:27] Speaker 1: But the fact that she was like, I'm not ready
[24:30] Speaker 1: to grieve my own ship, but you up here forcing me.
[24:33] Speaker 1: So therefore we forced a bond and grieved together. So
[24:36] Speaker 1: you know how you forced me?
[24:40] Speaker 2: You stole my dead baby's name. After you forced me
[24:44] Speaker 2: and it pushed on my emotional boundaries. You stole my
[24:48] Speaker 2: dead baby's name, you lied on your baby, you named.
[24:54] Speaker 1: Yo some ethnic ship. Yeah, this is this is yeah,
[25:03] Speaker 1: this is giving me like central California behavior. If not,
[25:08] Speaker 1: you know, Sacramento, Bakersfield, that kind of.
[25:11] Speaker 2: Thing, that's a weird place.
[25:12] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. But this is very because
[25:17] Speaker 1: it could go either way. It can go either brown,
[25:20] Speaker 1: whichever on the spectrum, you know what I mean.
[25:22] Speaker 2: That's a spooky story.
[25:24] Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, mm hmmm. I hope she fights them, hope
[25:28] Speaker 1: she shows up in a dream.
[25:33] Speaker 2: I'm gonna be like, do you know the origins of
[25:36] Speaker 2: your name?
[25:38] Speaker 1: Yeah? I think we're gonna wrap up early. I have
[25:42] Speaker 1: one more story. I have a couple more. But you know,
[25:47] Speaker 1: we have a big holiday extravag ends the next weekend,
[25:50] Speaker 1: right we do?
[25:54] Speaker 2: Oh?
[25:54] Speaker 1: No, in two weeks?
[25:55] Speaker 2: Damn?
[25:56] Speaker 1: How long is October?
[26:00] Speaker 2: First of all, it's long and quick?
[26:03] Speaker 1: Yeah, I damn, I didn't know we had an extra week.
[26:06] Speaker 1: I was like, okay, we have oh a spooky season. Okay,
[26:10] Speaker 1: it comes to an end.
[26:11] Speaker 2: No long and quick?
[26:12] Speaker 1: No, no, but I should tell you about this. I
[26:19] Speaker 1: don't tell you the story and then I'll tell you.
[26:21] Speaker 1: Then I'll tell you what I watched. This also comes
[26:26] Speaker 1: from the our true scary stories. My wife stepped on
[26:32] Speaker 1: something in the lake. The next day they found a body.
[26:39] Speaker 1: I always fear this. This is why I used to
[26:41] Speaker 1: I used to avoid going to Central Park because until
[26:46] Speaker 1: when I finally guess what I lucked up on found
[26:49] Speaker 1: a body. It was nobody in Central Park. It was
[26:52] Speaker 1: they lay dead straight on the trains track the Chamber Street.
[26:56] Speaker 1: It's like, you know, in New York, you try to
[26:58] Speaker 1: you find things that I'm gonna avoid at all costs,
[27:01] Speaker 1: like working in Times Square, taking the G train, you know,
[27:06] Speaker 1: all those aploid as a New Yorker ended up happening
[27:11] Speaker 1: to me, you know what I mean. I got hit
[27:15] Speaker 1: by a car, was robbed. I was point like everything
[27:23] Speaker 1: bad that I never wanted to happen to be in
[27:25] Speaker 1: New York happened. But yes, the dead nigga that I
[27:30] Speaker 1: found was not in Nobody's park. He laid there straight
[27:33] Speaker 1: on at the j Chambers. And I was so mad
[27:39] Speaker 1: because it was late night and we were coming home
[27:41] Speaker 1: from the club. So I'm like, I'm ready to go
[27:43] Speaker 1: home and I live. I lived off the j at Myrtle.
[27:46] Speaker 1: We all know how sticky that so it was. It
[27:51] Speaker 1: was just like I was there for.
[27:52] Speaker 2: Ext budget signal cabs and certain.
[27:55] Speaker 1: How no this is before uber so like yeah.
[28:01] Speaker 2: When you still have to call Puerto Rico or Rainbow.
[28:05] Speaker 1: Before end up going back down to to downtown Brooklyn
[28:09] Speaker 1: and then take the bus. It was a long yeah,
[28:13] Speaker 1: but that was a day I haven't.
[28:15] Speaker 2: Run up on a body. Two worse scenarios somebody took
[28:19] Speaker 2: a ship on the.
[28:20] Speaker 1: Train and oh yeah, yeah, you know.
[28:23] Speaker 2: That's that's a really that's a pretty bad one.
[28:26] Speaker 1: That's a pretty bid, low key common, uncommon.
[28:34] Speaker 2: It also was the four train at a certain the
[28:43] Speaker 2: train in between certain stops at a period of time
[28:49] Speaker 2: was just always on some ship. It was always some.
[28:52] Speaker 1: Ship, always on the South Bronx between South Bronx and Harlem.
[28:58] Speaker 2: And that was exactly where it was. It was exactly
[29:02] Speaker 2: I want to say, Actually, I think it might have
[29:05] Speaker 2: been at like Burnside.
[29:08] Speaker 1: That that's specific Ray Station, Yes, it.
[29:13] Speaker 2: Might have been. It might have been at Burnside where
[29:16] Speaker 2: I discovered that that lady had taken a shit on
[29:18] Speaker 2: a train. Yeah, that's that's always a that's always a
[29:24] Speaker 2: really really anyway, what's your story.
[29:30] Speaker 1: So a few years ago, when my daughter was a toddler,
[29:36] Speaker 1: my wife and I used to take her to a
[29:38] Speaker 1: nearby lake, just picnic, swimming and wine. It was a
[29:42] Speaker 1: peaceful spot, quiet, not too crowded, the kind of place
[29:45] Speaker 1: where you could easily forget about the world for a while.
[29:48] Speaker 1: One afternoon, we'd finished eating, my wife decided to go
[29:51] Speaker 1: for a quick swim while I stayed on the beach
[29:53] Speaker 1: with our daughter. I watched her way into the water,
[29:57] Speaker 1: the sun sparkling off the surface. I be later, she
[30:00] Speaker 1: suddenly stopped and turned to me, shouting something. At first
[30:04] Speaker 1: I couldn't make out what she said, but her expression
[30:07] Speaker 1: was off. Then I heard her clearly. I think I
[30:10] Speaker 1: just stepped on someone's face. I froze. I froze, thinking
[30:18] Speaker 1: maybe she was joking. But the look on her face
[30:21] Speaker 1: wasn't playful. It was pale and terrified. She quickly started
[30:25] Speaker 1: making her way back to shore, her legs moving faster,
[30:28] Speaker 1: like she couldn't get out the water fast enough. When
[30:31] Speaker 1: she got back, she said that while she was swimming,
[30:34] Speaker 1: her foot brush against something soft. At first, she thought
[30:38] Speaker 1: it was a a rock or a patch of seaweed,
[30:41] Speaker 1: but when she pressed her foot down, she felt the unmistakable.
[30:45] Speaker 1: Oh but when she pressed her foot down, she felt
[30:49] Speaker 1: the unmistakable shape of a face beneath the water, a
[30:53] Speaker 1: nose and eye socket. She swore she felt the hollow
[30:58] Speaker 1: of the eye. I considered going into check, but something
[31:04] Speaker 1: in my gut stock. We packed up and left right
[31:08] Speaker 1: after that. The next day, the local news reported that
[31:13] Speaker 1: a young boy who had been missing for days was
[31:15] Speaker 1: found drowned in that same lake, not far where we
[31:19] Speaker 1: had been. To this day, my wife is convinced she
[31:23] Speaker 1: stepped on his face.
[31:25] Speaker 2: Oh imagine if it bitter, Hey, then you acted it
[31:53] Speaker 2: was Then your toes go into the eye sockets. Oh
[31:55] Speaker 2: my god.
[31:59] Speaker 1: Yeah, today it's going to be a fun one. Today's
[32:07] Speaker 1: it's relationship stories. So these stories are from Reddit. They
[32:13] Speaker 1: range from am I the Asshole, am I the Devil?
[32:17] Speaker 1: True off my chest? These are stories that are specifically
[32:21] Speaker 1: compiled that deal with relationships. It could be other friendships, spouses,
[32:29] Speaker 1: you know, other types of dynamics. Alright, Okay, let's start
[32:38] Speaker 1: with the spicy one. Okay, the title is my husband
[32:44] Speaker 1: has a second family.
[32:47] Speaker 4: In Jamaica.
[32:53] Speaker 1: The ultimate cliche has happened in my life and I'm
[32:57] Speaker 1: absolutely broken. My husband has been having an affair for
[33:02] Speaker 1: over seventeen years. We've been married for more than twenty.
[33:07] Speaker 4: Five Okay, so he's definitely Jamaican.
[33:12] Speaker 1: We have three beautiful children, two in college and one
[33:15] Speaker 1: still living at home. But it turns out he's had
[33:18] Speaker 1: another entire family this whole time. My husband is an
[33:23] Speaker 1: insurance broker. He manages multiple branches across the country and
[33:27] Speaker 1: spends one week traveling, one week at home, and turns
[33:32] Speaker 1: out on his off weeks he's been with his other
[33:35] Speaker 1: family in Albucokie, where one of his branches is located. Oh.
[33:40] Speaker 1: He has a fiance there and they have two children,
[33:44] Speaker 1: both in their early twenties early teens. Excuse me, I'm
[33:47] Speaker 1: not saying yea. I found out by accident. I was
[33:52] Speaker 1: creating a new Facebook account, and when I searched his
[33:55] Speaker 1: first name, another profile popped up with a different last name,
[33:59] Speaker 1: but it was clear him. From that profile. I found
[34:02] Speaker 1: links to his fiances and their other children's Facebook pages.
[34:07] Speaker 4: On the socials if you will, I got big notes.
[34:13] Speaker 1: He's currently with them, and I know it's him because
[34:16] Speaker 1: his most recent post is a photo of him and
[34:19] Speaker 1: this other family having dinner. Among the photos are ones
[34:24] Speaker 1: of him kissing this woman and being fatherly with kids
[34:27] Speaker 1: who look exactly like him. I'm absolutely devastated. A part
[34:32] Speaker 1: of me wants to scream in his face and destroy everything,
[34:35] Speaker 1: but another part of me wants to just pretend. I
[34:37] Speaker 1: don't know, but because of our life, at least on
[34:42] Speaker 1: the surface, is peaceful. He's a good dad, he's loving,
[34:46] Speaker 1: he's our primary provider. But he's all those things to
[34:50] Speaker 1: another family too. If I expose this, I won't just
[34:54] Speaker 1: be blowing up my family, I'll be detonating theirs too
[34:58] Speaker 1: good in shambles. I've never cried so much in my life.
[35:03] Speaker 1: My youngest is away on a graduation trip, and I'm
[35:06] Speaker 1: completely alone until my lying, cheating husband, bastard husband comes home.
[35:11] Speaker 1: I can't believe this is my life. I feel like
[35:14] Speaker 1: a movie plot. Part of me still hopes this is
[35:18] Speaker 1: just some huge misunderstanding somehow, but I don't know what
[35:21] Speaker 1: to do. I'm tempted to pack a bag and just leave.
[35:25] Speaker 1: I can't stand this house where we raised our children,
[35:28] Speaker 1: celebrated every Christmas, where I've spent so many lonely New
[35:32] Speaker 1: Year's ease. While he was quote unquote working his ass off. Okay,
[35:36] Speaker 1: I want to leave a note to hurt him like
[35:38] Speaker 1: he's hurt me, But I don't think that's even possible.
[35:42] Speaker 1: I don't know how I'll ever look him in the
[35:44] Speaker 1: face to get you're taking notes, I mean.
[35:51] Speaker 5: Copious notes, I mean writing down.
[35:56] Speaker 3: Yikes, I mean I can all the way back to
[35:59] Speaker 3: the beginning because I knew it was some bullshit when
[36:03] Speaker 3: she still refers to this niggassa.
[36:05] Speaker 1: Rock, my head, my rock.
[36:09] Speaker 6: Okay, wait, like you.
[36:13] Speaker 1: Know I feel, Yeah, for seventeen years out of your
[36:20] Speaker 1: twenty five year marriage, for what is that percentage that's
[36:25] Speaker 1: over eighty percent?
[36:26] Speaker 4: Well over, Well, that's like the entire relationship.
[36:30] Speaker 1: Yeah, the entire relationship you have been creeping like that
[36:36] Speaker 1: is the whole relationship. That is a family. That is
[36:38] Speaker 1: a sixty.
[36:39] Speaker 4: Eight percent of the marriage, which he probably she probably
[36:43] Speaker 4: knew her before he got married and who knows.
[36:47] Speaker 1: Had to.
[36:50] Speaker 3: He didn't marry the other lady. They're just engaged and
[36:53] Speaker 3: have two children.
[36:55] Speaker 4: See this is the children. What this is the thing
[36:58] Speaker 4: for me? She's doing so much typing on Reddit and
[37:01] Speaker 4: there would be so like all my typing would be
[37:04] Speaker 4: in that woman's cell phone, you know, what I'm saying,
[37:06] Speaker 4: like it would be we need to have a face
[37:08] Speaker 4: to face because clearly he's not going to tell me
[37:10] Speaker 4: the truth. I need you to tell me the truth
[37:11] Speaker 4: type thing. Because I am not I'm a posed I mean,
[37:15] Speaker 4: I'm not opposed to women approaching the other woman if
[37:18] Speaker 4: they want to get answers as long as she's not coming.
[37:21] Speaker 4: I mean, we don't know if the girl know about
[37:23] Speaker 4: her or not. She might, but do she know that
[37:26] Speaker 4: he's fully full on married. I don't know, but I
[37:30] Speaker 4: would this is something where I would condone her calling
[37:33] Speaker 4: the other woman because I would need all sorts of answers.
[37:38] Speaker 4: I would need to try to wrap my head around
[37:41] Speaker 4: the fact that he has grown ass kids with this
[37:44] Speaker 4: woman and I'm just finding out about it. Yes, So
[37:48] Speaker 4: I would need to be having to sit down with
[37:50] Speaker 4: her because clearly he is a psychotic sociopath who will
[37:55] Speaker 4: not tell her the truth. So I know that she's
[37:58] Speaker 4: not going to get the truth if she approaches him regardless, right,
[38:02] Speaker 4: So I would definitely be getting my ass off the
[38:06] Speaker 4: Reddit and into that lady's phone and talking about so
[38:10] Speaker 4: where are you gonna meet? So you want to meet halfway? Like,
[38:12] Speaker 4: what do you want to.
[38:13] Speaker 1: Meet, Yeah Mejli that a real woman wouldn't do this
[38:17] Speaker 1: over the.
[38:17] Speaker 4: Phone, like like, what do you want to meet? Because
[38:21] Speaker 4: this guy, I gotta try to understand this. I would
[38:23] Speaker 4: be blowing up his whole spot if she didn't know already.
[38:26] Speaker 4: And we're gonna have to have this conversation because the
[38:30] Speaker 4: next conversation is going to be with me, you and him.
[38:34] Speaker 1: Yes, we having a full tribal council, like we are
[38:37] Speaker 1: having We are having discourse because there are so many questions,
[38:43] Speaker 1: like there are so many questions that I need answers
[38:45] Speaker 1: to you, and a whole bunch of questions I don't
[38:47] Speaker 1: want to answer, yeah, right, because you I would question
[38:51] Speaker 1: every moment, Yeah, where you went off to work, where
[38:54] Speaker 1: you went to the bathroom, when you went to this,
[38:58] Speaker 1: and that.
[38:59] Speaker 3: I mean not hear y'all on wanted answers. But and
[39:02] Speaker 3: this is probably the very traumatized, unhealed part of me speaking,
[39:07] Speaker 3: But I just feel like I would document all of
[39:10] Speaker 3: this for legal reasons only, like I would gather my receipts,
[39:16] Speaker 3: I would lawyer up, and he would never see me
[39:20] Speaker 3: again until we are in court.
[39:23] Speaker 4: But that's why I gotta go talk to the girl,
[39:25] Speaker 4: because you gotta get all the information because you're not
[39:29] Speaker 4: gonna get everything from You're not gonna get nothing from him.
[39:32] Speaker 4: So now I gotta get all this information so that yes,
[39:36] Speaker 4: we can lawyer the fuck up and get him for
[39:39] Speaker 4: every single godsad going down that he has.
[39:42] Speaker 3: And I hear her, I mean, uh to the part
[39:46] Speaker 3: where she was saying he's the provider, the breadwinner, all
[39:50] Speaker 3: this and that, and it's just like, gro not only
[39:53] Speaker 3: do you need to not type into Reddit, I need
[39:57] Speaker 3: you to get down to the LinkedIn and get.
[39:59] Speaker 1: You a job.
[40:02] Speaker 5: You're gonna have to get you a job because.
[40:05] Speaker 4: Because it's giving guilded age.
[40:09] Speaker 1: It giving like I went, I found my husband in
[40:13] Speaker 1: college and that and when I said, I do that meantime, Yeah,
[40:16] Speaker 1: that's it. Like those people who just actively just look
[40:21] Speaker 1: for a husband or a spouse in college and don't
[40:24] Speaker 1: do anything else like.
[40:25] Speaker 3: I, and they send you their entire lives around this
[40:28] Speaker 3: one relationship. And I mean, you know, I get it
[40:32] Speaker 3: from the perspective of being parents and raising children, but
[40:39] Speaker 3: I don't know. That's when I was just like, oh, girl,
[40:43] Speaker 3: I mean to hear her, considering like not saying anything
[40:47] Speaker 3: and just riding it out was where it was like, oh.
[40:50] Speaker 4: Yeah, that's and that's why I was saying, it's giving
[40:52] Speaker 4: guilded age because you know that that that lady I
[40:54] Speaker 4: forg you know, I don't be doing well with the
[40:56] Speaker 4: names on guilded Age, but I know the.
[40:57] Speaker 5: One who's in Eggsile to Newple because.
[41:00] Speaker 4: Her correct correct and because of just face value. She
[41:04] Speaker 4: was looking at her husband like no, you don't get
[41:06] Speaker 4: to go, like yeah, you can do whatever you want,
[41:08] Speaker 4: but you don't get to go. And he was like,
[41:09] Speaker 4: oh no, I'm going. And that meeting was yeah, like
[41:13] Speaker 4: you can't do this to me because they are going
[41:15] Speaker 4: to exile me, not you.
[41:18] Speaker 3: And I feel like that's what it sounds like a
[41:22] Speaker 3: place in society exactly. So it looks like.
[41:25] Speaker 4: Her a failure on her you know what I'm saying,
[41:27] Speaker 4: Like the lady who's writing it to the rereddit down
[41:30] Speaker 4: to the reddit, it sounds like she's more so too
[41:32] Speaker 4: also trying to save face and her ego about it.
[41:35] Speaker 4: It's like I can't you know what I'm saying, Like
[41:38] Speaker 4: I don't want to lose the money, and I also
[41:39] Speaker 4: don't want to lose the the reputation that I have
[41:43] Speaker 4: or whatever they put on for their community.
[41:46] Speaker 3: So that to me, I don't really care. We'll go,
[41:49] Speaker 3: We'll start up someplace else.
[41:52] Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean.
[41:54] Speaker 3: It makes me think of a meme I saw earlier
[41:56] Speaker 3: this morning that was like, why are women so secretive
[42:01] Speaker 3: about who they love? Like most women I know these
[42:04] Speaker 3: days don't love out loud? And this girl reposted it
[42:08] Speaker 3: and her reply was, loving a man is a humiliation ritual.
[42:13] Speaker 4: No, no, no, seriously, because the minute you say to
[42:18] Speaker 4: save their numbers.
[42:19] Speaker 5: I felt the scene in that moment.
[42:23] Speaker 3: Because if it's one thing these niggas going to do,
[42:26] Speaker 3: it's embarrassed you. And she said, loving a man is
[42:32] Speaker 3: a humiliation ritual.
[42:35] Speaker 5: Yeah, wow wow.
[42:39] Speaker 4: And I agree.
[42:40] Speaker 3: And I'm telling you that's why I just be on
[42:42] Speaker 3: some and I'm not superstitious, but I'm telling you, like
[42:45] Speaker 3: I said, it's like the minute you saved their name,
[42:48] Speaker 3: it's just something cute.
[42:51] Speaker 4: It all hell breaks literally.
[42:54] Speaker 5: You ain't saved my number. No, no, I know it's you,
[42:58] Speaker 5: but I'm just not there.
[43:00] Speaker 4: Yep.
[43:00] Speaker 3: And now the guys that I that still be in
[43:03] Speaker 3: my phone, they got certain names in their phone, like
[43:05] Speaker 3: one's name is Liya Liyah pants on by you that's
[43:08] Speaker 3: the number. That's the name that comes up every time.
[43:12] Speaker 3: You will tell you, because I'll be screenshotting the conversations
[43:14] Speaker 3: we'd be having, and she'd be like the Lia Lia
[43:16] Speaker 3: pants on fire.
[43:19] Speaker 5: No yeah, if his.
[43:20] Speaker 1: Name is longer than the messages, Oh oh.
[43:25] Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, because they will embarrass.
[43:27] Speaker 2: You, embarrassing.
[43:30] Speaker 1: We have an update.
[43:31] Speaker 5: Okay, so.
[43:35] Speaker 1: Uh, she says, First of all, thank you. Your advicement
[43:40] Speaker 1: the world to me. I'm not well versed in legal matters,
[43:42] Speaker 1: so all of your legal input has been incredible, incredibly helpful.
[43:46] Speaker 1: I've spoken to an attorney. We're discussing next steps, and
[43:49] Speaker 1: he's advised me to gather as much evidence as I can. Photos, messages,
[43:55] Speaker 1: flight records. Okay. I've created a folder with everything and
[43:58] Speaker 1: will present it with a time comes for divorce proceedings.
[44:02] Speaker 1: I'm still here on the legal specifics, but it's a start.
[44:05] Speaker 1: I also contacted the other one. I explained the entire situation.
[44:11] Speaker 1: She was just as shocked and heartbroken as I was.
[44:14] Speaker 1: From what I've learned, she's financially independent from him and
[44:18] Speaker 1: they don't share property, so her separation from him should
[44:21] Speaker 1: be more straightforward. My husband now knows I'm aware of everything.
[44:26] Speaker 1: He's staying in a hotel. What he doesn't know is
[44:30] Speaker 1: that his fiance knows too. When he walked through the door,
[44:33] Speaker 1: I confronted him. He started crying and begging. It was
[44:37] Speaker 1: honestly pathetic. I cry too, but I've made a choice
[44:41] Speaker 1: to see him for what he really is, a pathetic coward.
[44:45] Speaker 1: We both legally own the house, so I can't force
[44:48] Speaker 1: him out, but he's staying away for my sake quote unquote.
[44:52] Speaker 1: All I could think is, if he cares so much
[44:54] Speaker 1: about my well being, maybe being faithful for my sake
[44:57] Speaker 1: should have crossed his mind. Now in a downtown hotel,
[45:01] Speaker 1: calling every few hours to quote unquote check in on girl.
[45:05] Speaker 1: I'm not sad anymore. I mean I am, but mostly
[45:08] Speaker 1: I'm furious. My children still don't know. My youngest thinks
[45:12] Speaker 1: his dad is working more in Albuquerque because of a
[45:15] Speaker 1: quote unquote business problem. I don't know how to tell them.
[45:18] Speaker 1: They have two half siblings and a father with a
[45:20] Speaker 1: backup family. I've been feeling so deeply unwanted and unappreciated lately,
[45:25] Speaker 1: but your kind words have helped more than you know.
[45:27] Speaker 1: Thank you, truly. Mmmm.
[45:30] Speaker 3: You got to tell them kids, they got brothers and
[45:32] Speaker 3: sisters somewhere else.
[45:33] Speaker 5: Okay, that's that's got to be a priority.
[45:36] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's because you never know, you know,
[45:41] Speaker 1: there's way too many, way too many stories of my
[45:45] Speaker 1: people dating each other's siblings.
[45:49] Speaker 4: In the same town or like they're not in the
[45:51] Speaker 4: same town.
[45:51] Speaker 3: Though, right, But you know the internet is, you know,
[45:55] Speaker 3: everybody's as close as they are to their phone.
[46:00] Speaker 4: Yeah, they got to know, they have to know. Well,
[46:03] Speaker 4: I'm glad she's flowing it up. I'm glad she's I
[46:05] Speaker 4: hope she don't break down because you know, they like
[46:08] Speaker 4: the child at the at the at the last minute
[46:12] Speaker 4: of the fourth quarter, like to come in their knees
[46:14] Speaker 4: about I'm talking about they talked to the lady and
[46:18] Speaker 4: how they got saved and how they Holy go spell
[46:22] Speaker 4: and they trying to do things right, and so like,
[46:24] Speaker 4: I really hope that she stays true to who she
[46:27] Speaker 4: is and where she is right now in her life
[46:29] Speaker 4: and kicks that nigga to the curve. I really really hope.
[46:31] Speaker 3: So there's a threshold that you crossed though when she
[46:34] Speaker 3: said that she'd moved past sadness and into anchor, and
[46:38] Speaker 3: when she can now see how raggedy and useless he is.
[46:43] Speaker 5: You know, when we when we get to the place
[46:45] Speaker 5: where we're no.
[46:46] Speaker 4: Longer attractions pathetic too.
[46:48] Speaker 3: Right, So when we get to a place, you know,
[46:51] Speaker 3: it's really hard to sustain an attraction to somebody that
[46:53] Speaker 3: you don't respect.
[46:54] Speaker 1: Amen.
[46:56] Speaker 3: So so I'm hopeful that she is past turn the
[47:00] Speaker 3: corner and that no amount of jagged edge begging would
[47:05] Speaker 3: allow her to have him back into her personal space
[47:10] Speaker 3: or her bank account ever again, Yeah, because she's gonna
[47:16] Speaker 3: be able to get all his money because he's the breadwinner.
[47:19] Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I don't like this idea of like quote
[47:24] Speaker 1: unquote checking in on and like, you know, bread crubbing.
[47:28] Speaker 1: I think that's the term, right, Like that's manipulation tactic
[47:31] Speaker 1: because he knows, just like you're talking about here, like
[47:35] Speaker 1: she's about to take everything.
[47:36] Speaker 4: Seriously and it's not even going to love. It's going
[47:39] Speaker 4: to be about control. He can't have her get all
[47:42] Speaker 4: the control. He can't lose everything. It's not even gonna
[47:45] Speaker 4: be about her, you know what I mean. And that's
[47:48] Speaker 4: the thing that they'll make you think that they're coming back,
[47:52] Speaker 4: and they they are so humble about this and how
[47:54] Speaker 4: wrong they were. And then the grand scheme of things.
[47:57] Speaker 4: This whole the whole thing was about them and saving base.
[48:00] Speaker 4: Because truth of the matter is a lot of these men,
[48:02] Speaker 4: most of them who do this type of shit, is
[48:04] Speaker 4: narcissistic and it's always about face value hudder. And so
[48:10] Speaker 4: you know they're always going to be worried about what
[48:13] Speaker 4: they look like on an outer and so that is
[48:16] Speaker 4: why they start. Yeah, that's why he's gonna start bread
[48:18] Speaker 4: crying her. That'shy. I was like, I hope she just
[48:20] Speaker 4: stays strong because and then he's gonna turn it into
[48:23] Speaker 4: what you was ugly anyway, you know what I'm saying,
[48:26] Speaker 4: Like it just splits, it goes back and forth.
[48:29] Speaker 5: It's gonna be her fault.
[48:30] Speaker 4: Yeah, Yeah, it's gonna be her fault.
[48:32] Speaker 1: She was ugly.
[48:33] Speaker 4: You ain't do this, So it's gonna try to like
[48:35] Speaker 4: play on all these The devil knows how to seek
[48:38] Speaker 4: right on in there and say the things to make
[48:40] Speaker 4: you break. So I just hope she has stayed strong
[48:44] Speaker 4: through all of that, because the manipulation train is not
[48:47] Speaker 4: stopped yet.
[48:49] Speaker 1: No, let's take a break and we'll be back with
[48:54] Speaker 1: another story. Headed claud Ed, We're black this next one. Yes,
[49:02] Speaker 1: this we're doing relationship stories here with Kia and LaToya
[49:08] Speaker 1: I have. The next one is religious kind of and
[49:17] Speaker 1: it's also based in Maryland. And this is also a
[49:21] Speaker 1: flip side of what we just talked about. A priest
[49:32] Speaker 1: broke the seal of confession and told my husband I cheated.
[49:37] Speaker 1: They can.
[49:39] Speaker 4: So let me get my notes, okay.
[49:45] Speaker 1: As soon as I read the title in my head,
[49:47] Speaker 1: I was like, one of them.
[49:47] Speaker 5: Goes say oh yes, because.
[49:50] Speaker 1: Yea, so three years ago. This is a woman three
[49:57] Speaker 1: years ago I cheated on my husband during a war trip.
[50:00] Speaker 1: It was a one night stand. We didn't exchange numbers
[50:03] Speaker 1: and haven't been in contact since. I don't even remember
[50:07] Speaker 1: his last name. At the time, I didn't care much.
