# The Power of Failed Goals: Why Broken Resolutions Build Confidence and Capability in Children

An episode of [How Not to Screw Up Your Kids](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1571503566), 1 Jan 2026, 28 min.

Audio: https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/66756955a4ecc30012453c07/e/6954ffa2e3c8c736bd6836e3/media.mp3

Have you and your family made New Year resolutions? And how many have you broken already? I love making resolutions. It’s the highlight of my year. But statistics show that most New Year resolutions are broken, so you are not alone! However, making resolutions, even if we break them, can still be super valuable for our personal growth and in building confidence, especially in our kids. In today’s episode I will show you how to set intentions and make realistic, achievable resolutions. I will explain how you can give yourself the best chance of succeeding, but also talk through why it’s ok to break your resolutions. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, have a very happy new year, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:35 - The highlight of my year 02:26 - The 10 most popular resolutions 07:06 - Intentions nurtures habits of success 08:53 - I am capable of doing hard things 12:20 - Empowering children with agency 15:30 - Use your imagination 19:41 - Confidence is experiential 21:52 - The world is better because you are in it 25:04 - Create a habit to reflect 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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