# The Secret to Child Cooperation: 7 Psychology Proven Strategies

An episode of [How Not to Screw Up Your Kids](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1571503566), 15 Dec 2025, 22 min.

Audio: https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/66756955a4ecc30012453c07/e/693eb72b41eacf5e81c3a02d/media.mp3

How do you get your children to cooperate with you, when they just don’t want to? It’s a problem we all face - our kids will refuse to do something not because they don’t want to, but because we’re telling them to, and it’s so frustrating! So what’s the answer? In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to introduce you to the psychology of cooperation, and give you some simple, helpful, and practical tips you can use right away. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:12 - Cooperation is transactional 03:28 - Validate your children’s feelings 04:47 - Explain why 08:10 - Focus on effort and process 10:55 - Self Care 14:17 - Connecting actions to feelings 16:08 - Challenge just enough 19:18 - Offer choices where possible 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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