[50:10] Speaker 1: My marriage was rocky and I felt completely unappreciated. But
[50:14] Speaker 1: during the pandemic, my husband and I reconnected and I
[50:17] Speaker 1: started to feel incredibly guilty. Last month, I decided to
[50:22] Speaker 1: go to confession. I told my parish priest everything. He
[50:26] Speaker 1: told me that as part of my penance, I needed
[50:28] Speaker 1: to tell my husband. I didn't know how to do that,
[50:34] Speaker 1: so I sat on it. Last weekend, I came home
[50:38] Speaker 1: to my husband throwing all my things out of the bedroom.
[50:41] Speaker 1: He was livid and told me he knew everything. Apparently
[50:45] Speaker 1: the priest followed up with my husband. When my husband
[50:50] Speaker 1: didn't know what he was talking about, the priest told
[50:53] Speaker 1: him everything. Now my world is falling apart. I thought
[50:58] Speaker 1: confession was supposed to be private. Isn't that the whole point?
[51:03] Speaker 1: Does the priests have any liability for breaking confidentiality? I'm
[51:08] Speaker 1: in Maryland, so this was an am I the devil,
[51:09] Speaker 1: and also legal advice.
[51:12] Speaker 4: Move on first?
[51:14] Speaker 1: Do you want to go first?
[51:16] Speaker 4: No, I'm just asking life, so listen.
[51:21] Speaker 3: I will disclaim this by saying I don't know anything
[51:24] Speaker 3: about how the Catholics Catholic and what the rules are,
[51:29] Speaker 3: but I'm pretty sure, especially after going to Catholic school
[51:32] Speaker 3: for a couple of years.
[51:33] Speaker 5: That the priest not supposed to tell.
[51:36] Speaker 1: No, you're not not.
[51:39] Speaker 4: It's a code of silence or something that they say
[51:41] Speaker 4: that something.
[51:43] Speaker 3: That is that is a very that is a serious offense.
[51:49] Speaker 3: And so I do feel like there is some sort
[51:52] Speaker 3: of you ought to be able to, whether it's the
[51:54] Speaker 3: archdiocese or whomever, like you ought to be somebody you
[51:57] Speaker 3: need to call to entail that this has happened. I do,
[52:05] Speaker 3: I do too, But the thing that strikes me. And
[52:08] Speaker 3: this is not me caping for this woman cheating. I
[52:12] Speaker 3: do feel like she was sorry and was just you know,
[52:18] Speaker 3: willing to be held accountable in terms of you know,
[52:22] Speaker 3: she felt guilty. So I know that she's not a
[52:24] Speaker 3: terrible like you know, I know she's not a sayist
[52:26] Speaker 3: or whatever. And I think you do sometimes, you know,
[52:30] Speaker 3: you have to be ready to you know, sort of
[52:34] Speaker 3: come clean about something like this.
[52:36] Speaker 5: So I do feel like it is not up to
[52:39] Speaker 5: this priest.
[52:40] Speaker 3: I feel like this is a complete abuse of power
[52:45] Speaker 3: and religious authority, if you will.
[52:49] Speaker 5: And I feel like.
[52:49] Speaker 3: That's that's messed up. That's messed up. It is not
[52:53] Speaker 3: a reflective of God or God's character or anything like that.
[52:58] Speaker 3: It's wrong on all accounts, and it is just as
[53:04] Speaker 3: much a sin as the adultery itself.
[53:07] Speaker 4: In my book, I agree. Now, this is what my
[53:11] Speaker 4: notes say. Oh so the priests want to do the bending,
[53:20] Speaker 4: So just want to do the bending?
[53:22] Speaker 5: That's what I get.
[53:24] Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, I'm getting that reading in between the lines.
[53:27] Speaker 4: First of all, why is the priest and the husband
[53:29] Speaker 4: such a How do they have a relationship where he
[53:32] Speaker 4: could go back and tell the husband what the wife did?
[53:35] Speaker 4: Because what So then we also have to think about
[53:39] Speaker 4: how the lady was not feeling fulfilled in her marriage
[53:42] Speaker 4: and she started cheating. And I'm not saying that cheating
[53:45] Speaker 4: is right, but what I'm saying is it does take
[53:47] Speaker 4: to the cheat, right, it doesn't always mean this person
[53:51] Speaker 4: is being being unfaithful. So this person is unfaithful, it
[53:56] Speaker 4: could be he's not he's not paying attention her, or
[54:00] Speaker 4: he's been he's withdrawn from her in the home. So
[54:03] Speaker 4: now she's, you know, searching for something else. So I'm
[54:06] Speaker 4: reading between those lines, and I'm also reading between y'all
[54:10] Speaker 4: needed a pandemic to come together like that means it's
[54:13] Speaker 4: not together because you cannot believe. I just don't believe
[54:17] Speaker 4: in a lot of these connections that happened during the pandemic,
[54:19] Speaker 4: and we're going to see a lot of them crash
[54:21] Speaker 4: and burn like right now. So some of them, yes,
[54:25] Speaker 4: but others know, especially when it comes to people who
[54:27] Speaker 4: we used to be married. So That's what I'm getting
[54:29] Speaker 4: from it. So what I take. My take is the
[54:31] Speaker 4: priests want to do to bending. So he sat that
[54:37] Speaker 4: whole thing up so that you can get.
[54:40] Speaker 5: With his baby.
[54:41] Speaker 3: Okay, remember that video I sent you from the content
[54:45] Speaker 3: creator in DC what's his name? Pretty Boy Comedy when
[54:48] Speaker 3: he said the messiest person you know is a man god.
[54:52] Speaker 3: Remember he said they were than the gates.
[54:54] Speaker 5: He called them dragons. Dragged, Yeah, dragon because they love
[55:00] Speaker 5: the mess. They carry the mess. They're usually listening propagate
[55:06] Speaker 5: the mess.
[55:08] Speaker 4: That is in love with that man.
[55:11] Speaker 5: A dragon smell a dragged confessional.
[55:15] Speaker 1: I Yeah, I don't disagree because A like, because I
[55:23] Speaker 1: have to play the scenario in my head, Like I'm
[55:26] Speaker 1: sure like the husband was just you know, doing a
[55:29] Speaker 1: charity basketball of it, you know, just volunteering. Yeah, the
[55:32] Speaker 1: walls he.
[55:34] Speaker 4: Was doing, reaching over the soup and the priests.
[55:38] Speaker 1: Your come father Abraham and was like, I got to
[55:42] Speaker 1: tell you something, you know, you know, like that's like
[55:46] Speaker 1: that's so messy. Yeah, And I don't disagree, and like,
[55:50] Speaker 1: what are you What are you gaining by telling the
[55:54] Speaker 1: secrets from this covenant?
[55:57] Speaker 4: And honestly, I feel like, yeah, don't that thing there
[56:00] Speaker 4: is like a code of silence or something like that,
[56:02] Speaker 4: especially if she did it in how they be doing
[56:06] Speaker 4: it in the movies?
[56:07] Speaker 5: Do they still do that?
[56:08] Speaker 4: When you go forgive me father pay sending them darker rooms?
[56:11] Speaker 4: Because how That's another thing is like if he would
[56:14] Speaker 4: have known, if he knew that was her and he went,
[56:16] Speaker 4: I could see that that's him breaking the law. And
[56:18] Speaker 4: then if he did it under the GUIDs of counseling
[56:22] Speaker 4: where it's separate counseling, not marriage counseling, but even marriage counseling,
[56:26] Speaker 4: I feel like there's still a yeah, like code of
[56:31] Speaker 4: silence or something like that that they have. So I
[56:34] Speaker 4: would feel like she could go to whatever they do,
[56:38] Speaker 4: down to the Catholic church and go to his upper
[56:40] Speaker 4: management and shut that whole thing down, because I guarantee
[56:44] Speaker 4: you there's pictures of Stebo in his phone that they've
[56:49] Speaker 4: been doing the bending together.
[56:52] Speaker 3: It's just that there is the penitent privilege and that
[56:58] Speaker 3: in most cases confessions are protected by law.
[57:02] Speaker 5: Yeah.
[57:02] Speaker 3: Religious that means under certain circumstances, the information shared in
[57:07] Speaker 3: the confession cannot be compelled or disclosed in court or
[57:10] Speaker 3: other legal proceedings.
[57:12] Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, me, she can sue the archdiocese and get
[57:17] Speaker 4: millions probably because he's essentially ended, or sue him or
[57:22] Speaker 4: that's still but still sue the whatever the church at diocese,
[57:27] Speaker 4: because I would go after them. I would go after
[57:31] Speaker 4: them because y'all hire him, and he just ruined my
[57:33] Speaker 4: entire marriage. I don't care if I was out here.
[57:35] Speaker 4: I'm slepting my sl my bus, my box out every night.
[57:38] Speaker 4: I don't care. I could have been a prostitute on
[57:40] Speaker 4: Hunts point. I do not care. He ruined my marriage.
[57:43] Speaker 4: And I want eighteen thousand million dollars right now, and
[57:50] Speaker 4: I want my money now. I want my money now.
[57:53] Speaker 5: Yeah, jergy confidentiality. Yeah, that's a thing. That's a lawyer.
[58:00] Speaker 5: Her up and press the charges and get your bag.
[58:03] Speaker 1: Yeah, let's move on to the next story. They are,
[58:12] Speaker 1: they are, they are especially you can especially the next
[58:17] Speaker 1: one I'm about to touch. We're switching gage here, so
[58:22] Speaker 1: we're moving more towards friendship. You two have been friends
[58:27] Speaker 1: for a very long time. You know this. This Probably
[58:34] Speaker 1: this may not have come up between you two, but
[58:36] Speaker 1: you may have come up and in your friendship circles. Right.
[58:43] Speaker 1: I accidentally broke my friend's MacBook, offered to pay, and
[58:47] Speaker 1: now she wants more because she was upgrading anyway, or
[58:51] Speaker 1: she'll sue me. Okay, mm hmm, let's get into it.
[58:58] Speaker 1: I had a few friends over at my place and
[59:00] Speaker 1: one of them invited another friend I didn't know very well.
[59:04] Speaker 1: She left her MacBook on my couch and when I
[59:07] Speaker 1: sat down, I accidentally broke it. It was completely my fault,
[59:11] Speaker 1: so I took full responsibility and told her i'd pay
[59:14] Speaker 1: for it. She said she bought it three years ago
[59:17] Speaker 1: for twenty two hundred dollars, and I agreed to wire
[59:21] Speaker 1: her the money within a week. Fast forward a few days,
[59:25] Speaker 1: she emails me saying that she's expecting twenty seven hundred
[59:28] Speaker 1: dollars as per our conversation quote unquote. I was confused
[59:33] Speaker 1: because we never agreed on that amount. I got her
[59:37] Speaker 1: number for my friend and gave her a call to
[59:39] Speaker 1: clear things up. On the phone, she says she's expected
[59:43] Speaker 1: me to cover the cost of a brand new, upgraded
[59:46] Speaker 1: MacBook because she was quote unquote planning to upgrade anyway.
[59:51] Speaker 1: She told me if I don't pay the twenty seven
[59:54] Speaker 1: hundred dollars, she'll take me to small claims court. So
[59:58] Speaker 1: now I'm stuck. Should I just send her the original
[1:00:02] Speaker 1: twenty two hundred dollars for the cost of the one
[1:00:04] Speaker 1: I broke, or tell or tell her to go ahead
[1:00:07] Speaker 1: and sue me.
[1:00:11] Speaker 4: K one is seven hundred dollars. It's crazy town nuts,
[1:00:18] Speaker 4: because what is she an OSCO Will winning film editor, Like,
[1:00:21] Speaker 4: what's what is on the what is down today?
[1:00:23] Speaker 1: Asking like she is this is a Lucasfilms as computer.
[1:00:28] Speaker 3: Let me tell you what I would send that girl
[1:00:31] Speaker 3: to twenty two hundred dollars, and I would tell her
[1:00:33] Speaker 3: to try me, like, listen, if you gotta go, if
[1:00:36] Speaker 3: you gotta if you want to take me to small cake,
[1:00:38] Speaker 3: clean score, bitch, that's where we're going, all right. Well,
[1:00:41] Speaker 3: and honestly, what I'd be saying, like, girl, let's go
[1:00:44] Speaker 3: see what your trading value is on this thing, and
[1:00:47] Speaker 3: I will pay the difference, Like you're not coming up
[1:00:50] Speaker 3: on me.
[1:00:51] Speaker 4: Like you're not coming up on me. So what I'm
[1:00:53] Speaker 4: gonna do is, since it's broken, you don't need it,
[1:00:56] Speaker 4: give it to me. I'll trade it in and I
[1:00:57] Speaker 4: will pay the different sport and upgrade it laptop. You
[1:01:00] Speaker 4: should be happy with that. Suing me for an additional whatever,
[1:01:05] Speaker 4: five hundred dollars is wild. That's wild because and so
[1:01:09] Speaker 4: that just tells me we was never friends to begin with.
[1:01:11] Speaker 4: That's number one and two is what the hell was
[1:01:14] Speaker 4: that girl doing to break the girl's laptop? Like how
[1:01:16] Speaker 4: does that happen.
[1:01:18] Speaker 5: I mean she must have flown her body down on
[1:01:21] Speaker 5: that couch.
[1:01:21] Speaker 4: But either way, I mean, we just don't be around
[1:01:24] Speaker 4: each other's electronics like that.
[1:01:27] Speaker 5: I mean, I mean this is just wild. I don't
[1:01:30] Speaker 5: feel like this is anything.
[1:01:32] Speaker 3: I don't know, I feel oh, I feel bad this
[1:01:35] Speaker 3: I would be in either case if I broke Toya's
[1:01:38] Speaker 3: laptop or she broke mine, I don't feel like.
[1:01:41] Speaker 4: Places would be tight, like it would be nothing but tightness, Like.
[1:01:52] Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean this happens, Like what do you do?
[1:01:55] Speaker 5: I don't understand.
[1:01:56] Speaker 4: Because I'd be like wait, so like how did this happen?
[1:01:59] Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
[1:02:00] Speaker 4: So once we got past the initial shock of it,
[1:02:03] Speaker 4: it would be first of all, I wouldn't have to
[1:02:05] Speaker 4: ask ta Kia if she broke mine, I wouldn't have
[1:02:09] Speaker 4: to ask her to replace it. If I broke her,
[1:02:11] Speaker 4: she would not have to ask me to replace it. It
[1:02:13] Speaker 4: would be like, girl, I listen, don't even look my way.
[1:02:16] Speaker 3: Girl, girl, you would be taking me apologizing.
[1:02:21] Speaker 5: It would be dumb. It would be like it would
[1:02:24] Speaker 5: be years later.
[1:02:24] Speaker 3: And it would be like, child, you remember when I
[1:02:27] Speaker 3: broke that laptop?
[1:02:29] Speaker 5: Oh, what is wrong with me?
[1:02:31] Speaker 3: Like if we would be talking about it years because
[1:02:35] Speaker 3: that happened.
[1:02:36] Speaker 5: Oh, I just don't understand what got into.
[1:02:39] Speaker 4: Me, right, Yeah, so that's why I was just like,
[1:02:43] Speaker 4: that wasn't a friendship to begin with. You know what
[1:02:46] Speaker 4: I'm saying, Like, that's not a friendship to begin with.
[1:02:49] Speaker 4: If you could say even the way to sue.
[1:02:50] Speaker 3: Book, Yeah, if I went to your house and broke
[1:02:54] Speaker 3: anything in there, I would feel awful. I mean, I
[1:02:56] Speaker 3: don't care if it was if it was a MacBook,
[1:02:59] Speaker 3: I don't care if it was a strap on your shoe.
[1:03:01] Speaker 5: I'd have felt like shit, Like damn, I'm so sorry
[1:03:05] Speaker 5: the fact that you would.
[1:03:06] Speaker 3: And I feel like this girl is remorseful and willing
[1:03:08] Speaker 3: to take responsibility then to be met with somebody trying
[1:03:12] Speaker 3: to take advantage of that, that's what I'm saying, Like,
[1:03:16] Speaker 3: you're trying to take advantage of that.
[1:03:17] Speaker 5: So that's grounds to get drug. I'm not gonna hold
[1:03:20] Speaker 5: you like we would have to.
[1:03:24] Speaker 2: I would.
[1:03:24] Speaker 3: I would probably not have any dealings with this person
[1:03:27] Speaker 3: ever again because this this uh shows that you have
[1:03:32] Speaker 3: the lack of character and I can't have people like
[1:03:35] Speaker 3: that around me.
[1:03:37] Speaker 4: And I actually would tell her, you know what, go
[1:03:39] Speaker 4: ahead and waste your time to do small claims because
[1:03:41] Speaker 4: I truly believe Judge Judy in them. Whoever's gonna because
[1:03:44] Speaker 4: I've had to go to small claims here in New York.
[1:03:46] Speaker 4: They do not they do not got time for nonsense.
[1:03:49] Speaker 4: They will get you out of that quick. And so
[1:03:51] Speaker 4: I strongly believe that if she came in there and
[1:03:53] Speaker 4: the friend comes in and saying that I was willing
[1:03:55] Speaker 4: to take the laptop and trade it in and pay
[1:03:58] Speaker 4: the difference, but she's telling me she won an additional
[1:04:01] Speaker 4: five hundred, I guarantee you any judge, you'd be like, oh,
[1:04:04] Speaker 4: is that what was happening? Case dismissed? Now you have nothing.
[1:04:08] Speaker 4: So I would be like, let's just go.
[1:04:10] Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying, like, let's just go.
[1:04:13] Speaker 1: Yeah, let's go down to the people's court.
[1:04:17] Speaker 4: Let's go down to the people's court and let me
[1:04:20] Speaker 4: tell you something. Don't speak to me because anytime I
[1:04:22] Speaker 4: see you, it's on site and I'm going to mean it.
[1:04:25] Speaker 5: Yeah, it's just.
[1:04:27] Speaker 4: I'm gonna mean it.
[1:04:29] Speaker 2: Mm hmmm.
[1:04:30] Speaker 4: I will take every off your head because I don't
[1:04:34] Speaker 4: have anything.
[1:04:35] Speaker 1: Let's take a break. Let's take a break and we'll
[1:04:38] Speaker 1: be back more Jada XD with Kea LaToya hit A Claude,
[1:04:43] Speaker 1: and we're back. We're doing relationship stories. Uh, just when
[1:04:51] Speaker 1: you thought it couldn't get worse, Oh God, they do.
[1:04:57] Speaker 1: Uh we're gonna go back to relationship dynamics, not just friendship,
[1:05:03] Speaker 1: but you know romanticals, spousal romanticals. Right. My fiance secretly
[1:05:10] Speaker 1: applied for a job in another country and expected me
[1:05:13] Speaker 1: to just follow him.
[1:05:14] Speaker 6: Hmmm.
[1:05:18] Speaker 1: We've been engaged for about a year. We were wedding planning,
[1:05:22] Speaker 1: house hunting, and even casually talking about kids. I really
[1:05:26] Speaker 1: thought we were building a future together and were on
[1:05:29] Speaker 1: the same page. Then one night I was on our
[1:05:34] Speaker 1: shared laptop and an email popped up. It was a
[1:05:37] Speaker 1: job offer, congratulating him on a new position in Switzerland.
[1:05:42] Speaker 5: Oh.
[1:05:44] Speaker 1: I had no idea he even applied for anything, let
[1:05:46] Speaker 1: alone something abroad. I confronted him immediately. He tried to
[1:05:53] Speaker 1: play it off like it was a surprise girl. He
[1:05:56] Speaker 1: said he thought I'd be excited and would just come
[1:05:58] Speaker 1: with him as my job. Leaving my friends and family
[1:06:02] Speaker 1: and uprooting my entire life was just assumed. What's worse
[1:06:06] Speaker 1: is that this isn't or this wasn't a sudden thing.
[1:06:10] Speaker 1: He'd been going through the application process for months, interviews, negotiations,
[1:06:15] Speaker 1: even relocation discussions. Not once did he mintion it to me.
[1:06:20] Speaker 1: I wasn't even included in the decision. I was just
[1:06:23] Speaker 1: supposed to go along with it. Right now, we're on
[1:06:26] Speaker 1: a break, trying to figure things out, but deep down
[1:06:29] Speaker 1: I can't shake the feeling that I was never really
[1:06:31] Speaker 1: a part of the plan. Is this a deal breaker?
[1:06:34] Speaker 1: I love to hear other people's thoughts.
[1:06:36] Speaker 4: Oh girl, girl, let me tell you some of this
[1:06:40] Speaker 4: what I wrote, he was building. He was building a
[1:06:43] Speaker 4: future for himself and an exit plan for her. That's
[1:06:50] Speaker 4: he was building.
[1:06:50] Speaker 5: The night he wanted he wanted it out.
[1:06:54] Speaker 4: Mm hmm. Yeah. And so it's easier to do this
[1:06:58] Speaker 4: because it's like, there's no way she's coming with me
[1:07:00] Speaker 4: to Switzerland. And he could have probably been It could
[1:07:05] Speaker 4: have been subconsciously, you know what I'm saying, like or
[1:07:08] Speaker 4: just realizing like I don't have time to be making
[1:07:10] Speaker 4: plans with this girl. This this career and this opportunity
[1:07:13] Speaker 4: matters to me most. So it's like, if she comes,
[1:07:17] Speaker 4: she comes, If she don't, she don't. Nine times out
[1:07:19] Speaker 4: of ten, she ain't gonna come, I feel like guys
[1:07:21] Speaker 4: do definitely think like that, and I do believe in
[1:07:24] Speaker 4: I do believe guys will like pick fights or set
[1:07:27] Speaker 4: things up and not just guys. Let me not say that,
[1:07:30] Speaker 4: because girls do it too, like position and manipulate situations
[1:07:33] Speaker 4: to get somebody to make a decision. So it's actually
[1:07:36] Speaker 4: they make it seem like they think they make this decision,
[1:07:39] Speaker 4: but it was actually them who manipulated the whole situation.
[1:07:43] Speaker 4: So that's why I sound like he was just you know,
[1:07:45] Speaker 4: preparing her exit plan too as well, exit out of
[1:07:48] Speaker 4: the relationship girl.
[1:07:51] Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. I think that he he created a
[1:07:56] Speaker 1: back door for her, you know, in these plans because
[1:08:00] Speaker 1: it's it's so outrageous, right, like, uh in consider it
[1:08:05] Speaker 1: and rude to because this isn't just getting a new
[1:08:08] Speaker 1: apartment you know, across town. This is you know, citizenship
[1:08:13] Speaker 1: and ship.
[1:08:14] Speaker 4: But that means that means that was a lot of
[1:08:16] Speaker 4: lying that was going on, because like where was he
[1:08:18] Speaker 4: telling he was at when he's interviewing or doing all
[1:08:21] Speaker 4: his work, Like, yeah, he's a liar too, So.
[1:08:27] Speaker 3: Yeah, I would never I would struggle to trust, Like
[1:08:29] Speaker 3: this is a massive thing to keep from someone that
[1:08:32] Speaker 3: you're in relationship with so I would struggle to believe
[1:08:34] Speaker 3: anything that he said every So, you know, in terms
[1:08:38] Speaker 3: of whether or not this is a deal breaker, like
[1:08:41] Speaker 3: I just don't know that you know, you can come
[1:08:47] Speaker 3: back from from this level of compromised trust, Like for me, yeah,
[1:08:53] Speaker 3: I do also feel like I got questions and I mean,
[1:08:58] Speaker 3: I don't know if this makes me a trad wife
[1:09:01] Speaker 3: or whatever, but I'm just like, what kind of job
[1:09:03] Speaker 3: was it? Like did you expect me to just go
[1:09:06] Speaker 3: over there and be a capchwoman or h.
[1:09:09] Speaker 1: Yeah, that's my question too, because I'm like, because now
[1:09:12] Speaker 1: it's the financial all the financial responsibility goes on this
[1:09:15] Speaker 1: man exactly, and therefore I'm completely dependent about That's what
[1:09:20] Speaker 1: makes me.
[1:09:20] Speaker 4: Think she was never a part of a plan, you
[1:09:22] Speaker 4: know what I mean, like hoping that she just never
[1:09:25] Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying, like because I feel like
[1:09:26] Speaker 4: if she'd have been like, Okay, I'm gonna go, then
[1:09:29] Speaker 4: it would have been like I don't know if this
[1:09:31] Speaker 4: is you know what I mean, Like I wonder.
[1:09:32] Speaker 5: Yea a surprise?
[1:09:34] Speaker 3: Yeah, to frame it as a surprise as gaslighting in
[1:09:38] Speaker 3: its purest form, to make it seem like this is
[1:09:41] Speaker 3: something that you should be excited about. Uh is just
[1:09:46] Speaker 3: the kind of just toxic manipulation that is that's the
[1:09:51] Speaker 3: red flag for me. That's the biggest deal breaker is
[1:09:55] Speaker 3: that if we're moving forward in a relationship in this
[1:09:57] Speaker 3: way and we can't talk about something this massive, I
[1:10:01] Speaker 3: would need to apply for citizenship.
[1:10:03] Speaker 5: You can't just spring that on me. You can't just.
[1:10:06] Speaker 3: Spring you know, me moving and leaving my family and life.
[1:10:09] Speaker 3: You can't just bring that on me like a surprise
[1:10:12] Speaker 3: wedding or something and like.
[1:10:14] Speaker 4: Like go to hell, like absolutely, because I guarantee you
[1:10:17] Speaker 4: he was probably still sleeping with her, And that's what
[1:10:20] Speaker 4: be getting me. It's like, you already know you don't
[1:10:22] Speaker 4: want this.
[1:10:22] Speaker 5: You already know.
[1:10:23] Speaker 4: You you've already you already ready to have a relationship
[1:10:26] Speaker 4: with Shibleshka. You ready, you're already thinking about great drink
[1:10:35] Speaker 4: and drink vodka. You already you already planning that. But
[1:10:39] Speaker 4: he was still probably still sleeping with her, still going,
[1:10:42] Speaker 4: you know, doing all kind of steing next all that, lion.
[1:10:45] Speaker 4: And it's unfortunate. And I have seen way too many
[1:10:48] Speaker 4: times and I have also been in it, but I
[1:10:50] Speaker 4: was young where you put yourself in these relationships or
[1:10:53] Speaker 4: these situations and then it's just like really hard for
[1:10:55] Speaker 4: you to get out of So you manipulate the fuck
[1:10:57] Speaker 4: out of that situation to get out of it. Like
[1:11:00] Speaker 4: for me personally, I was with somebody I could not
[1:11:03] Speaker 4: be with that person no more. I stopped paying the
[1:11:06] Speaker 4: rent bro and I told her I ain't have no job.
[1:11:10] Speaker 4: I have one. I just lied and said I didn't
[1:11:17] Speaker 4: m and I stopped paying the rent. You understand, So
[1:11:22] Speaker 4: that's why I be nowhere because I've been trash. I've
[1:11:26] Speaker 4: been trash, but also that relationship was trash and I was.
[1:11:30] Speaker 4: It was so hard for me to get out of
[1:11:31] Speaker 4: it because it was just very obsessive.
[1:11:34] Speaker 3: So they had she said sorry, she said he had.
[1:11:40] Speaker 3: They had a shared lafetome. So it's like you knew
[1:11:42] Speaker 3: that I was going to see this. You set this
[1:11:45] Speaker 3: up for me to see this in this way. You
[1:11:47] Speaker 3: didn't even have the boss to have a conversation about
[1:11:50] Speaker 3: the fact that you got a job offer and you
[1:11:52] Speaker 3: want to go whether I go with you.
[1:11:54] Speaker 4: Or not, Well, you need to talk about why she
[1:11:57] Speaker 4: don't have her own.
[1:11:58] Speaker 1: Laptop, Why don't you have your own laptop? Why are
[1:12:01] Speaker 1: you why are you sharing? Is it yours?
[1:12:06] Speaker 4: Sometimes I don't like it.
[1:12:08] Speaker 3: I don't like that kind of entanglement where we lose
[1:12:11] Speaker 3: our independence or any agency when we partner with people.
[1:12:14] Speaker 3: And I'm not saying you can't share things with your partners,
[1:12:18] Speaker 3: but like a laptop.
[1:12:21] Speaker 4: Personal to me, and it's not a ram for you,
[1:12:24] Speaker 4: and I like I.
[1:12:26] Speaker 1: Do a lot of.
[1:12:28] Speaker 3: I do a lot of editing, I do all this,
[1:12:30] Speaker 3: like you know what I'm saying, Like there's just not
[1:12:31] Speaker 3: enough ram on here for us. I can't imagine sharing
[1:12:34] Speaker 3: a laptop because I just can't imagine it.
[1:12:36] Speaker 5: Be like I'm gonna just wait till you finish to
[1:12:39] Speaker 5: send an email. Absolutely not.
[1:12:41] Speaker 3: It's like who gets who gets to muzzle up with
[1:12:43] Speaker 3: the laptop and watch Netflix at night in the dark?
[1:12:46] Speaker 4: Who gets to do that?
[1:12:48] Speaker 3: Or if I share laptop is yeah, like if I'm
[1:12:50] Speaker 3: going to see my mama or if I'm going away
[1:12:52] Speaker 3: for the weekend, I get the laptop or I have
[1:12:55] Speaker 3: to go without it, like oh to hell immediately today, immediately.
[1:13:00] Speaker 1: You need to be in a relationship until both of
[1:13:02] Speaker 1: y'all can afford.
[1:13:04] Speaker 4: I don't feel like they need this. I was gonna say,
[1:13:06] Speaker 4: I don't even feel like they need to be in
[1:13:07] Speaker 4: a relationship. They got to use a ship laptop. She
[1:13:11] Speaker 4: gotta do some soul searching. She need to talk to
[1:13:13] Speaker 4: a love because she got to be able to have
[1:13:17] Speaker 4: her own laptop. That's not lady like. That is not
[1:13:21] Speaker 4: lady like. That's not lady like. She got to have
[1:13:27] Speaker 4: her own and she's like, that's like for me and
[1:13:29] Speaker 4: kid when I come to your house, and I'll be like, girl,
[1:13:31] Speaker 4: you always got to have a bottle of pino in
[1:13:34] Speaker 4: your refrigerator. As a single, you got to have a
[1:13:38] Speaker 4: bottle of wine. And it's the same way I feel. Yeah,
[1:13:41] Speaker 4: like you got to have a laptop on your own.
[1:13:43] Speaker 1: Sister, No, uh, we have we have two more. I'll
[1:13:57] Speaker 1: leave that one because that one's a spicy win. But
[1:13:59] Speaker 1: they're both very spicy. This one is, well, I'm interested
[1:14:04] Speaker 1: to hear your thoughts by this one. How do I
[1:14:07] Speaker 1: tell my friend, a twenty seven year old female, that
[1:14:11] Speaker 1: she is being used by a guy, a twenty six
[1:14:14] Speaker 1: year old man to make me jealous?
[1:14:18] Speaker 4: Okay, wella.
[1:14:22] Speaker 1: There's this guy, let's call him Mike, who I know
[1:14:26] Speaker 1: through a mutual friend. He occasionally hangs out with our
[1:14:29] Speaker 1: friend group, which is typically five of us six with
[1:14:32] Speaker 1: Mike joins. He moved to our state about six months
[1:14:36] Speaker 1: ago and immediately took a liking to me. But he's
[1:14:39] Speaker 1: not my type. I've never even given him my number,
[1:14:42] Speaker 1: and I've let him know we're not capatible. To be fair,
[1:14:46] Speaker 1: he's not creepy about it. When I brush him off,
[1:14:49] Speaker 1: he backs off and does his own thing. He'll still
[1:14:51] Speaker 1: sometimes buy me a drink or some food throughout the night,
[1:14:54] Speaker 1: but it's nothing aggressive. Fast forward to last night. My friend,
[1:15:01] Speaker 1: let's call her Mariah joined us. She usually hangs with
[1:15:05] Speaker 1: another circle of friends, but wanted to come out with
[1:15:08] Speaker 1: us this time. The night started out the same as usual.
[1:15:12] Speaker 1: Mike asked if I'd finally give him my number. I
[1:15:15] Speaker 1: said no, thanks. He laughed it off and moved on.
[1:15:18] Speaker 1: That is until he met Mariah for the first time
[1:15:22] Speaker 1: out of nowhere. He was chatting her up and they
[1:15:25] Speaker 1: were laughing and vibing. They even did a karaoke do
[1:15:28] Speaker 1: Wet together. Mike was awkward and couldn't dance or sing,
[1:15:32] Speaker 1: but Mariah killed it. Later she told me how much
[1:15:36] Speaker 1: she liked that Mike was just himself and didn't try
[1:15:39] Speaker 1: to act cool. Here's the thing I suspect Mike was
[1:15:43] Speaker 1: only paying attention to Mariah to make me jealous. It
[1:15:48] Speaker 1: didn't work because again I don't like him, but it
[1:15:51] Speaker 1: doesn't feel fair to Mariah. She texted me to say
[1:15:54] Speaker 1: she gave him her number and they're going out on
[1:15:56] Speaker 1: a date Saturday. How do I tell her that Mike
[1:16:00] Speaker 1: is just using her without hurting her feelings? She doesn't
[1:16:04] Speaker 1: know he has a crush on me.
[1:16:05] Speaker 4: Girl, girl, girls too much. She's giving her too much.
[1:16:13] Speaker 4: Because I'm over here just writing, and I was just like,
[1:16:16] Speaker 4: you know what, let me stop writing because this sound
[1:16:18] Speaker 4: like Love Island. She is giving herself much. Wow, Because
[1:16:25] Speaker 4: let me tell you something, Mariah must be a babbage.
[1:16:30] Speaker 1: Mariah is sick.
[1:16:32] Speaker 4: Yeah, Mariah is a babbage. And not only is that
[1:16:35] Speaker 4: she a babbage, but she came up in there and
[1:16:36] Speaker 4: dancing like Shakira, clearly and messizing and naturally.
[1:16:42] Speaker 5: Mike and Mariah had instant chemistry.
[1:16:45] Speaker 3: They were both instantly very comfortable around each other in
[1:16:50] Speaker 3: a way that old girl never felt.
[1:16:52] Speaker 5: You know, she never allowed that. She didn't see it, now,
[1:16:54] Speaker 5: you know.
[1:16:54] Speaker 3: How she didn't start seeing it from Mike until Mariah did. Hello,
[1:16:58] Speaker 3: that's very clear, and it's like, girl, you're still making
[1:17:03] Speaker 3: it about you, and Mike has moved on. Hello, he
[1:17:05] Speaker 3: said yeah, he said, he asked, you denied him, and
[1:17:09] Speaker 3: he's moved forward. So I just feel like you this
[1:17:14] Speaker 3: sounds like some hateration in the dancery.
[1:17:17] Speaker 4: No seriously, And also like men are so simple, so
[1:17:20] Speaker 4: it's like, oh, so you know they like to catch,
[1:17:23] Speaker 4: They like to I mean sorry, they like to chase,
[1:17:26] Speaker 4: you know what I mean. And it was nice, but
[1:17:28] Speaker 4: you keep telling me no. And so now your friend
[1:17:30] Speaker 4: comes to brown and we're vibing, and she's also letting
[1:17:33] Speaker 4: me know that you could get this whenever you want it.
[1:17:36] Speaker 4: So absolutely, I'm not turning this down. Ain't nobody trying
[1:17:38] Speaker 4: to make you jealous? You are jealous, Star, You're jealous.
[1:17:44] Speaker 4: You are jealous. You're mad because no, no, because everybody
[1:17:49] Speaker 4: wants to be desired and wants to be liked, do
[1:17:51] Speaker 4: you understand? And so it's like now that attention ships
[1:17:54] Speaker 4: because see he was buying her drinks and feeding her
[1:17:57] Speaker 4: every time she was out, you understand. So now the
[1:18:00] Speaker 4: whole dynamic is gonna show. That's gonna shipt. No, she's
[1:18:02] Speaker 4: gonna get a drink, you know what I'm saying. Because
[1:18:04] Speaker 4: he seemed like that kind of guy, Like, you know,
[1:18:07] Speaker 4: if I'm out with the girls, they all gonna get drinks.
[1:18:09] Speaker 4: But she's not gonna get, you know, the full meal.
[1:18:11] Speaker 4: She's not getting the attention to eye contact that Mariah
[1:18:15] Speaker 4: is now getting. And also too, it's like, I wonder
[1:18:19] Speaker 4: what her conversation was with Mariah, Like, Oh, this guy,
[1:18:22] Speaker 4: I don't like him, but if you like him, you
[1:18:24] Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. Like, I wonder if there was
[1:18:25] Speaker 4: conversation there, Like I've had that growing up in my
[1:18:28] Speaker 4: specially in my twenties, Like, I don't like him, girl,
[1:18:31] Speaker 4: but if you into him, like, have at it, you
[1:18:33] Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. So it could have been that conversation.
[1:18:37] Speaker 4: And if that was the conversation, she's definitely jealous because
[1:18:40] Speaker 4: what do you mean he's using How do I tell
[1:18:42] Speaker 4: her he's using her? So so so now you want
[1:18:46] Speaker 4: to try to tell homegirl that she can't pull men.
[1:18:49] Speaker 4: You can't pull men with everybody trying to make you jealous.
[1:18:55] Speaker 4: Oh so he's not really attracted to her. You're trying
[1:18:58] Speaker 4: to tell she's not really attractive?
[1:19:00] Speaker 5: Is that what you're saying? Are you saying that?
[1:19:03] Speaker 7: You?
[1:19:03] Speaker 2: Yeah?
[1:19:04] Speaker 3: Like like like you're more attractive than me, Like, is
[1:19:06] Speaker 3: that what you're saying? Like you're saying that, like, oh,
[1:19:10] Speaker 3: he don't really like you, he likes me. Like, girl,
[1:19:13] Speaker 3: you're giving yourself way too much, way too much.
[1:19:15] Speaker 4: Read between the line. She said Mariah killed it. She
[1:19:18] Speaker 4: said Mariah killed it. That's one thing the green eye
[1:19:21] Speaker 4: monster can't do is deny, deny the greatness. You can't
[1:19:26] Speaker 4: the green eye monster can never deny the greatness. So
[1:19:28] Speaker 4: she said Mariah killed it. So she was sitting over
[1:19:32] Speaker 4: there seeing it because her legs is probably she probably
[1:19:35] Speaker 4: got knocked me and she probably can't dance. You understand,
[1:19:42] Speaker 4: her hip flexus is probably mad tight. So she's like, wow,
[1:19:47] Speaker 4: Mariah killed it.
[1:19:49] Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, go ahead, sorry.
[1:19:55] Speaker 1: Yeah she original poster. There's an update. So she realizes
[1:20:02] Speaker 1: that she was the asshole, okay in the situation to go.
[1:20:07] Speaker 1: She went with Mariah to go help her pick out something.
[1:20:10] Speaker 1: But like, I wouldn't like as a Mariah, Yeah, I'd
[1:20:15] Speaker 1: be like, girl, sister, this is not your friend.
[1:20:17] Speaker 4: Friend, it's not your friend.
[1:20:19] Speaker 1: Like there are people in your circle that I prayed
[1:20:21] Speaker 1: against you and and.
[1:20:23] Speaker 4: And this is just gonna happen. He's now gonna be
[1:20:26] Speaker 4: all of a sudden is so attractive to her. You
[1:20:29] Speaker 4: understand here, So there's gonna be inappropriate conversation having. You
[1:20:34] Speaker 4: can't trust her. Now if if Mariah knows how she
[1:20:38] Speaker 4: was really thinking to me, I'll be looking at her
[1:20:40] Speaker 4: a little strange now like, oh so now that's your friend.
[1:20:43] Speaker 4: Oh that's not got now you know you know what
[1:20:46] Speaker 4: I'm saying, Like, yes, it's a little too to believe.
[1:20:49] Speaker 5: She's gonna be calling Mike to go out. You want
[1:20:51] Speaker 5: to get a drink, Let's go get a drink, Let's
[1:20:54] Speaker 5: go to the spot. And she's not gonna call Mariah
[1:20:57] Speaker 5: because this is the kind of mess.
[1:20:58] Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying.
[1:20:59] Speaker 3: She's gonna to try to get Mike in a situation
[1:21:01] Speaker 3: and then she's gonna turn the table.
[1:21:03] Speaker 4: You got to watch what we like, brother and sister.
[1:21:07] Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying.
[1:21:08] Speaker 3: That's why I didn't trust you want to help Mariah
[1:21:09] Speaker 3: pick something to wear?
[1:21:10] Speaker 5: I don't like I don't like that.
[1:21:12] Speaker 4: I don't I don't like that neither, Mari. I don't
[1:21:14] Speaker 4: need help because remember she came in on her own shit,
[1:21:16] Speaker 4: she came in on her home greatness.
[1:21:18] Speaker 2: She on need no help.
[1:21:19] Speaker 4: Yes, when you're picking out stuff. Mariah got to run run.
[1:21:24] Speaker 3: I want Maria to be gone away from this because period, anybody.
[1:21:30] Speaker 4: Who thinks that way is they can't. No, that's not
[1:21:33] Speaker 4: a quote unquote girl's girl. You know, they like to
[1:21:36] Speaker 4: throw that one around, but that's not a girl's girl.
[1:21:39] Speaker 5: I'm a girl's girl, you know, I'm a girl's girl.
[1:21:42] Speaker 1: Yeah, but this definitely gave like love Island. Yes, Oh
[1:21:48] Speaker 1: this is for us.
[1:21:50] Speaker 5: I did this for us.
[1:21:51] Speaker 4: Hood has said, has said, I was.
[1:21:54] Speaker 5: I was.
[1:21:54] Speaker 4: I was in my bikini. I was looking man good
[1:21:57] Speaker 4: and I walked past Chris and he didn't even look
[1:22:00] Speaker 4: at me. He was talking to Shelley like, I'm like,
[1:22:04] Speaker 4: I'm looking.
[1:22:05] Speaker 3: So good, and I got so y'all. When we did
[1:22:08] Speaker 3: the when we did Black Too, was washbig brother. We
[1:22:10] Speaker 3: were talking about this. What always sticks out in my
[1:22:13] Speaker 3: mind is when Chris like checked Hood on something like
[1:22:17] Speaker 3: held her accountable for being a mess, and her response
[1:22:21] Speaker 3: to him was would it be different if I was ugly?
[1:22:24] Speaker 5: And I said this this woman here.
[1:22:26] Speaker 1: This girl just that girl in the girl in this
[1:22:29] Speaker 1: red story.
[1:22:29] Speaker 5: Girl here, you know, needs to call the lady immediately.
[1:22:33] Speaker 5: Something is terribly wrong.
[1:22:34] Speaker 4: No mind you she done, got a nose job, and
[1:22:37] Speaker 4: she's got lift filling everything. She was a funny looking
[1:22:40] Speaker 4: girl and she's still she's like a fat girl. She's
[1:22:43] Speaker 4: like a fat girl who got skinny, who still got
[1:22:45] Speaker 4: fat girl mentality. I think her still got funny looking
[1:22:48] Speaker 4: girl mentality, and so she's still just very she's very insecure.
[1:22:53] Speaker 3: On guhad I was gonna say, remember when her sisters
[1:22:57] Speaker 3: came mm hmm, do you remember.
[1:23:00] Speaker 5: She used to look like her younger sister, Yes.
[1:23:04] Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, yes, And there's some funny little girls. You
[1:23:06] Speaker 4: know what I'm saying, Like, it's okay, you got a
[1:23:09] Speaker 4: nose job, and you got lip filler, and you got
[1:23:11] Speaker 4: eighteen pounds of lashes now, so of course you know
[1:23:14] Speaker 4: what I'm saying, you're gonna look different. And those freckles
[1:23:17] Speaker 4: I don't even know, like the freckles like not even yeah,
[1:23:22] Speaker 4: I'm like that is they're tatted so and that you know,
[1:23:26] Speaker 4: and clocket A Laundria or Shelley said it on Kiki today,
[1:23:30] Speaker 4: somebody was like, oh no, Alania my girl, Ola said well,
[1:23:34] Speaker 4: Nigga said, I was on. I was unattracted, but then
[1:23:37] Speaker 4: my damns is flooded and my shit natural here not natural.
[1:23:42] Speaker 5: Good morning the girls at listen.
[1:23:45] Speaker 4: She said, nothing over here is not natural. Everything is
[1:23:48] Speaker 4: everything is natural.
[1:23:49] Speaker 3: That's how we know because when Olaundrias the Mother came
[1:23:52] Speaker 3: in through there, I mean, I said, hello, mama, got.
[1:23:55] Speaker 1: It, you understand?
[1:23:56] Speaker 4: Okay, yes, listen.
[1:24:00] Speaker 3: And the features, the cheap bones, the limps, everything natural.
[1:24:04] Speaker 3: Her and Shelley and so I feel like hud have
[1:24:07] Speaker 3: had to work so hard to get to this mediocre
[1:24:10] Speaker 3: spot that she's in right now, and that pisses her
[1:24:15] Speaker 3: off because these two girls came in here, even with
[1:24:18] Speaker 3: opposition that they're getting right now, they still they still
[1:24:23] Speaker 3: winning because they were they like themselves and that's the
[1:24:27] Speaker 3: difference between them and Hood. Hood ever fundamentally liked Hood
[1:24:31] Speaker 3: and that show that is very It is demonstrative in
[1:24:35] Speaker 3: her behavior is and how she thinks other people see her,
[1:24:39] Speaker 3: like she got to call the lady.
[1:24:41] Speaker 5: She got a lot of work judging her, because.
[1:24:45] Speaker 4: Those girls are the scariest girls to me. Those type
[1:24:48] Speaker 4: of girls like this little talking to Mariah and those
[1:24:50] Speaker 4: kind of girls are the scariest girls to me. And
[1:24:53] Speaker 4: I have fallen victim to girls like that. I had
[1:24:55] Speaker 4: a very close close friend like that. Elicia was was
[1:25:00] Speaker 4: that with me, And I always looked at Elisha as
[1:25:03] Speaker 4: the girl who was like she had all this fashion.
[1:25:06] Speaker 4: She came into college engage like she was just very
[1:25:08] Speaker 4: advanced but younger than me. She was like, you're younger
[1:25:11] Speaker 4: than me, but she was always top tier to me.
[1:25:14] Speaker 4: And come to find out, she must have looked at
[1:25:16] Speaker 4: me in that way because she started to covet things
[1:25:21] Speaker 4: that I had, even my man, you know what I'm saying,
[1:25:25] Speaker 4: it's like right under my nose and sabotage stuff, you
[1:25:28] Speaker 4: know what I'm saying, And it's just like it it's
[1:25:31] Speaker 4: it was very messy and it's like that jealousy is
[1:25:33] Speaker 4: just get get away from me with that get away
[1:25:37] Speaker 4: from security insecurity is really the thing, you know what
[1:25:40] Speaker 4: I'm saying. Like, I think we don't talk about that enough,
[1:25:42] Speaker 4: but that's the danger. We talk about narcissism all the time,
[1:25:47] Speaker 4: but at the root, it's often like people not liking
[1:25:50] Speaker 4: themselves exactly and they're fair of rejection.
[1:25:54] Speaker 3: Yes, and people don't see themselves the way other people
[1:25:56] Speaker 3: see them because you know, I know I knew Elisha too,
[1:25:58] Speaker 3: or Alesia had a very natural sort of it girl quality,
[1:26:02] Speaker 3: but it didn't matter if we saw it, and she didn't,
[1:26:05] Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. So because she didn't, she moved
[1:26:08] Speaker 3: a very particular way, Yeah, and was very threatened and
[1:26:13] Speaker 3: obviously threatened by people.
[1:26:15] Speaker 4: Who you know, like to honestly was I honestly the
[1:26:21] Speaker 4: vibe that I give, Like people be saying, like, you know,
[1:26:24] Speaker 4: like Carti, people love Cardi B, but she's from the
[1:26:28] Speaker 4: Bronx and we're I feel like a lot of us
[1:26:30] Speaker 4: are the same in that sense, even like Amaya, she's
[1:26:34] Speaker 4: from the Bronx too, Like we're just authentically ridiculous people.
[1:26:38] Speaker 4: But just do my way, you know what I'm saying,
[1:26:40] Speaker 4: Like we don't care and we're very open, very honest
[1:26:42] Speaker 4: and very loving and just you know say And that
[1:26:45] Speaker 4: has always been my vibe. I was definitely that girl
[1:26:48] Speaker 4: in college. So it was beyond me that somebody like
[1:26:51] Speaker 4: her would be jealous and do things and do things
[1:26:54] Speaker 4: like that and be like, yo, I think he's just
[1:26:56] Speaker 4: talking to you to make you jealous, make me jealous.
[1:26:58] Speaker 4: She would have said some stuff like that to me,
[1:27:00] Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying, Like girl and girls aren't
[1:27:03] Speaker 4: those kind of girls are so scary and they're not
[1:27:05] Speaker 4: your friend.
[1:27:08] Speaker 6: Toxic That's what Brittany said.
[1:27:12] Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, are you ready for the last story? Yes?
[1:27:17] Speaker 6: Oh my goodness, let me get some water ahead, yes,
[1:27:26] Speaker 6: hold on, m.
[1:27:30] Speaker 4: M and you know that I'm toxic?
[1:27:35] Speaker 1: All right?
[1:27:36] Speaker 5: Last story like that later?
[1:27:42] Speaker 1: Last? All right? Last story? Am I the asshole for
[1:27:48] Speaker 1: kicking my boyfriend's girl best friend out of my Halloween
[1:27:54] Speaker 1: party because of her costume? So this is this woman
[1:28:00] Speaker 1: is riding her boyfriend has a girl best see, and
[1:28:05] Speaker 1: she's asking if she's the asshole for kicking this girl
[1:28:10] Speaker 1: out because of her costume. We don't know what it
[1:28:12] Speaker 1: is yet, so.
[1:28:12] Speaker 5: We'll say, okay.
[1:28:15] Speaker 1: Hi everyone, I'll cut to the chase. I, nineteen year
[1:28:19] Speaker 1: old woman, hosted a Halloween party this weekend. I invited
[1:28:24] Speaker 1: my friend, my boyfriend twenty one, and a bunch of friends,
[1:28:28] Speaker 1: including his girl best friend. We'll call her Agatha. Oh,
[1:28:34] Speaker 1: my boyfriend and I planned a joint costume Peter Peter
[1:28:38] Speaker 1: Pumpkin Eater. If you haven't seen it, it's a guy.
[1:28:42] Speaker 1: It's if you haven't seen it. The guy wears a
[1:28:45] Speaker 1: shirt that says Peter Peter, and the girl dresses as
[1:28:48] Speaker 1: a pumpkin because well, you get it. I thought it
[1:28:53] Speaker 1: was funny and cute. The night before the party, Agatha
[1:28:56] Speaker 1: texts me asking what my costume would be. I explained
[1:29:01] Speaker 1: the couple's costume my boyfriend and I plan, and she
[1:29:03] Speaker 1: said she'd probably would just come as a sexy cat.
[1:29:07] Speaker 1: Fast forward to the party. Everything was going great until
[1:29:11] Speaker 1: Agatha walked in dressed as a pumpkin cat. She walked
[1:29:17] Speaker 1: over and hugged my boyfriend. I'd swear the room went silent.
[1:29:22] Speaker 1: I was pissed. I pulled her aside and asked why
[1:29:25] Speaker 1: she chose that costume after I told her about our
[1:29:28] Speaker 1: matching one. She brushed it off and said she thought
[1:29:32] Speaker 1: it'd be a better group costume. I told her I
[1:29:37] Speaker 1: didn't think it was funny and asked her to change.
[1:29:40] Speaker 1: I even offered her a spare witch costume. She turned
[1:29:44] Speaker 1: red and started yelling that I couldn't control what she wore.
[1:29:48] Speaker 1: I told her it felt disrespectful to my relationship because
[1:29:51] Speaker 1: it made it seem like she and my boyfriend were
[1:29:53] Speaker 1: the couple. She kept yelling that I needed to lighten up,
[1:29:56] Speaker 1: so I asked her to leave. She stormed out. The
[1:30:00] Speaker 1: vibe of the party shifted and it felt kind of ruined.
[1:30:02] Speaker 1: After that, my boyfriend agrees she crossed the line and
[1:30:06] Speaker 1: is planning to cut her off. But now after a
[1:30:09] Speaker 1: few but now a few of our friends are saying
[1:30:12] Speaker 1: I'm being dramatic and should have just let her stay.
[1:30:15] Speaker 1: So am I the asshole?
[1:30:18] Speaker 5: Nope?
[1:30:19] Speaker 4: Yeah no for me, she's not no, and she's she's
[1:30:22] Speaker 4: a teenager.
[1:30:23] Speaker 3: I think you know, the older you get, the more
[1:30:26] Speaker 3: you you tolerant you are.
[1:30:28] Speaker 4: But at that age, I think I'd afford her personally, nineteen,
[1:30:33] Speaker 4: it would wouldn't been we would have been scrapping that.
[1:30:35] Speaker 4: It wouldn't would have looked like a pumpkin pie by
[1:30:38] Speaker 4: the time I was done with her.
[1:30:40] Speaker 2: It wouldn't have been too much conversation.
[1:30:42] Speaker 3: Yeah, it's been ready, but she would have been ready
[1:30:45] Speaker 3: for Thanksgiving. It would have been given pumpkin pie, you understand.
[1:30:48] Speaker 4: So at nineteen, I definitely would have fold her because
[1:30:51] Speaker 4: I also have been like, why would make her feel
[1:30:53] Speaker 4: so comfortable? Boyfriend? Are y'all doing something? Because then my
[1:30:57] Speaker 4: whole mind would be going a whole lot of places
[1:30:59] Speaker 4: like what makes her feels like? This is this funny
[1:31:02] Speaker 4: new right? I would have beat that girl.
[1:31:08] Speaker 5: Easily at that age.
[1:31:09] Speaker 4: I'm saying, like, no one want my mentality. At nineteen,
[1:31:13] Speaker 4: she would have been done for.
[1:31:16] Speaker 5: And here's my.
[1:31:19] Speaker 1: Here's my thing. I think it is very I'm about
[1:31:25] Speaker 1: to sound some say something quite problematic, but I don't
[1:31:28] Speaker 1: mean it to be that way. But like, as soon
[1:31:32] Speaker 1: as I hear girl bestie of the opposite sex, like
[1:31:36] Speaker 1: my eyebrow does the rock right, you know what I mean?
[1:31:41] Speaker 1: Come on?
[1:31:41] Speaker 8: Yeah?
[1:31:42] Speaker 1: Yeah, like, and I'm not disillusioned. Yes, I do think
[1:31:46] Speaker 1: men and women can have platonic friendships and should. However,
[1:31:50] Speaker 1: I just don't know that at that age too. I
[1:31:54] Speaker 1: think it's dice.
[1:32:02] Speaker 4: I mean, he did, he did say that she crossed
[1:32:04] Speaker 4: the line and her Yeah, I doubt he will cut
[1:32:12] Speaker 4: her all because men just don't like that type of confrontation.
[1:32:16] Speaker 4: But to me, it's like that girl is given.
[1:32:18] Speaker 5: She likes him very much.
[1:32:21] Speaker 3: And I think and I have questions also for the
[1:32:24] Speaker 3: quote unquote friends who are saying that she overreacted, because
[1:32:28] Speaker 3: if I feel like in this situation, let's say it
[1:32:31] Speaker 3: was me and my boyfriend and uh, my boyfriend's girl
[1:32:36] Speaker 3: best friend did something like that, it wouldn't just be
[1:32:39] Speaker 3: me fighting to it would be fighting too.
[1:32:41] Speaker 5: You see what I'm saying, Like.
[1:32:43] Speaker 4: Fur would be I feel like it's a ray in
[1:32:48] Speaker 4: that house furn in a different.
[1:32:50] Speaker 3: Situation, and I would say the same thing for Jay.
[1:32:53] Speaker 3: I can't see a world where someone would do that.
[1:32:55] Speaker 3: And Jay would be like, no, Ki, well no it
[1:32:58] Speaker 3: would we ready we have a conversation.
[1:33:02] Speaker 4: Yeah, especially at nineteen age, I want to say that.
[1:33:05] Speaker 4: That's what I keeps saying. At that age. She's at
[1:33:07] Speaker 4: forty five. I'm just dollar nine one one. But at
[1:33:10] Speaker 4: that age, you understand I would have been really fighting,
[1:33:14] Speaker 4: like I would have really been on some No, this
[1:33:16] Speaker 4: is crazy. So what I'm gonna do is I would
[1:33:18] Speaker 4: have just started taking off my pumpkin. What I'm gonna
[1:33:20] Speaker 4: do is talk talking because now, because.
[1:33:25] Speaker 1: She already off, she offered old girl and out right
[1:33:28] Speaker 1: she was like, all right, girl, you you fucked up,
[1:33:31] Speaker 1: But I have an extra costume here, change into this
[1:33:35] Speaker 1: witch costume and all this forget. But no she wanted
[1:33:40] Speaker 1: to be here and was like, well, yeah, fuck your
[1:33:43] Speaker 1: costume idea. I think it's better as a group.
[1:33:45] Speaker 4: And she and she asked her. She asked her for
[1:33:48] Speaker 4: a reason because it's almost like it was premeditated, like
[1:33:51] Speaker 4: she was asking her what she's.
[1:33:53] Speaker 5: Actually she did it on purpose, That's what I'm saying.
[1:33:56] Speaker 1: That's you.
[1:33:56] Speaker 3: We had a conversation about this and I told you
[1:33:59] Speaker 3: what it was, and you did that so that you
[1:34:01] Speaker 3: could do this.
[1:34:02] Speaker 5: So when I came like this.
[1:34:03] Speaker 3: Girl is extending an extreme amount of grace by even
[1:34:06] Speaker 3: proposing her on approaching her on some benefit of the doubt. Shit,
[1:34:11] Speaker 3: because at nineteen, I wouldn't be like you asked me that, like,
[1:34:14] Speaker 3: you plan to do this, this is giving premeditation, and.
[1:34:18] Speaker 4: So you're trying to embarrass me. So exactly, we're not
[1:34:22] Speaker 4: doing that. We're not doing that. So now what I'm gonna.
[1:34:25] Speaker 1: Do is the whole party. Yeah, she took the air
[1:34:28] Speaker 1: of the whole party and just ruined it, ruined it
[1:34:32] Speaker 1: for everybody.
[1:34:33] Speaker 4: Yeah, and then we just embarrassed her. Strip that pumpkin up,
[1:34:36] Speaker 4: have her titties, also showing dragon her across that dragging
[1:34:41] Speaker 4: pumpkin pie a dragon. Yeah.
[1:34:45] Speaker 1: Yeah, So we have an update, all right.
[1:34:49] Speaker 4: I like the updates.
[1:34:50] Speaker 1: This is our final update of the final story today,
[1:34:55] Speaker 1: me too. So uh ok, rights, well, I have date.
[1:35:01] Speaker 1: I meant to post one a few months ago, but
[1:35:03] Speaker 1: I really needed time to process the events that occurred
[1:35:05] Speaker 1: after this whole ordeal I'm glad I waited, though, because
[1:35:09] Speaker 1: you all need to hear this one. Many people pointed
[1:35:13] Speaker 1: out that my boyfriend must be sleeping with Agatha, since
[1:35:16] Speaker 1: she went absolutely bonkers for seemingly no reason. I thought,
[1:35:21] Speaker 1: since he immediately took my side and blocked her on everything,
[1:35:24] Speaker 1: that you were wrong. Well it was me who was wrong.
[1:35:29] Speaker 1: It turns out that Agatha and my boyfriend had been
[1:35:32] Speaker 1: sleeping together for months, and they were just really good
[1:35:35] Speaker 1: at hiding it until she decided that she didn't want
[1:35:39] Speaker 1: to be his quote unquote mistress anymore. Okay, I found
[1:35:44] Speaker 1: this out when I was at his house and hanging
[1:35:45] Speaker 1: out in his room. He was showering after a workout
[1:35:49] Speaker 1: and I heard this vibrating noise. He had taken his
[1:35:52] Speaker 1: phone and mine was right next to me, so I
[1:35:55] Speaker 1: couldn't figure out what it was. I opened his bedside
[1:35:58] Speaker 1: table drawer and found a second phone. My gut told
[1:36:03] Speaker 1: me that something wasn't right. Why would he have the
[1:36:06] Speaker 1: second phone. It didn't take me long to guess his password,
[1:36:10] Speaker 1: and my fears were confirmed.
[1:36:13] Speaker 4: And we always can guess their password.
[1:36:15] Speaker 5: Niggas a simple but because we.
[1:36:18] Speaker 4: Always can crack the code, it's never.
[1:36:20] Speaker 1: That hard as she posts the code in here. The
[1:36:23] Speaker 1: code was one two three fight god.
[1:36:26] Speaker 3: I was going to say zero three tell my ex
[1:36:29] Speaker 3: His was five five five five, and I was like,
[1:36:31] Speaker 3: you know.
[1:36:32] Speaker 1: What, smart Sorry, So there was a miscall from Agatha.
[1:36:44] Speaker 1: I looked through the messages and found out the truth.
[1:36:46] Speaker 1: Not only had they been sleeping together, she recently found
[1:36:50] Speaker 1: out that she was pregnant. Nice She was trying to
[1:36:55] Speaker 1: force his hand. Oh, this was the reason she pulled
[1:36:58] Speaker 1: the stone on Halloween. He was trying to force his hand.
[1:37:02] Speaker 1: I also saw that he was messaging other girls as well.
[1:37:05] Speaker 1: Of course, I was completely devastated. After his shower, he
[1:37:08] Speaker 1: found me grabbing all of my belongings and putting them
[1:37:11] Speaker 1: in a bag. He asked why I was leaving, and
[1:37:13] Speaker 1: I told him because we were finished. I threw his
[1:37:16] Speaker 1: phone on the bed and he looked like he was
[1:37:18] Speaker 1: going to vomit. He started pleading to hear him out,
[1:37:21] Speaker 1: but I didn't want to hear it. He could have
[1:37:23] Speaker 1: all those other girls. I didn't want him anymore. He
[1:37:26] Speaker 1: followed me out of the house, shaking and crying. He
[1:37:28] Speaker 1: even followed me all the way out to my car,
[1:37:30] Speaker 1: trying to block my path. I went over I went
[1:37:34] Speaker 1: over the grass around him and didn't look back. He
[1:37:37] Speaker 1: sent me a long message about how he never wanted
[1:37:39] Speaker 1: to hurt me and that he wanted me back, and
[1:37:42] Speaker 1: how he was using his work phone to text all
[1:37:44] Speaker 1: those women so I wouldn't find out. That was really helpful. Okay,
[1:37:49] Speaker 1: he's a psycho sent I sent his boss a nice
[1:37:52] Speaker 1: little message about how company property was being misused, and
[1:37:56] Speaker 1: I saw on LinkedIn he no longer works for that
[1:37:58] Speaker 1: company anymore. Blocked on everything now and I hope him
[1:38:02] Speaker 1: and AGAs that have a magical life with their baby.
[1:38:05] Speaker 2: Oh.
[1:38:06] Speaker 1: I heard through the grapevind that he got another woman
[1:38:09] Speaker 1: pregnant too. I'm glad I dodged that book. Amen for me,
[1:38:14] Speaker 1: that's for me. I'm currently in therapy, working on my
[1:38:16] Speaker 1: trust issues and learning how to love myself again after
[1:38:19] Speaker 1: this situation. Yes, girl, I've been putting myself out there
[1:38:22] Speaker 1: again and have cut contact with anyone who knew what
[1:38:24] Speaker 1: was happening behind my BA.
[1:38:25] Speaker 4: There you go, well even bring her in as the
[1:38:29] Speaker 4: best friend. Why not just keep her a secret? See,
[1:38:31] Speaker 4: that's what I'll understand. People be going. You give people
[1:38:34] Speaker 4: an inch, they take a yard. Now, why would he
[1:38:37] Speaker 4: even bring her in as the best friend if you
[1:38:39] Speaker 4: already knew you was sleeping with her, That is what's
[1:38:42] Speaker 4: crazy to me. It's like, so you really intentionally want
[1:38:45] Speaker 4: to hurt me, Like you're really trying to play this
[1:38:47] Speaker 4: game with me? What?
[1:38:49] Speaker 1: Ye?
[1:38:50] Speaker 3: I'm always blown away by the wave.
[1:38:54] Speaker 5: Of emotion that comes upon getting caught in.
[1:38:56] Speaker 3: The mess if you were not aware, and like, because
[1:39:02] Speaker 3: they are.
[1:39:05] Speaker 4: Surgery and losing, they don't want.
[1:39:07] Speaker 5: To lose, soaring and look like he wanted to vomit.
[1:39:11] Speaker 3: Wow, that's so fascinating because all the things in the
[1:39:15] Speaker 3: phone are things that he put there.
[1:39:17] Speaker 4: So yeah, that makes me want to vomit. You unders exact, Like,
[1:39:21] Speaker 4: it's like yo, and they don't want to lose. They
[1:39:26] Speaker 4: never want to lose, and they're gonna do whatever they
[1:39:28] Speaker 4: can not to lose.
[1:39:32] Speaker 5: That's easy. And women pregnant still begging her to stay
[1:39:35] Speaker 5: like for what Yeah.
[1:39:37] Speaker 4: To control and lose and not lose rather, that's crazy.
[1:39:43] Speaker 4: I mean, well then that's why she should She really
[1:39:45] Speaker 4: should have beat that girl up. I mean, and the
[1:39:49] Speaker 4: baby the maybe would have called the stray.
[1:39:56] Speaker 5: Baby's like, how did I get in?
[1:39:58] Speaker 4: Did I get.
[1:40:03] Speaker 1: Happy Holidays again? Everybody? So today there is you know,
[1:40:08] Speaker 1: after the holiday whoplause, time for some negativity. Everybody was
[1:40:13] Speaker 1: cheery and falla la la la, or if you watch
[1:40:16] Speaker 1: a Christmas story far and so it's time to get
[1:40:21] Speaker 1: a little negative. And so if you're not on Reddit,
[1:40:26] Speaker 1: Reddit is a healthscape, yes, but there are some gems
[1:40:29] Speaker 1: there and we decided to do a deep dive where
[1:40:36] Speaker 1: people who have children in the stories of them hating
[1:40:40] Speaker 1: their children. So a lot of these can be found
[1:40:44] Speaker 1: on in my the ausehole, am I the Devil, which
[1:40:46] Speaker 1: is the reddit above am I the Househole because that
[1:40:49] Speaker 1: shows how evil you are. Get off my chest where
[1:40:53] Speaker 1: you're just ranting. So they're everywhere, So okay, buckle in,
[1:40:57] Speaker 1: there's some high drums. Okay, right, it's not title I
[1:41:05] Speaker 1: hate my kids. It's not my first rent and it
[1:41:09] Speaker 1: won't be my last. I just genuinely hate motherhood. I
[1:41:14] Speaker 1: hate my kids. I mean, I love them because they're
[1:41:16] Speaker 1: my kids, but I hate them because they've made my
[1:41:19] Speaker 1: life miserable. I wanted a family, I planned all my kids.
[1:41:23] Speaker 1: I have three, and I was fine with the sleepless
[1:41:26] Speaker 1: nights and the mess and chaos and craziness for the
[1:41:29] Speaker 1: last several years. In the last few years though. I'm
[1:41:32] Speaker 1: just done. I'm over it. The thing is, they're all
[1:41:35] Speaker 1: autistic evil, not severely by any means, but autism does
[1:41:43] Speaker 1: have to be severe to make your life miserable. And
[1:41:46] Speaker 1: that's what happened. Nothing's ever okay. There's always a problem,
[1:41:50] Speaker 1: always a sensory issue or something. Do something to help
[1:41:53] Speaker 1: fix one kid's issue, and it triggers another issue, it
[1:41:56] Speaker 1: triggers an issue for another one. I'm over it. I
[1:41:59] Speaker 1: hate it. I hate my life. I can handle the
[1:42:02] Speaker 1: chaos and mess and craziness if there was even one
[1:42:05] Speaker 1: redeeming thing about being their mother, but there's not. Can't
[1:42:09] Speaker 1: go on family outings or activities because autism, have to
[1:42:14] Speaker 1: stick to a strict schedule, because autism no spur of
[1:42:17] Speaker 1: the moment, Hey, why don't we go here or do this? Nope,
[1:42:20] Speaker 1: because autism. I know. I regret having them. I miss
[1:42:27] Speaker 1: having time with my husband. I miss having freedom, not
[1:42:30] Speaker 1: total freedom. Like I said, I wanted a family and
[1:42:33] Speaker 1: I pictured having fun doing things as a family, but
[1:42:36] Speaker 1: that's not how things panned out. And I'm miserable every day.
[1:42:40] Speaker 1: I wake up pissed off that I woke up. Yeah,
[1:42:44] Speaker 1: if there was someone that would take them all together.
[1:42:46] Speaker 1: No one will take more than one at a time
[1:42:48] Speaker 1: for an overnight or a weekend. Every now and then
[1:42:51] Speaker 1: maybe I'd be okay, but nope, because autism on that
[1:42:57] Speaker 1: a point that if I could find someone else to
[1:42:59] Speaker 1: raise them, I would because they deserve someone to raise
[1:43:01] Speaker 1: them with love and compassion, and I can't offer them that.
[1:43:04] Speaker 1: It's not their fault. I know that, but it doesn't
[1:43:07] Speaker 1: change the hate that I've developed. Oh my god, Yeah,
[1:43:12] Speaker 1: this type of episode is going to be oh my god. Now. Now,
[1:43:21] Speaker 1: to be honest, these are valid. This is a valid
[1:43:24] Speaker 1: emotion because your special needs child is hard.
[1:43:28] Speaker 2: No, it is. Raising a child is hard, and so
[1:43:30] Speaker 2: you add the additional element of special needs there there's
[1:43:35] Speaker 2: a level of patience that you definitely have to have
[1:43:40] Speaker 2: in general. But also, girl, also.
[1:43:45] Speaker 1: What part of this made you think that any of
[1:43:48] Speaker 1: this was going to be easy and fun like you.
[1:43:50] Speaker 2: Planned this, This, this very step by step family matters
[1:43:56] Speaker 2: ass fucking life for yourself, not considering the fact that
[1:43:59] Speaker 2: you literally have zero control over the types of humans
[1:44:04] Speaker 2: you were going to birth. It could not be autism.
[1:44:08] Speaker 2: You could have a child who feels nothing and hates
[1:44:13] Speaker 2: your fucking guts just because like you can have a
[1:44:17] Speaker 2: child with all kinds of things going on, and you
[1:44:19] Speaker 2: didn't consider that. You said, my family is going to
[1:44:23] Speaker 2: look like you put an expectation out there that is
[1:44:26] Speaker 2: completely unrealistic.
[1:44:28] Speaker 1: M hm. And where's your husband and all of this?
[1:44:31] Speaker 1: Is he surprised? Is he providing any type of like
[1:44:34] Speaker 1: support for you, because the found seems like you're taking
[1:44:37] Speaker 1: the brunt of this, which is if.
[1:44:39] Speaker 2: You sound like sounds like she's drained as fuck, is
[1:44:42] Speaker 2: what it sounds like.
[1:44:43] Speaker 1: Yeah, and three kids is a lot, I get it.
[1:44:45] Speaker 1: And something to tell and them all having autism, yes,
[1:44:49] Speaker 1: it's a possibility, but something tells me that I don't
[1:44:52] Speaker 1: know if that's true. I feel like a lot of
[1:44:54] Speaker 1: times if you assume one has one, then people are like, no,
[1:44:57] Speaker 1: they all have it too, because you're just so strange
[1:45:00] Speaker 1: and stressed out. You haven't even taken the time, you
[1:45:02] Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like, I also think people aren't
[1:45:07] Speaker 1: necessarily doing their due diligence to actually communicate with their children.
[1:45:13] Speaker 2: No, not at all, nigga. And that's a job, like
[1:45:16] Speaker 2: you like that you need to do that if you're
[1:45:18] Speaker 2: gonna it's a relationship, nigga, Like, what do you do
[1:45:22] Speaker 2: to develop relationships, and like you said, it sounds like
[1:45:25] Speaker 2: like what is your husband doing? Because it sounds to
[1:45:28] Speaker 2: me like your resentment might be misplaced if you are
[1:45:32] Speaker 2: this burnt out, unless it's unless it's both of y'all
[1:45:36] Speaker 2: burnt out together and you're just like not like dead ass,
[1:45:38] Speaker 2: I hate this shit, which you can't make somebody love parenthood. No,
[1:45:45] Speaker 2: goddamn that goddamn she said. If I can find somebody
[1:45:49] Speaker 2: to take all these niggas, I absolutely would. That is crazy.
[1:45:53] Speaker 2: And yeah, that is crazy. That is crazy. I've never
[1:45:58] Speaker 2: heard anybody who is like, it's this fuck is ship?
[1:46:03] Speaker 2: Like god damn well, the next one is very short,
[1:46:09] Speaker 2: concise and to the point the title. You'll miss them
[1:46:14] Speaker 2: when they're little. Honestly, I don't give a ship. I
[1:46:18] Speaker 2: prefer to have my time back, story done.
[1:46:32] Speaker 1: Reclaim your time. I know a manner of that. I
[1:46:38] Speaker 1: give a ship. I want my time back. I want
[1:46:41] Speaker 1: to go play golf.
[1:46:42] Speaker 2: I want my club body back, bitch like I'm ready
[1:46:46] Speaker 2: to studio.
[1:46:47] Speaker 1: What so, I forgot to tell you a few weeks
[1:46:52] Speaker 1: ago what I did because this is December. Yeah, I
[1:46:56] Speaker 1: forgot to tell you what happened to me on November nineteen. Total,
[1:47:04] Speaker 1: stop this because back to this is all relevant. I
[1:47:11] Speaker 1: hate my kids. Hold on, and then, so you know
[1:47:25] Speaker 1: how sometimes I feel like I'm Jane Goodall and I
[1:47:28] Speaker 1: have to like you know, roam through habitats and like
[1:47:32] Speaker 1: you know, document and discover things. So my curiosity and
[1:47:42] Speaker 1: my peak of my sociological interests got me and I
[1:47:49] Speaker 1: spent two days watching Baddies.
[1:47:53] Speaker 5: Nope, you know.
[1:47:56] Speaker 2: We collectively agreed.
[1:47:59] Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, but this is all related
[1:48:04] Speaker 1: to the Reddit story.
[1:48:07] Speaker 2: Okay, now wait, hold on, I'm sorry. Batties is the one.
[1:48:13] Speaker 2: Batties is on a network with the nigga with the
[1:48:16] Speaker 2: dead eyes.
[1:48:18] Speaker 1: Yes, zeus, this is Natalie nun Chin Natalie Nun's Okay
[1:48:25] Speaker 1: of the Internet.
[1:48:26] Speaker 2: This is the show where when they went to a restaurant,
[1:48:31] Speaker 2: a black owned restaurant, the nigga said, absolutely not, y'all
[1:48:35] Speaker 2: can't come in. Okay, all right, all right, I'm caught up.
[1:48:40] Speaker 2: Who's on this show?
[1:48:41] Speaker 1: Fight? Well, it's it's a traveling circus, right, So there's
[1:48:46] Speaker 1: Batties and then they audition in each city. So it's
[1:48:49] Speaker 1: like it's literally bad Growth Club, but they've changed it
[1:48:54] Speaker 1: a bit. An added competition edition. Yeah, because there's Batties,
[1:48:59] Speaker 1: there's Batty's West, there's Batties East, Batty's South, and I'm
[1:49:05] Speaker 1: currently watching Batty's Midwest shows. Well, they go on tour
[1:49:14] Speaker 1: because in the first episode they went to Oklahoma, and
[1:49:18] Speaker 1: this is where the Reddit story comes in, because they
[1:49:22] Speaker 1: go to Oklahoma to see Chris Shan. Now, remember Chris
[1:49:28] Speaker 1: Shawan is Blueface's baby mom. Now, Krishan was on Batties,
[1:49:37] Speaker 1: but she had to leave because two things. One well
[1:49:42] Speaker 1: one is more important than the other. But she became
[1:49:44] Speaker 1: a mother and then she got arrested in how to
[1:49:47] Speaker 1: Do Time. I'll let you decide to her which one
[1:49:50] Speaker 1: was more important. So then because it's important, so I
[1:50:02] Speaker 1: So there they go. It's Natalie Nunn and a whole
[1:50:05] Speaker 1: bunch of other people women who are they're all going
[1:50:09] Speaker 1: on a trip, like they're just touring the Midwest, you know,
[1:50:13] Speaker 1: picking up bitches and fighting and clubbing and being batties.
[1:50:17] Speaker 1: So they get to Oklahoma because they go to visit Krishan. Okay,
[1:50:21] Speaker 1: Now Krishan's sister is on the show, and apparently Krishan
[1:50:26] Speaker 1: and her sister had a filing out. I don't know
[1:50:28] Speaker 1: the lore of the history of this show. So I'm
[1:50:31] Speaker 1: just walking in. So Chris Shawan is in there. Mind
[1:50:35] Speaker 1: you the baby gout fetal alcohol syndrome, and I'll get
[1:50:37] Speaker 1: to that in a second. And so Krishan's sister is like,
[1:50:43] Speaker 1: she's been spreading rumors and lives about me and what's
[1:50:47] Speaker 1: going on in YadA, YadA, YadA. So they finally have
[1:50:49] Speaker 1: to sit down. I'm leaving cutting a whole bunch of
[1:50:51] Speaker 1: stuff out. Okay, Krishan is she gaslights and stuff like
[1:50:56] Speaker 1: her baby daddy or whatever. But then she just casually
[1:50:59] Speaker 1: lets to slip out at the very end of the
[1:51:02] Speaker 1: episode that her sister, Okay, come here, mommy, come take
[1:51:09] Speaker 1: care of me. Like, come here, precious, come take care
[1:51:11] Speaker 1: of me. Do you get what I'm saying? That was
[1:51:15] Speaker 1: her sister said Chrishan and then ended it. But then
[1:51:21] Speaker 1: the retaliation was I don't know what you're talking about.
[1:51:25] Speaker 1: And then her sister was like, girl, you drank your
[1:51:27] Speaker 1: entire pregnancy. And production was crazy because they went back
[1:51:33] Speaker 1: and showed every time this bitch was drinking while pregnant.
[1:51:39] Speaker 2: See this is why I said that motherfucking Nigga is
[1:51:42] Speaker 2: dead inside. I'm telling you he needs to be no,
[1:51:49] Speaker 2: like you put down where's my down where's my downfall list?
[1:51:54] Speaker 2: Because I need to where are you at?
[1:51:56] Speaker 1: Let me there's a town and California named Gilroy and
[1:52:01] Speaker 1: it's the garlic capital of the world. They should all
[1:52:05] Speaker 1: live there because that is demon that is inhumane, that
[1:52:09] Speaker 1: is like why would you air that ship? Like America
[1:52:12] Speaker 1: has a problem, And we all know there's racism that's
[1:52:15] Speaker 1: a problem and all that stuff, but there's also shit,
[1:52:18] Speaker 1: diabolical shit here the dead Eyes from Zeus And I
[1:52:23] Speaker 1: know you googled that exactly.
[1:52:26] Speaker 2: No, no, no, I just put him on my downfall list.
[1:52:29] Speaker 1: Okay, but yes, I had to tell you that. Like I,
[1:52:34] Speaker 1: I have more thoughts about batties, but that was the
[1:52:37] Speaker 1: main thing.
[1:52:38] Speaker 2: I was like, So okay, wait, okay, Rewind, I just
[1:52:41] Speaker 2: need clarification. So who sat down with Christian Christian her sister.
[1:52:47] Speaker 2: Her sister sat down with her to talk about.
[1:52:51] Speaker 1: Such humors that were going rounded to some heal their relationship.
[1:52:55] Speaker 1: And nobody understood why they because Krishawan Sean had her
[1:53:00] Speaker 1: sister jumped last season. I don't know why. Again, don't
[1:53:06] Speaker 1: know the Lord. However, episode one of this new season
[1:53:11] Speaker 1: of Battie's Midwest that premiered maybe three weeks ago. They
[1:53:15] Speaker 1: had to sit down her sister, Tadashi Tedsky whatever, Latifa's
[1:53:20] Speaker 1: her real name, Okay, Latifa and Christian had to sit
[1:53:25] Speaker 1: down and they tried to hash it out. Chris Sean
[1:53:32] Speaker 1: didn't really give it into anything for most of it
[1:53:34] Speaker 1: until the very end of the episode where she was like, yeah,
[1:53:36] Speaker 1: when I was seven on Crenshaw, you made me eat your.
[1:53:38] Speaker 2: Pussy right and older than her clearly.
[1:53:45] Speaker 1: Mm hmmmm m. And Latifa, her sister, was like, bitch,
[1:53:48] Speaker 1: what are you talking about, Like, that's defaming me and
[1:53:51] Speaker 1: my character. But the way she said it, Kashan said it,
[1:53:54] Speaker 1: I was like, I believe it. And then it went
[1:54:01] Speaker 1: on to her sister, Latifa talking about every time that
[1:54:04] Speaker 1: she was drinking while pregnant. And then you see the
[1:54:07] Speaker 1: little baby because they blurred the baby's face out, and
[1:54:09] Speaker 1: you could tell the baby is unwell. You can tell
[1:54:14] Speaker 1: the baby is unwell.
[1:54:16] Speaker 2: The parents, those parents.
[1:54:19] Speaker 1: Like that child and and they've had there's pictures out
[1:54:22] Speaker 1: there of that child out there without the blur. That
[1:54:24] Speaker 1: child definitely has fetal alcohols in them.
[1:54:26] Speaker 2: Oh my word.
[1:54:28] Speaker 1: So yeah, But I watched Batties Midwest because curiosity definitely
[1:54:37] Speaker 1: killed the cat, you know.
[1:54:40] Speaker 2: Yeah, m hmm.
[1:54:42] Speaker 1: But we should take a break.
[1:54:44] Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I would need to reset because I'm.
[1:54:52] Speaker 1: Uh, let's take a break and we're back after this
[1:54:54] Speaker 1: hit it claude and we're black. I hate my kid.
[1:55:00] Speaker 1: It's it's today's it's today's theme.
[1:55:06] Speaker 2: I see why you told me that story. Yeah, that lady,
[1:55:09] Speaker 2: and I don't even think think she hates that baby.
[1:55:11] Speaker 2: I just think, what the fuck kind of childhood did
[1:55:14] Speaker 2: y'all have? Like?
[1:55:16] Speaker 1: And this is not anybody who shows up on these
[1:55:19] Speaker 1: type of programs. Lets me know that somebody has been
[1:55:24] Speaker 1: in a group home, you know what I mean?
[1:55:26] Speaker 2: Yeah, half of them been in a group home, and
[1:55:29] Speaker 2: half of them had the fantasy of being people.
[1:55:32] Speaker 1: Yeah. Do the young people know about being in a
[1:55:34] Speaker 1: group home?
[1:55:36] Speaker 2: Yes, nigga.
[1:55:36] Speaker 1: Like listen, I've ever lived in one, but I worked
[1:55:39] Speaker 1: with people to you know, it wasn't safe.
[1:55:43] Speaker 2: There will always be orphans as long as there's humans,
[1:55:47] Speaker 2: because humans are fucked up rotten, there will always be orphans.
[1:55:53] Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just it's just always be So.
[1:55:57] Speaker 2: There's always going to be a group home because there's
[1:56:00] Speaker 2: not enough niggas to take all of the children that
[1:56:04] Speaker 2: need to be took.
[1:56:07] Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I was watching House Hunters and there
[1:56:12] Speaker 1: is this white family who was buying a home and
[1:56:18] Speaker 1: it was literally like a whole like resort that they
[1:56:20] Speaker 1: were trying to buy because they wanted a house like
[1:56:22] Speaker 1: eight to nine children as foster parents. And so they
[1:56:29] Speaker 1: end up like buying like this like old resort in
[1:56:32] Speaker 1: Maine somewhere and rented it out because you have to
[1:56:35] Speaker 1: like each child has to have their old room.
[1:56:37] Speaker 2: Yeah, there's like very strict rules mm hm.
[1:56:41] Speaker 1: And so yeah, they did it. It was so interesting. I
[1:56:49] Speaker 1: don't know, I don't I'm not I can't recall that,
[1:56:52] Speaker 1: but I do. I just thought it was interesting that
[1:56:56] Speaker 1: they were doing. Hey, they wanted to have this many children.
[1:57:00] Speaker 2: And yeah, that's what that's That's what I'm like.
[1:57:02] Speaker 1: Also to add to this idea of like, yes, there
[1:57:06] Speaker 1: are orphan children are everywhere and they need to need
[1:57:11] Speaker 1: a place, you know.
[1:57:13] Speaker 2: But you know, white people want to jump on a
[1:57:15] Speaker 2: plane and go adopt a whole bunch of babies from
[1:57:17] Speaker 2: China or Ghana, you know what I'm saying and come
[1:57:20] Speaker 2: back over here, as if there's not nine million people
[1:57:24] Speaker 2: in this country that need to be adopted as well.
[1:57:29] Speaker 1: Yeah you're ready for next story.
[1:57:32] Speaker 2: I don't know after that bench just like fuck motherhood.
[1:57:39] Speaker 2: I hate pregnancy, I hate kids, I hate mine, I
[1:57:42] Speaker 2: hate my house.
[1:57:44] Speaker 5: Yeah I'm ready.
[1:57:50] Speaker 1: Oh goodness, Okay, titled too, I hate my kids. I
[1:58:00] Speaker 1: was on the fence about having kids. Wife and I
[1:58:02] Speaker 1: have been together for ten years, and she always wanted them,
[1:58:04] Speaker 1: but I knew I was undecided. To be honest, I
[1:58:07] Speaker 1: was probably always more on the no kid's side more
[1:58:10] Speaker 1: than anything. Either way. She knew my feelings. We'd talked
[1:58:13] Speaker 1: about it, but we're crazy about each other, and always happen.
[1:58:16] Speaker 1: We get married and have a baby talking in and
[1:58:18] Speaker 1: a few years later, or we get married and have
[1:58:22] Speaker 1: the baby talking in a few years later. She basically
[1:58:24] Speaker 1: says she's gonna have She's gonna leave me to find
[1:58:27] Speaker 1: someone who does want kids if I don't, so we
[1:58:31] Speaker 1: start trying. I didn't react the best when I found
[1:58:34] Speaker 1: out she was pregnant. Think I was really hoping it
[1:58:37] Speaker 1: wouldn't happen because we were both mid thirties. I hate him.
[1:58:43] Speaker 1: I hate the way he looks, the way he smells,
[1:58:45] Speaker 1: the fucking crying that's non fucking stop. I hate the
[1:58:48] Speaker 1: smell of formula. I hate the smell of his piss.
[1:58:51] Speaker 1: I hate all his shit just lying around the house.
[1:58:54] Speaker 1: I try to keep the place tidy, but fuck knows
[1:58:56] Speaker 1: how it gets so bad. Don't get me wrong, I
[1:58:59] Speaker 1: really fun he tried with this. I've gone full dad
[1:59:03] Speaker 1: mode with the three am feeds and nappy changes and
[1:59:07] Speaker 1: doing my bid as a dad. But nothing I do
[1:59:09] Speaker 1: seems to change how I feel. These are British people.
[1:59:13] Speaker 1: I just hate being around him. I feel like I
[1:59:16] Speaker 1: have no emotional attachment to him. I don't look at
[1:59:18] Speaker 1: him and think, oh, that's my son. I just think, oh,
[1:59:21] Speaker 1: fuck off, he's probably picking a ball that because he
[1:59:25] Speaker 1: doesn't smile at me, doesn't really react to anything I
[1:59:28] Speaker 1: do whilst he's happy. While he's all happy and smiley
[1:59:32] Speaker 1: with his mom. I feel like a slave now because
[1:59:36] Speaker 1: I do all the cooking, most of the cleaning, and
[1:59:39] Speaker 1: I work while she just carries him around and doesn't
[1:59:41] Speaker 1: really have time for me. Everything has, yeah, everything has
[1:59:47] Speaker 1: just gone to shit since he was born, and I
[1:59:49] Speaker 1: hate him for it. I know I shouldn't because he's
[1:59:51] Speaker 1: biologically mine and it's not his fault, and honestly, I
[1:59:54] Speaker 1: really hate that. I feel this way. I don't want
[1:59:57] Speaker 1: to feel this way, but I can't help it. I've
[1:59:59] Speaker 1: tried to distract myself from feeling this way by cutting myself,
[2:00:03] Speaker 1: and when my wife caught me, she went, oh, my gosh,
[2:00:09] Speaker 1: I don't have the best mental health history, and all
[2:00:11] Speaker 1: this has just made it worse. I want to stop
[2:00:14] Speaker 1: feeling the way I do, but genuinely don't know how to.
[2:00:18] Speaker 1: The wife knows how I feel, and I think she
[2:00:21] Speaker 1: just keeps out of my way to avoid any bad
[2:00:23] Speaker 1: energy or me having to be around the kid. But
[2:00:25] Speaker 1: it's not as but it's not a big house, so
[2:00:28] Speaker 1: it's hard. I just dread coming home at the end
[2:00:30] Speaker 1: of the day now, and I'm having thoughts I shouldn't
[2:00:33] Speaker 1: be having. I was laying on the sofa last night
[2:00:36] Speaker 1: wondering how long I could leave the gas stove on
[2:00:38] Speaker 1: before I die. I'm fucking depressed as shit, and I
[2:00:42] Speaker 1: hate it. Love my wife, hate my kid.
[2:00:47] Speaker 2: Said, I hate my gums. I hate my kids gums
[2:00:50] Speaker 2: because they black. I hate his keys because they black.
[2:00:53] Speaker 1: I hate I hate my kids so much. I'm willing
[2:00:56] Speaker 1: to end my life on this planet so I don't
[2:00:59] Speaker 1: have to share it with this.
[2:01:01] Speaker 2: Because this giggling innocent child. I'm sorry.
[2:01:10] Speaker 1: I told you these are so fucked up, but I
[2:01:12] Speaker 1: laughed because I'm like, well you should know.
[2:01:18] Speaker 2: Yeah, you need to leave them both to their own device.
[2:01:20] Speaker 2: You need to leave them alone, like you got you
[2:01:25] Speaker 2: gotta leave them alone, like you need to go put
[2:01:28] Speaker 2: on a backpack and head to Asia and go find
[2:01:32] Speaker 2: yourself or whatever the case is, because this ain't the
[2:01:35] Speaker 2: life for you. And the other conversation about this is
[2:01:39] Speaker 2: when y'all get in relationships, these like earth shaking foundational differences,
[2:01:50] Speaker 2: like if you are dead, the fuck set you don't
[2:01:52] Speaker 2: want kids, and another person is dead the fuck set
[2:01:55] Speaker 2: that they do. Both of you all need to count
[2:01:58] Speaker 2: your motherfucking blessing and losses, shake hands and part the
[2:02:03] Speaker 2: fuck ways because somebody is gonna be resentful later.
[2:02:07] Speaker 1: Mm hmmm.
[2:02:08] Speaker 2: And now you're sitting over here seething at an eight
[2:02:12] Speaker 2: month year old.
[2:02:17] Speaker 1: And like your bitch, no.
[2:02:22] Speaker 2: It's like like kicking cans of infamil, like just yeah,
[2:02:26] Speaker 2: I hate the way, formulas.
[2:02:28] Speaker 1: I hate the way like literally everything.
[2:02:33] Speaker 2: This nigger probably be butting boxes and diapers in the house,
[2:02:36] Speaker 2: like just kicking them over, like fuck this nigga, and
[2:02:39] Speaker 2: this nigga is literally just starting solid foods.
[2:02:44] Speaker 1: Like yeah, literally watching blue Okay, dude, ways to make
[2:02:57] Speaker 1: this niggas life miserable. Nah time. And also you have
[2:03:02] Speaker 1: to leave.
[2:03:02] Speaker 2: You need to go. And on the other side, the mother,
[2:03:05] Speaker 2: the mother, she needs to put you out. You know
[2:03:08] Speaker 2: what I'm saying, You're and y'all need to start talking
[2:03:11] Speaker 2: to each other about your shit before you start pro
[2:03:14] Speaker 2: creating and shit. You know what I'm saying. This nigga
[2:03:16] Speaker 2: just said, I'm cutting myself to get away from a
[2:03:20] Speaker 2: kid who is still sucking off the titty. This is
[2:03:25] Speaker 2: what this is. Dangerously horny is what this is.
[2:03:27] Speaker 1: And should have left him when she was like, I'll
[2:03:30] Speaker 1: find somebody who will okay, and he should have stayed
[2:03:33] Speaker 1: on business Like yeah, you hate being lonely. I hate
[2:03:36] Speaker 1: breaking up because it's such a process. But like, listen,
[2:03:39] Speaker 1: you look at your life now. Yeah, you want to
[2:03:44] Speaker 1: kill yourself. That's the real James Evan shit, Like, I
[2:03:49] Speaker 1: am going to die so I don't have to deal
[2:03:52] Speaker 1: with this anymore.
[2:03:54] Speaker 2: You're gonna ruin this kid's life with your nasty ass
[2:03:57] Speaker 2: fucking energy for the rest of your days because you
[2:04:00] Speaker 2: hate them. You need to go off somewhere and go
[2:04:02] Speaker 2: find some healing. That's what you need to do, you know,
[2:04:05] Speaker 2: go off somewhere and you need you need to go
[2:04:07] Speaker 2: to the store for some cigarettes. That's what you need
[2:04:10] Speaker 2: to do. You need to go to the store for
[2:04:12] Speaker 2: some cigarettes. Or like, what's that show I watched? Who
[2:04:16] Speaker 2: the fuck did I marry? When this lady was married
[2:04:18] Speaker 2: to this nigga for years? Kids all kinds of shit
[2:04:21] Speaker 2: and found out this nigga was a Cuban motherfucking Cuban
[2:04:27] Speaker 2: double a that's found this nigga literally one day she
[2:04:34] Speaker 2: came home and this nigga stuff was gone out the top.
[2:04:36] Speaker 1: Oh yes.
[2:04:40] Speaker 2: She was like, where the fuck it? Found out this
[2:04:41] Speaker 2: nigga is literally out like capturing immigrants in the ocean.
[2:04:46] Speaker 1: And had no ties to her. He was like, no, no, no,
[2:04:49] Speaker 1: I'm good.
[2:04:50] Speaker 2: That's what you need to do. You need to cut ties. Yeah, okay,
[2:04:56] Speaker 2: well give you another one because you clearly you just
[2:05:00] Speaker 2: you brought the broadcat. You weather the storm of this episode,
[2:05:04] Speaker 2: you brought the rain.
[2:05:06] Speaker 1: I have two more stories. I'm going to read them
[2:05:08] Speaker 1: both to you. Okay, one's a real doozy. Well, they
[2:05:14] Speaker 1: both are more than what we are. Oh yes, I've
[2:05:20] Speaker 1: organized them where they progressively get worse.
[2:05:23] Speaker 2: What we just read fathers of euphoria.
[2:05:25] Speaker 1: Why, oh my god, listen, I organize this like Jeff
[2:05:29] Speaker 1: Props on Survivor, Like I wait, let me count the votes.
[2:05:33] Speaker 2: Okay, And you got me out of here with no flint, nigger,
[2:05:36] Speaker 2: I am just barely surviving off of ocean salt like okay, Oh,
[2:05:42] Speaker 2: let me brace myself all right, mm hmmm.
[2:05:48] Speaker 5: Mm hmm okay, do do do do?
[2:05:54] Speaker 1: Do do? I hate my son? Okay? I hate my
[2:06:04] Speaker 1: son with every fiber of my being, and I don't
[2:06:06] Speaker 1: feel bad about it anymore. I know this makes me
[2:06:09] Speaker 1: sound like the worst father in the world, but I'm
[2:06:11] Speaker 1: past the point of caring. Oh my, I absolutely hate
[2:06:14] Speaker 1: my son. And no, this isn't just me being upset
[2:06:18] Speaker 1: over some typical teenage rebellion or argument gone too far.
[2:06:22] Speaker 1: He's twenty one now, and I can confidently say he
[2:06:25] Speaker 1: is just a terrible person. Now, I gotta be honest
[2:06:29] Speaker 1: at some point as a parent, you do realize that
[2:06:32] Speaker 1: it's above me now, like I do what I could do?
[2:06:35] Speaker 1: How they interpreted that information is beyond.
[2:06:37] Speaker 2: Me, right, you know, mothers would be like again, I
[2:06:40] Speaker 2: told you before the nigga stole myfrigerator. But my love
[2:06:43] Speaker 2: is endless. Sometimes some times you have got to win
[2:06:49] Speaker 2: to cut ties. Okay, I'm listening.
[2:06:52] Speaker 1: No one to fold them, okay. It started young. He
[2:06:58] Speaker 1: was always the kid who others. Oh see, the kid
[2:07:01] Speaker 1: had bad vibes already. Oh my god, I'll never forget
[2:07:07] Speaker 1: when he broke a classmate's arm on the playground in
[2:07:09] Speaker 1: third grade on purpose. The school had to get involved,
[2:07:14] Speaker 1: and even then he just didn't care, no remorse, no apology.
[2:07:18] Speaker 1: I thought it was just a phase or something he'd
[2:07:20] Speaker 1: grow out of, but it only got worse. Fast forward
[2:07:25] Speaker 1: to his deen age years. He started stealing, not just things,
[2:07:29] Speaker 1: not just little things like a few bucks from my wallet,
[2:07:32] Speaker 1: but serious stuff. Last year, she somehow got into our
[2:07:36] Speaker 1: bank account and drained our savings, thousands of dollars gone,
[2:07:41] Speaker 1: and he used it all on drinking, gambling, and who
[2:07:44] Speaker 1: knows what else. We found out when the bank called
[2:07:48] Speaker 1: us about suspicious activity. And when I confronted him, he
[2:07:51] Speaker 1: just shrugged. No apology, no explanation. He didn't even try
[2:07:55] Speaker 1: to deny it. He just doesn't care, all right. He's
[2:08:06] Speaker 1: cheated on every girl he's ever dated, and then has
[2:08:10] Speaker 1: the audacity to laugh about it like it's some kind
[2:08:12] Speaker 1: of joke. He disrespects everyone around him. When he doesn't
[2:08:16] Speaker 1: get his way, he throws tantrums. He's punched holes in
[2:08:19] Speaker 1: walls and smashed things in the house, and once even
[2:08:22] Speaker 1: threatened to hit me. I've had to walk on eggshells
[2:08:25] Speaker 1: in my own home for years now, just waiting for
[2:08:27] Speaker 1: the next explosion. His presence is like this dark, toxic
[2:08:31] Speaker 1: cloud that sucks the life out of everyone. We've tried everything, therapy,
[2:08:36] Speaker 1: family interventions, tough love, soft love, everything not exorcism. None
[2:08:41] Speaker 1: of it has worked, and at this point I'm exhausted.
[2:08:44] Speaker 1: I don't even recognize him anymore, and honestly, I don't
[2:08:47] Speaker 1: want him around. I can't believe I'm saying this, but
[2:08:50] Speaker 1: it's the truth. I don't want anything to do with
[2:08:52] Speaker 1: him anymore. I'm just done. I don't feel guilty about
[2:08:56] Speaker 1: it either, not anymore. You can't fix someone who doesn't
[2:08:59] Speaker 1: want to be fixed. TLDR, My twenty one year old
[2:09:02] Speaker 1: son is manipulative, violent, and has no empathy. He's stolen
[2:09:06] Speaker 1: from us, drainder are saving. The show's no remorse for
[2:09:08] Speaker 1: any of it. I'm tired and I don't want him
[2:09:09] Speaker 1: in my life anymore, and I don't feel getting guilty
[2:09:11] Speaker 1: about it. Edit. I'm planning on kicking him out and
[2:09:17] Speaker 1: have a talk with him about why it's happening. He
[2:09:21] Speaker 1: needs to face the reality of his actions. Edit too,
[2:09:27] Speaker 1: I finally kicked my son out and I ended up
[2:09:29] Speaker 1: reporting him too. I won't go into details, it's just
[2:09:32] Speaker 1: too painful. Honestly, I feel both relieved and lost. It
[2:09:36] Speaker 1: feels like a weight has lifted, but I'm completely drained
[2:09:38] Speaker 1: from everything that's happened. I never thought I'd reached this point,
[2:09:42] Speaker 1: but thanks to everyone who offered advice, it really helped
[2:09:44] Speaker 1: me find the strength to take action, even though I'm
[2:09:46] Speaker 1: still unsure about what snacks, just trying to get through
[2:09:49] Speaker 1: each day.
[2:09:52] Speaker 2: WHOA, I'm no doctor joy, but I'm sensing a bit
[2:09:59] Speaker 2: of maybe narcissistic personality disorder.
[2:10:03] Speaker 1: Absolutely absolutely there is there is sociopathic or sociopathic isn't
[2:10:12] Speaker 1: the term anymore, but there's literally psychotic breaks that you
[2:10:15] Speaker 1: see in the story the way he wrote it, Yeah,
[2:10:19] Speaker 1: disassociating him, his his no remorse or empathy or like, sir.
[2:10:25] Speaker 2: This is your fault because.
[2:10:29] Speaker 1: You had to get y'all be letting, y'all.
[2:10:31] Speaker 2: Be letting problems going too long, too long, to long
[2:10:38] Speaker 2: twenty one and you were raising the good son for
[2:10:43] Speaker 2: twenty and then when he said I'm planning to kick
[2:10:45] Speaker 2: him out the house, why.
[2:10:47] Speaker 1: Is he still there? He eventually did this. This is
[2:10:50] Speaker 1: like an episode on Chicago Mad where and I don't
[2:10:54] Speaker 1: remember this because esther PoTA Mrkerston had to step in.
[2:10:57] Speaker 1: So like, So there was this kid who who was
[2:11:04] Speaker 1: like sick and dying in the hospital, and they all
[2:11:06] Speaker 1: thought it was like the daddy who was like the
[2:11:08] Speaker 1: abuser or whatever because the woman, the wife, was all
[2:11:11] Speaker 1: skittish and scared and acting like she was abusing whatever
[2:11:14] Speaker 1: the fuck. Turns out it was the other seven year
[2:11:16] Speaker 1: old son who was a fucking demon spawn kill his
[2:11:20] Speaker 1: brother and try to kill his mama, And the daddy
[2:11:23] Speaker 1: was not because he was abusive, because he was trying
[2:11:25] Speaker 1: to protect his son. I was like, that's crazy. Sometimes,
[2:11:30] Speaker 1: we said sometimes kids have bad vibes.
[2:11:32] Speaker 2: Sometimes the kid got bad vibes because at first I
[2:11:36] Speaker 2: was like, oh, he's a bully, what's he experiencing? But
[2:11:39] Speaker 2: then this kid was just born with bad vibes, Like
[2:11:44] Speaker 2: this kid is Rosemady's baby. This is the omen, you
[2:11:47] Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, And you let the you recognize
[2:11:50] Speaker 2: the problem early, but you just let it continue.
[2:11:53] Speaker 1: You let it continue. And yeah, first of all, then
[2:11:58] Speaker 1: and then your kid being your biggest op draining your
[2:12:02] Speaker 1: savings Like that's.
[2:12:06] Speaker 2: Nigga, I got, I got a furniture, I got a relative.
[2:12:12] Speaker 2: When I tell you this nigga has wreaked havoc all
[2:12:14] Speaker 2: over the place, including he had an old girlfriend at
[2:12:18] Speaker 2: a time. And when we all found about this old girlfriend,
[2:12:21] Speaker 2: we were like, oh, he's about to she's yea and
[2:12:26] Speaker 2: lo and behold, this nigga drained her whole fucking account.
[2:12:31] Speaker 2: And then you know, about a year later she went
[2:12:35] Speaker 2: on to wherever she went on to spiritually. And yeah, yeah,
[2:12:43] Speaker 2: sometimes you got in this particular like this was this
[2:12:47] Speaker 2: was one of them kids that they let the problem
[2:12:51] Speaker 2: go on too long.
[2:12:54] Speaker 1: Mmm mmmmmmmmmmmm hmm. Yeah, let's take a break for our
[2:13:04] Speaker 1: final story. Oh my god, hit a claude.
[2:13:10] Speaker 2: Dark ass episode.
[2:13:12] Speaker 1: I know it's I'm excited, it's good. M Are you ready? Yeah,
[2:13:23] Speaker 1: this is a long one, so I says Strappid. This
[2:13:33] Speaker 1: one is titled I Hate My Daughter. Diversity yeah, I
[2:13:40] Speaker 1: know this will make me seem bad at all, but
[2:13:43] Speaker 1: above all, I really just need a place to vent.
[2:13:46] Speaker 1: This comes from the true off my Chest Reddit by
[2:13:48] Speaker 1: the way, Okay, subred, excuse me. I can't talk about
[2:13:53] Speaker 1: it with my friends, our family, nor do I really
[2:13:55] Speaker 1: want to. I'm twenty seven and I've had a friends
[2:13:59] Speaker 1: with benefit situation with the guy I went to college
[2:14:02] Speaker 1: with let's call him Mark. We were both young and
[2:14:05] Speaker 1: not ready for a relationship. Then I got pregnant. I
[2:14:09] Speaker 1: told Mark about it, since I wanted to discuss our
[2:14:11] Speaker 1: options abortion, adoption, or even giving him custody if he
[2:14:16] Speaker 1: wanted to. I never wanted a kids, so I'd be
[2:14:19] Speaker 1: fine with any compromise. However, Mark didn't take it well.
[2:14:23] Speaker 1: I remember him insisting we could make it work, especially
[2:14:26] Speaker 1: since we were both in our last year of college.
[2:14:30] Speaker 1: He wanted to get married and for us to be
[2:14:32] Speaker 1: a family. I refused. He got his family involved. They
[2:14:37] Speaker 1: called and texted me all the time, even showing up
[2:14:39] Speaker 1: at my part time job. I know I have no
[2:14:42] Speaker 1: one to blame but myself, but I gave up. I
[2:14:45] Speaker 1: had too many things going on at that time, like
[2:14:47] Speaker 1: the loss of my mother, the stress with the rest
[2:14:49] Speaker 1: of the family, and some stuff going on with my
[2:14:51] Speaker 1: best friend that I won't get into. I remember feeling horrible,
[2:14:55] Speaker 1: but I relented and agreed to keep the baby, although
[2:14:57] Speaker 1: I still refused to get married to Mark. Now we
[2:15:01] Speaker 1: have a five year old daughter together. I'm a mess.
[2:15:05] Speaker 1: I never wanted to have kids, and although I'm trying,
[2:15:08] Speaker 1: I can't feel any motherly love for her. What makes
[2:15:12] Speaker 1: it worse is that she's genuinely a good kid. She
[2:15:15] Speaker 1: doesn't throw tantrums much at all. She always kind, and
[2:15:19] Speaker 1: she doesn't expect much. I feel guilty for hating her.
[2:15:23] Speaker 1: I feel bad all the time. I only get to
[2:15:26] Speaker 1: have her on the weekends and Mark has her every
[2:15:28] Speaker 1: other day, but that doesn't make me feel better. She
[2:15:31] Speaker 1: talks about wanting to see me and her dad together,
[2:15:33] Speaker 1: but I just can't. I screamed at her once when
[2:15:36] Speaker 1: she drew a little picture of me and Mark holding hands.
[2:15:40] Speaker 1: I apologize after, but I still felt so guilty. I
[2:15:44] Speaker 1: don't know what I'm doing. I just need to write
[2:15:46] Speaker 1: everything down and get it off my chest. I know
[2:15:49] Speaker 1: I'm a bad mother, I know it, but I don't
[2:15:52] Speaker 1: know how to get be better. I don't know if
[2:15:55] Speaker 1: I want to be better. I just want to give
[2:15:57] Speaker 1: up my parental rights, but even the thought makes me
[2:16:00] Speaker 1: feel even worse. I'm stuck in a hell of my
[2:16:03] Speaker 1: own making. I know I should have fought harder and
[2:16:05] Speaker 1: probably just aborted her. Damn me for being weak, I guess.
[2:16:09] Speaker 2: Oh my god, No, damn you for being weak. Now, bitch,
[2:16:13] Speaker 2: let this child go, this pleasant ray of sunshine that
[2:16:18] Speaker 2: you are about to fucking ruin with your all of
[2:16:21] Speaker 2: your own shit. Let this child, motherfucking go. Let her
[2:16:26] Speaker 2: fucking go, like you and listen, It's not your fault
[2:16:30] Speaker 2: for how you feel. But do not be sitting up
[2:16:33] Speaker 2: here talking about I feel guilty if I let her. No,
[2:16:36] Speaker 2: let her go, Nigga, she is. She is going to thrive.
[2:16:40] Speaker 2: It is going to be the best thing that ever
[2:16:42] Speaker 2: happened for her.
[2:16:44] Speaker 1: Yeah, like I this is about to sound I don't.
[2:16:51] Speaker 1: People have called me a miss andress, which I think
[2:16:55] Speaker 1: is stupid because I am a man and I identify
[2:16:57] Speaker 1: as when. But I recognize our shortcomings, right.
[2:17:00] Speaker 2: Yeah, But I a realist.
[2:17:03] Speaker 1: When it comes to reproductive rights and things. I do think, yes,
[2:17:07] Speaker 1: you can consult the father of the child and whatever,
[2:17:10] Speaker 1: but it's ultimately your body, like your health, your psychological
[2:17:16] Speaker 1: and social experience right, because at the end of the day,
[2:17:24] Speaker 1: the man can leave and not necessarily be looked on
[2:17:28] Speaker 1: as an aberration or anything wrong or whatever. But when
[2:17:33] Speaker 1: a woman abandons their kids, or even as the non
[2:17:35] Speaker 1: custodial parent, because there's women out there or who are
[2:17:40] Speaker 1: the breadwinners and just aren't the custodial parent, and you know,
[2:17:43] Speaker 1: even that, you know riddled with opposition, like how can
[2:17:47] Speaker 1: you be a good mother if you're a I feel
[2:17:51] Speaker 1: like you are a better You would be the best
[2:17:53] Speaker 1: mother to this little girl if you left.
[2:17:59] Speaker 2: I think she's just like she must look like a daddy.
[2:18:02] Speaker 2: Uh huh, because I really think she hates the daddy
[2:18:05] Speaker 2: with her whole ass. Like I think she hates his
[2:18:08] Speaker 2: fucking guts and that kid looks like her daddy.
[2:18:12] Speaker 1: Mm hmm, that's what I think. Update. Oh, okay, some
[2:18:24] Speaker 1: things have happened and I need to write them down,
[2:18:27] Speaker 1: maybe even get some insight. I'll call my daughter Abby.
[2:18:30] Speaker 1: For the sake of this post, I ended up telling
[2:18:34] Speaker 1: Mark about my desire to change the custody arrangement and
[2:18:37] Speaker 1: maybe even removing my parental rights. Many people here agreed
[2:18:41] Speaker 1: that that's it's the best choice for both me and
[2:18:43] Speaker 1: for Abby. Yeah, bitch, he didn't. Yeah, he didn't take
[2:18:46] Speaker 1: it well and actually texted me about it through the week.
[2:18:50] Speaker 1: He insisted we could work out whatever was bothering me.
[2:18:54] Speaker 1: We agreed a while ago that texting is okay, but
[2:18:56] Speaker 1: calls are for emergencies only. So when he called me
[2:18:59] Speaker 1: on Friday evening and pleaded with me to come see Abby,
[2:19:02] Speaker 1: I agreed, this is what I really need to talk about.
[2:19:06] Speaker 1: I've seen Abby cry before, but this was something else.
[2:19:10] Speaker 1: She had a complete meltdown, screaming and crying. Once I
[2:19:12] Speaker 1: got there, she just clung to my leg and screamed
[2:19:15] Speaker 1: at me not to leave her. Why did I want
[2:19:18] Speaker 1: to leave her? What did she do wrong? I cried.
[2:19:22] Speaker 1: I was honestly horrified with how badly she reacted. Mark's
[2:19:26] Speaker 1: mom ended up telling Abby that I was planning on
[2:19:28] Speaker 1: leaving her and she's not going to come to my
[2:19:30] Speaker 1: house this weekend. I had to take Abby to my
[2:19:34] Speaker 1: place sooner than expected, and Mark actually spent the night
[2:19:38] Speaker 1: over as well. He said he's too concerned with Abby
[2:19:42] Speaker 1: and me to leave us alone. I'm completely lost. Even
[2:19:47] Speaker 1: with the way I said that, I want to give
[2:19:49] Speaker 1: up my parental rights. I just can't do it now.
[2:19:51] Speaker 1: The image of Abbi crying and pleading with me not
[2:19:54] Speaker 1: to leave is just stuck in my mind. I feel
[2:19:56] Speaker 1: hopeless about the entire situation. Currently, I'm I'm lying with
[2:20:00] Speaker 1: Abby on the couch and she's watching TV. She hasn't
[2:20:03] Speaker 1: really left my side since yesterday. I'm used to her
[2:20:06] Speaker 1: pointing at the TV while talking about her favorite characters
[2:20:09] Speaker 1: of what cartoon is on. Right now, she's just laying
[2:20:12] Speaker 1: by my side and staying quiet. I can hear Mark
[2:20:14] Speaker 1: moving around in the kitchen. He called and sticked to
[2:20:17] Speaker 1: work and said he's staying here for the weekend. I
[2:20:19] Speaker 1: have no idea what to do, and I'm sorry, but
[2:20:22] Speaker 1: I no longer want to leave Abby. But that's not
[2:20:24] Speaker 1: an option anymore. Edit. I just like to edit and
[2:20:29] Speaker 1: ask for some section suggestions about online therapy. Mark is
[2:20:33] Speaker 1: already looking a therapist for Abby in the area, but
[2:20:35] Speaker 1: I liked some individual therapy I could attend online.
[2:20:39] Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, she got some issues.
[2:20:42] Speaker 1: She does. She first of all, his family is weird
[2:20:50] Speaker 1: and violent, emotionally violent, because why would you tell that
[2:20:54] Speaker 1: baby that your mommy's not gonna come anymore? She doesn't
[2:20:56] Speaker 1: want you. So clearly she's gonna be like clingy and whatever,
[2:21:01] Speaker 1: and you are weaponizing that. So you can't so your
[2:21:04] Speaker 1: your son because why is he over there sleeping over Yeah,
[2:21:12] Speaker 1: he's the father because he wants to con her into
[2:21:14] Speaker 1: a relationship that she doesn't want. She didn't want this relationship,
[2:21:19] Speaker 1: and now he's got his weird mama you know on
[2:21:22] Speaker 1: his side.
[2:21:24] Speaker 2: It's she might the relationship probably was very unhealthy.
[2:21:30] Speaker 1: It was just a fun with friends and benefits situation
[2:21:32] Speaker 1: and he tried to make it a thing. This also
[2:21:35] Speaker 1: lets me know he might be ugly and he tried
[2:21:36] Speaker 1: to lock it down.
[2:21:38] Speaker 2: This is a reverse trap.
[2:21:40] Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
[2:21:41] Speaker 2: That's who he did. He pooked a hole in the condom.
[2:21:45] Speaker 2: M this This lady is trapped and she feels and
[2:21:49] Speaker 2: she doesn't blame the child.
[2:21:52] Speaker 1: That's why I appreciate none of these people except for
[2:21:54] Speaker 1: that one who's the child. Yeah, y'all got to report him,
[2:21:58] Speaker 1: called the law.
[2:21:59] Speaker 2: But everyone be like that British nigga easy to eat
[2:22:02] Speaker 2: a bad, bad batch of beans or something.
[2:22:04] Speaker 1: Because well, I'm in the sense of life. The children
[2:22:06] Speaker 1: have not been the problem except for the family.
[2:22:10] Speaker 2: There all unwell, very sick people that's what happened. You see,
[2:22:14] Speaker 2: this is why niggas talk about legacy and lineage and
[2:22:18] Speaker 2: all types of things. Cut some of these lines, write
[2:22:23] Speaker 2: the fuck off. Okay, cut them off because you all
[2:22:28] Speaker 2: are spreading your sepsis. Okay, your colossity bags are are
[2:22:33] Speaker 2: busting all over humanity, and we'd be better off. We
[2:22:39] Speaker 2: would be better off. Don't put me get them out
[2:22:44] Speaker 2: of here.
[2:22:46] Speaker 4: Now.
[2:22:46] Speaker 2: The nigga with the twenty one year old demon.
[2:22:50] Speaker 1: Yeah, y'all gotta put that one down the line.
[2:22:52] Speaker 2: In a different way.
[2:22:53] Speaker 1: You better call the constable.
[2:22:57] Speaker 2: Right because this nigga's coming to light your house fire.
[2:23:00] Speaker 2: You put him out and you're still in the same space.
[2:23:03] Speaker 2: You are not save some.
[2:23:05] Speaker 1: You will get a burrito bowl out of a cat.
[2:23:07] Speaker 1: Like you know what, y'all got to leave him.
[2:23:12] Speaker 2: I told you I've been watching the United States and terror.
[2:23:14] Speaker 2: He liked that Little Pharaoh c the Little Pharaoh one
[2:23:17] Speaker 2: that came later on, like just you can't do nothing
[2:23:21] Speaker 2: with that. You gotta put it down. You gotta put
[2:23:23] Speaker 2: that down. No, No, the point of this entire episode
[2:23:28] Speaker 2: is legacy means nothing like cut some of this ship
[2:23:32] Speaker 2: off at the knees. Yeah, that's my takeaway.
[2:23:39] Speaker 1: Well, that's today's episode.
[2:23:42] Speaker 2: I pray the piece of all of these children, except
[2:23:45] Speaker 2: for that one, except for that one, except for that one.
[2:23:47] Speaker 1: Yeah, until next time. Friends. Bye.
[2:23:51] Speaker 2: What a terrible episode.
[2:23:53] Speaker 1: I love Thanksgiving. Red of stories. Some of these are
[2:23:59] Speaker 1: very trifling. I kind of scam skimmed through them, so
[2:24:02] Speaker 1: I don't really know really what happens in them. So
[2:24:07] Speaker 1: let us dive in. Am I the for ruining Thanksgiving?
[2:24:15] Speaker 1: I a thirty year old woman, met my boyfriend, thirty
[2:24:19] Speaker 1: year old man three years ago before me. He was
[2:24:22] Speaker 1: with his high school sweetheart. They fell out of love
[2:24:25] Speaker 1: and broke up. A year later we started dating. His mom, however,
[2:24:30] Speaker 1: was still heartbroken about it. It was very I was
[2:24:34] Speaker 1: very understanding and thought she just needed time to get
[2:24:36] Speaker 1: to know me. That Eggs basically grew up with them
[2:24:39] Speaker 1: and they saw her as part of the family. For
[2:24:41] Speaker 1: the first year of my relationship, his mom would call
[2:24:44] Speaker 1: me by the ex's name, until my boyfriend got angry
[2:24:47] Speaker 1: once and told her to be nice. She laughed it
[2:24:50] Speaker 1: off and said it was just a habit. After that,
[2:24:53] Speaker 1: she started calling me the wrong name Janet instead of Jenny.
[2:24:58] Speaker 1: Fictional names. Just for the story. I corrected her a
[2:25:01] Speaker 1: couple of times, but she seemed to enjoy hurting me,
[2:25:04] Speaker 1: so I eventually ignored it. My boyfriend has two sisters.
[2:25:09] Speaker 1: A couple of weeks before Thanksgiving, we were invited to
[2:25:12] Speaker 1: a barbecue at the older sister's house. I was in
[2:25:15] Speaker 1: the kitchen with my boyfriend's mom, the sisters, and one
[2:25:18] Speaker 1: of their husbands. The older sister talked about how my
[2:25:21] Speaker 1: boyfriend praised my cooking to her husband, and the mom
[2:25:25] Speaker 1: was listening. She then said, out loud, Sure, why don't
[2:25:29] Speaker 1: we let Janet make the turkey this year? The sisters
[2:25:33] Speaker 1: giggled and looked at each other. I said, that's a
[2:25:37] Speaker 1: great idea. I didn't tell my boyfriend what happened, so
[2:25:41] Speaker 1: on Thanksgiving we went to his mom's house with the
[2:25:44] Speaker 1: usual wine and dessert. She was shocked. Everybody was shocked
[2:25:49] Speaker 1: what I said, What I thought, Janet is bringing the turkey.
[2:25:55] Speaker 1: There was yelling, crying, and then we got kicked out.
[2:25:58] Speaker 1: My boyfriend is so angry here with me. He hasn't
[2:26:01] Speaker 1: talked to me since. I think it's over, to be honest,
[2:26:04] Speaker 1: but I still don't think I did anything wrong, did I?
[2:26:08] Speaker 1: So for clarification, the mama is being a BIA and
[2:26:13] Speaker 1: kept calling her the wrong name.
[2:26:15] Speaker 2: Yeah about it.
[2:26:17] Speaker 1: So she said, well, Janet, her name is Jenny. The
[2:26:21] Speaker 1: writer's name is Jenny. So she said Janet can do
[2:26:24] Speaker 1: the turkey. So Janet don't exist. You know, Janet was
[2:26:29] Speaker 1: supposed to bring the turkey. I'm not Janet. I'm Jenny,
[2:26:32] Speaker 1: so I'm not supposed to bring the right So there's
[2:26:38] Speaker 1: an update for a little bit more clarification. Okay, hi everyone,
[2:26:45] Speaker 1: I don't know how to start this, but wow, I
[2:26:47] Speaker 1: did not expect this amount of support. Thank you for
[2:26:51] Speaker 1: saying I wasn't that. I'll answer some questions before the update.
[2:26:55] Speaker 1: If you're not interested, skip to the last paragraph. Okay,
[2:26:58] Speaker 1: Thanksgiving is usually held at my mother in law's or
[2:27:01] Speaker 1: the eldest daughter's house because they have the biggest dining rooms.
[2:27:05] Speaker 1: It's usually the same people bringing the same dishes, and
[2:27:08] Speaker 1: it has been like this for year. Mother in law
[2:27:11] Speaker 1: is in charge of the turkey, my boyfriend brings SISSRT, etc.
[2:27:14] Speaker 1: I don't know if they call each other to check up.
[2:27:17] Speaker 1: I had been to one before with my boyfriend and
[2:27:19] Speaker 1: we brought dessert. Mother in law and I have no
[2:27:23] Speaker 1: direct contact. If you saw my text, conversation with her,
[2:27:27] Speaker 1: it looks like I'm that creep who slides into your
[2:27:29] Speaker 1: DMS every now and then with a HI, except I
[2:27:32] Speaker 1: think congratulations on birthdays or Christmas Easter greetings. She never
[2:27:37] Speaker 1: talked too or about me, not even with my boyfriend,
[2:27:41] Speaker 1: and even if I was in the same room, she
[2:27:43] Speaker 1: would talk about me in the third person. At the barbecue,
[2:27:48] Speaker 1: her main issue was that my sister in law and
[2:27:51] Speaker 1: her husband were discussing my cooking in a positive way
[2:27:55] Speaker 1: and saying they wanted me to invite them to dinner
[2:27:57] Speaker 1: at sometime. My mother in law got true and that
[2:28:01] Speaker 1: started what went down. So even if it sounded weird
[2:28:04] Speaker 1: to many here, it wasn't really weird if you know her.
[2:28:09] Speaker 1: So at Thanksgiving, only the ones who knew about quote
[2:28:12] Speaker 1: unquote Janet understood what was going on, the sister in law,
[2:28:17] Speaker 1: father in law, et cetera. The rest were just confused
[2:28:20] Speaker 1: and horrified. My boyfriend was confused and angry with his
[2:28:24] Speaker 1: mom for wanting to kick me out and told her
[2:28:28] Speaker 1: he was leaving too. I lived five minutes away. That
[2:28:32] Speaker 1: was all the time I had to explain he really
[2:28:35] Speaker 1: He got really pissed, dropped me off, and drove away.
[2:28:38] Speaker 1: I had no idea what he did afterwards or how
[2:28:40] Speaker 1: the rest of the family celebrated. I ordered in and
[2:28:44] Speaker 1: watched The Wheel of Time. I texted him apologizing both
[2:28:47] Speaker 1: that night and the next day, and tried calling over
[2:28:51] Speaker 1: the weekend without success.
[2:28:55] Speaker 2: So his mother's the problem.
[2:28:58] Speaker 1: His mother's his mother is complete mm hmm. And it
[2:29:05] Speaker 1: also sounds like I don't I don't know what he
[2:29:09] Speaker 1: did with his family. It sounds like he's really into
[2:29:11] Speaker 1: her because he kept defending his girlfriend, you know, mm hmm.
[2:29:17] Speaker 1: And like he left with her.
[2:29:20] Speaker 2: I don't think that girl would have been a problem
[2:29:21] Speaker 2: if the mother wasn't a.
[2:29:24] Speaker 1: Mm hmmm.
[2:29:25] Speaker 2: So that's the root of everything.
[2:29:27] Speaker 1: Yeah, Now, is she a little bit of an ass
[2:29:32] Speaker 1: for not bringing the turkey kind of but is it
[2:29:36] Speaker 1: warranted exactly? Yeah?
[2:29:37] Speaker 2: Yeah, I was on purpose. That's different.
[2:29:44] Speaker 1: It was with the best intention exactly.
[2:29:48] Speaker 2: Like I'm gonna teach you a lesson. I'm going to
[2:29:51] Speaker 2: ruin this holiday and the one dish that's supposed to
[2:29:54] Speaker 2: be the center dish because you decided that you you
[2:29:58] Speaker 2: didn't put enough respect on me to give me to
[2:30:00] Speaker 2: write name.
[2:30:04] Speaker 1: Wow, I have another one that's actually very everybody can
[2:30:12] Speaker 1: relate to this at some point, so the next one
[2:30:20] Speaker 1: is one that will resonate with a lot of folks.
[2:30:27] Speaker 1: Am I the for not going to Thanksgiving? Because I
[2:30:31] Speaker 1: know I'll be stuck being the babysitter? Been there? I
[2:30:43] Speaker 1: twenty two year old woman, AM the youngest cousin in
[2:30:46] Speaker 1: the family. Buy a lot. In parentheses, she writes, I
[2:30:51] Speaker 1: was surprised, slash mistake. All my older cousins have kids.
[2:30:58] Speaker 1: Every Thanksgiving we go to my aunt's house. My cousins
[2:31:00] Speaker 1: put their kids in the playing room and start drinking,
[2:31:03] Speaker 1: and I get stuck watching them all day. Anytime one
[2:31:06] Speaker 1: cries neath the bathroom or they start fighting, I the
[2:31:10] Speaker 1: one who gets stuck dealing with it. They also seat
[2:31:13] Speaker 1: me at the kids table. I complain to my mom
[2:31:16] Speaker 1: every year, and she just tells me it's not like
[2:31:18] Speaker 1: that and ask if it's a big deal to give
[2:31:20] Speaker 1: the parents just the day off. I don't look forward
[2:31:23] Speaker 1: to Thanksgiving anymore because it happens every year. My boyfriend
[2:31:27] Speaker 1: invited me to his family's Thanksgiving this year, and I
[2:31:30] Speaker 1: decided to go. I told my mom and she is
[2:31:32] Speaker 1: flipping out, told me it will break her heart not
[2:31:35] Speaker 1: to have me there, and everyone will list me. I
[2:31:37] Speaker 1: just want to enjoy Thanksgiving this year. So am I thep.
[2:31:44] Speaker 2: No, not at all, not at all. How old is
[2:31:48] Speaker 2: she not that that matters at all. No, the twenty
[2:31:53] Speaker 2: two year olds in the family, I don't even expect
[2:31:55] Speaker 2: them to be there alone, you know what I'm saying.
[2:31:57] Speaker 2: I expect them to show face and going about their business.
[2:32:01] Speaker 2: I know when we were twenty till we were going
[2:32:02] Speaker 2: we were eating, and then we were going out. Now
[2:32:04] Speaker 2: I know they don't go out like that, but go
[2:32:07] Speaker 2: do something else, go hang out with your friends. No, yeah, yeah,
[2:32:12] Speaker 2: you're not ask your family is that they're not being intentional?
[2:32:16] Speaker 2: But they are.
[2:32:18] Speaker 1: No, Yeah, they're totally big and like I see that,
[2:32:21] Speaker 1: like how family could be manipulative in that way? Mm hmm.
[2:32:26] Speaker 1: Like I know for a fact, like my family a
[2:32:31] Speaker 1: lot of times, like my other cousin gets like shafted
[2:32:34] Speaker 1: to stick because it's like she has like the motherly
[2:32:37] Speaker 1: type of presence type of things, so she kind of
[2:32:40] Speaker 1: got stuck in that that you know, she'll she'll look
[2:32:44] Speaker 1: out for you, that kind of thing, and that's not fair. Yeah,
[2:32:49] Speaker 1: you know, I've always been kind and like to your point, like, yeah,
[2:32:52] Speaker 1: a lot of young people, twenty year olds, they just leave.
[2:32:55] Speaker 2: Yeah, they're not even there like that.
[2:32:58] Speaker 1: Yeah if I oh my, I think I barely went
[2:33:01] Speaker 1: home for things giving. Honestly, when I was in my twenties,
[2:33:04] Speaker 1: I think I went home maybe like once or twice
[2:33:07] Speaker 1: because A it was so difficult to go home back.
[2:33:10] Speaker 2: You know.
[2:33:10] Speaker 1: I've always said, yeah, I was at your house more
[2:33:14] Speaker 1: than anything for most of my twenties, So I don't
[2:33:16] Speaker 1: get like that.
[2:33:17] Speaker 2: True. Yeah, it's true. No, you're not the twenty two
[2:33:22] Speaker 2: year old and and them seen her at the kids
[2:33:25] Speaker 2: table is fucked up. Yeah, I didn't realize we still
[2:33:28] Speaker 2: had kids tables. I mean, I'm kind of glad we
[2:33:31] Speaker 2: do because, you know, just keep some some things, I guess,
[2:33:33] Speaker 2: But I don't know you have houses big enough to
[2:33:36] Speaker 2: have kids tables, truth be told, or thinks, or that
[2:33:42] Speaker 2: big of Thanksgivings to be having, you know what I mean.
[2:33:45] Speaker 2: So poor baby, I.
[2:33:53] Speaker 1: Have time for one more actually keeping short this week.
[2:33:57] Speaker 2: All right, yeah, so we can go eat cranberry so.
[2:34:00] Speaker 1: Us mm hmm. Oh wow, this is rude. Okay, Am
[2:34:14] Speaker 1: I the for sending my brother a bill after our
[2:34:17] Speaker 1: Thanksgiving meal?
[2:34:20] Speaker 2: Probably not, but let's hear it.
[2:34:21] Speaker 1: Depends on what it is. The evening before Thanksgiving, my siblings,
[2:34:27] Speaker 1: older sister and younger brother, all in our twenties, decided
[2:34:31] Speaker 1: to put on a last minute Thanksgiving with just the
[2:34:34] Speaker 1: three of us. My brother offered to bring the turkey
[2:34:37] Speaker 1: since he got one free from work, and my sister
[2:34:39] Speaker 1: and I said we'd throw some sides together. We were
[2:34:42] Speaker 1: all laughing about it, how it was going to be
[2:34:45] Speaker 1: a show, since none of us had ever made a
[2:34:47] Speaker 1: big meal before. My sister and I picked up groceries
[2:34:51] Speaker 1: for the sides. We normally have mashed potatoes, gravy, green
[2:34:55] Speaker 1: bean cast roles, sweet potatoes, buns, and wine and beer.
[2:34:59] Speaker 1: My brother said he'd come over at noon. When he
[2:35:02] Speaker 1: got there with the turkey, we were still cooking as predicted.
[2:35:06] Speaker 1: We underestimated how long we needed, and we were frumbling
[2:35:09] Speaker 1: with timing. He was clearly put out, and he was
[2:35:12] Speaker 1: clearly put out and grumbled about how he said he
[2:35:15] Speaker 1: was going to be there at noon. He grabbed a
[2:35:19] Speaker 1: drink and sat on the couch watching TV while my
[2:35:21] Speaker 1: sister and I continued to cook. No offer to help.
[2:35:25] Speaker 1: The sides all finished at three different times, and my
[2:35:28] Speaker 1: brother got increasingly irritated. We ended up with the full
[2:35:32] Speaker 1: meal around two pm, but we'd been tasting things as
[2:35:36] Speaker 1: they finished. We joked that the meal was coming out
[2:35:39] Speaker 1: in courses. By the end, we were proud and the
[2:35:42] Speaker 1: size turned out great. Now my brother is a pickie eater,
[2:35:46] Speaker 1: but we made the food we always have at our
[2:35:48] Speaker 1: family Thanksgiving. He didn't like that we put rosemary in
[2:35:52] Speaker 1: the mashed potatoes, so he avoided those. He seemed skeptical
[2:35:57] Speaker 1: of the other sides and picked up them. This meal
[2:36:00] Speaker 1: was mostly turkey and gravy. The next day, my sister
[2:36:04] Speaker 1: and I put our receipts together to split evenly. Again.
[2:36:07] Speaker 1: My brother got the turkey free from work, and our
[2:36:10] Speaker 1: mom gave him all this seasoning and ingredients when he
[2:36:12] Speaker 1: told her he was making it, so his only contribution
[2:36:15] Speaker 1: was cooking it. My sister and I got a call
[2:36:18] Speaker 1: from our mom shaming us because my brother complained we
[2:36:22] Speaker 1: unexpectedly sent him a bill and he wasn't consulted on
[2:36:26] Speaker 1: the sides and didn't even like the food. She said
[2:36:30] Speaker 1: she'd never think to charge people she invited over for Thanksgiving.
[2:36:35] Speaker 1: We're all early in our careers, making similar incomes. We
[2:36:38] Speaker 1: planned this together and even though my sister offered her apartment.
[2:36:42] Speaker 1: I never would have assumed she was treating us to
[2:36:44] Speaker 1: an entire Thanksgiving. He failed to mention he drank most
[2:36:48] Speaker 1: of the alcohol we bought. I thought we were on
[2:36:51] Speaker 1: the same page, and honestly, I thought the meal exceeded expectations. Edit.
[2:36:56] Speaker 1: My sister didn't invite us over as a host. When
[2:37:00] Speaker 1: we were discussing getting together, we agreed she had the
[2:37:02] Speaker 1: best space, no roommates, in a bigger kitchen. I could
[2:37:05] Speaker 1: see how my brother framed it as her hosting, but
[2:37:08] Speaker 1: it never occurred to me. To stick with her was
[2:37:11] Speaker 1: to stick her with all the costs, and I can't
[2:37:13] Speaker 1: believe he would either. To be fair, we did not
[2:37:16] Speaker 1: discuss splitting the costs ahead of time. You gotta tell if.
[2:37:24] Speaker 2: You didn't communicate it, Yeah, if you didn't communicate Listen,
[2:37:30] Speaker 2: when it comes to thanksgivings or dinner power things like
[2:37:33] Speaker 2: that pot looks if you will yuck. Generally, the contribution
[2:37:42] Speaker 2: is what you bring, right. Are there usually some trifling
[2:37:45] Speaker 2: people who are like, I'll bring ice or paper plates? Yeah,
[2:37:49] Speaker 2: but you know when we're doing like bringing dishes type
[2:37:53] Speaker 2: of situation. I don't. I've never been in a situation
[2:37:56] Speaker 2: where we all pulled our grocery bills then split that
[2:38:02] Speaker 2: the contribution was what you was, what you brought, however
[2:38:05] Speaker 2: you obtained that, whether you got the turkey for free
[2:38:08] Speaker 2: or whatever the case is, that's what you brought. So no,
[2:38:11] Speaker 2: I don't expect to be sent a bill after I
[2:38:14] Speaker 2: go to a dinner party if that is not previously discussed.
[2:38:17] Speaker 2: There's also times we've thrown girlfriend's birthdays and it's like, Okay,
[2:38:21] Speaker 2: I'm probably gonna cook the majority of the things, but
[2:38:23] Speaker 2: it's a few of us throwing it. So somebody they'll
[2:38:27] Speaker 2: throw me some money, or they'll say we'll get all
[2:38:29] Speaker 2: the champagne, or we'll get that, you know what I mean. Like,
[2:38:32] Speaker 2: but never just like, hey, here's my receipts, like except
[2:38:36] Speaker 2: for the expenses.
[2:38:38] Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so corporate. Like I assume all people on
[2:38:42] Speaker 1: red A are white. So I just because I was like,
[2:38:49] Speaker 1: the white people are still cut throat about Thanksgiving.
[2:38:52] Speaker 2: I know we're sending receipts out. And I also understand
[2:38:56] Speaker 2: now I understand saying hey, I'm I don't really have
[2:38:59] Speaker 2: it like that.
[2:39:01] Speaker 1: I agree, but you gotta commune, you gotta.
[2:39:03] Speaker 2: Communicate the vote. Yeah, right, you know, you don't surprise
[2:39:07] Speaker 2: me at tribal council.
[2:39:10] Speaker 1: I'll bet they didn't.
[2:39:12] Speaker 2: Even surprise him at tribal council. They like waited until
[2:39:15] Speaker 2: they got back to the camp.
[2:39:18] Speaker 1: Did another they eliminated his allies and the one.
[2:39:24] Speaker 2: No, you can't do that. So no, the sisters are
[2:39:28] Speaker 2: the the mother. The mother. The mother is also.
[2:39:32] Speaker 1: The Yeah, yeah, because well, I mean, well everybody's His
[2:39:42] Speaker 1: brother was annoyed because he was like, it was only
[2:39:44] Speaker 1: two o'clock. He got there at noon, so he only
[2:39:46] Speaker 1: had to wait.
[2:39:46] Speaker 2: You don't write, I'm like too well, you said two pm.
[2:39:50] Speaker 2: I was like, he'd hate to come to my house
[2:39:56] Speaker 2: waiting dinner at seven. You would be very very upset.
[2:40:01] Speaker 2: And I probably told you four thirty. So so yeah, no,
[2:40:06] Speaker 2: although this year, this year's this year's my year. I
[2:40:11] Speaker 2: have a game plan.
[2:40:13] Speaker 1: Okay, what is the game plan?
[2:40:17] Speaker 2: Oh, I'm just gonna prep earlier. Okay, yeah, I'm gonna
[2:40:21] Speaker 2: do it in dose. You know, like I already started
[2:40:23] Speaker 2: stock today.
[2:40:24] Speaker 1: And oh you know, yeah I am. I'm going to
[2:40:30] Speaker 1: a market and buying that time.
[2:40:32] Speaker 2: I understand, and I'm not there's no shame about that.
[2:40:35] Speaker 2: I got the turkey. So I gotta defrost that, you know,
[2:40:38] Speaker 2: Brian it and I'll make the pie crust tomorrow, you
[2:40:42] Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like, I'll I'll do the things
[2:40:45] Speaker 2: ahead of time. Yeah, everybody here is a little bit
[2:40:48] Speaker 2: of the I'm not mad at rosemary and mashed potatoes,
[2:40:52] Speaker 2: but completely unnecessary. If you will.
[2:40:54] Speaker 1: Just just it's just you know, y'all got gravy, warm cream,
[2:41:03] Speaker 1: cold butter.
[2:41:05] Speaker 2: Yeah, if you want to be fresh, if you want
[2:41:08] Speaker 2: to put an herb, you can throw some parsley in
[2:41:10] Speaker 2: there some some time, more than anything, a chive, more
[2:41:18] Speaker 2: than anything. But I don't really want. We already have gravy,
[2:41:22] Speaker 2: we have turkey, We don't. I don't need rosemary in
[2:41:24] Speaker 2: a mashed potato. Did you see Jessica Rose pull a
[2:41:29] Speaker 2: rope of rosemary out of her ice coffee everything when
[2:41:34] Speaker 2: you were talking about La last week, That's what I
[2:41:36] Speaker 2: thought about. I was like, she had pulled this Christmas
[2:41:40] Speaker 2: tree out of her coffee. She was like, I hate,
[2:41:48] Speaker 2: and you know I love. I'm like, yeah, I'll try
[2:41:50] Speaker 2: your unique flavor of something, but also I'm put no
[2:41:54] Speaker 2: giant of rosemerry.
[2:41:58] Speaker 1: Like, absolutely not.
[2:42:01] Speaker 2: We gotta have just we gotta have her back. We
[2:42:03] Speaker 2: haven't had her in some years.
[2:42:05] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I had, but oh that was today's episode.
[2:42:13] Speaker 2: Yes, we have other things to do. If you want
[2:42:15] Speaker 2: to partake in those things, join the Patreon. Okay. This
[2:42:19] Speaker 2: holiday season, we watched The Temptations.
[2:42:25] Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. So we're low key doing like the things
[2:42:31] Speaker 1: we said we were going to watch for years that
[2:42:33] Speaker 1: were finally getting around to them.
[2:42:36] Speaker 2: A Nicki Minaj.
[2:42:45] Speaker 1: I swear if you say her names three times, just
[2:42:47] Speaker 1: show up in America.
[2:42:50] Speaker 2: I hope you know what I should that. If that
[2:42:52] Speaker 2: was I should have done that all these years, that's
[2:42:57] Speaker 2: what I want. I'll let you know what happens when
[2:42:59] Speaker 2: I go in the bathroom later, because again it's festivous
[2:43:05] Speaker 2: and I'm ready to air out my grievance.
[2:43:08] Speaker 1: So I was. I was getting ready to watch on Friday.
[2:43:14] Speaker 1: I was waiting for SmackDown to come on, so right
[2:43:16] Speaker 1: before it, Cocaine Bear was on.
[2:43:20] Speaker 2: Mmmm doing what.
[2:43:24] Speaker 1: No?
[2:43:25] Speaker 2: Like the movie was Oh that I thought you jo
[2:43:28] Speaker 2: and then.
[2:43:34] Speaker 1: Hell no. But I immediately thought about her and the
[2:43:38] Speaker 1: menaj Lady. When when Like the Bear came out, I
[2:43:41] Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh. And then I have to
[2:43:44] Speaker 1: actually physically watch this movie again because it is completely ridiculous.
[2:43:47] Speaker 1: They have felicity like shooting. What the real name Carrie Russell,
[2:43:54] Speaker 1: she's in it. Yes, we might have to watch it
[2:44:00] Speaker 1: as like I did, because it is completely utterly It's
[2:44:05] Speaker 1: almost up there with Sharknadover.
[2:44:06] Speaker 2: It's called Cocaine and Bear in the title.
[2:44:12] Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, let me hold. The scene that I
[2:44:15] Speaker 1: saw though, was like the mother was trying to get
[2:44:19] Speaker 1: her cubs because nature is but they were like on
[2:44:22] Speaker 1: a cliff. But then to distract the cubs, they threw
[2:44:25] Speaker 1: a brick of cocaine.
[2:44:27] Speaker 2: Why is Mitch Mitch is in this? Rayleiota is in this?
[2:44:30] Speaker 2: And Mitch from Modern Family? Okay, I need to look
[2:44:35] Speaker 2: at the premise, hold on.
[2:44:38] Speaker 1: It is about cocaine addicted bears.
[2:44:41] Speaker 2: In nineteen eighty five, drug smuggler Andrew C. Thornton drops
[2:44:45] Speaker 2: a shipment of cocaine from his plane. He attempts to
[2:44:47] Speaker 2: parachute out with a drug filled duffel bag, but knocks
[2:44:50] Speaker 2: himself unconscious on the doorframe and falls to his death.
[2:44:53] Speaker 2: His body lands in Knoxville, Tennessee, where he is identified
[2:44:57] Speaker 2: by Bob, a local detective. He concludes that the cocaine
[2:45:00] Speaker 2: is likely from Saint Louis drug kingpin Sid White and
[2:45:03] Speaker 2: the remainder is missing. Blah blah blah blah blah Chattahoochie
[2:45:06] Speaker 2: National Forest. An American black bear eat some of the cocaine,
[2:45:10] Speaker 2: becoming highly aggressive and attacks higherst el.
[2:45:17] Speaker 1: Okay gave the bear like red eyes, and I don't
[2:45:21] Speaker 1: think just because like.
[2:45:24] Speaker 2: The Trail to the Fall, they find a lost brick
[2:45:26] Speaker 2: of cocaine and ingest some before being attacked by the bear.
[2:45:31] Speaker 8: What the why was this greenlit? There's so many good ideas, Yeah,
[2:45:43] Speaker 8: like why why.
[2:45:45] Speaker 1: People paid zillions of dollars to get this made?
[2:45:51] Speaker 2: Ray Liota said, sign me up. He read this script
[2:45:55] Speaker 2: and said I.
[2:45:56] Speaker 1: Had That's how he knew he was going to die
[2:45:58] Speaker 1: because he was like, you know what, I see.
[2:46:01] Speaker 2: White people lost their sh when Carrie Russell cut her
[2:46:04] Speaker 2: hair m hm, and maybe they were onto something. Maybe
[2:46:09] Speaker 2: she lost some of her good senses. Where was she
[2:46:14] Speaker 2: before this? I haven't heard anything about her since Felicity.
[2:46:19] Speaker 1: No, she was on Homeland, the one that's not with
[2:46:24] Speaker 1: Claire Dames.
[2:46:26] Speaker 2: Does she have long hair or short hair?
[2:46:28] Speaker 1: Now? I don't know what she has on that she's
[2:46:32] Speaker 1: in the diplomat with on Netflix.
[2:46:35] Speaker 2: Oh, I forgot she was in Honey, I blew up
[2:46:37] Speaker 2: the kid.
[2:46:39] Speaker 1: No, not black. So we're reading Redded Stories again today.
[2:46:47] Speaker 1: Last time we did Redded Stories, we did. I hate
[2:46:49] Speaker 1: my kids and for whatever reason that was it dark.
[2:46:55] Speaker 2: Which maybe they are not the softer side of seers.
[2:46:57] Speaker 2: Some of you slithered out and let us know how
[2:47:01] Speaker 2: much you loved that.
[2:47:02] Speaker 1: Fucking yeah y'all, her, y'all hear wet seal or you
[2:47:07] Speaker 1: know spencers. So these are all Christmas themed and I
[2:47:15] Speaker 1: don't know where they're going to take us. Okay, so
[2:47:18] Speaker 1: let us begin. This was posted and today I fucked up.
[2:47:25] Speaker 1: Today I fucked up by giving my daughter a potato
[2:47:28] Speaker 1: for a Christmas present.
[2:47:33] Speaker 7: I already have questions how old is this child?
[2:47:38] Speaker 1: So yeah, so obligatory. This happened a while ago when
[2:47:43] Speaker 1: my daughter was six. She was obsessed with the TV
[2:47:46] Speaker 1: show Little House on the Prairie, which delighted my wife
[2:47:48] Speaker 1: and me, who loved the show when we were kids.
[2:47:51] Speaker 1: In the pilot episode, the family was so poor that
[2:47:54] Speaker 1: each of the girls got a new cut, a shiny
[2:47:56] Speaker 1: new penny, and a potato as a gift for Christmas.
[2:48:00] Speaker 1: My daughter couldn't stop talking about it. Now, my family
[2:48:03] Speaker 1: is really big into taking practical jokes too far. There
[2:48:06] Speaker 1: was a far There was the faral daughter kept in
[2:48:09] Speaker 1: a cage prank of twenty ten and the bloody Leprechaun
[2:48:12] Speaker 1: joke of twenty thirteen, but this one really backfired on us.
[2:48:18] Speaker 1: After she went to bed on Christmas Eve, we hit
[2:48:20] Speaker 1: all her real presence behind the couch and left one
[2:48:23] Speaker 1: package in the middle of the floor. When she came down,
[2:48:26] Speaker 1: she seemed surprised that there was only one gift, but
[2:48:29] Speaker 1: carefully unwrapped it to reveal you guessed it, a shiny
[2:48:32] Speaker 1: tin cup, a brand new penny, and a potato. Attached
[2:48:37] Speaker 1: was a note from Santa Mollie. I heard how much
[2:48:40] Speaker 1: you loved the Little House Show. Here's hoping you have
[2:48:43] Speaker 1: a very prairie Christmas. Love Santa. She started, She grabbed
[2:48:50] Speaker 1: the potato and started to cry. Uh oh, I really
[2:48:54] Speaker 1: screw up this time. However, it wasn't because she was upset,
[2:48:58] Speaker 1: but because she was so happy. Even when we revealed
[2:49:02] Speaker 1: her other gifts, she only wanted to be with her potato.
[2:49:06] Speaker 1: She drew her face on it and carried it around
[2:49:08] Speaker 1: with her everywhere. But it started to go bad. Yeah,
[2:49:12] Speaker 1: first it turned green and started to sprout eyelids. Eventually
[2:49:17] Speaker 1: we had a very traumatic experience where the potato disappeared
[2:49:20] Speaker 1: in the night. She's seventeen now and still talks swissfully about.
[2:49:24] Speaker 2: The Christmas Oh wholesome Christmas stories.
[2:49:33] Speaker 1: You know, not everything needs to be out law.
[2:49:37] Speaker 2: No, no, not everything, not everything. I thought you were
[2:49:40] Speaker 2: going to say. She grabbed them open the package and
[2:49:42] Speaker 2: was like, what the fuck is this?
[2:49:45] Speaker 1: Have you ever gotten a Christmas gift that you hated
[2:49:50] Speaker 1: or like? And how did you respond? See?
[2:49:53] Speaker 7: My parents listen to me, So I only got the
[2:49:55] Speaker 7: things I asked for.
[2:49:59] Speaker 2: Yees, you know, and my father's anti capitalism. So it's
[2:50:08] Speaker 2: never been about just the gifts. Yeah, yeah, what about you?
[2:50:16] Speaker 1: Oh yeah all the time. Maybe gift that I've gotten,
[2:50:21] Speaker 1: like books and ship that you know, like I got
[2:50:24] Speaker 1: a Bible once. I actually just sixteen year old. Go ahead,
[2:50:30] Speaker 1: don't gift to sixteen year old. I'm late, you know
[2:50:34] Speaker 1: what I mean? Or maybe too early, it depends.
[2:50:38] Speaker 9: But yeah, when I was a kid, I getting clothes
[2:50:41] Speaker 9: for Christmas. But I was a kid, like you want
[2:50:43] Speaker 9: toys and games, but you know what asing from that?
[2:50:46] Speaker 2: No?
[2:50:49] Speaker 1: No, I used to also hate my mother was very
[2:50:51] Speaker 1: big on like stocking stuffers and things. So I used
[2:50:54] Speaker 1: to get a lot like snacks and things, and I'd
[2:50:57] Speaker 1: always be like, well, it all ends up, like you
[2:51:01] Speaker 1: know how like when Halloween all comes together, it all
[2:51:03] Speaker 1: tastes like the same thing. Well Christmas is worse because
[2:51:06] Speaker 1: it all tastes like the same thing, and all that
[2:51:09] Speaker 1: same thing tastes like glitter or what you think glitter
[2:51:11] Speaker 1: tastes like, and it's just like, Yeah.
[2:51:16] Speaker 2: My father was also big on like acting like he
[2:51:19] Speaker 2: wasn't gonna get you something and then surprising you in
[2:51:22] Speaker 2: a really weird way, like Lion King. When Lion King
[2:51:27] Speaker 2: came out on VHS, we were please go to the
[2:51:30] Speaker 2: store by it, come home, please bring the Lion King.
[2:51:32] Speaker 2: He didn't. He said I couldn't find the Lion King.
[2:51:35] Speaker 2: It was sold out, and then he had it tucked
[2:51:36] Speaker 2: into his draws as he walked out of the room.
[2:51:39] Speaker 2: So it was it was a lot of that, but
[2:51:43] Speaker 2: you don't nobody worry. It's okay, nobody worry that. I
[2:51:51] Speaker 2: guess the card. I need to give some context.
[2:51:55] Speaker 7: I have a question.
[2:51:57] Speaker 9: Yeah, now you said she was sick, but she got
[2:52:00] Speaker 9: the potato right, and at the end it says she
[2:52:02] Speaker 9: was seventeen and she still has the potato.
[2:52:05] Speaker 1: She's no, she still talks about it, she still thinks
[2:52:08] Speaker 1: fondly of her potatoes.
[2:52:12] Speaker 9: See, I'm concerned because I feel like that's how you
[2:52:15] Speaker 9: end up on My Strange Addiction. I saw documentary once
[2:52:19] Speaker 9: about people who have intimate relationships with inanimate objects.
[2:52:22] Speaker 7: It's fucking wild.
[2:52:24] Speaker 9: She's going to be one of them, Like, you can't
[2:52:26] Speaker 9: trust her around the back of potatoes. And the thing
[2:52:29] Speaker 9: is she's going to keep it to herself because she
[2:52:30] Speaker 9: probably has enough self awareness to realize this is weird.
[2:52:33] Speaker 9: But one day she's going to lose control and you're
[2:52:35] Speaker 9: gonna have to take those potatoes away from her.
[2:52:39] Speaker 1: Oh my god. I did see one episode of My
[2:52:43] Speaker 1: Strich Addiction, and this guy was definitely in a relationship
[2:52:46] Speaker 1: with his eyes. I saw that one. Yes, I also
[2:52:50] Speaker 1: feel like, you know, if all if a lot of inanimates,
[2:52:55] Speaker 1: if more inanimates had sexual holes, I feel like a
[2:52:59] Speaker 1: lot of men would be in relations with those as
[2:53:02] Speaker 1: opposed to real people.
[2:53:04] Speaker 9: You know, in the documentary referenced they don't need holes.
[2:53:08] Speaker 9: They both date anything. This one woman was in a
[2:53:10] Speaker 9: relationship with the Eiffel tower. There was another girl. She
[2:53:14] Speaker 9: was like dating some abandoned roller coaster with some It
[2:53:17] Speaker 9: was weird.
[2:53:18] Speaker 7: It was weird.
[2:53:20] Speaker 1: Yeah, imagine you like, oh who you dating? My niggas.
[2:53:26] Speaker 7: The biggest in the world.
[2:53:28] Speaker 2: Yeah, everybody, kingdom.
[2:53:32] Speaker 1: It's a small world after all.
[2:53:35] Speaker 2: I'm freaky eaters. My wife downs a ton of potato.
[2:53:42] Speaker 1: Because and you know, like those people who eat like
[2:53:44] Speaker 1: corn stars and stuff and baby powder, like this one
[2:53:47] Speaker 1: girl I went to college with, Like, she ate baby
[2:53:50] Speaker 1: powder down.
[2:53:52] Speaker 2: That's a deficiency.
[2:53:56] Speaker 1: It's something.
[2:53:57] Speaker 2: No, no, she was deficient. There is a condition. Yeah,
[2:54:02] Speaker 2: there's a conditions. Had a coworker who used to eat
[2:54:06] Speaker 2: corn starch.
[2:54:08] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I know people eat corn scarch, and I'm
[2:54:11] Speaker 1: just like, oh boy, hold.
[2:54:12] Speaker 2: On, hold on, there's a reason. Hold on, why do
[2:54:15] Speaker 2: people eat corn starch. Also, people obsessed with potatoes are
[2:54:19] Speaker 2: called sput enthusiasts.
[2:54:23] Speaker 7: I just like imagine the baby powder caking up at
[2:54:26] Speaker 7: the roof of your mouth and.
[2:54:28] Speaker 2: Yeah, and like, yeah, it is a nutrient deficiency, a
[2:54:37] Speaker 2: medical condition called pica. Oh yes, yeah, it's a zinc
[2:54:43] Speaker 2: or iron deficiency is generally the cause. It's yeah, little
[2:54:49] Speaker 2: lawless assholes. Okay, the next.
[2:54:52] Speaker 1: One, Yeah, I am I am.
[2:54:55] Speaker 2: This one is am I the asshole?
[2:54:58] Speaker 1: Mm hmmm.
[2:54:59] Speaker 2: And I'm my the asshole for confronting a waiter after
[2:55:02] Speaker 2: he disregarded my religious beliefs.
[2:55:05] Speaker 1: Mm. Probably.
[2:55:08] Speaker 2: I will preface this by saying I am not a
[2:55:10] Speaker 2: confrontational person by nature, and I try to be as
[2:55:13] Speaker 2: welcoming an understanding of others. So I would like to
[2:55:16] Speaker 2: ask that same in return. I am a Christian because
[2:55:19] Speaker 2: it is my truth. I respect that not everyone as Christian,
[2:55:22] Speaker 2: as that is the nature of free will. But just
[2:55:25] Speaker 2: as you hold your beliefs close to your heart, this
[2:55:27] Speaker 2: happens to be mine. You do not need to agree
[2:55:30] Speaker 2: with my religious beliefs, but this is important in understanding
[2:55:33] Speaker 2: where I am coming from. All right, get to it.
[2:55:35] Speaker 2: You're insufferable and probably have a cross in your bio.
[2:55:38] Speaker 2: I just had what was otherwise a perfectly lovely Christmas
[2:55:41] Speaker 2: Eve brunch with my husband and my daughter, but it
[2:55:45] Speaker 2: has since been spoiled by an argument spurned by a
[2:55:48] Speaker 2: waiter's remarks and behavior. When we arrived at the restaurant,
[2:55:51] Speaker 2: I made it clear to the hostess that we were
[2:55:53] Speaker 2: celebrating Christmas Eve.
[2:55:55] Speaker 1: All right.
[2:55:56] Speaker 2: The hostess was very nice and even relate her Christmas
[2:55:59] Speaker 2: plans with us. The restaurant was understandably busy, but she
[2:56:03] Speaker 2: was very conversational and well mannered and helped make us
[2:56:06] Speaker 2: feel at ease. This gave me what I now know
[2:56:09] Speaker 2: was a false impression that everyone working there would be
[2:56:12] Speaker 2: just as kind and welcoming. When we were finally shown
[2:56:15] Speaker 2: our seats, our waiter introduced himself and I in turn
[2:56:19] Speaker 2: reiterated that we were celebrating Christmas Eve and that was
[2:56:22] Speaker 2: the primary reason for the brunch. You're insufferable. Instead of
[2:56:26] Speaker 2: any reaction at all from the waiter, he says, okay
[2:56:28] Speaker 2: with a smile, it begins to list the specials they
[2:56:32] Speaker 2: are serving. This was the first red flag, and a
[2:56:35] Speaker 2: complete one eighty to the hostess, who at least acknowledged
[2:56:39] Speaker 2: the specialness of today and that it is not like
[2:56:41] Speaker 2: any other day. One of the specials he even listed
[2:56:44] Speaker 2: had Christmas in the name, which was ironic. Our meals
[2:56:48] Speaker 2: were lovely, and I was willing to overlook the lack
[2:56:50] Speaker 2: of warmth. The waiter had to the announcement of our
[2:56:54] Speaker 2: celebration on what is to me a holy day. As
[2:56:58] Speaker 2: we asked to pay the bill at the table, my
[2:57:00] Speaker 2: husband was operating the credit card machine, and I decided
[2:57:02] Speaker 2: to strike up a conversation with the waiter. I elaborated
[2:57:06] Speaker 2: on our Christmas Eve plans in our family tradition of
[2:57:10] Speaker 2: staying up until midnight and opening one gift as the
[2:57:12] Speaker 2: clock strikes twelve. He smiled and chuckled, but offered no
[2:57:16] Speaker 2: elaboration on his part. Even if he didn't celebrate, he
[2:57:19] Speaker 2: seemed totally incapable of even acknowledging how important this day
[2:57:23] Speaker 2: was to millions of people. I gave a shocked look
[2:57:26] Speaker 2: with my eyes to my daughter as a form of
[2:57:28] Speaker 2: silent communication of WHOA, what's this guy's issue? My husband
[2:57:32] Speaker 2: gave back the credit card machine, and as the waiter
[2:57:35] Speaker 2: handed us our receipt, he said happy holidays. I was
[2:57:39] Speaker 2: so peeved by this that I piped up and said again,
[2:57:42] Speaker 2: we were celebrating Christmas in case he forgot, not just
[2:57:45] Speaker 2: any holiday, and then left in a huff. My daughter
[2:57:49] Speaker 2: thinks I'm overreacting, but my husband agrees wholeheartedly that the
[2:57:52] Speaker 2: waiter was rude. I could understand if you don't know
[2:57:55] Speaker 2: someone's religion to say happy holidays, but if he knows
[2:57:58] Speaker 2: we are Christian, why treat us this way? Am I
[2:58:01] Speaker 2: really the a here?
[2:58:04] Speaker 1: Absolutely? Yes, absolutely, you're you're a fucking douchemunky and like
[2:58:11] Speaker 1: and a Karen and your husband voted for Trump and
[2:58:15] Speaker 1: you have no spine, and you hate women, and you
[2:58:19] Speaker 1: hate your big and yourself, your daughter. You don't respect
[2:58:24] Speaker 1: the service industry. Yeah, absolutely, because when people say happy holidays,
[2:58:31] Speaker 1: it doesn't always mean like they're anti religion. There's a
[2:58:34] Speaker 1: bunch of holidays. There's Christmas and New Years. If I
[2:58:38] Speaker 1: don't see your white ass, you know New Years, I'm
[2:58:42] Speaker 1: wishing you a happy one.
[2:58:45] Speaker 2: Also, this nigga did his job, his job.
[2:58:48] Speaker 1: He don't even have.
[2:58:50] Speaker 2: No I hope bad things happen to you for the
[2:58:53] Speaker 2: rest of your Christmas Eve, the next day and going
[2:58:55] Speaker 2: into the whole New Year.
[2:58:57] Speaker 9: That took me back to my retail days. I'll never
[2:58:59] Speaker 9: forget get working as a cashier at Marshall's over the holidays,
[2:59:03] Speaker 9: and of course, like it was company policy, we had
[2:59:06] Speaker 9: to say happy holidays, you know, being politically correct and whatnot.
[2:59:09] Speaker 9: And it was always just you know, every day about
[2:59:12] Speaker 9: five customers who say happy Holidays. They respond with Merry Christmas.
[2:59:16] Speaker 9: But there's that sharpness to it. But they want you
[2:59:18] Speaker 9: to know Mary Christmas. Like it's almost threatening, and I'm like,
[2:59:21] Speaker 9: wait a minute, miss, this is not a family guy episode.
[2:59:24] Speaker 9: I'm just here to get my little check, all right.
[2:59:29] Speaker 9: I'm not taking which.
[2:59:30] Speaker 2: I am a seasonal employer. Oh, they get so mad
[2:59:36] Speaker 2: about that. I'm about to just respond back all the
[2:59:38] Speaker 2: time with happy festivals. That is it. You don't get it.
[2:59:43] Speaker 2: You're not getting a merry Christmas for me. I don't care. Yeah, yeah,
[2:59:47] Speaker 2: so I wish terrible things on her.
[2:59:50] Speaker 1: Absolutely. Let's take a break, yeah, and we'll be back
[2:59:55] Speaker 1: with more next with hit it claude. All right, we're black.
[3:00:01] Speaker 1: Happy holidays everybody. We're to do recovering reddit stories Holiday
[3:00:06] Speaker 1: Reddit stories. Are you ready for the next one? Okay,
[3:00:11] Speaker 1: My partner, who's thirty thirty year old man and I
[3:00:15] Speaker 1: twenty seven year old woman, invited family friends forty year
[3:00:20] Speaker 1: old woman, fifty five year old man, and a seventh
[3:00:24] Speaker 1: month old baby. But they've already outstayed there welcome within
[3:00:29] Speaker 1: twenty four hours. Oh, A bit of a backstory to start.
[3:00:36] Speaker 1: My partner and I stayed with these friends for a
[3:00:38] Speaker 1: couple of days before, and they've been lovely inviting us
[3:00:40] Speaker 1: into their home. When we visited them. We went out
[3:00:43] Speaker 1: and explored the city during the day and pretty much
[3:00:45] Speaker 1: fitted for ourselves. We're very clean, take care of dishes,
[3:00:49] Speaker 1: and overall we're pretty quiet and respectful of others' homes.
[3:00:53] Speaker 1: Here's where it starts. Our friends asked what we were
[3:00:58] Speaker 1: doing for Christmas and have any plans, so we gave
[3:01:01] Speaker 1: them the dates they could possibly come visit us. This
[3:01:05] Speaker 1: is where we should have clarified that they could stay
[3:01:07] Speaker 1: three to four days and not the entire length of
[3:01:09] Speaker 1: the time that they were available. My partner and I
[3:01:13] Speaker 1: still wanted a relaxing win, a break before we had
[3:01:15] Speaker 1: to resume work. We asked several times what their plans
[3:01:18] Speaker 1: were or if they knew the dates. They told us
[3:01:21] Speaker 1: the day before they arrived they would be there tomorrow
[3:01:24] Speaker 1: with no end date in sight. We now have an
[3:01:28] Speaker 1: end date, but they're standing for a total of eight
[3:01:31] Speaker 1: days with a seventh month old seven month old baby.
[3:01:35] Speaker 1: We thought, whoa way more than we offered, but okay,
[3:01:38] Speaker 1: we can do this. We just we also just moved
[3:01:41] Speaker 1: into our apartment three weeks ago and nothing is baby proof.
[3:01:45] Speaker 1: We let them know this. We have tile, Flora's glass table,
[3:01:49] Speaker 1: and yet they were upset when we didn't have a
[3:01:51] Speaker 1: bucket to clean up her diapers, no baby aspirin, and
[3:01:55] Speaker 1: no high chair. Mind you, we don't have kids. It's
[3:02:00] Speaker 1: only been twenty four hours and here are the grievances.
[3:02:03] Speaker 1: We have piss all over the side of the toilet
[3:02:08] Speaker 1: and floor, blew up the toilet, and didn't clean up
[3:02:12] Speaker 1: the poop skids. Oh, there is a toilet brush and
[3:02:16] Speaker 1: cleaner on the side of the toilet where said piss was.
[3:02:19] Speaker 1: Blasting the TV after we've tried to go to sleep.
[3:02:24] Speaker 1: We paid for all of the food to cook for
[3:02:26] Speaker 1: Christmas meals, We move some of our furniture and completely
[3:02:30] Speaker 1: rearranged our fridge, track, dirt all over the apartment with
[3:02:34] Speaker 1: the stroller and overall messy and literally their stuff is
[3:02:40] Speaker 1: all over the apartment. They fight a lot with each other.
[3:02:44] Speaker 1: We witnessed this in their home, just verbal bickering, but
[3:02:47] Speaker 1: a lot, so I shouldn't be surprised they're doing it
[3:02:49] Speaker 1: in our place, but I am. Basically, we want to
[3:02:53] Speaker 1: know what's the best way to resolve this so we
[3:02:55] Speaker 1: can have a nice winter break before we get back
[3:02:57] Speaker 1: to work without causing too much friction. Also letting the
[3:03:00] Speaker 1: couple know that there's been a violation of expectations.
[3:03:05] Speaker 2: First of all, this fifty five your old man got
[3:03:07] Speaker 2: a seven month old baby.
[3:03:09] Speaker 1: That's yeah, and he can't aim, he doesn't know how
[3:03:13] Speaker 1: to he doesn't know how to pee standing out.
[3:03:15] Speaker 9: They're old enough to know better. I'm not walking on
[3:03:20] Speaker 9: eggshells in my own house.
[3:03:23] Speaker 2: No, and you're older than Yeah.
[3:03:26] Speaker 1: I'm also just not I just don't have the audacity
[3:03:30] Speaker 1: to stay with somebody for eight days.
[3:03:32] Speaker 2: I don't want to stay with somebody for three days.
[3:03:34] Speaker 2: I don't want to stay with somebody for two days. Yeah,
[3:03:39] Speaker 2: I prefer not eight days is.
[3:03:41] Speaker 1: Crazy with a baby.
[3:03:44] Speaker 2: You're fifty five with a seven month old baby.
[3:03:49] Speaker 9: Are They're like no older siblings that could have at
[3:03:52] Speaker 9: least watched the kid. Maybe they don't fuck with you
[3:03:55] Speaker 9: because that sound like assholes.
[3:03:58] Speaker 1: Yeah.
[3:03:59] Speaker 2: I'm curious about the friend dynamic if I'm being honest.
[3:04:02] Speaker 1: Because why would you tell your friends the day of oh,
[3:04:05] Speaker 1: we're staying eight days? Like, no, we asked you ahead
[3:04:07] Speaker 1: of time how many days you stay in Nigga, Like
[3:04:09] Speaker 1: you need to let us know. You just don't pop
[3:04:12] Speaker 1: up and be like we're staying a whole week. Yay.
[3:04:15] Speaker 2: I can't imagine being fifty five with it with a baby,
[3:04:20] Speaker 2: or a twenty seven year old friend, like I just, yeah,
[3:04:24] Speaker 2: there's so many things here. John Mere arrested development. They're
[3:04:29] Speaker 2: all bartenders, everybody's in the service industry.
[3:04:32] Speaker 1: I said, there's somebody. I had a good friend, Julia.
[3:04:35] Speaker 1: She was definitely twenty years older than me, but we
[3:04:38] Speaker 1: had we had a time.
[3:04:40] Speaker 2: Twenty years older than you, I know.
[3:04:42] Speaker 1: But still we had a time.
[3:04:46] Speaker 2: Who's the oldest friend I've had? I mean, I've had
[3:04:48] Speaker 2: older friends. It's not saying you can't have older friends.
[3:04:52] Speaker 2: I just don't have. I just can't imagine calling up
[3:04:56] Speaker 2: my twenty seven year old coworker now a friend and saying,
[3:05:01] Speaker 2: can I stay at your house with no end in
[3:05:03] Speaker 2: sight with my seven month old baby that I had
[3:05:06] Speaker 2: at fifty four?
[3:05:09] Speaker 1: Yeah? I don't. But you know, men, folks be having
[3:05:15] Speaker 1: babies at any age. Remember, like to remember what mister
[3:05:18] Speaker 1: from the odd couple who had a baby at like ninety.
[3:05:21] Speaker 2: No, you're not wrong. Tristan has a sixteen year old brother.
[3:05:24] Speaker 1: So do you know who? Immediately?
[3:05:28] Speaker 7: Odell Beckham's daddy.
[3:05:29] Speaker 9: I think he got like a fresh baby too, or
[3:05:31] Speaker 9: like a really really young kid. But he got a
[3:05:33] Speaker 9: whole bunch of kids.
[3:05:38] Speaker 1: I feel like Odell Beckham looks like he has a
[3:05:40] Speaker 1: young has young parents. If that makes it, I think
[3:05:42] Speaker 1: my mom.
[3:05:44] Speaker 7: Well, no, his mom and dad went to college together.
[3:05:46] Speaker 7: But I do know like none of his siblings got
[3:05:48] Speaker 7: the same mother.
[3:05:49] Speaker 2: So his daddy was.
[3:05:56] Speaker 7: Odell Beckham Senior.
[3:05:58] Speaker 2: Odell Beckham Seniors, Yeah, younger's child, her name is Summer,
[3:06:03] Speaker 2: was born in twenty eighteen.
[3:06:05] Speaker 7: And how old is he?
[3:06:08] Speaker 2: Let's see how old is Odell Beckham Senior fifty six
[3:06:18] Speaker 2: year old, still younger than these figures here. And Odell
[3:06:23] Speaker 2: Beckham's son, Zun was born on February my parents anniversary
[3:06:31] Speaker 2: February seventeenth.
[3:06:33] Speaker 1: Oldell Beckham Junior has a kid.
[3:06:35] Speaker 2: He had a four years younger than his child's youngest
[3:06:40] Speaker 2: his father's youngest child.
[3:06:45] Speaker 9: So that would be like his uncle, well, his aunt
[3:06:49] Speaker 9: senior's child would be Beckham's child's on okay, yes, uh
[3:06:55] Speaker 9: huh h.
[3:06:55] Speaker 2: And Odell and Junior's son's name is zinn is z
[3:07:02] Speaker 2: y d n.
[3:07:04] Speaker 1: Zidenzi ziden zd.
[3:07:09] Speaker 2: Zyderco what happens? That's what it is? You already for
[3:07:16] Speaker 2: the next one? Yeah, okay, let's see here, let me
[3:07:21] Speaker 2: make this big? Oh how do I do that? Oh? Old,
[3:07:28] Speaker 2: I'm sorry?
[3:07:30] Speaker 1: Highlight and command and plus time.
[3:07:33] Speaker 2: Show fonts fourteen eighteen boom. Okay, all right, Am I
[3:07:42] Speaker 2: the asshole for regifting my boyfriend's Christmas present to my sister?
[3:07:48] Speaker 1: Yes?
[3:07:49] Speaker 7: I need to hear the details, right.
[3:07:53] Speaker 2: I a twenty three year old female lady, love my boyfriend,
[3:07:58] Speaker 2: a twenty four year old male men, and have been
[3:08:01] Speaker 2: dating him for about two years. He has always been
[3:08:04] Speaker 2: really supportive and our relationship is great. So when it
[3:08:07] Speaker 2: came time for Christmas, I wanted to get him something
[3:08:10] Speaker 2: really special. He has been complaining about his laptop for
[3:08:13] Speaker 2: a while and has expressed a desire to upgrade to
[3:08:16] Speaker 2: a newer model. I decided I wanted to get him
[3:08:19] Speaker 2: the best laptop I could, so for the weeks leading
[3:08:21] Speaker 2: up to Christmas, when he'd complain about his laptop, I'd
[3:08:24] Speaker 2: take these opportunities to casually ask him which laptop he liked,
[3:08:28] Speaker 2: what he wanted in a new laptop, and so forth.
[3:08:31] Speaker 2: The main problem is he had The main problem he
[3:08:33] Speaker 2: had with his laptop was the speed, So I thought
[3:08:36] Speaker 2: it would be fitting to get him the same model
[3:08:38] Speaker 2: that he had a MacBook Pro, just the latest version. Now,
[3:08:43] Speaker 2: I'm not a tech person. I don't know the first
[3:08:45] Speaker 2: thing about RAM, SSD, etc. This is me. I just
[3:08:49] Speaker 2: assumed the thirteen hundred dollars laptop will be more than
[3:08:52] Speaker 2: enough for his needs, so I bought the laptop without
[3:08:55] Speaker 2: doing any more research on it. Christmas Day came and
[3:08:58] Speaker 2: I gave my boyfriend the laptop. He was so excited
[3:09:01] Speaker 2: until he saw the specs. When he saw that the
[3:09:04] Speaker 2: laptop had eight gigs of RAM, he was really really
[3:09:07] Speaker 2: disappointed because he couldn't get his work done on such
[3:09:09] Speaker 2: a slow machine. He was adamant that he needed something
[3:09:12] Speaker 2: with more RAM. This turned into a full blown argument.
[3:09:15] Speaker 2: I tried to explain to him that I had done
[3:09:18] Speaker 2: my best and spend a lot of money on the laptop,
[3:09:20] Speaker 2: so he should appreciate it, but he wasn't having it.
[3:09:23] Speaker 2: He said he would rather return the laptop and get
[3:09:25] Speaker 2: the one he wanted. At this point, I was really
[3:09:27] Speaker 2: hurt and upset. I'd gone out of my way to
[3:09:29] Speaker 2: get him a really nice present, and I felt like
[3:09:31] Speaker 2: he didn't appreciate it at all. Yes, I could return
[3:09:34] Speaker 2: it and get him the one he wanted, but I'd
[3:09:36] Speaker 2: already spent a lot of money. The fact that he
[3:09:38] Speaker 2: wasn't even willing to give it a chance made me
[3:09:40] Speaker 2: really frustrated. So long story short, I decided to regift
[3:09:44] Speaker 2: the laptop to my sister, a nineteen year old female girl.
[3:09:48] Speaker 2: She's a college student and I know she could really
[3:09:50] Speaker 2: use a laptop like this. I know it may sound selfish,
[3:09:53] Speaker 2: but I didn't think it was fair that he didn't
[3:09:55] Speaker 2: appreciate my gift, and I wanted to make sure the
[3:09:57] Speaker 2: laptop went to someone that would actually appreciate. My boyfriend is,
[3:10:01] Speaker 2: to put it bluntly, pissed. He does not understand why
[3:10:04] Speaker 2: wouldn't just return it and get him the one he wanted,
[3:10:06] Speaker 2: and cannot believe I would do something so selfish when
[3:10:09] Speaker 2: I know he how much he needs a new laptop.
[3:10:12] Speaker 2: I feel kind of bad, But at the same time,
[3:10:15] Speaker 2: this wasn't cheap for me, and a little appreciation would
[3:10:18] Speaker 2: have been nice. Am I the asshole?
[3:10:22] Speaker 1: A little bit?
[3:10:24] Speaker 2: A little bit?
[3:10:25] Speaker 1: A little bit? Was your nigga ungrateful? Yes? Were you
[3:10:32] Speaker 1: unreasonable with just you know, taking it back to getting
[3:10:38] Speaker 1: something that he wants? You know? Yeah? Like I understand,
[3:10:45] Speaker 1: Like nobody knows all the textan ins and outs and stuff.
[3:10:50] Speaker 2: Right, oh shit, But it's.
[3:10:53] Speaker 1: Also like you could ask somebody, you could have I'm
[3:10:57] Speaker 1: sure he's left hints. I'm sure you could have been
[3:11:01] Speaker 1: like the day of come with me, you know. But
[3:11:07] Speaker 1: his response was was poor m hm it was. And
[3:11:12] Speaker 1: her response was even was just as poor by giving
[3:11:15] Speaker 1: it to her sister and be like, look, I'm giving
[3:11:17] Speaker 1: to my sister, Nina, Nina, Nina, you know what I mean,
[3:11:22] Speaker 1: little childish.
[3:11:22] Speaker 9: I like to think of myself as like a pragmatic person,
[3:11:26] Speaker 9: and sometimes I can tend to disregard the emotional layers
[3:11:30] Speaker 9: of certain things. I don't see what the big deal
[3:11:34] Speaker 9: and just exchanging the laptop would have been like, yeah,
[3:11:37] Speaker 9: he could have been nicer in his delivery, but I
[3:11:41] Speaker 9: don't see how this turned into.
[3:11:42] Speaker 7: Oh, well, now it's my sister's computer.
[3:11:44] Speaker 1: I don't know.
[3:11:45] Speaker 7: I'd have been dating for two years. I would think
[3:11:47] Speaker 7: that you have like a better rapport than that, you know.
[3:11:51] Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, you retained information very well. This lady
[3:11:58] Speaker 2: said she doesn't know shit about computers. I don't know
[3:12:00] Speaker 2: shit about computers. So if you get a nigga a
[3:12:03] Speaker 2: computer who knows shit about computers, and if and when
[3:12:07] Speaker 2: I say, nigga, that is gender nonspecific. And a person
[3:12:11] Speaker 2: is telling you why they need a new something. If
[3:12:14] Speaker 2: you're if you're getting them something because they need that something,
[3:12:18] Speaker 2: then you should get what they need as a or
[3:12:22] Speaker 2: just don't get it at all. You can't just be like,
[3:12:24] Speaker 2: well take what I give you shit, you know what
[3:12:26] Speaker 2: I mean, especially if it's ineffective for what I need
[3:12:31] Speaker 2: it for, Like that's counterproductive to everything. So, yeah, you
[3:12:35] Speaker 2: are the asshole.
[3:12:37] Speaker 9: And you think you do a little more research before
[3:12:39] Speaker 9: I spending thirteen hundred dollars when a new MacBook.
[3:12:43] Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. That's a lot of money. You've
[3:12:45] Speaker 1: already said you don't really got it like that, so
[3:12:48] Speaker 1: you want to make sure sure your damnedst that you are,
[3:12:54] Speaker 1: you know doing your big one.
[3:12:56] Speaker 2: Should have gave them a thousand dollars and said this
[3:12:58] Speaker 2: is toward a new computer.
[3:13:00] Speaker 1: I don't know about giving the man money like that, but.
[3:13:02] Speaker 5: Yeah this bitch chose Yeah, Yeah, I like that.
[3:13:08] Speaker 1: Yeah, this bitch.
[3:13:09] Speaker 2: Chose this gift. So I'm talking in context of this
[3:13:11] Speaker 2: I'm not giving.
[3:13:17] Speaker 7: I am not your.
[3:13:20] Speaker 2: Is the first thing I've ever given a Christmas gift
[3:13:25] Speaker 2: my life in my life, all right.
[3:13:32] Speaker 1: Next, well, it's time for a break.
[3:13:34] Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we gotta take a break.
[3:13:35] Speaker 1: And we'll be back with more read stories.
[3:13:39] Speaker 2: Betwek's retail stories.
[3:13:45] Speaker 1: Claude, and we're back. Uh, Trika's here. We're reading red
[3:13:51] Speaker 1: of stories and having a good cup of nog. Do
[3:13:56] Speaker 1: you drink eggnog?
[3:13:59] Speaker 3: Yeah?
[3:14:00] Speaker 2: He froze.
[3:14:02] Speaker 1: There you go.
[3:14:03] Speaker 2: You're back.
[3:14:04] Speaker 9: Do you drink egg Yeah? I'm not the biggest fan
[3:14:07] Speaker 9: of it. I actually prefer coquito.
[3:14:11] Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, okay, I'm not a.
[3:14:14] Speaker 7: Post then as.
[3:14:17] Speaker 2: I like both. They're not the same.
[3:14:21] Speaker 1: Yeah, they're not.
[3:14:22] Speaker 2: They're not the same.
[3:14:23] Speaker 1: With ms is very is also different from it's very
[3:14:26] Speaker 1: different from nog.
[3:14:29] Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, they're not the same. I thought they were.
[3:14:33] Speaker 2: Coquito is not the non dairy version of.
[3:14:38] Speaker 1: My mom.
[3:14:39] Speaker 9: I'm one of her good friends is Puerto Rican. So
[3:14:41] Speaker 9: she actually uses her friends coquito recipe. She makes it
[3:14:45] Speaker 9: pretty good, so we have that every year. She has
[3:14:51] Speaker 9: Oh do you have a recipe?
[3:14:54] Speaker 2: Yes, but I would like her recipe. I want some
[3:14:59] Speaker 2: next time, Yes please, I would love that.
[3:15:03] Speaker 1: So well, Tovy, tell us about your retail stories. We
[3:15:06] Speaker 1: could be here for days.
[3:15:09] Speaker 7: Just off the top of my head.
[3:15:11] Speaker 9: One thing I can say, I learned so many customer
[3:15:15] Speaker 9: service hacks because I had to deal with so many
[3:15:17] Speaker 9: white women just completely skirting the rules. You know, they
[3:15:21] Speaker 9: asked for something, I say no because the rules say
[3:15:24] Speaker 9: such and such. Then they asked for a manager, and
[3:15:26] Speaker 9: the manager just completely disregards whatever I said.
[3:15:29] Speaker 7: And they get what they want.
[3:15:30] Speaker 9: And now that's why I know I can just dispute
[3:15:32] Speaker 9: all my over draft fees with the bank because I
[3:15:34] Speaker 9: put on my good Karen voice, I can always get
[3:15:37] Speaker 9: a discount. They will discount stuff if you ask hard enough. Look,
[3:15:40] Speaker 9: miss this water bottle, I don't like this crease in
[3:15:43] Speaker 9: that bottle.
[3:15:43] Speaker 7: Can we put something off that and you'll get it?
[3:15:46] Speaker 7: And I learned that from those cameras.
[3:15:47] Speaker 9: So yeah, I had a lady ask for a discount
[3:15:50] Speaker 9: because the red sweater was it was too her exact words,
[3:15:54] Speaker 9: the the red was too too energetic is what she said.
[3:15:59] Speaker 9: It was over stimulating her, and she asked her this
[3:16:03] Speaker 9: way get it. But she had to ask for it,
[3:16:07] Speaker 9: and that just it opened my eyes. Marshals I worked
[3:16:11] Speaker 9: at the Marshals on Sixth Avenue between eighteenth and nineteenth.
[3:16:14] Speaker 7: That was the flagship.
[3:16:15] Speaker 2: Oh God, oh yeah, it was not only were you.
[3:16:24] Speaker 2: Not only were you amongst the insufferable whites, you probably
[3:16:30] Speaker 2: had to They probably had all kinds of uh, what's
[3:16:33] Speaker 2: the shoplifting? Yeah, and all kinds of that's.
[3:16:36] Speaker 7: A very the bottom of those strollers. They would load
[3:16:39] Speaker 7: them strollers up and just roll them right out.
[3:16:41] Speaker 6: Yeah.
[3:16:42] Speaker 2: And you know white people love to steal. They are criminals.
[3:16:45] Speaker 7: The biggest one something those Russians from benson Hurst would
[3:16:48] Speaker 7: come in switching tickets on stuff, doing bad returns. Lessen,
[3:16:53] Speaker 7: I've done seen it all.
[3:16:54] Speaker 2: Okay, I'd roll right up and be like, I won't
[3:16:57] Speaker 2: tell if you give me a dry pedicure.
[3:16:59] Speaker 1: Bitch, you're ready for the next story. Oh yeah, we
[3:17:08] Speaker 1: have two more. Actually this is the second or last one.
[3:17:11] Speaker 2: You think about your next retail story. Okay, okay, too energetic?
[3:17:17] Speaker 1: Am I the asshole for ruining Christmas for my kids
[3:17:21] Speaker 1: growing up? Maybe it depends what you did, you know?
[3:17:27] Speaker 1: So this happened last year, but it was recently brought
[3:17:30] Speaker 1: up again. My son is still kind of annoyed about it.
[3:17:34] Speaker 1: So my daughter suggested I post here. I fifty three
[3:17:38] Speaker 1: year old man. I have never enjoyed Christmas. I never
[3:17:41] Speaker 1: enjoyed the decorating or the shopping or any of that.
[3:17:44] Speaker 1: My wife has always loved it. When we had kids,
[3:17:48] Speaker 1: who I will call Mark twenty five and Emily twenty three,
[3:17:53] Speaker 1: I told my wife I didn't want to be involved
[3:17:55] Speaker 1: in anything Christmas related or wanted anything overly done in
[3:17:58] Speaker 1: the house. That sometimes I would complain the house was
[3:18:02] Speaker 1: overly decorated and took things down or wouldn't let them
[3:18:05] Speaker 1: do certain things. My wife and I had more than
[3:18:08] Speaker 1: one fight about it. My wife passed on three years ago. Now.
[3:18:13] Speaker 1: Last year, I was with Mark and his now wife,
[3:18:16] Speaker 1: who i'll call Amy. Amy really decked the whole house out.
[3:18:20] Speaker 1: I made a comment that I thought was funny that
[3:18:22] Speaker 1: it looked like Christmas exploded in their house. Amy laughed
[3:18:26] Speaker 1: and says she loved Christmas and enjoyed decorating for it.
[3:18:29] Speaker 1: I told her that I thought that this was a
[3:18:33] Speaker 1: waste of time, honestly, and the money spent on decorations
[3:18:35] Speaker 1: could be spent on much better things. I asked Mark
[3:18:38] Speaker 1: how he felt about that, considering we always put our
[3:18:41] Speaker 1: money towards other things and didn't do things like that.
[3:18:44] Speaker 1: I expected him to laugh, but he didn't. Instead, he
[3:18:48] Speaker 1: told me he would have loved to do things like
[3:18:50] Speaker 1: this growing up, but I never let them. Even though
[3:18:53] Speaker 1: my wife tried to do fun Christmas related things with them,
[3:18:56] Speaker 1: I almost always found a way to ruin it for them.
[3:18:59] Speaker 1: He said. He got I hated Christmas. That was my right,
[3:19:03] Speaker 1: but it was awful that I tried to make them
[3:19:05] Speaker 1: hate Christmas too. I said I never tried to make
[3:19:08] Speaker 1: them hate Christmas, but he argued that I was a
[3:19:10] Speaker 1: scrooge and anytime they did anything remotely fun or festive,
[3:19:14] Speaker 1: I found a way to ruin it. My wife baked
[3:19:17] Speaker 1: tons of cookies and treats. I didn't even let them
[3:19:21] Speaker 1: have any. I just took them all to work. My
[3:19:24] Speaker 1: wife wanted to take them ice skating. I made sure
[3:19:27] Speaker 1: to find a reason they couldn't go. My wife wanted
[3:19:30] Speaker 1: to take them to the Christmas parade our town had
[3:19:33] Speaker 1: every year. I made sure to make plans on that
[3:19:36] Speaker 1: day so they couldn't go. He said that he and
[3:19:39] Speaker 1: Emily loved Christmas and really enjoyed now being able to
[3:19:42] Speaker 1: do everything they wanted to do as kids, but I
[3:19:44] Speaker 1: wouldn't let them. I felt really attacked at this point
[3:19:48] Speaker 1: and said that if he was so miserable, why didn't
[3:19:50] Speaker 1: he ever say anything? He pointed out he's had repeatedly
[3:19:56] Speaker 1: and that I just didn't care. I only cared about
[3:19:59] Speaker 1: my view, that I wasn't willing to allow them to
[3:20:01] Speaker 1: celebrate because I didn't want to, and that I was selfish.
[3:20:06] Speaker 1: I was pretty upset and told him I wouldn't talk
[3:20:08] Speaker 1: to him until I got an apology for how rudely
[3:20:10] Speaker 1: he spoke to me. He wrote, he won't apologize, and
[3:20:13] Speaker 1: our relationship has suffered because of it. I really don't
[3:20:16] Speaker 1: think I did anything terrible here, but my daughter has
[3:20:19] Speaker 1: agreed that I did make it hard to enjoy the
[3:20:21] Speaker 1: holidays because of my attitude and suggested I posted here.
[3:20:25] Speaker 1: Am I the asshole for not wanting to celebrate Christmas? Yes?
[3:20:30] Speaker 1: You do. An asshole for being a horrible father, an asshole.
[3:20:34] Speaker 2: For not want to sub you, an asshole for not
[3:20:36] Speaker 2: letting anybody else like that.
[3:20:39] Speaker 1: Is abusive behavior? You just like, that's the whole Grinch
[3:20:43] Speaker 1: just I'm snatching niggas Christmas.
[3:20:45] Speaker 2: I was like this, nigga's hard is seven size is
[3:20:48] Speaker 2: too small? Like fuck three. I think the Grinch like
[3:20:50] Speaker 2: Christmas more than his motherfucker.
[3:20:52] Speaker 1: Yeah, he wasn't that evil now he was like, well,
[3:20:55] Speaker 1: damn it. Like, I'll take that.
[3:20:56] Speaker 2: You intentionally went out of your way to make make
[3:21:00] Speaker 2: sure that you snatched your kids out of fucking activities
[3:21:03] Speaker 2: and took joy out of the home. You're going to
[3:21:07] Speaker 2: die alone on Christmas covered in decorations as your karma
[3:21:12] Speaker 2: for what you did to too. They are on brown
[3:21:15] Speaker 2: leather couches to both of them right now for the
[3:21:18] Speaker 2: rest of their days, and their kids are gonna throw
[3:21:21] Speaker 2: up fucking Christmas because you were a monster.
[3:21:25] Speaker 9: Yeah, because at one point I'm like, do you not
[3:21:28] Speaker 9: like Christmas? Or do you just not like your family?
[3:21:30] Speaker 9: Because this is way deeper than the Holidays. Something happened.
[3:21:33] Speaker 2: He doesn't like himself, he doesn't like something happened. Right,
[3:21:38] Speaker 2: there's a trauma around Chris. I don't know if it's
[3:21:40] Speaker 2: homicide for the holidays. I don't know what happened. Something happens.
[3:21:44] Speaker 2: I don't know if somebody's dog got shot on Christmas
[3:21:47] Speaker 2: when he was a young Timmy, I just know that
[3:21:50] Speaker 2: this there's a reason. There has to be reasons.
[3:21:56] Speaker 1: Between his.
[3:22:00] Speaker 2: Love elf Alpha. Okay, you're all ready for the Tyreek. Actually,
[3:22:05] Speaker 2: I think we should cause for another one of Tyreek's
[3:22:09] Speaker 2: retail tales.
[3:22:12] Speaker 1: We do.
[3:22:15] Speaker 7: All the employees were sleeping with each other.
[3:22:19] Speaker 2: Oh that's that's how I ended up marrying.
[3:22:21] Speaker 7: Hey, it works.
[3:22:23] Speaker 9: I've seen a lot of relationships form and fall apart
[3:22:26] Speaker 9: in that store. I don't want to get too specific
[3:22:30] Speaker 9: because some of them still follow me. Well, just keep
[3:22:33] Speaker 9: it to the customers. I remember we had like a
[3:22:36] Speaker 9: delivery service, so like if you didn't want to carry
[3:22:39] Speaker 9: your stuff around, we could have it shipped to your
[3:22:41] Speaker 9: home or hotel or whatever. So there was this one
[3:22:44] Speaker 9: lady she like went nuts in the home department because
[3:22:48] Speaker 9: like we had like real furniture in there. So she
[3:22:50] Speaker 9: had like a whole bunch of stuff. And when you
[3:22:53] Speaker 9: do a delivery, we have to like pack it up
[3:22:54] Speaker 9: a certain way. There's paperwork involved, and there's a delivery fee.
[3:23:00] Speaker 9: So she like comes up with like there was like
[3:23:02] Speaker 9: a dresser, there was some chairs, some figuring, just like
[3:23:04] Speaker 9: a whole bunch of crazy ass stuff. It took like
[3:23:07] Speaker 9: a good thirty to forty minutes to get her stuff
[3:23:09] Speaker 9: packed up, and then when she realized that there was
[3:23:12] Speaker 9: a delivery fee, she just canceled all of it and
[3:23:14] Speaker 9: walked out. And then from that day forward, I stopped
[3:23:19] Speaker 9: telling the customers that we deliver.
[3:23:20] Speaker 1: So.
[3:23:22] Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, don't wait. So she was she
[3:23:27] Speaker 2: was willing to like blow.
[3:23:28] Speaker 9: The bag, but when she saw that thirty four to
[3:23:31] Speaker 9: ninety nine delivery fee, that was it. Mind you with
[3:23:33] Speaker 9: the same day delivery.
[3:23:34] Speaker 1: So white people are so.
[3:23:39] Speaker 9: And you'd be shocked at the stuff people cheap out
[3:23:41] Speaker 9: on versus like what they will spend their money on.
[3:23:43] Speaker 7: It's so crazy.
[3:23:45] Speaker 2: I'm actually not I'm actually not surprised because alone and
[3:23:50] Speaker 2: I know, I know exactly where this lady lives. I
[3:23:57] Speaker 2: know there are like five to see neighborhoods that she
[3:24:01] Speaker 2: could possibly reside in. Okay, mm hmm.
[3:24:08] Speaker 1: Final Reddit story.
[3:24:10] Speaker 2: Okay, I hope nobody ever delivers anything to her ever
[3:24:14] Speaker 2: again in life.
[3:24:17] Speaker 7: This was years ago. I'm sure she's gotten her karma.
[3:24:21] Speaker 2: Oh it's not done. It's not done. Where we're okay?
[3:24:26] Speaker 2: Last red story? Am I the asshole for calling my
[3:24:32] Speaker 2: children's mother bitter and selfish after she refused to let
[3:24:35] Speaker 2: me have two of our children on Christmas? My ex
[3:24:40] Speaker 2: wife and I got divorced months ago. We share custody
[3:24:42] Speaker 2: of our four children, eight months, six years old, four
[3:24:48] Speaker 2: months and two years old.
[3:24:50] Speaker 7: Wait what do you repeat that?
[3:24:51] Speaker 2: What the oh, I'm sorry, I read that all the
[3:24:54] Speaker 2: way down. An eight year old boy child, a four
[3:24:59] Speaker 2: year old boy child, a six year old girl child,
[3:25:03] Speaker 2: and a two year old girl child. This is our
[3:25:07] Speaker 2: first Christmas being separated. We'd usually spend the holidays with
[3:25:10] Speaker 2: my side of the family. We check the schedule and
[3:25:13] Speaker 2: she's supposed to have the kids during Christmas, all four
[3:25:17] Speaker 2: of them, which I thought was unfair to me and
[3:25:19] Speaker 2: my family, especially my mother, since she can't enjoy the
[3:25:22] Speaker 2: holidays without her grandchildren. I called their mom and suggested
[3:25:26] Speaker 2: that she let me have two of our children spend
[3:25:28] Speaker 2: Christmas with me and my family while she has the
[3:25:31] Speaker 2: other two. She refused, but I told her it's the
[3:25:34] Speaker 2: best compromise. She said something about not wanting the kids
[3:25:37] Speaker 2: to spend Christmas away from each other, but I explained
[3:25:40] Speaker 2: how miserable me and my family would be this Christmas
[3:25:42] Speaker 2: if none of the kids are around. She said no,
[3:25:45] Speaker 2: and that I needed to prioritize the kid's feelings above
[3:25:47] Speaker 2: mine and my famili's. But I told her that this
[3:25:50] Speaker 2: compromise is the best we could come up with. We
[3:25:52] Speaker 2: got into an argument and she insisted she won't let
[3:25:55] Speaker 2: the kids be separated on Christmas, and that if I
[3:25:58] Speaker 2: have an issue with that, that I need to go
[3:26:00] Speaker 2: to court. I snapped in in a moment of anger,
[3:26:03] Speaker 2: told her that no one can tell me when I
[3:26:04] Speaker 2: get to see my kids, called her bitter and selfish.
[3:26:07] Speaker 2: Than she hung up. I tried to call her mother,
[3:26:10] Speaker 2: hoping she'd reason with her, but she instead shamed me
[3:26:12] Speaker 2: for being willing to separate the kids from each other
[3:26:15] Speaker 2: just so I could please my family and said that
[3:26:18] Speaker 2: her daughter is doing what's best for the kids. My
[3:26:21] Speaker 2: mother is devastated over this and thinks that my ex
[3:26:23] Speaker 2: is being deliberately cruel. It still hasn't been figured out yet,
[3:26:27] Speaker 2: and she's rejecting my calls. Am I the asshole?
[3:26:33] Speaker 1: Absolutely? Yeah?
[3:26:35] Speaker 2: Without with certainty, Like.
[3:26:39] Speaker 1: People don't have certain people don't have children to.
[3:26:45] Speaker 7: Like.
[3:26:45] Speaker 1: They have them to be accessories or pets or anything.
[3:26:48] Speaker 1: They don't ever want to have children to have full
[3:26:51] Speaker 1: fledged lives, happy lives. Consider them humans with full thoughts
[3:26:56] Speaker 1: and opinions and emotions. You said, let's just split them
[3:26:59] Speaker 1: up like jelly beans for the holidays. That's crazy.
[3:27:04] Speaker 7: I usually try to stay out of straight people's business,
[3:27:08] Speaker 7: but you know, since it was brought to me.
[3:27:11] Speaker 1: I feel like I don't.
[3:27:12] Speaker 9: I don't agree with separating the kids, But to me,
[3:27:14] Speaker 9: I think common sense would be maybe spend half the
[3:27:17] Speaker 9: day with one parent, then the other half of the
[3:27:20] Speaker 9: is it between the two of you. Nobody came up
[3:27:23] Speaker 9: with that idea at all. Its involved, and nobody thinks, hey,
[3:27:28] Speaker 9: just come over this a nobody. No, it's deeper than
[3:27:32] Speaker 9: them kids. The kids are just the vehicle, if you will.
[3:27:39] Speaker 2: That lady might actually hey, she might be bitter, and
[3:27:43] Speaker 2: she might be being selfish in your eyes, but it's
[3:27:46] Speaker 2: with just cause.
[3:27:50] Speaker 7: Both sides of this story.
[3:27:52] Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like you are the asshole, and I
[3:27:55] Speaker 2: don't think it's just for this either.
[3:27:58] Speaker 1: No, because also with redd stories, you have to take
[3:28:01] Speaker 1: in consideration how they write them, because it's like you're
[3:28:05] Speaker 1: making yourself to not be the victim.
[3:28:07] Speaker 2: Here everybody who writes the Reddit stories. Eight percent of
[3:28:13] Speaker 2: people who write the Reddit stories are the ass The
[3:28:16] Speaker 2: other two percent are people who have been gas list
[3:28:22] Speaker 2: by somebody and me to validate the fact that they're
[3:28:25] Speaker 2: not crazy. But ninety eight percent of these people are
[3:28:28] Speaker 2: absolutely the worst. They are absolutely and why would you
[3:28:33] Speaker 2: want to separate your children on Christmas. Why would you
[3:28:36] Speaker 2: want to separate siblings? Why would you want to do that? Yeah,
[3:28:40] Speaker 2: you're rotten. This was a stream of terrible fothering is.
[3:28:44] Speaker 1: What it was. Yeah, yes, well we're going to end
[3:28:48] Speaker 1: it early here because the holidays. We want you to
[3:28:50] Speaker 1: get back to your families and things. But thank you
[3:28:52] Speaker 1: again Terry for joining. Tell them where they can find.
[3:28:57] Speaker 9: Can find me on TikTok that's around. At Tyreek told
[3:29:01] Speaker 9: you on Instagram, at Tyreek told you on YouTube. At
[3:29:05] Speaker 9: Tyreek told you, And hopefully I'll have a podcast called
[3:29:08] Speaker 9: Tyreek told you.
[3:29:10] Speaker 7: You know, a few days weeks it'll come.
[3:29:13] Speaker 2: But yeah, is there anything you want to close out
[3:29:17] Speaker 2: with or leave the people with on this holiday season?
[3:29:21] Speaker 9: You know, the last time I was here, it was
[3:29:23] Speaker 9: Thanksgiving and a lot of people were boiling Chitlin's for Thanksgiving,
[3:29:28] Speaker 9: which shot the hell out of me. So that's why
[3:29:30] Speaker 9: I need to bother this candle to get that chitlin
[3:29:32] Speaker 9: smell out of that house. This is going to eat
[3:29:34] Speaker 9: up all those odors.
[3:29:35] Speaker 1: Okay,

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